When to tell a provider I’m a virgin?

[ShortCutie7]

2 hours ago, d.anders said:

Sounds a little too exuberant to me, but it's been a long time since I experienced a sexual first. Or maybe I'm just too old now to get overly excited about anything. When I hear someone mention "unlocking the gates of heaven," I think about death. Not a visit with Simon Suraci.

I had a similar exuberance after my first time, and in fact just this past week after an amazing encounter with a provider.  Those of us who are less experienced are also less desensitized.

[Peter Eater]

On 1/26/2025 at 5:26 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

This is also what I would recommend.

An escort is only going to exacerbate your social issues by making it too easy. 

You need to force yourself to make friends, go out, be social, fail, succeed.  This is life.

Live life. 

Live life now.

Shorter version: Come out. The closet kills.

[Peter Eater]

On 2/6/2025 at 3:38 PM, 246sbsslc said:

No longer lost; No longer lonely (even though still alone); My soul has been salvaged; The gate of heaven has been unlocked; Let the wild ride begin + continue

Congratulations! Sounds great. Next time, try fisting. That’ll really open you up. 

[d.anders]

2 hours ago, ShortCutie7 said:

Those of us who are less experienced are also less desensitized.

That's probably true. But here's the ugly truth, experience brings forth the good and the bad. An inexperienced gay guy needs to get smart about the bad, so he can make better choices for himself.

1 hour ago, Peter Eater said:

Next time, try fisting.

I'm all for sexual exploration, but when we're talking about the extremes, I highly recommend an inexperienced guy does his research, like having a conversation with a gay doctor if you can find one (not easy). I have too many gay friends in my age circle (over 50) who are now experiencing serious health issues with their rectums. Some of these guys are in agony, and most people don't want to talk about this stuff. Be careful what you wish for.

[ShortCutie7]

3 hours ago, d.anders said:

That's probably true. But here's the ugly truth, experience brings forth the good and the bad. An inexperienced gay guy needs to get smart about the bad, so he can make better choices for himself.

I'm all for sexual exploration, but when we're talking about the extremes, I highly recommend an inexperienced guy does his research, like having a conversation with a gay doctor if you can find one (not easy). I have too many gay friends in my age circle (over 50) who are now experiencing serious health issues with their rectums. Some of these guys are in agony, and most people don't want to talk about this stuff. Be careful what you wish for.

To be clear, I am inexperienced in terms of great, recent, and/or anal experiences.  I had my share of neutral oral-only experiences back when I was more active, and was never really into anal (until now, which is why I’m trying to get more experience topping providers since I find bottoming uncomfortable and don’t want the rectal issues you mentioned).

[jazeboy]

23 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

Shorter version: Come out. The closet kills.

In an ideal world. But it's so hard ... and all the more so the older you are. I wish I had the courage when I was younger. I wish the world was more tolerant / accepting when I was younger.