Tipping - if so, and how much?

[VIdeo]

Back in the old days I would tip, but now with everyone already asking for $400-$500 for an hour I don’t tip anymore, unless sometimes I know they took a long uber ride to see me. With that said I didn’t have issues with booking them again so I don’t think most expect a tip. 

[Veryshyone]

I will pay well for a great experience. You can't take it with you and I appreciate the work providers put into their efforts to accommodate me.

[DaddyPete]

On 1/25/2026 at 5:06 PM, VIdeo said:

Back in the old days I would tip, but now with everyone already asking for $400-$500 for an hour I don’t tip anymore, unless sometimes I know they took a long uber ride to see me. With that said I didn’t have issues with booking them again so I don’t think most expect a tip. 

Most of the time these days they want reimbursement for the ride as well.

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, DaddyPete said:

Most of the time these days they want reimbursement for the ride as well.

When I first read that I thought ‘ well of course..that’s the whole idea’ and then I realised you meant the ride to the venue. 

[+ SirBillybob]

Gratuities in transactional surrogate intimacy … not relatable.

Edited January 28 by SirBillybob

[Nue2thegame]

21 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

When I first read that I thought ‘ well of course..that’s the whole idea’ and then I realised you meant the ride to the venue. 

Both rides!

[theplayerking]

I’m a New Yorker so I always tip 20 to 30 percent. The weird thing is providers in New York are often surprised and appreciative that I tip, whereas providers overseas are often disappointed that I don’t tip more. Anyone else experience that?

[Wings246]

2 hours ago, theplayerking said:

I’m a New Yorker so I always tip 20 to 30 percent. The weird thing is providers in New York are often surprised and appreciative that I tip, whereas providers overseas are often disappointed that I don’t tip more. Anyone else experience that?

I live in a city of the West Coast with unbearably high cost of living.  Hence, the providers’ average hourly rates rival those of NYC.  Regardless, I have been consistently tipping at least 20%.  Here’s my rationale: I normally book 2-hour appointments.  The providers almost always give a 15% to 20% discount when you book more than an hour.  In my mind, the 20% tips more or less cancel out the discounts.  It is essentially what they would’ve received had they not offered the discount.

That said, my providers do look surprised and delighted when I include that 20% tips.  It’s probably because they don’t expect anything on top of their higher-than-usual base rates.

[soloyo215]

I used to tip, and quite well, but as others have pointed out, prices have gone up, plus I was tipping because I thought that it was some kind of unwritten rule. Now I tip only certain providers, only certain countries, and only if they go extra (extra time, extra activities, etc.).

[handiacefailure]

If the provider wants money up front never a tip.

If it's a legit massage with a professional i usually tip around $20 since they have to pay rent for the studio and do their own towels, etc, just like the person who cuts my hair.

Escorts I use to tip more regularly pre covid.    But since a lot of their rates have gone up big time, I usually don't now unless their rates are reasonable or they go over.    

I set my own rates as a professional and my bill rate is only $275 an hour and I claim the income and have people to pay and rent and overhead and we don't expect a tip.   We adjust our bill rates appropriately   

[Stasoxxx69]

I don't believe we should have to tip masseurs or escorts when they are setting their own rate. Tips are for places of business like a massage spa where the service person is only getting a cut of what you pay the spa...then you tip. If someone is working for themselves, they set their own rate. I only tip if our interaction exceeds what is stated in the service description for example, if a masseur says both nude and release, but we end up doing more like oral or fucking, then I will just give him an extra $50 to $100. I've noticed that a lot of asian masseurs when they come to my apartment for massage they ask for tips and I have to explain to them how it works. A lot of them come from working in massage parlors. 

[Peter Eater]

Tipping is a legacy of slavery. The practice originated in feudal Europe and was brought to the United States by travelers, but it blossomed after the Civil War as U.S. employers sought to avoid paying formerly enslaved Black workers. 

The Pullman Co., which manufactured railroad cars, notoriously hired newly freed Black men as porters, drove down their wages and forced them to rely heavily on tips from white riders. 

The practice of tipping entrenched a racialized class structure in service jobs throughout the hospitality sector. Tipping escorts (another service job in the hospitality sector!) is not exactly the same, of course, but it does arise from related, quite complicated disparities between provider and client. 

[PetetKsfo]

I never expect a tip, but always appreciate one if offered.       I list on Rentmasseur and believe I am asking reasonable rates in the first place.    I often get a $20-$40 tip, but if someone offers me only what I have asked for in the first place,  I don't think any less of him.      What I find really heart-warming is the guy who didn't think about a tip in the first place, and brought just the agreed rate, but then enjoyed spending time with me and goes through his walllet for any spare bills that he has.....like a $5 and a couple of ones.    That always makes me smile!    Occasionally guys have also offered things like  gift cards, a bottle of wine, or other added gifts.