Is working as an escort very risky?

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

23 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

There's always a risk in your reputation, your personal safety and your health (physical and mental), but that can also be said of many other professions outside escorting.

In my experience, there are plenty of people who are professionals and have escorted in the past, many of which manage to hide it, or are in professions where that's not necessarily a deal breaker. Your choice of career outside escorting can determine how risky having been an escort is.

Also, you may not need to advertise online. Escorting exists since the beginning of time, way before sites with profiles existed.

Risk is always there, all we all can do is minimize it and decide which ones are worth taking.

Best.

Nice way of seeing things! The biggest issue you might meet is risks for your mental health! The risk of ending up alcoholic or on drugs is HIGH.... You might aso meet a loony attaching you to his radiator and beating you with chains! And then, you might follow a therapy afterwards.....Sad but true!

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

On 8/13/2025 at 12:42 AM, charmasianman said:

 

I know several people who work as an escort on rentmen because I saw their profiles on the website. I am envious of them. I am a broke Asian student who can't afford to do many things outside school. I am an international student.

 

So I seriously think of working as an escort. I am gay and it will be a good gig because I can make money while having fun. 

 

I am also a little worried about the risks. There are mainly 2 things.

 

○ identity. 

I need to upload my ID and my selfie photo for my holding my ID. This seems to be very risky.

I have no plans to put my face pictures.

 

 

○ career opportunity.  

Im a little worried about risking a good career after school. Im concerned about losing good job opportunities after a background check. Do you think putting up a profile on rentmen can make me not able to pass employment background check?

 

 

○ am i overthinking and overanalyzing?

There might be people who just offer massage or some companion experience on the website. Not everyone there is an escort. Putting up a profile doesnt necessarily translate to working as an escort. So employers might not take an issue with that.

 

can you guys give me opinions on these? Would you upload your ID and photos? Would you risk your career? You can send me a message if you dont feel comfortable leaving a comment publicly. I wonder if there is anyone who had to go through some consequences after working as an escort in terms of career and friendship and future opportunities. 

 

If you generally like young good looking atheletic asian men, shoot me a message with your location. I love being serviced by older men. 😁😄

 

Thank you.

 

 

 

You are a guest in this country, and as such, you are expected to follow the rules, much like when you are a guest at someone's home. If you don't follow the rules, expect to get booted out.
If your student visa doesn't allow you to work in this country, there is nothing to think about or discuss - YOU SHOULD NOT WORK. PERIOD.
If you do, and get caught, be prepared to face the consequences. That could include spending time at Alligator Alcatraz or similar detention center, deportation, and the possibility of never being allowed back into this country.
Bozo noticed your reference to future job opportunities. Is that employment in the USA? Do you really expect to be here on a student visa, violate the conditions of the visa, and still be allowed to remain here AND be allowed to seek employment legally?
Remember, you are a guest in this country.

BTC
🤡

 

Edited Sunday at 07:35 PM by BOZO T CLOWN

[TJMS]

Bozo,

Good advice! You're not "clowning around" with this person!

[d.anders]

1 hour ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

you are expected to follow the rules

LOL. That ship has sailed.

[BoyGeorgeandMarilyn]

4 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

There's always a risk in your reputation, your personal safety and your health (physical and mental), but that can also be said of many other professions outside escorting.

In my experience, there are plenty of people who are professionals and have escorted in the past, many of which manage to hide it, or are in professions where that's not necessarily a deal breaker. Your choice of career outside escorting can determine how risky having been an escort is.

Also, you may not need to advertise online. Escorting exists since the beginning of time, way before sites with profiles existed.

Risk is always there, all we all can do is minimize it and decide which ones are worth taking.

Best.

You might also get attached to the radiator of your client! It is a risk! And quite sadly It Happenst from time to time!

[charmasianman]

3 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

You are a guest in this country, and as such, you are expected to follow the rules, much like when you are a guest at someone's home. If you don't follow the rules, expect to get booted out.
If your student visa doesn't allow you to work in this country, there is nothing to think about or discuss - YOU SHOULD NOT WORK. PERIOD.
If you do, and get caught, be prepared to face the consequences. That could include spending time at Alligator Alcatraz or similar detention center, deportation, and the possibility of never being allowed back into this country.
Bozo noticed your reference to future job opportunities. Is that employment in the USA? Do you really expect to be here on a student visa, violate the conditions of the visa, and still be allowed to remain here AND be allowed to seek employment legally?
Remember, you are a guest in this country.

