Best position for newbie bottom

[SometimesBi]

I feel like trying to sit on top, while giving the bottom full control, is a position where it would be difficult to relax. Indeed, maybe even impossible for some bottoms (especially first timers). 

I'd recommend laying face down, where you can completely relax every muscle in your body. 

P.S. Even if there is some pain, despite all the care the top is taking, remember that in the end, bottoming feels great! There's a reason so many men like to bottom. If as the top finally get all the way in, you do experience some pain/discomfort, I'd suggest letting him stay inside, and just be still for a few moments as you continue to adjust to the new sensation. In the face down position, he can just lay across your back, and you both relax, and get used to it. That full body warmth feels great, too! 

[SometimesBi]

On 7/24/2024 at 6:48 PM, 56harrisond said:

 

I'm sad they didn't show actual examples of these positions 😏

Or do they on their OF page? I don't want to subscribe only to be disappointed 😉

[hungry4darkmeat]

I suggest gradually moving from doggy to flat on your stomach - that position is the most likely to help you achieve the “woman’s orgasm” and should be part of getting you opened up so you can take a good pounding on your back afterwards

[CuriousByNature]

6 hours ago, hungry4darkmeat said:

I suggest gradually moving from doggy to flat on your stomach - that position is the most likely to help you achieve the “woman’s orgasm” 

Strange - I sleep flat on my stomach almost every night, and I have yet to wake up with a clitoris.

 

Edited August 1, 2024 by CuriousByNature

[hungry4darkmeat]

1 hour ago, CuriousByNature said:

Strange - I sleep flat on my stomach almost every night, and I have yet to wake up with a clitoris.

 

Lmao well you should try it with a big dick in your ass and tell me how that goes 

[BaronArtz]

'Butt Seriously' is a most informative book written my Dr Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical.  Just Google it.  The definitive guide to anal health, pleasure and everything in between.  He describes in great depth methods of anal training for beginners and may I - for advanced afficionados.

I recommend.

[+ poolboy48220]

The first time I bottomed, the top suggested I sit on his cock, it would give me more control of how much & how fast I could take it.

I hired Matthew Ford in the mid-2000's, he mentioned that me being on my side while he fucked me was "a good position for me".

[hungry4darkmeat]

There’s also “The ins and outs of gay sex” by dr stephen goldstone is the definitive work on the subject. He also happens to be a fantastic doctor (he’s one of mine). Highly recommended 

[jeezifonly]

The position is less important to likelihood of enjoyment than the confidence you can materially accommodate it.

Toys - even small ones, awaken your sense of anal and prostate pleasure. Use one or two for solo play in the days before your date. An average size of 6in can prepare you for most live dick. Once you already know it fits, you can hunger for it, and that will allow the position to be organic. 

[Whippoorwill]

When I was new to this game, I had a friend who had a Four-Poster bed. We soon discovered that if I stood up and wrapped my arms around one of the pasts, he could stand behind me and easily slide in…with a lot of flexibility for each of us to adjust to the best possible effect. I could turn my head around and kiss. Worked for us. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/31/2024 at 5:00 AM, DamizzonNYC said:

Having your ass teased by a very hard cock can be pleasurable enough.  Taking just the tip can be super satisfying.

This 💯!

I have very sensitive nerve endings on my anus.  I love the feel of a hard cock just tapping on my hole.  Eventually, when he enters, I like for him to just keep the head and glands going in and out and in and out.  Do that to me for several minutes at the start... Then the rest of my hole is yours to use and aduse

[Oakman]

There isn’t a right answer. Don’t be afraid to try things. You aren’t going to get “injured.” 

[musclestuduws]

On 8/1/2024 at 1:37 AM, CuriousByNature said:

Strange - I sleep flat on my stomach almost every night, and I have yet to wake up with a clitoris.

 

Never give up hope! 🤣

[jayjaycali]

Agree with toys to loosen up.  Also going slow and taking breaks. 

Top had me ride him the first time too.  I still have the video 🤪

[+ ApexNomad]

For a new bottom, the experience will largely depend on how compassionate and attentive the top is. There’s no way around that.

I lost mine to a provider, and I was extremely nervous. But he truly created a safe space for me. He did everything to make me laugh and feel at ease, but he also knew when to take the lead without ever pushing. He guided my hands over his body, and his hands explored mine. I mimicked his movements, learning through touch.

