Exposed Nipples - What is acceptable?

[Simon Suraci]

Question 1) Whose nipples generally turn you on: cis women, cis men, neither, or both?

Question 2) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: cis women, cis men, neither, or both? Any variations in your answer given different contexts? Why?

Question 3) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: trans women, trans men, neither, or both? What about nonbinary people? Why?

Question 4) Whose nipple-less chest do you feel is acceptable to expose in public: trans men who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached, or trans women who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached? Neither? Both? Why?

Question 5) How do you feel about any of the categories of people mentioned on the questions above publicly bearing their whole chests while wearing pasties over their nipples?

[+ JamesB]

Oh boy, this questionnaire reads like the United Nations charter on nipple diplomacy. By page 2 we’ll be discussing whose nipples are allowed to make direct eye contact with the moonlight. 😂😂

Sorry, I’ll let myself out now.

[Nightowl]

I don’t care whose nipples are exposed and don’t care whether they’re covered with pasties.  Everyone has them by nature, just like most of us have feet.  Some have foot  fetishes but should everyone have to cover their feet because someone finds them arousing?  

[+ ApexNomad]

51 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

Question 1) Whose nipples generally turn you on: cis women, cis men, neither, or both?

Question 2) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: cis women, cis men, neither, or both? Any variations in your answer given different contexts? Why?

Question 3) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: trans women, trans men, neither, or both? What about nonbinary people? Why?

Question 4) Whose nipple-less chest do you feel is acceptable to expose in public: trans men who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached, or trans women who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached? Neither? Both? Why?

Question 5) How do you feel about any of the categories of people mentioned on the questions above publicly bearing their whole chests while wearing pasties over their nipples?

I see this as two things. First, it probes the arbitrariness of modesty rules: a nipple is biologically the same structure across bodies, yet society assigns different meanings depending on gender identity. Second, that shows the real issue isn’t anatomy, but how cultural systems code some bodies as neutral and others as sexual (and I think that has deepened over generations). As a cis gay man, I notice this in myself too. Society coded male nipples as neutral, yet I’m drawn to them, which makes me realize how much desire and cultural norms interact in complicated ways.

Interesting discussion, Simon.

[Luv2play]

Because in North America it has for a long time been considered acceptable for cis males to bare their nipples in public (obviously not at the office) but generally in places where taking one’s shirt off is ok, we gay men get to see what straight men don’t with cis women. We’re privileged that way I guess. If bare men’s chests turn you on, which they do me. Assuming they are attractive in the first place. 

[+ SirBillybob]

13 hours ago, JamesB said:

Oh boy, this questionnaire reads like the United Nations charter on nipple diplomacy. By page 2 we’ll be discussing whose nipples are allowed to make direct eye contact with the moonlight. 😂😂

Sorry, I’ll let myself out now.

Not there yet but it would be one small step for mammary, one giant leap for Mattel.

Edited Monday at 11:33 AM by SirBillybob

[+ nycman]

"What is acceptable?"

The phrasing of the headline seems intentionally provocative. In an ideal world, it’s all "acceptable". None of us get to determine what is acceptable for someone else. To me, if you’re comfortable bearing your nipples then it’s acceptable.

Now to answer a different question, which of the above turns me on? Cis male nipples. Small, hard, erect, and exposed. 

[Simon Suraci]

2 hours ago, nycman said:

"What is acceptable?"

Please note, each question includes specifically, and intentionally: “do you feel” in its phrasing.

It was a little long to include this bit in the title, for one, but provocative for another.

Although our personal opinions may differ quite widely, we may arrive at some general agreements about what all of us think is acceptable to most others. Where does this agreement come from? Laws? Tradition? Censorship? Institutions? Etc

The real meat of the conversation is what you personally think and “why”, since the individual may feel differently than the group’s implied or explicit standard.

[pubic_assistance]

17 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public:

I only like seeing nipples on HOT people. 

Everyone else should be forced to wear a top. 

😉

[caramelsub]

I’m not really a nipple/chest man. They don’t do anything for me on a guy, and definitely not a woman. My nipples aren’t very sensitive either in terms of stimulation. I do like glimpsing at shirtless joggers outside. But I’m more into their muscles and overall physique, (especially if they are wearing tight grey shorts, so I can check out their butts) not the chest and nipples.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Specific to question #4, anyone without nipples should be comfortable exposing them anywhere where others might be doing it; not just trans-individuals that did not have them reattached.  I'm specifically thinking of my grandmother who had no nipple after her mastectomy.

