Boyfriend Experience

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

8 hours ago, Trick said:

One of my fantasies is PDA, in good taste, on a ship.  How far do you go with PDA in this situation?

 

3 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Well...

When the classical trio starts playing in the Living Room, I quietly put my hand under his ass.

By the time they're finishing their set 45 minutes later with Chopin's piano concerto no 1, I have a few fingers in him.

Is that still considered tasteful?

I would say avoid rimming your partner in public areas of the ship on formal nights.  Of course, more and more cruise lines are doing away with enforcing formal nights nowadays.  Call me old fashioned, but I'm going to still wear a suit with jacket and tie to dinner on formal nights, and leave my assless chaps for those informal evenings where boyfriend and I only partake in the buffet on the lido.

[ICTJOCK]

I've had a number of clients tell me they would like a "BFE" and I always ask them to define what they mean.   I've heard a lot of different descriptions.   I largely view it as being open and flexible,  including things like kissing and cuddling  (but not always).  Also there can be some "implied"  things there,   like  tenderness,  good communication and even  (gasp)  acting like a gentleman.    A good provider will take the time to find out what a client expects before agreeing to provide the service.

[Becket]

On 5/8/2024 at 10:27 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

Well...

When the classical trio starts playing in the Living Room, I quietly put my hand under his ass.

By the time they're finishing their set 45 minutes later with Chopin's piano concerto no 1, I have a few fingers in him.

Is that still considered tasteful?

So do your fingers and hands wander just during classical music? Or do they like to explore with Country  Music as well? Classic rock?

[CuriousByNature]

16 hours ago, Becket said:

So do your fingers and hands wander just during classical music? Or do they like to explore with Country  Music as well? Classic rock?

Flight of the Bumblebee?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

22 hours ago, Becket said:

So do your fingers and hands wander just during classical music? Or do they like to explore with Country  Music as well? Classic rock?

The problem/positive about Viking ships is that there's a mostly classical slant to their live music, so my choices are limited in this environment.

When you fingerblast a guy to country music, there always needs to be an underlying sense of working-class sorrow involved.

Classic rock:  You go gentle until you get to the Steve Perry power note.

The Eagles...  You finger angrily until everyone involved hates you (*cough* Don Henley *cough*)

The Beatles:  Well, that's for people who don't just want a finger, but want to hold your entire hand.

[CuriousByNature]

12 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

 

When you fingerblast a guy to country music, there always needs to be an underlying sense of working-class sorrow involved.

 

Will the Circle be Unbroken?

[+ DrownedBoy]

10 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Flight of the Bumblebee?

Bumble Boogie - the modern version of that song.

[Oakman]

“Boyfriend experience” is a term accepted by providers and clients to signify a certain kind of interaction and intimacy. But the term can mean different things to different people - there is no standardized definition. If you’ve requested a boyfriend experience from a provider, what did you expect to receive? Did you get what you hoped for? 

[Thique]

Almost always - No… I did not get what I was hoping (and asked) for from top providers.

To me it means being sensual, passionate, sweet. Lots of touching, slowly undressing each other. Looking each other in the eyes. Passionate kissing. Getting into it, or pretend that you’re into it.

Checking in to ask if you’re enjoying it, if you’re ok, or if you would like to change anything (faster, slower, deeper, harder etc…). And of course, cuddling and lying in his arms afterwards.

Maybe it is too much to expect? 

[Simon Suraci]

1 hour ago, Thique said:

To me it means being sensual, passionate, sweet. Lots of touching, slowly undressing each other. Looking each other in the eyes. Passionate kissing. Getting into it, or pretend that you’re into it.

Checking in to ask if you’re enjoying it, if you’re ok, or if you would like to change anything (faster, slower, deeper, harder etc…). And of course, cuddling and lying in his arms afterwards.

^I love this. It’s my go-to approach unless the client indicates he wants something different, either verbally or non-verbally. I’m constantly reading his needs. And no, it’s not too much to expect or ask. 

[Cbilly17]

The BFE for me is kissing, body contact, snuggling and passionate lovemaking with a ton of kissing.

[carrieoverwood]

I've never tried the BFE option. What does that generally include? How is it different from other options..

[maninsoma]

There is no set definition.  Here's the most recent discussion here regarding what BFE means to different people:

 

Maybe a moderator can move this to "Questions About Hiring" or merge it with the other thread since this isn't asking about a specific escort?

[56harrisond]

Often discussed, previous discussions here:

 

[mike carey]

9 hours ago, maninsoma said:

There is no set definition.  Here's the most recent discussion here regarding what BFE means to different people:

 

Maybe a moderator can move this to "Questions About Hiring" or merge it with the other thread since this isn't asking about a specific escort?

Done. Merged with the Boyfriend Experience thread quoted in a comment above, but this one (Does it mean he's a good actor) left separate as it asks a specific question.

[LookingAround]

On 5/7/2024 at 8:37 AM, dutchal said:

IMHO, all of the above except topping and bottoming.

Don’t boyfriends do that too?

[dutchal]

16 hours ago, LookingAround said:

Don’t boyfriends do that too?

Ayup, but the issue is, when there's a menu that separately lists anal, what does BFE mean.

[HottieAdmirer]

For me, it’s getting comfortable with a Boy.
 

If I’m home, I prefer to have them to my place after asking what their favorite foods are. Make them an exquisite dinner and get to know them, and progress tk the bedroom if there truly is a spark. 
 

If I’m traveling, it means meeting in the hotel bar or a very nice nearby bar for a drink and an actual conversation. 
 

I escorted for a summer about 20 (?!?!) years ago at a time in my life when I could easily charge for it and desperately needed the funds. It’s almost a Red Badge of Courage for me now. I did it when I could and when I needed it most. It’s a nice thing to have in common with the Boys providing today. (And, no, nobody ever treated me as nicely as I try to treat others today.)

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 3/5/2024 at 11:43 PM, Boaxxx said:

Is it dinner and a movie?

Now more commonly known as "Netflix and chill"