At one point, he sat on the edge of the bed, held my hand, and had me stand between his legs. It gave me this feeling like I was “taller” than him, in a way I can’t quite explain, but it made me feel in charge and free to explore him. And we kissed. I climbed onto his lap, straddling him. We kept making out until he ended up on his back. At some point, we shifted again, and I was on mine. It all just flowed naturally.

When it was time for penetration, we went with missionary, and I think that was the best choice for a first time. The others mentioned are great choices too—I think for me and my nerves, missionary worked really well. And I think he knew that. It allowed for maximum eye contact and constant reassurance, making it easier to relax. He controlled the depth and pace, which helped minimize discomfort. Plus, being able to kiss and stay connected the whole time kept me focused on him instead of any nervousness or tension.

He never took his eyes off me. He read my body language, and I read his. When he smiled—which he did a lot—I felt encouraged and smiled back. He kissed me so many times during each thrust that I completely lost myself in the moment.

It was an experience that made me feel safe, wanted, and in control while still allowing me to be guided. And that was entirely because of him. I take no credit for that—he created that space for me.

Do what feels right to you, but from my experience, missionary is a great way to start. It keeps you connected, helps with pacing if you’re unsure, and makes the experience feel intimate.

[Erbenle]

On 7/25/2024 at 10:27 PM, Guest said:

Great advice. Im very worried about high anxiety. I’m actually thinking about taking half a Xanax to take the edge off. 

So how did it go???  

[marylander1940]

On 7/24/2024 at 8:48 PM, Guest said:

I'm new to man on man intimacy. I'd like to be topped. What's the best position to be in for a new bottom starting out? Least risk for pain/injury and highest chance of enjoyment? I'd welcome input for anybody, but I'd also like to hear from providers specifically that work with new guys if they find particular positions best for a new comer. Thanks.

sit on it!

or doggy if you're clumsy and can't do grab it, don't try legs up because you won't have control, and it will hurt.

[italianboyph]

On 7/24/2024 at 5:48 PM, Guest said:

I'm new to man on man intimacy. I'd like to be topped. What's the best position to be in for a new bottom starting out? Least risk for pain/injury and highest chance of enjoyment? I'd welcome input for anybody, but I'd also like to hear from providers specifically that work with new guys if they find particular positions best for a new comer. Thanks.

I'd always suggest doggie, but you should try different positions to see what feels good. 

[liubit]

To me, doggie is the easiest IF I am able to deeply kiss my top -often a tricky neck twisting exercise-. If I can’t kiss, I lose interest, hard-on and lust, and that is why I prefer the old missionary. Of course, that’s just me. 

Edited March 16 by liubit

[Danny-Darko]

On 7/24/2024 at 8:48 PM, Guest said:

I'm new to man on man intimacy. I'd like to be topped. What's the best position to be in for a new bottom starting out? Least risk for pain/injury and highest chance of enjoyment? I'd welcome input for anybody, but I'd also like to hear from providers specifically that work with new guys if they find particular positions best for a new comer. Thanks.

Different things work for different people. But I remember my first and missionary (me on the bottom) worked best for me my first time. Eventually sitting on top gave me more control and I found it pleasurable. For me doggy style was an acquired taste because of where it hit inside me. 

Edited March 16 by Danny-Darko

[Massageguy99]

On 7/25/2024 at 7:46 AM, Your Man in Arlington said:

I highly recommend spooning: as long as the top doesn't push, it's gives the bottom all of the control of straddling without the pressure of gravity and the natural relaxation being able to pull your legs up slightly and "position" everything.

I came here to recommend this. I actually think it is perfect and I only discovered it when I hurt my back and that made other positions a no go for a bit. 

I actually prefer to lay on the beds edge so the top can stand and thrust. It seems to work really well and is less of a workout than other positions. 

 

[+ ApexNomad]

2 hours ago, Massageguy99 said:

I actually prefer to lay on the beds edge so the top can stand and thrust. It seems to work really well and is less of a workout than other positions. 

 

I love this position—there’s something insanely hot about it. Especially when the top is wearing nothing but sneakers, digging in for leverage as he drives deep. And if he’s rocking a backward baseball cap? Even better.

[+ Axiom2001]

I'm not a newbie but love getting "dicked down" while lying on my back.  This position is great for the top, too if he's as talented as the man I saw over a period of five or six years., He could make me feel so much pleasant by hitting all of the special spots.  

Perhaps as a newbie you can try this in order to have lots of thrills and chills explore the inner depths of your bod. But have the top start off slowly and patiently then rev up after that!