BTC
🤡

 

I do have a legal right to study in the US. I am a US citizen. I was born in the US when my parents were a grad students in the US and moved back to my asian country when I was 2. I do have 2 passports. 

 

I said I was an international student in the post because I didnt grow up in the US and I do have a stronger identity as a citizen of the other country...

 

Sorry for the confusion.

I just said international not to mean local. 

 

[charmasianman]

Just now, charmasianman said:

I do have a legal right to study in the US. I am a US citizen. I was born in the US when my parents were a grad students in the US and moved back to my asian country when I was 2. I do have 2 passports. 

 

I said I was an international student in the post because I didnt grow up in the US and I do have a stronger identity as a citizen of the other country...

 

Sorry for the confusion.

I just said international not to mean local. 

 

Legal right to study and work in the US*

[charmasianman]

5 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

There's always a risk in your reputation, your personal safety and your health (physical and mental), but that can also be said of many other professions outside escorting.

In my experience, there are plenty of people who are professionals and have escorted in the past, many of which manage to hide it, or are in professions where that's not necessarily a deal breaker. Your choice of career outside escorting can determine how risky having been an escort is.

Also, you may not need to advertise online. Escorting exists since the beginning of time, way before sites with profiles existed.

Risk is always there, all we all can do is minimize it and decide which ones are worth taking.

Best.

Thank you for sharing your insight.  Well said!

[charmasianman]

On 8/13/2025 at 4:34 AM, Pepper Young said:

If you're concerned about future employers finding out you escorted, then don't do it. While I personally think escorting and sex work are legitimate jobs (sex work = work), a lot of employers probably don't. But, to be honest, I'm not sure a background check will pick up on escorting, especially if you use a pseudonym and have no face pics in your profile.  Let us know if you decide to post an ad! 

Thank you! My biggest concern has been to upload my ID onto their website.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 8/14/2025 at 12:57 AM, Simon Suraci said:

Monetizing your sex life, for one. This phrase neatly summarizes the sentiment discussed in so many other threads on these forums. It just doesn’t work. A much larger number of men would do it if that’s all it took.

If you’re a citizen then a lot of what people have posted here may not be relevant. However, the basis of your status is under threat. I cannot say more because of forum “rules” that are applied unequally. 

That said, @Simon Suraci has given you the best advice of everyone here. From what you’ve posted, I do not think you’re cut out for being a provider. You want to he paid for “older men to service you.” That’s a pretty niche market. Based on your description of what you’re willing to do, your lack of desire to “get your foot in the door” for $200/hour (probably 6-10 times the average hourly pay in NYC), I doubt I’d hire you.

Sadly, you will also likely attract clients who fetishize Asian men, which adds additional obstacles you’ll have to navigate. 

[pubic_assistance]

7 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Sadly, you will also likely attract clients who fetishize Asian men, which adds additional obstacles you’ll have to navigate. 

I dont think "fetishizing" ANYONE is a bad thing when it comes to sex4pay. 

Definitely something to avoid in romantic relationships where you are always being objectified. But sex workers are there specifically to BE objects of our desire. So if a man has a fetish for attractive Asians, I see no reason why @charmasianman shouldn't monetize that connection. His only real legitimate issues are privacy and legality.

 

[NipLuvr212]

15 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

 

Sadly, you will also likely attract clients who fetishize Asian men, which adds additional obstacles you’ll have to navigate. 

@KensingtonHomo raises a hugely important point - the idea of "fetishization".

A scholar (now sadly gone) named Edward Said wrote a lot about the tangled relationship between the "East" and the "West", and to risk oversimplifying his life's work, let me say that often the so-called "Orient: is loved on the basis of the West's idea of the Orient (whether or not the Orient matches that idea) and the West warps the Orient to match Western tastes and perceptions.

This kind of "festishized love" is a love which is based on what the other is pereceived to be able to do for me. 

