Providers contacting clients. Is it welcome?

[+ Jamie21]

Ok so this is new to me…I never started a topic before, so if it’s in the wrong category or something then please don’t judge me.

The discussion on this topic got locked recently but it’s a pertinent question and one that deserves exploration so I’m opening up a new discussion with a similar heading about providers contacting clients. 

I’m interested in whether clients welcome it. I never contact clients unsolicited, even longstanding regular clients. I’ll respond to them of course but I’ve never initiated the contact. I think they wouldn’t welcome it so I avoid it. Some of my clients are wanting total discretion and a message from me out of the blue could be awkward for them. I also don’t want them to think I’m desperate for business (that’s not a good look). I don’t want them to feel obliged to book. There’s a few regular clients who might interpret it wrongly (as in I’m interested in a non professional relationship) and I don’t want to encourage that. So there’s lots of reasons that makes me refrain from any unsolicited contact with clients. 

On the other hand, some clients might really welcome a message from me, maybe after their session or a week later thanking them for coming and letting them know they’re welcome to come again. I do always say after their session that if they enjoyed it they should book again, but a follow up message might be good. I’ve a website where I post info and a blog, plus other online presence (porn lol) where clients can interact but it’s not quite so personal as a message directly to them.

What do clients think about providers who actively market them? Should I do it or not? Tbh I don’t need the business and I could do with spending less time on my phone so the reasons to start proactively making contact will need to be good!! 

 

[maninsoma]

I've only ever had a handful of escorts contact me after an appointment.

Two of them were traveling escorts so I appreciated them keeping in touch with me when they were visiting my area again so I could arrange appointments.  I had an understanding with both of them that I welcomed hearing from them when they were visiting again.

In a few cases, I hired the guys more than once but not enough to become a regular.  I don't mind a guy reaching out after a couple of visits once or maybe twice to offer another appointment, but it does become annoying if a guy keeps texting me and I haven't returned to see him again.  It's the equivalent of junk mail at that point.  

A few times guys have messaged me right after the appointment just to thank me for the appointment and to let me know I could contact them any time for a future appointment.  I always appreciated these messages if they occurred right after the appointment and were not followed up with additional messages if I didn't reply to them.

I do understand based on previous threads here that some guys don't want to be contacted at all because they feel a need to hide their hiring activity from someone and don't want random messages popping up on their phones.

[NJF]

I have one regular contacting me before planning his tour. 

[+ FrankR]

27 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Ok so this is new to me…I never started a topic before, so if it’s in the wrong category or something then please don’t judge me.

The discussion on this topic got locked recently but it’s a pertinent question and one that deserves exploration so I’m opening up a new discussion with a similar heading about providers contacting clients. 

I’m interested in whether clients welcome it. I never contact clients unsolicited, even longstanding regular clients. I’ll respond to them of course but I’ve never initiated the contact. I think they wouldn’t welcome it so I avoid it. Some of my clients are wanting total discretion and a message from me out of the blue could be awkward for them. I also don’t want them to think I’m desperate for business (that’s not a good look). I don’t want them to feel obliged to book. There’s a few regular clients who might interpret it wrongly (as in I’m interested in a non professional relationship) and I don’t want to encourage that. So there’s lots of reasons that makes me refrain from any unsolicited contact with clients. 

On the other hand, some clients might really welcome a message from me, maybe after their session or a week later thanking them for coming and letting them know they’re welcome to come again. I do always say after their session that if they enjoyed it they should book again, but a follow up message might be good. I’ve a website where I post info and a blog, plus other online presence (porn lol) where clients can interact but it’s not quite so personal as a message directly to them.

What do clients think about providers who actively market them? Should I do it or not? Tbh I don’t need the business and I could do with spending less time on my phone so the reasons to start proactively making contact will need to be good!! 

 

In my mind it really depends on how well you know the person and your approach.  I don’t like ‘cold’ marketing where someone sends me vanilla marketing messages “10% off on Wednesday before noon” type stuff. I am good with ‘hot’ marketing after a session - “Thanks for hanging out with me tonight, I enjoyed meeting you and hope I see you again soon”. Also okay is “warm” marketing like the day after “Hey! Checking to see if you had a good night - did the work on you lower back relieve some of your discomfort? Sleep better?”

Responsive marketing is also okay “Hey! I know we couldnt get our calendars aligned last week, but…want to try to meet up again this week?”

Keep it discreet, with limited attempts and you should be fine. Don’t chase. It gets easier as you get to know the client. 😉

[+ ApexNomad]

47 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Ok so this is new to me…I never started a topic before, so if it’s in the wrong category or something then please don’t judge me.

The discussion on this topic got locked recently but it’s a pertinent question and one that deserves exploration so I’m opening up a new discussion with a similar heading about providers contacting clients. 

I’m interested in whether clients welcome it. I never contact clients unsolicited, even longstanding regular clients. I’ll respond to them of course but I’ve never initiated the contact. I think they wouldn’t welcome it so I avoid it. Some of my clients are wanting total discretion and a message from me out of the blue could be awkward for them. I also don’t want them to think I’m desperate for business (that’s not a good look). I don’t want them to feel obliged to book. There’s a few regular clients who might interpret it wrongly (as in I’m interested in a non professional relationship) and I don’t want to encourage that. So there’s lots of reasons that makes me refrain from any unsolicited contact with clients. 

On the other hand, some clients might really welcome a message from me, maybe after their session or a week later thanking them for coming and letting them know they’re welcome to come again. I do always say after their session that if they enjoyed it they should book again, but a follow up message might be good. I’ve a website where I post info and a blog, plus other online presence (porn lol) where clients can interact but it’s not quite so personal as a message directly to them.

