The Mean Girl Dynamic on Company of Men

[+ PhileasFogg]

I appreciate the efforts of the admins and the results they achieve.

I’ve also noted a few things:

1) there are some people here who have nothing good to say about anyone.  As I note this, I instantly disregard their comments.  They’ve cornered themselves into irrelevance. 
2) there are some VERY long term members of this group and, inevitably, some interpersonal conflicts have festered and become evident to new users without an obvious sense of history.

It is what it is

[+ Jamie21]

10 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

there are some VERY long term members of this group and, inevitably, some interpersonal conflicts have festered and become evident to new users without an obvious sense of history.

Really? Wow I would like to know about these feuds 🙂. We all love a bit of drama! I think we need a table showing who hates who, who is jealous of who, who has fucked who (both literally and figuratively) and who is the partner of who. Then we could understand the sub text and less than subtle digs and motivations in the posts? 

Maybe the moderators could add context to comments like what happens in Twitter: Moderators added context;  Poster A started a relationship with the ex of Poster B just one month after Poster B and the ex messily split up. 
 

 

[NipLuvr212]

16 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

I appreciate the efforts of the admins and the results they achieve.

I’ve also noted a few things:

1) there are some people here who have nothing good to say about anyone.  As I note this, I instantly disregard their comments.  They’ve cornered themselves into irrelevance. 
2) there are some VERY long term members of this group and, inevitably, some interpersonal conflicts have festered and become evident to new users without an obvious sense of history.

It is what it is

I understand that also there were active members who were essentially witch-hunted off the site because of mean/vicious members who viciously attacked them. The attackers remain, the attacked fled.

Ahhhhh such drama!

[+ PhileasFogg]

2 hours ago, NipLuvr212 said:

I understand that also there were active members who were essentially witch-hunted off the site because of mean/vicious members who viciously attacked them. The attackers remain, the attacked fled.

Ahhhhh such drama!

It’s my sense some of the attackers have been run out of town too 😉

[Nightowl]

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Really? Wow I would like to know about these feuds 🙂. We all love a bit of drama! I think we need a table showing who hates who, who is jealous of who, who has fucked who (both literally and figuratively) and who is the partner of who. Then we could understand the sub text and less than subtle digs and motivations in the posts? 

Maybe the moderators could add context to comments like what happens in Twitter: Moderators added context;  Poster A started a relationship with the ex of Poster B just one month after Poster B and the ex messily split up. 
 

 

We also need the “why” of who hates whom.  That’s the juicy stuff.

[NipLuvr212]

1 hour ago, PhileasFogg said:

It’s my sense some of the attackers have been run out of town too 😉

Agreed - once restrictions were placed on justb how aggressively awful to others one could be here, many of the attackers kinda "shot their load" and moved on, likely to other sites to repeat their same compulsive behaviors.

Thank god, and thank the monitors!

[Simon Suraci]

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