Anybody else fall for the men they hire?

[DaddyCares]

On 6/14/2024 at 9:43 AM, KensingtonHomo said:

I don't think you should feel bad about this @Rgsnva but some of the suggestions here may be worth exploring. 

Americans are experiencing an unprecedented epidemic of loneliness. I don't know your situation, but the cultural moment lends itself to people wanting to feel loved and connected. This could make you more likely to invest emotionally in your relationship with a provider. 

In addition to the suggestions above, perhaps you can invest more time in developing and deepening your relationships with friends so you're less susceptible to putting all your eggs in this provider's basket. 

Very well put

[Clt704guy]

I actually kind of dated a guy I hired in Singapore. He would always visit from Indonesia. We met many times, so at one point I just asked him to stay with me. We tried that out a few times. I’d even let him use my spare bedroom to meet his other clients while I was at work. We’d go out for dinner at nights and have fun. It was a great experience. 

[ShortCutie7]

Since I’m so inexperienced in virtually every regard, I have a big fear of this happening… like, there are some providers I have seen I would love to see again (and almost definitely will), and I have to actively convince myself to even message new guys…

[DaddyCares]

Im curious if anyone had a rent boy fall for them back

[Existinguser]

On 1/22/2026 at 12:23 PM, ReynST said:

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 

The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 

He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.

Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.

It's still just a thank you 

(Yes, this is a true story)

That's beautiful.

[DaddyCares]

On 1/25/2026 at 7:23 PM, Luv2play said:

I think someday you may live to regret your reaction. It all depends. 
I have a regular provider who over time let me know he has a wife and child. Because we get on so well in the bedroom, it didn't faze me. 
Previously I had also discovered his real name. Our relationship was built on mutual trust and slowly revealing ourselves to each other, altho I tend to be an open book. But a provider sometimes needs to take longer to trust his client. I try not to judge people and try to see things from their perspective. 

...the plot of some movie, for absolute. 

[TMB]

I feel fortunate in that while I've never fallen for any providers, for my regulars I have developed a friendship and am interested in knowing what's going on in their lives, and they with me. I think it's just hard for me to catch feelings. I had a 5 year relationship and it took me about 10 years before I fell in love again. So I'm not immune but clearly for me it's going to take a lot! 

[+ Alabastrine]

On 3/2/2026 at 2:38 PM, DaddyCares said:

Im curious if anyone had a rent boy fall for them back

I'm also curious. You know. for science.

[Wings246]

On 3/2/2026 at 12:38 PM, DaddyCares said:

Im curious if anyone had a rent boy fall for them back

 

7 hours ago, Alabastrine said:

I'm also curious. You know. for science.

Me three, and of course it's purely for the sake of psychology and sociology research.

All jokes aside, I recall reading this heartfelt, amazing story: 

 

[Austin Lewis]

I'm currently wildly infatuated with one of my regulars. It'll be fine. But in the meantime, he does such things to me--what they are I know not--but they are the wonders of the earth. (With my apologies to King Lear.)

[SubNick]

On 3/2/2026 at 3:38 PM, DaddyCares said:

Im curious if anyone had a rent boy fall for them back

We just celebrated our 2-year anniversary. He tells me he loves me every day, and I believe him!

[+ Alabastrine]

20 hours ago, SubNick said:

We just celebrated our 2-year anniversary. He tells me he loves me every day, and I believe him!

Congratulations! If you wouldn't mind, would you be willing to share how your relationship with your provider evolved into a more formal one?

[+ DrownedBoy]

Nice story. I once dated a masseur, but I was never really a "customer." Unless you count the fact that I had to pay for massages with my ass. EDIT And he could be so aggressively horny that sometimes I wished I could have paid cash for a massage.

Edited Saturday at 02:06 PM by DrownedBoy

[SubNick]

20 hours ago, Alabastrine said:

Congratulations! If you wouldn't mind, would you be willing to share how your relationship with your provider evolved into a more formal one?

We started off with a weekend together which was pretty great. We live in different cities, so we have spent one weekend every six weeks together ever since and we speak several times a day. The more I learned about him, the more I liked. He doesn't drink or do drugs, which makes me feel safe. He's extremely emotionally intelligent. He's smart and ambitious and finances were holding him back - he was doing sex work part-time as he was working.  He's super-kind and, most of all, honest and authentic. After 2 years, I've never heard him say something he didn't mean. It also made a difference when I learned about his past relationship history, and that his most serious relationships had been with older men - "daddy" is his type. Made me feel like our 20year age difference was okay. I've helped him financially to finish school and get closer to his dreams - always impressed by his hard work - after about nine months of seeing each other sporadically, we made a mutual decision that he didn't need to escort anymore. He also does an incredible job of taking care of me - he's very organized and he's helped me organize/manage many details of my life, as well as helping me take care of myself as I've gone through a tough divorce. I had a medical issue once, and he was absolutely incredible. He loves taking care of people, which I've never really experienced in a partner before. He's also very confident and talented sexually - I've always dreamed of having a Dom - and he loves playing that role for me. He's taught me so much about my own sexuality, and loves being my mentor in that regard. In other ways, he enjoys that I represent emotional and financial stability, emotional maturity, depth and  commitment.  We laugh about our "Pretty Woman" story but honestly I feel incredibly lucky, as does he.