Looking like an old queer

[+ Charlie]

4 hours ago, WilliamM said:

And siblings 

 

My mother outlived her seven older siblings 

My mother was the oldest of six siblings, grew up in a household that also included three cousins who were like sisters to her, and outlived almost all of them. Those were some of the hardest losses for her to deal with.

Edited May 14, 2024 by Charlie

[+ Charlie]

I have already outlived all but one of my old gay friends from my youth and early manhood. I treasure my newer friends, but I still miss those who remember when I had a full head of hair and spontaneous hard-ons.

[jeezifonly]

Many old queers were once hot young twinks/studs.

There’s plenty of evidence of gay men who prefer a very worked-on face and body, and will use strong meds and frequent elective surgery to remain a certain age.

But most of us are like “gotta stay healthy, but here we are”

Officially I’m old.
By birth I am queer. 

Old queer?

 

 

[BonVivant]

Enjoy every stage of life. We all age.  One cannot stop time; it always wins in the end. How you engage with life and live it, that is what matters. 

Edited May 15, 2024 by BonVivant

[+ nycman]

18 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Old queer?

No, just a worn out pansy.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

7 hours ago, nycman said:

No, just a worn out pansy.

Right, cheers, thanks a lot.

[SouthOfTheBorder]

for many gay men of a certain age - we were never supposed to live long enough to worry about “looking like an old queer”

aging is a blessing, not a curse 

perspective 

[soloyo215]

On 5/5/2024 at 5:30 PM, Thelatin said:

How do I avoid looking like a sad old queer as I age?  I see these sad old gay men with sunken eyes at bars, pretending to have fun.  I think I’m about done. 

Don't be sad, and don't pretend to be happy when you're not. Don't go to bars if you're not going to have fun there. Bars are places where many people pretend to be something they're not anyway.

[BonVivant]

13 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

Don't be sad, and don't pretend to be happy when you're not. Don't go to bars if you're not going to have fun there. Bars are places where many people pretend to be something they're not anyway.

💯. Only do what brings you joy! My party trick: I only go to gay bars with friends OR to just go and ogle bois; usually when I’m a tourist someplace. 
 

My ageism solution: I order in! Some hot sumyungboi full of salty cream sauce and savor him. I may take him on vacation. But I have fun. I don’t get depressed. I have my revenge on Time my way!

[SouthOfTheBorder]

I’m really happy to be early 60s.  
I think men of our generation got to experience so much.  It was fun when gay bars/clubs used to be more subversive & underground.  We appreciate the freedoms we have now because we know what it was like before. We appreciate our good health because we saw so many whose lives were cut short by AIDs/HIV epidemic.  
And most of all - we knew how to socialize in real life without the constant distractions of phones & toxic social media.  It was a time when having a friend really meant something - not the hundreds of “friends” people have on FB.

When I find myself in environments with much younger people, I often wonder if I’d like to be 30ish again - the answer is NO. 

[Boygeorge]

On 5/16/2024 at 6:10 AM, soloyo215 said:

Don't be sad, and don't pretend to be happy when you're not. Don't go to bars if you're not going to have fun there. Bars are places where many people pretend to be something they're not anyway.

Absolutely!!!! I avoid gay bars these days! Full of useless wankers if you want my opinion! Ooooooooooooooooooooops! Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[wanderlust307]

A good dermatologist and/or plastic surgeon can do wonders.