What do clients think about providers who actively market them? Should I do it or not? Tbh I don’t need the business and I could do with spending less time on my phone so the reasons to start proactively making contact will need to be good!! 

 

You should definitely start more topics. One of the nicest gestures a provider can make, in my opinion, is sending a short message after our meeting. Just a quick note thanking me for our time together, saying they enjoyed the meeting, and letting me know I’m welcome to reach out again if I’d like.

For me, that’s perfect. It’s polite and professional without feeling pushy, and it leaves the ball in my court. It acknowledges the connection without pressure or marketing vibes. It shows thoughtfulness without overstepping and makes me feel comfortable reaching out too.

[Nightowl]

I have no problem in general with providers contacting me.  A note of thanks following a session is great.  Likewise, with providers I’ve seen before, I welcome texts at any time provided they’re discreet.  Because of my personal situation, I don’t want to receive a text while I’m at the family dinner table that says “Enjoyed fucking you last week.  I’ve got an opening next week if you’re available.”  A provider reaching out to say he’s available, however, is nice, especially when we both know the rapport and chemistry are good.  I’m less enthused about messages on RM and RMass that are vague or just say “hi.”  If a provider wants to reach out via message on those fora and tell me why I should hire him, I’ll listen.  

[polysome]

If it's someone I met before (or even messaged before but it didn't workout schedule wise), I think it's a nice gesture.

If it's from a random provider with zero context, it's easy to ignore.

[+ jimbosf]

Like others have already said, I have a couple of traveling providers that will text me when they are planning to be in my area.  I really appreciate that, and will certainly arrange my schedule so we can meet when they are in town.  I also appreciate the 'thank you' text after seeing a provider...something short and simple.  That lets me know they had a good time as well, and that they appreciate my business.  Other than that, I have never received random texts from any providers, even regulars, and don't think I would personally care for that.  I am sort of old school when it comes to messaging.  As a retired educator, I was very careful to keep my professional life and personal life separate and avoided social media in general.  I have seen too many new teachers in the field cross the line via social media and texting and lose their jobs.  They clearly did not understand the need to establish some clear boundaries.  

[+ JamesB]

I don’t mind when providers reach out. I have a few providers who travel to my area a couple of times a year, and they always give me a heads-up before their trip, which I think works out great for both of us. I also get the occasional non-business text from regulars for birthdays, holidays, or just to stay in touch. As long as the messages aren’t too frequent, I see it as a thoughtful gesture.

[JMS]

1 hour ago, ApexNomad said:

You should definitely start more topics. One of the nicest gestures a provider can make, in my opinion, is sending a short message after our meeting. Just a quick note thanking me for our time together, saying they enjoyed the meeting, and letting me know I’m welcome to reach out again if I’d like.

For me, that’s perfect. It’s polite and professional without feeling pushy, and it leaves the ball in my court. It acknowledges the connection without pressure or marketing vibes. It shows thoughtfulness without overstepping and makes me feel comfortable reaching out too.

I agree with all that you said.  A brief text after the encounter is fine, I. I see our interaction as a business transaction and therefore I wouldn’t want to be contacted again. I would want to be the one who initiates the texting if I’m looking for another appointment. If the provider sent me more than a single text shortly after we left each other‘s company, I’d be totally turned off and most likely block his number.

[dbar123]

I totally enjoyed getting massaged by you this summer when I visited London. If you were planning to come to my city I would definitely love to hear from you for a redo

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I've had a few escorts or masseurs contact me.

What's welcome:

- An out of town provider who is planning on coming to my town, texts me INDIVIDUALLY (calling me by name) a few weeks before in case I want to set something up.  

- A local guy who I haven't seen in months texts me to wish me Merry Christmas, or Happy New Year, or even Happy Labor Day, and tells me (INDIVIDUALLY, by my name) that he hopes I'm doing well and to let him know if I want to set something up with him again.

What's NOT welcome: 

- A generic mass message that gets sent the first of every month to all of his clients asking "Is it time for another massage?" (Yes, I've had this happen by more than one masseur... And none were remarkable to begin with).

 

 

[+ Jamie21]

Ok thanks guys. This is amazing. I see that as the initiator of the topic I get the privilege of marking a reply as the solution too! (These small treats are so exciting to me… ha ha - I lead a simple life 😉).

9 hours ago, maninsoma said:

A few times guys have messaged me right after the appointment just to thank me for the appointment and to let me know I could contact them any time for a future appointment. 

This is something I’ll start doing with new clients. I always tell them as they’re leaving that I hope they’ll come back (ok…not always..there’s a couple I’ve noted down as ‘never again’!!). But a message later that day or so seems to be welcome. Cheers.

9 hours ago, FrankR said:

It gets easier as you get to know the client. 😉

Yes, it does. Although less necessary. I know they’ll come back, I know they enjoyed it. They know I love seeing them. 

8 hours ago, Nightowl said:

I don’t want to receive a text while I’m at the family dinner table that says “Enjoyed fucking you last week.  I’ve got an opening next week if you’re available.”

That’s what worries me about sending random messages. You don’t know the context of someone when they read it. Could be awkward!!

6 hours ago, dbar123 said:

I totally enjoyed getting massaged by you this summer when I visited London. If you were planning to come to my city I would definitely love to hear from you for a redo

Awesome!! Thanks 🙏 (do come back next time you visit). I understand the travelling business model and it definitely makes sense to message clients with “I’ll be in town…” but being based in London I really don’t need to travel, there’s enough business here for everyone, including all the Brazilians 😂.