When providers not truthful about size

[starman05]

no, not that size! 

I'm talking about height. 

I'm not tall nor am I a shrimp. I hit about 5'6 1/2" on a good day and I tell people I'm 5'7" and no one ever gives me a hard time (no pun intended).

I saw a massage provider recently who advertised as 6'1". That's a great height given that resting my head on a guy's pec is one of my favorite things. Granted, that only happens with a hug hello and goodbye with a masseur.

The provider I saw was maybe 5'10 or 5'11. He was great and I'll definitely repeat. 

But I'm just wondering if anyone else runs into height discrepancies?

 

 

[seattlebottom]

Maybe they're reporting their height with shoes on?

[+ JamesB]

As a general rule, I expect providers to be a bit shorter, heavier, smaller and older than advertised. It's just the way it is. Setting these expectations helps avoid disappointment.

[big-n-tall]

All the time lol! Most say they are taller than they actually are. I think only a handful throughout my hiring career have been honest/accurate about their height.

With that said, as with penis size and age, I don’t really care. As long as they look like the pictures that they present… I’m usually all in.

Edited May 15 by big-n-tall

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Yes, some providers are definitely adding inches to their height. We saw a guy recently who said he was 6' on his profile. I'm 5'11" and he was at best 5'9". 

I do think that gay male ideas of beauty are so stringent that many providers think that if they're outside of it, no one will hire them. So they fib. I also suspect they're trying to be included when people select 6' as their minimum height on RM. Same with age shaving. 

Now, I tend to prefer men taller than me, but someone being 5'9" if they were otherwise hitting all my desired traits wouldn't be a deal breaker. 

[KrisParr]

Reminds me of the hot guy I met at a leather bar. He was wearing knee high boots and was a good 3 inches taller than me. When we got to my apartment and the boots came off, either he also had lifts in his boots or I was so fucked up, but anyhow, he “dropped” in height considerably. But he was a fun ride.

[StableMentalDefective]

At 6’4” (certified) I lie sometimes and say 6’1”. It forces the guys lying about being 6 feet tall to do some reckoning and some math. 

[starman05]

Again, As I'm 5'6" + and I like tall guys I'm pretty content with 5'9" + but 6'1" is a sweet spot, generally 

[+ Jamie21]

I’m 181cm…that’s thrown you hasn’t it? 😂

[pubic_assistance]

19 hours ago, starman05 said:

But I'm just wondering if anyone else runs into height discrepancies?

I think every gay man's profile seems to add an inch to his height and two inches to his dick. 😆

[maninsoma]

I filled out forms saying I was 5'11" for decades because my peak height as a young adult was close to 5'11.5".  I had read that people get a bit shorter as they age, but I had never bothered to measure myself again until recently and height measurement isn't something that's routinely done elsewhere (unless you're arrested and they are doing a mug shot).  I was sad to discover that my height is closer to 5'10" now.

[Beancounter]

Jamie…just shy of 6’.  

[jackcali]

21 hours ago, starman05 said:

I hit about 5'6 1/2" on a good day and I tell people I'm 5'7" and no one ever gives me a hard time (no pun intended).

 

 

 

I've probably shrunk in my old age, but for a long time I was exactly 5'9" and was fine telling people that, but I switched to saying I'm 5'10" after I kept meeting guys barely an inch taller than me who claimed to be six feet tall.  

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Funny how this also translates to Grindr:  They say they're 6' and when we meet, they meet me at my lower chest.

I'm genuinely just under 6'4".  I've got to think about these ramifications when 69ing.

[+ Jamie21]

3 hours ago, Beancounter said:

Jamie…just shy of 6’.  

Ah, you worked it out. Now do my cock size: 20.3 cm. 

[viewing ownly]

Lying about vertical-ness is so commonplace, I expect it. I'm very short, so when a guy claims to be 5 foot 10 and is barely taller than I am, I'm elated, but certainly wonder why so many men feel they will be rejected if they list a height they feel is too short. I suppose same with cock length, also. 

The term "height queen" isn't nearly as much of a thing as size queen, but unfortunately plenty of men have a bar they refuse to limbo under. 

As others say, if he looks like his pic, the rest can be worked with. 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Ditto. An advantage of being short is that I never hired a guy who was taller than me, even if they exaggerated their height.

Another advantage is that anyone I ever dated was also taller than me. I always wondered if that was the reason my boyfriend(s) tend to be short, but not shorter than me.

[mike carey]

13 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Ah, you worked it out. Now do my cock size: 20.3 cm. 

That converts to just over 20cm.

[+ Jamie21]

23 minutes ago, mike carey said:

That converts to just over 20cm.

That 30mm makes all the difference 

[+ JamesB]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

That 30mm makes all the difference 

I think you meant to say 3mm. 😂

[Thelatin]

I met a guy who looked normal height in all his twitter pics - he showed up and he was a short little fella.   I actually like short kings and he was super fit, so it was great. 

[Oakman]

Providers who do this are gaming the filter settings, so they’ll show up in your search if you’re filtering out guys under 6’. They know you’re not likely to walk away at the front door when you see that they’ve lied by an inch or three. I certainly never have. 

[Spikeguy]

Yup same on dating or hookup apps.

[Moke]

This is great news to me as I enjoy men of various heights but in general prefer shorter. I usually screen OUT guys over 6 ft. 
 

but of course have also met some lovely hot people over 6’

[d.anders]

On 5/16/2025 at 11:57 AM, BenjaminNicholas said:

I've got to think about these ramifications when 69ing.

It's always been one of my favorite positions, and I learned a long time ago, height makes a difference.