Feeling ugly/unattractive when with a provider

[+ ApexNomad]

5 minutes ago, NYXboy said:

Confidence is the sexiest thing anyone can wear. 

 

I had a good report with one provider but he lost his hard on half way through the session - and it made it obvious that he wasn't turned on and as a result, I never rehired - despite how much I liked him and we got on 

I’m sorry you had that experience. Given how well you got along, is it possible it wasn’t really about you, but perhaps something else was going on? I’ve mentioned this before, but once I met with a provider and it was clear early on nothing was going to happen. He’d just been having a tough few weeks, so we ended up at the hotel bar talking for hours. Really nice guy. He insisted we meet again the next night, which we did and he was amazing.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

59 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

I’m less concerned with how freshly laundered his hand towels are, or how spotless his kitchen is. While these are nice, I wouldn’t be judging him for having a normal everyday cooked-in kitchen or a rag on the side of the bed.

Of course, this is my own blend of neurosis and being a virgo. 

[Tom C. Sinclair]

I know I’m ugly and unattractive. Hence why I don’t expect dating to work and pay good-looking guys to pretend to like me. I’m fortunate that though ugly, I’m financially able. 

[+ Jamie21]

On 8/19/2025 at 4:42 AM, KensingtonHomo said:

Oddly, I worry more about whether the house is clean enough; do we have something to drink; are the "hand towels" laundered? 

Now these are the correct things to worry about 👍. I’ve done out calls and there’s been some quite disturbing environmental issues which really can impact the session. Poorly selected scatter cushions, mismatching bathroom towels, cheap toiletries in the bathroom, very poor lighting (all from above, ugh).

This week I did an outcall to a guy and he showed me through to the bedroom which was almost in total darkness. I don’t mind ambient lighting but I could hardly see anything. I asked to turn the light on a bit and he said to switch the light on in the en suite, which threw some light into the bedroom. But not enough. There’s practical considerations…how am I meant to check all is ok down there before rimming him if the place is like a darkroom? 

[mike carey]

4 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Now these are the correct things to worry about 👍. I’ve done out calls and there’s been some quite disturbing environmental issues which really can impact the session. Poorly selected scatter cushions, mismatching bathroom towels, cheap toiletries in the bathroom, very poor lighting (all from above, ugh).

This week I did an outcall to a guy and he showed me through to the bedroom which was almost in total darkness. I don’t mind ambient lighting but I could hardly see anything. I asked to turn the light on a bit and he said to switch the light on in the en suite, which threw some light into the bedroom. But not enough. There’s practical considerations…how am I meant to check all is ok down there before rimming him if the place is like a darkroom? 

How absolutely ghastly!

[+ Jamie21]

7 minutes ago, mike carey said:

How absolutely ghastly!

Truly horrific. I should add that he had a mirror above the bed, and full mirror wardrobes. I mean what’s the point if it’s so dark you can’t see? (Aside from it being quite tacky). 

[Nightowl]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Truly horrific. I should add that he had a mirror above the bed, and full mirror wardrobes. I mean what’s the point if it’s so dark you can’t see? (Aside from it being quite tacky). 

Weren’t there any spotlights trained on the bed so that the guy on his back could see the action in the ceiling mirror?