Toxic Providers

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 10/30/2025 at 11:27 PM, ThrowawayAccount said:

I live in Cleveland, Ohio.

I am so sorry this has happened to you

[+ KensingtonHomo]

4 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

While we must acknowledge fairly that the OP may have been contributory to the provider's reaction, it seems that the provider's reaction was beyond any measure of insult that might have been directed toward him.   Aftre all, if he's a "pro," he's seen it all and should have risen above the fray of the moment.   Otherwise, I'd have to question his constitution for this type of work.

Yes. This is well put. I do wish he’d posted the provider’s profile because even accounting for some questionable decisions on his part this “provider” sounds like a scam artist. 

[+ purplekow]

Without knowing who suggested the bath house in the first place, it is hard to call the provider a scam artist.  In addition, even if it was the provider, the OP could have said no.  The OP states that he felt uncomfortable with the first room and asked to change it.  So the provider was willing, at least initially, to provide some service.  This happened before the OP sent the fee and at this point he had several options.  However, it seems the OP's anxiety spiraled and the provider did not do anything to make the situation better.   The entire "I am a cop and my cousin is downstairs and he is also a cop" definitely sounds like a gaslighting.  The escort apparently took advantage of the OP's anxiety.  

So I would say that the OP has to take responsibility for placing himself in a situation that he knew had the potential to make him uncomfortable and once he was uncomfortable he did very little to end the situation.  The escort on the other hand, may not have intended initially to gaslight the OP, but once he did, he was sadistic in exploiting him.  

I think either the OP or  the provider should have had a Moonstruck moment.   (with or without the slap)

 

Edited 21 hours ago by purplekow

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

20 hours ago, ThrowawayAccount said:

...choice of a room was not one for comfort but a quickie. 

That's EVERY room at a bathhouse.  I haven't seen a AAA rating giving any bathhouse room a 5 Diamond review.

If one wants comfort, go to a Hilton 

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

18 hours ago, LookingAround said:

I have a feeling there's a lot to the story we don't fully know. And much on the other side we could be told. 

Bozo suspects the same thing. And it's really unfair to pass judgment when only one side of the story is presented.
The OP neglects to name the provider. He also fails to name the site from where the escort was hired. Is that because he fears that if he names the escort, there may be former/current clients out there who would give glowing reviews of the provider and throw shade on the OP's story?
Bozo doesn't want to come down too hard on the OP because he was clearly traumatized by the event, and he also seems to have a fragile psyche. However, while acknowledging that a certain percentage of providers are "toxic", there is probably an equal or greater percentage of customers and potential customers that providers would describe as "toxic" clients. It works both ways. Let's not forget that.

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[Becket]

Perhaps the bath house added to your discomfort. I wouldn't go to one unless I was feeling very confident. 

You had a bad experience and it really shook you up. But you know the saying. "Get back up on that horse." The best suggestion you've gotten is, next time, use a provider who is well known and experienced. 

As for all these suggestions regarding your mental health; it's sort of silly to assume we know the state of your mental health after reading your post.

Hang in there brother.

[ThrowawayAccount]

11 hours ago, Moke said:

Hi @ThrowawayAccount  sorry you experienced this. I must have missed the link to this dude’s ad?  Can you post it so others can benefit?  Thanks so much. 

He blocked me so I can't pay the link but his profile is Jahkor_Jacoby.

[BuffaloKyle]

15 minutes ago, ThrowawayAccount said:

He blocked me so I can't pay the link but his profile is Jahkor_Jacoby.

With an i not a y. Yeah it's very risky to hire a guy off a fairly new profile with no reviews.

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[56harrisond]

18 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Yeah it's very risky to hire a guy off a fairly new profile with no reviews.

OP could note that a near foolproof method is to only hire well-reviewed providers on CoM. 

(Jahkor_Jacobi has no reviews on CoM.)

[ThrowawayAccount]

I will never go to a bathhouse again. The bathhouse itself was uncomfortable and didn't help. He had suggested it and got the first room. When I got there and asked if we can move to a room with a bed,  I thought that would help calm me down. It didn't help I didn't have my vape pen (lol).

I would have only reversed the payment if he took the payment and left me without the service. Because we had our time together whether good or bad, he would have kept the payment. I had forgotten to send it as a business transaction anyway so I lost the payment regardless.

If I do hire again, it will be guys with reviews. Also,  I don't actually trust anyone in the area that I live in right now. So I may travel a bit to meet some providers that I have hired in the past and we're great or good encounters. 

I'm sure he has his side of the story because there are three sides to every story. His side, my side, and the reality of what happened. I had previously tried booking him and it didn't work out so when he initiated again,  I was like,  okay let's try this again. At the start none of my discomfort was with him. My discomfort with him started when he left the room to smoke a cigarette. Then when he came back he started the police talk and it escalated from there. 

 

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.

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[Cretus]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.

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Hmmmmm…… Can you be specific about what you mean by this?

Edited 6 hours ago by Cretus

[56harrisond]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.

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Gold teeth, especially grills, can cause bad breath because they trap food particles and bacteria. Maybe he's flossing and getting ready for a date 🦷

[GentJ]

Toilet selfie. Hot! 🤨

There's two kinds of escorts: One type that's actually gay, and has the 'skillset' for this kind of work. And then there's the gay-for-pay 20-somethings who thought, "Hey, I have abs! I should be getting paid for that!" This guy is so clearly the latter. If y'all wanna keep hiring them, go ahead, but it takes a ton of self-confidence to hook up with someone like that and have a good time. There are definitely a few folks here who seem like they have that... but I suspect it isn't the majority by a long-shot.

It's not because of the bathhouse. It's not because of the advanced payment. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

14 hours ago, ThrowawayAccount said:

I will never go to a bathhouse again. The bathhouse itself was uncomfortable and didn't help. He had suggested it and got the first room. When I got there and asked if we can move to a room with a bed,  I thought that would help calm me down. It didn't help I didn't have my vape pen (lol).

I would have only reversed the payment if he took the payment and left me without the service. Because we had our time together whether good or bad, he would have kept the payment. I had forgotten to send it as a business transaction anyway so I lost the payment regardless.

If I do hire again, it will be guys with reviews. Also,  I don't actually trust anyone in the area that I live in right now. So I may travel a bit to meet some providers that I have hired in the past and we're great or good encounters. 

I'm sure he has his side of the story because there are three sides to every story. His side, my side, and the reality of what happened. I had previously tried booking him and it didn't work out so when he initiated again,  I was like,  okay let's try this again. At the start none of my discomfort was with him. My discomfort with him started when he left the room to smoke a cigarette. Then when he came back he started the police talk and it escalated from there. 

 

He advertises himself as a “thug”.  To me, that does connote a certain reservation as to what one should expect as he plays his role….don't know if that contributed to the resulting experience.