Bareback

[sky]

17 hours ago, Scott Carroll said:

So I read through this thread and I am still unsure that I understand.  Is it common for a bottom provider to take it bareback and allow one to unload in them and is there an surcharge for both of those actions??

I feel if escorts didn't allow bareback as a bottom they would be limiting what they can make.  Whether or not they are on prep is their choice but the job of the escort is to offer the client a "fantasy".  For many clients that might mean an escort that is willing to bareback as part of the experience.  I also feel that escorts should set their rate and shouldn't charge extra.  Is there a risk the escort faces barebacking?  Yes, but they have it in their control to help minimize the risk.  

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, sky said:

I feel if escorts didn't allow bareback as a bottom they would be limiting what they can make.  Whether or not they are on prep is their choice but the job of the escort is to offer the client a "fantasy".  For many clients that might mean an escort that is willing to bareback as part of the experience.  I also feel that escorts should set their rate and shouldn't charge extra.  Is there a risk the escort faces barebacking?  Yes, but they have it in their control to help minimize the risk.  

Plenty of escorts do just fine financially without barebacking. It's not the necessity in the experience you think it is. Also just because Escorts work to fulfill a clients fantasies doesn't mean they are obligated to cater to all fantasies. They have it in their control to not take on certain risks if they choose not to.

Edited September 27, 2025 by DMonDude

[+ Jamie21]

I’m always surprised when the client wants to top me bare and he asks if I’m on prep. I am of course, and I’m fine to get fucked bare, but me being on prep should be of no interest to the client. I tell him, it’s protecting me, the important question is are you on prep. Amazingly some aren’t on prep yet they’re happy to bareback. What they should ask is how frequently I get tested. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 5/12/2025 at 5:38 AM, ApexNomad said:

Unless his ad specifically states “Bareback only,” go out and buy them! Let’s not be cheap and selfish. (I’m also paying for his Uber to/from.)

And on the alternate end of the conversation, if the escort lists "ask me", I always ask before hiring if bareback is okay.  Better to double check before the meeting than to arrive with different expectations.

Edited March 16 by Vegas_Millennial

[Tajoki]

Funny enough — I had a provider tell me BB usually comes at a higher rate.

His reasoning was just “better experience,” but it also felt like something he could leverage to charge more.

I remember laughing and going,
“okay… but you’re enjoying it more too, right?”

Because it never really feels like a one-sided upgrade.

[hungry4darkmeat]

51 minutes ago, Tajoki said:

Funny enough — I had a provider tell me BB usually comes at a higher rate.

His reasoning was just “better experience,” but it also felt like something he could leverage to charge more.

I remember laughing and going,
“okay… but you’re enjoying it more too, right?”

Because it never really feels like a one-sided upgrade.

It’s not uncommon in my experience for providers to charge more for special requests and if they don’t normally do BB they charge more if they’re willing to make an exception.

[Jay17403]

I remember when you almost always got two quotes, one for safe and one for bareback.  I think that has changed with prep since most guys seem ok with it know. I always ask to make sure like someone else said just make sure there are no surprises. 

[+ Pensant]

Even those who proclaim “safe only” have been known to go bare with little prompting, a little birdie told me.

[Wings246]

On 3/18/2026 at 5:24 PM, Pensant said:

Even those who proclaim “safe only” have been known to go bare with little prompting, a little birdie told me.

I can attest to this with my personal experiences.  A provider who was listed as "Safe Only" was BB during my entire encounter with him.  Neither one of us mentioned/suggested/requested/asked about the use of condom before, during, or after.

Edited Sunday at 01:51 AM by Wings246

[ChiTwnPaul]

I am new to all of this. Gay/Bi-sex, escorts etc.. As a bottom, is there a noticable different between bareback and a condom?

[theplayerking]

4 hours ago, ChiTwnPaul said:

I am new to all of this. Gay/Bi-sex, escorts etc.. As a bottom, is there a noticable different between bareback and a condom?

Absolutely, but I would say even more so from the top. For the bottom, there’s much less friction, and it feels a lot better. Then, of course, this is the psychological thrill of taking a man’s cum inside your body.

[ChiTwnPaul]

On 3/22/2026 at 3:55 AM, theplayerking said:

Absolutely, but I would say even more so from the top. For the bottom, there’s much less friction, and it feels a lot better. Then, of course, this is the psychological thrill of taking a man’s cum inside your body.

That is kind of what I figured. Thanks

[pubic_assistance]

On 3/22/2026 at 4:55 AM, theplayerking said:

On 3/22/2026 at 12:20 AM, ChiTwnPaul said:

I am new to all of this. Gay/Bi-sex, escorts etc.. As a bottom, is there a noticable different between bareback and a condom?

Absolutely, but I would say even more so from the top. For the bottom, there’s much less friction, and it feels a lot better. Then, of course, this is the psychological thrill of taking a man’s cum inside your body.

In my opinion the difference is far more psychological than physical. Lots of guys lose the moment while struggling to slip on a condom..and as far as having someone unload in your ass...yeah thats a whole pile of psychology. Intimacy, naughtiness, and danger.

[theplayerking]

Very few providers are not on PrEP these days. I suspect providers that are coy, or at least ambiguous, about being “safe only” are doing it for marketing purposes. They don’t want to alienate clients that are looking to use condoms. The providers that only use condoms are usually quite explicit in their disclosure in their ads.

I generally filter for providers that are “anything goes,” because they tend to be more sexual in general and thus more fun.

[WorcesterTony]

I feel like there are plenty of Providers who have zero problem with condoms, at least in my experience. Granted bare is amazing 😘 and I thank TylerBoston(Retired RM) for introducing me to the feeling of being flooded😍 and ATM😉. But seriously even just randomly checking now there are a lot of “Safe Only” guys so if you want to be(and there’s nothing wrong with that) you should still be able to find a top no problem.

[WorcesterTony]

Just now, WorcesterTony said:

I feel like there are plenty of Providers who have zero problem with condoms, at least in my experience. Granted bare is amazing 😘 and I thank TylerBoston(Retired RM) for introducing me to the feeling of being flooded😍 and ATM😉. But seriously even just randomly checking now there are a lot of “Safe Only” guys so if you want to be(and there’s nothing wrong with that) you should still be able to find a top no problem.

*want to be safe