What does this look like in our quotidian lives? More than one Asian man has been called upon to fit a Westerner's expectations of what is an appropriate behavior is his eyes, regardless of how the Asian guy determines his own life.

And there's the rub.

[+ Jamie21]

It’s simple, if you’re doing it for any reason other than you are good at it and you enjoy it (those things are always connected)…then you’ll fail.

If your motive is money, more sex, notoriety, to avoid boredom or just because you think you’re attractive to certain clients then you’ll fail at being an escort. It’s simply not the kind of job you can do and ‘put up with’. It’s much more difficult than you think it is. Aside from all the warnings about visas etc there’s real risks to doing it. Things like health risks, reputation risks, personal safety, mental health….you need to be really motivated to overcome those if you want to be a successful escort. 

[+ ApexNomad]

30 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

It’s simple, if you’re doing it for any reason other than you are good at it and you enjoy it (those things are always connected)…then you’ll fail.

If your motive is money, more sex, notoriety, to avoid boredom or just because you think you’re attractive to certain clients then you’ll fail at being an escort. It’s simply not the kind of job you can do and ‘put up with’. It’s much more difficult than you think it is. Aside from all the warnings about visas etc there’s real risks to doing it. Things like health risks, reputation risks, personal safety, mental health….you need to be really motivated to overcome those if you want to be a successful escort. 

I appreciate you sharing this. There’s definitely a correlation between the two you described. A friend of mine who no longer escorts actually started for the money. He needed it, and work was hard to come by. He never considered it before, and had no idea if he’d be “good at it” until he tried. What he discovered over 20 plus years was that his real strength was a caregiving impulse. He had a strong pleaser streak and genuinely enjoyed helping others feel good, less lonely, and more confident. In the end, those deeper motivations, along with the sense of control and autonomy, were what kept him going.

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, ApexNomad said:

A friend of mine who no longer escorts actually started for the money.

That’s interesting. I agree it is something that, until you do it, you don’t know whether you’ll be suited to it. It’s not about being good at sex or anything like that (although it appears so). It’s about having a pleaser streak as you say. If you get turned on (sexually and otherwise) by giving pleasure it’s a definite strength to bring to escorting. 

I started by accident. I knew I liked being watched having sex, and I found an outlet for that by appearing in amateur erotic massage films (initially as the recipient of massage). I then discovered I was good at giving massage, also on film. That developed into learning how to do sensual massage, which developed into doing massage and sex work professionally. I had advice and help along the way from guys (and females actually) who already did the work. I don’t think anyone sets out initially with a career plan of doing sex work, it kind of happens step by step. Each step is like a test of whether you’re cut out for it. Most people aren’t and they fall by the wayside, if they ever even started.
 

[pubic_assistance]

2 hours ago, NipLuvr212 said:

This kind of "festishized love" is a love which is based on what the other is pereceived to be able to do for me. 

What "love" ?

He wants to charge old men for the chance to suck his cock.

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

But sex workers are there specifically to BE objects of our desire.

This is a hard no. For me, a sex worker is their own subject with their own agency. I do not seek to objectify them or treat them like a commodity. As an SA survivor, I want them to be comfortable and - to the extent possible given it’s a paid gig - enjoy themselves. Even if they wouldn’t pick us up in a bar, I minimally want them to enjoy us as clients. 

I did not enjoy being objectified when I was a 20-something twink and I don’t enjoy younger men objectifying me and my husband as “daddies.” There’s a myth that we have to treat each other as objected to get off. It’s very damaging to our sex and romantic lives. And it’s largely driven by marketing and advertising. 

[DMonDude]

3 hours ago, NipLuvr212 said:

@KensingtonHomo raises a hugely important point - the idea of "fetishization".

A scholar (now sadly gone) named Edward Said wrote a lot about the tangled relationship between the "East" and the "West", and to risk oversimplifying his life's work, let me say that often the so-called "Orient: is loved on the basis of the West's idea of the Orient (whether or not the Orient matches that idea) and the West warps the Orient to match Western tastes and perceptions.

This kind of "festishized love" is a love which is based on what the other is pereceived to be able to do for me. 

What does this look like in our quotidian lives? More than one Asian man has been called upon to fit a Westerner's expectations of what is an appropriate behavior is his eyes, regardless of how the Asian guy determines his own life.