 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1) Men

2-5) All are okay, along with all body parts, for I support naturism and wish more people would/could be completely nude publicly more often... All ages, all sexes, all body types. 

When I see a family with children of all ages attending a clothing optional beach, I know those kids are going to grow up with more self esteem and compassion than kids not exposed (no pun intended) to communal social nudity.

[CuriousByNature]

Perhaps we should simply split the difference, and everyone be okay with showing one nipple.  😆

Edited yesterday at 03:10 AM by CuriousByNature

[+ Jamie21]

1) both.

2) both. If I could have my way nudity in public would be a matter of personal choice. I’d never wear clothes. I think we’d be nicer to each other. 

3) everyone’s nipples can be exposed in public. Gender doesn’t matter. 

4) as for 3. Gender doesn’t matter in this. Everyone should be allowed to be naked anywhere anytime if they want to. Let’s separate the association of nudity with sexual activity.

5) what’s a pastie? All I can think of is a Cornish Pastie. Going around with a Cornish Pastie covering the nipple area might be seen as a bit eccentric, even in Cornwall. 
 

 

 

 

[caramelsub]

58 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

 

5) what’s a pastie? All I can think of is a Cornish Pastie. Going around with a Cornish Pastie covering the nipple area might be seen as a bit eccentric, even in Cornwall. 
 

 

 

 

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[d.anders]

The OP post gave me a headache, so can't comment on that. However, I saw the film The Pickup recently, and saw Pete Davidson shirtless, with no tattoos. I had no idea his nipples were so tiny. I don't think I've ever seen such small nipples on a guy before. Maybe it was the lighting.

[Nightowl]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

4) as for 3. Gender doesn’t matter in this. Everyone should be allowed to be naked anywhere anytime if they want to. Let’s separate the association of nudity with sexual activity.

I can see the army of prudes in the U.S. mobilizing now to defeat the scourge of naughty bits being exposed to—gasp!—our innocent little children…

I completely agree that nudity should be allowed wherever one is comfortable, especially now that I’m older and a little more in control of my erections…

[+ SirBillybob]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

5) what’s a pastie? All I can think of is a Cornish Pastie. Going around with a Cornish Pastie covering the nipple area might be seen as a bit eccentric, even in Cornwall. 

 

 

 

 

Is there a genetic drift phenomenon in Cornwall that explains the phenomenon of supernumerary nipples?

[soloyo215]

On 8/17/2025 at 5:50 PM, Simon Suraci said:

Question 1) Whose nipples generally turn you on: cis women, cis men, neither, or both?

Question 2) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: cis women, cis men, neither, or both? Any variations in your answer given different contexts? Why?

Question 3) Whose nipples do you feel are acceptable to expose in public: trans women, trans men, neither, or both? What about nonbinary people? Why?

Question 4) Whose nipple-less chest do you feel is acceptable to expose in public: trans men who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached, or trans women who undergo top surgery and choose not to have their nipples surgically reattached? Neither? Both? Why?

Question 5) How do you feel about any of the categories of people mentioned on the questions above publicly bearing their whole chests while wearing pasties over their nipples?

1. Not women, depend on the men, don't care about cis or non-cis if I like it.

2. I don't feel like I am in a position to establish "acceptable" standards of exposure. If I don't like something, I just don't look again and keep minding my own business. My preference is men, and in all honesty, though I've never particularly look for them, if I see one and like it I don;t really analyze or place it in a category, so I couldn't tell about the context.

3. I choose not to answer that question.

4. See #3

5. I don't feel strongly about people revealing their chests. My only concern is in countries like the USA and England where a person might be threatened by others for it. Unfortunately, things like that become an issue because of the way most people think about the human body. In other countries, most people can't care less either way, though there should be a sense of decorum in certain circumstances.

Edited 23 hours ago by soloyo215

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, SirBillybob said:

Is there a genetic drift phenomenon in Cornwall that explains the phenomenon of supernumerary nipples?

Very probably. 

[CuriousByNature]

17 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

5) what’s a pastie? All I can think of is a Cornish Pastie. Going around with a Cornish Pastie covering the nipple area might be seen as a bit eccentric, even in Cornwall. 

If you know your Cornish history, traditionally, the men of Cornwall always placed a Cornish Pastie over each nipple before heading down into the tin mines.

Edited 12 hours ago by CuriousByNature