+ bkwiseass Posted March 15 Posted March 15 At the risk of starting a war that makes my laptop burst into flames (or worse, I get barred from this community), I'd love to hear the hive weigh in on whether or not straight providers understand gay desire. Before you torch me: 1) I understand sexuality is fluid (mine isn't), and desire comes in every form; 2) Social media has exaggerated the emphasis on male bodies, so there are more straight providers on gay sites than ever; 3) I know gay dudes can be just as narcissistic as straight guys, but the few straight dudes I've worked with seem to think they're doing me a favor and the fact they're straight is why I actually approached them (stop. I know there are tons of gay guys who are really turned on by straight guys. I'm not just not one of them); 4) Straight guys can be really turned on by gay dudes and super-appreciative; and 5) I know providers — of every sexual orientation — are not super-humans any more than their clients are, but I find it exhausting to have one more thing to navigate when I'm simply seeking some form of connection. Am I alone on this one? Here goes. Please don't hurt me...
TJMS Posted March 15 Posted March 15 I cannot imagine a totally straight guy having sex with a man unless it is environmentally related, i. e., in prison. I believe in the theory there is a spectrum of fluidity Ali Gator, Hen, Yukon21 and 5 others 6 2
StableMentalDefective Posted March 15 Posted March 15 1 hour ago, TJMS said: I cannot imagine a totally straight guy having sex with a man unless it is environmentally related, i. e., in prison. I believe in the theory there is a spectrum of fluidity You’re going to run into some heat from the trans community with that…
steve10025 Posted March 15 Posted March 15 I've had good experiences with straight guys providing services ... not so much from rentmen but when Craigs List was still an option I met up with many straight men (and I understand that some may have been gay men posing as straight to get more clients, but I think most of the guys I met who claimed to be straight were straight or bi) and often found they were even more relaxed and fun than the gay men I was meeting at that point. Of course, I was a total bottom and not interested in kissing. As far as providers on rentmen, I couldn't say.
+ sync Posted March 15 Posted March 15 I'm a fundamentalist, if/when I see "straight" or "bi-curious," I pass. + Axiom2001 and pubic_assistance 1 1
ShortCutie7 Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Similar thread: My thoughts are that I am not likely to hire a straight guy because it would completely break the illusion of mutual attraction, but in my experience most of my best hookups and hires have been with guys who are or at least selected bi. + Vegas_Millennial 1
+ sniper Posted March 16 Posted March 16 I think the straight providers are usually one extreme or the other, either very good or very bad, and if you are observant you develop an ability to sniff out which is which. The ones who think of it as a job and are able to compartmentalize it can do it very well. If you think about this, you see people like this in the corporate world all the time, the guys who are able to just spout the company line as if they believe every word of it, even though everyone knows it's BS. Same principle applies.
big-n-tall Posted March 16 Posted March 16 (edited) I’ve hired guys who have identified as straight gay and bi. I have no preference. I don’t care what they identify as. If I’m attracted to them, my only concern is if they can perform and at least appear as if they are into the moment/enjoying themselves. i will admit most of the guys I have deeper connections/longer relationships with have identified as bisexual. However 3 providers I met in the last few years identify as gay. The social and physical connection has been outstanding with them. One is currently a forum member. Edited March 16 by big-n-tall
rvwnsd Posted March 16 Posted March 16 I've had awful gay providers and great straight providers. It depends on the individual and his ability to deliver a quality experience. As I've said before, a guy can identify as a refrigerator for all I care. What matters is how I feel while we are together. big-n-tall, liubit, MikeBiDude and 2 others 1 3 1
danteig Posted March 16 Posted March 16 I always have more fun with straight dudes. They show up, do their thing and leave without being attached or acting like pop divas.
Solution + bkwiseass Posted March 16 Author Solution Posted March 16 15 hours ago, ShortCutie7 said: Similar thread: My thoughts are that I am not likely to hire a straight guy because it would completely break the illusion of mutual attraction, but in my experience most of my best hookups and hires have been with guys who are or at least selected bi. forever in you debt for this link (it didn't turn up in my search before i started this conversation), and for all the comments on this one as well. you are all the greatest dudes on planet earth... ShortCutie7 and + Vegas_Millennial 1 1
+ DrownedBoy Posted March 16 Posted March 16 Truly straight providers are much more likely to be scammers or leave you hanging. We've had enough experiences mentioned in this forum - including mine - showing what happens when the straight boy shows up and suddenly decides he's not able to do all the things he agreed to beforehand. soloyo215, pubic_assistance, TJMS and 1 other 1 1 2
Seamusss Posted March 18 Posted March 18 This is probably TMI, but I think I prefer straight providers because it’s not as depressing if they’re not so good at faking being into you - they aren’t meant to be attracted to you to begin with - whereas with gay providers it’s a bit of an ego killer when you can tell they’re not into it. Also FWIW, the best blowjobs I’ve received have been from a straight guy and the best making out and pounding have also been from another straight guy. + DrownedBoy, pubic_assistance and Yukon21 1 1 1
mtaabq Posted March 19 Posted March 19 I’ve had great sex with straight guys and lousy sex with straight guys. Same with gay men - some good, some not so much. If I’m attracted to a provider I’ll reach out regardless of their stated identity. Back in the days of CL I was continually surprised at how far some straight guys would go to get rent money - things some gay men wouldn't do for me. For me whether they’re gay or straight it doesn’t matter as long as I get what I want. I would rate or rank one over the other based upon my experience. + Vegas_Millennial and MscleLovr 1 1
mtaabq Posted March 19 Posted March 19 Just now, mtaabq said: I’ve had great sex with straight guys and lousy sex with straight guys. Same with gay men - some good, some not so much. If I’m attracted to a provider I’ll reach out regardless of their stated identity. Back in the days of CL I was continually surprised at how far some straight guys would go to get rent money - things some gay men wouldn't do for me. For me whether they’re gay or straight it doesn’t matter as long as I get what I want. I would rate or rank one over the other based upon my experience. Sorry - didn’t proofread. I “wouldn’t” rank one over the other …
BrooklynIrish Posted March 21 Posted March 21 People should do what gets them off. Personally, I have no desire to have sex with a straight man. + DrownedBoy 1
pubic_assistance Posted March 21 Posted March 21 On 3/15/2025 at 1:55 PM, bkwiseass said: I"d love to hear the hive weigh in on whether or not straight providers understand gay desire. Men are men. Gay/bi/str8 or completely straight...we ALL desire a good ejaculation. What's not to understand ? rvwnsd, MikeBiDude, polythome and 2 others 2 2 1
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