And there's the rub.

This is only an issue if you still live 20 years ago. This is a very old timey way of looking at things. It's 2025 and the proliferation of Asian culture via K-Pop, Glenn from the Walking Dead show, K-Dramas, Anime, Japanese muscle bars, Physical 100, etc, in media/pop culture has completely changed what "type" of Asians are sought after and how they can be perceived as attractive and what the Western perceptions of the East are. If you think people only want smooth boyish sub bottom Asians, you're stuck in the past. I literally joined this site to vouch for a provider who is a muscular Asian top and i got multiple DMs from people interested in details of my experience with him. OPs desire to be serviced by older men is not niche and the stereotypes of yesteryear are not the only way an Asian man can do well in this work.

[DMonDude]

Also, this line of work is literally where fetishization works in the providers advantage. Every worker is appealing to someone's attraction or fetish. That's what makes the client agree to pay. It's part of the marketing from the providers end. That's, that's just how this works... Why are we pretending like this isn't what it is?

[Alchemy]

12 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

That is a very good question. 

Logic would dictate that the discovery was not random. Secondly I would point out that this is NOT uncommon. I've read more than one discussion here about escorts being refused entry and banned for ten years or permanently. 

I believe border agents can require you turn over your phone. It's possible for escorting to be discovered through apps and messaging. 

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I did not enjoy being objectified when I was a 20-something twink

Your own failures don't mean that others arent more prepared emotionally to enjoy the company of men who seek a particular objectification of desire. 

Many men seek out escorts as a way to act out sexual desires that they wouldn't ask of their lover/life-partner. 

50 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

Every worker is appealing to someone's attraction or fetish. That's what makes the client agree to pay.

Thank you @DMonDude Absolutely. 

@charmasianman is NOT "being objectified" he is willingly OFFERING a fetish service for compensation. In no way is he a victim when he is in total command of his desire to be serviced in exchange for cash. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

30 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Your own failures don't mean that others arent more prepared emotionally to enjoy the company of men who seek a particular objectification of desire. 

Many men seek out escorts as a way to act out sexual desires that they wouldn't ask of their lover/life-partner. 

Having self respect and agency isn’t a failure. If you need to objectify someone to get off, you need a therapist not a sex worker.

Also regarding my “failures, you talk so much shit on here you would never say to my face and we all know it. 

[soloyo215]

16 hours ago, BoyGeorgeandMarilyn said:

You might also get attached to the radiator of your client! It is a risk! And quite sadly It Happenst from time to time!

I'm not sure what your point is. We already know the risks, plus, as I stated, risk is always present; it's a matter of  our decision to take it and handle it.

Plus you haven't mentioned anything that is exclusive to escorting. All those things can happen on your way to a 9-5 job.

[d.anders]

15 hours ago, charmasianman said:

My biggest concern has been to upload my ID onto their website.

Don't do it. If you can't figure out how to create a fake I.D., do not upload any legal document, especially a copy of either passport. If Rentmen intends to require "legal" anything, then their future is over. They just want your money (or whoever is paying). Joining their website is not an interview for a job with a bank. Your "legal" mindset begins here.

13 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

It’s much more difficult than you think it is.

I thought the whole post was good, except it described a truly professional escort. There are so many levels out there, so many, and some of the money can be quite easy, it seems to me.

Yes, all attempts at making money are more difficult than one thinks. But for those who are sexually attractive, and enjoy sex, selling sex can be one of the easiest. You just need good street smart advice.

There are plenty of men, good-looking and not, who would be thrilled to suck a younger man's cock, and not expect reciprocation. And pay top dollar, depending on how pretty everything is. You may not eliminate the competition, but if you're sexy naked, and your cock is attractive and rises easily, you'll do just fine. If I could successfully earn an extra $100-a-week under the table, I would do it. It's far better than not having that extra money, as long as you can stay healthy, and stay under the radar.

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, d.anders said:

selling sex can be one of the easiest.

I think that’s a common view of those who might not have done it. But as well as laying back and letting some guy suck you off (easy) you also need to deal with the opinion of society about what you do, the attitude of some clients towards you, and things like how it affects your own sex life. Factor those in and you might reconsider that ‘selling sex can be one of the easiest’…