Website for escorts to review clients?

[BostonDadType]

I've heard folks say that there are website(s) for escorts to review clients and place them on a blacklist - wondering if anyone knows anything about this and if you've had any experiences with this.  Thanks!

[+ DynamicUno]

This is a frequent question, but any sites for escorts to share information about clients will be kept pretty close to the vest.

The most well known method is the Mr. Number app.  It's not specific to escorting, but it allows people to put comments related to a given phone number.  This method is useful for escorts since client bad actors are often best identified by the phone numbers they used to contact them.   While it's possible to circumvent this using a burner number/voip app, it's a little more involved than creating a new gmail account.

 

[Simon Suraci]

There is no comprehensive, widely used, purpose-built platform. Mr Number is one of the closest things you will find and it’s dodgy, at best. Anything else we use we keep close to the vest, and for good reason. If you knew about it, it would defeat the purpose. Next topic.

[Jamie21]

They exist (escort only website) but their utility regarding clients is marginal. Only a small number of sex workers use these sites. Those that do use it aren’t interested in posting reviews of clients unless the client is a physical threat or a con man. Phone numbers of these people are shared as a warning.

However the main benefit of the website is the opportunity to share business information such as where to advertise, legal issues, health info etc. 

 

[soloyo215]

I have mixed feeling about this topic. On one hand, I always wonder what my Mr. Number says about me, if anything at all. On the other hand, I have no reasons to believe that there might be anything negative said about me. I am for real, responsible, clean, a good tipper, respectful and punctual, so for all practical purposes I shouldn't need to worry about bad things said about me. The only less than ideal experiences I've had have been on the provider side's, mostly shady practices, like unprofessional behavior, inadequate facilities and being recorded without my permission.

Overall, if one is a good client, one should expect to have a good reputation.

[Bubble Buck]

Am new to all this but it feels like there might be more than one side to the story or miss understandings.  
 

CompanyofMen makes room for both sides to be heard but that isnt likely the case in these other forums mentioned in this thread. 

i had a recent bad interaction with a provider who seems to have blocked me and all I did was ask about the seriousness of their ad since they read messages and didn’t respond. 
 

 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

You don't have to be a provider to get a Mr. Number subscription. Once you do, there's no way anyone will be able to leave crap on your number....at least not very long.

 

Nor is it accurate. I've been called a "fake" for declining to hire someone, and a "liar" by a Mexican who didn't know how to locate an Uber.

[soloyo215]

On 2/6/2024 at 5:35 PM, Bubble Buck said:

Am new to all this but it feels like there might be more than one side to the story or miss understandings.  
 

CompanyofMen makes room for both sides to be heard but that isnt likely the case in these other forums mentioned in this thread. 

i had a recent bad interaction with a provider who seems to have blocked me and all I did was ask about the seriousness of their ad since they read messages and didn’t respond. 
 

 

 

Personally, I think that though we don't have a formal place where we, clients get reviewed, it's best to look at who really is at the disadvantage. They are not Uber drivers, nor technical support technicians. They provide a service that is illegal if practiced certain way, with no legal protections and with a high level of risk. They expose themselves to people who they don't know. So, considering that, I don't see any imbalance in the entire scheme of things.

Crimes and nasty things can come from both sides, but I really believe that the providers are the ones at a higher risk.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Blacklists still exist, a few of them as invite only message boards. 

Mr Number has so little detailed info that I wouldn't consider it much of a resource. There's talk the app developer is going to change that in the next few updates. 

Bottom line, if you're screwing escorts over (or.worse), there are more than enough well-connected people on social media to warn others and pass along information. 

The last thing anyone wants is having their personal info put onto a feed that has 100k followers. 

[BonVivant]

New one: a potential provider (who I saw and liked) asked another provider that I had reviewed (and see now and then) on RM what he thought about me (basically if I was legit or not). The latter provider maintained discretion and ignored the request. And then told me. 👏👏👏👏👏.  Very resourceful. 

[+ Summerson]

This (providers asking other providers about me) happens fairly often and I actually welcome it. I understand and respect the value you (and many others) place on discretion. I guess at 57 I'm considered a longtime member of the kink community and communicating about other players (both good and bad) within that community is pretty much a norm. For me, the positives far outweigh any negatives because some of the providers I've most enjoyed time with only reached out to me after they'd had some verification that I was trustworthy and treat people well. Those opened doors have led/continued to lead to some really fun times, but that's just my situation.  

There was one instance, nine or ten years ago, when I was living in NYC and a provider who I'd contacted but hadn't yet seen decided I was law enforcement because I hadn't gotten back to him as quickly as he wished. He shared this suspicion with a few folks, some of whom knew me and thought it was hilarious. Given my personal feelings about cops, I was briefly horrified until I realized nobody else took him seriously. A provider I try and see whenever I get back east still teases me about it to this day. 

Edited March 5 by Summerson
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[Jarrod_Uncut]

On 2/7/2024 at 11:13 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

The last thing anyone wants is having their personal info put onto a feed that has 100k followers. 

But yet, so many do the exact thing that pushes people to do exactly that smh 🤦🏾‍♂️, example (me in blue):

 

I’m just ranting but, this is the type of stuff I come across and what I mentioned about “fragile client ego”. It’s so many things wrong with this conversation:

#1: why is he texting me at 1 and 3 a.m. with advice unsolicited anyway? 

#2: It’s been almost 2 weeks since he replied to my last message, from when he was emailing me trying to figure out where did I go (I went away b/c I got tired of dealing with dweebs like him that proliferate that city’s client market).

The audacity of some. It’s crazy how people expect so much positivity out of us, yet some of the main ones keeping up the most drama and animosity be the clients. I’m at peace in my zone, not even in the same city…and he’s harassing me over something I don’t even know what he’s talking about. I haven’t even seen him since January…2 months? 🤦🏾‍♂️ And this is somebody who on our first (and last) meet paid for an overnight, but I noticed he was going a bit too heavy on the 🚬 and may explain the late night courage.

There needs to be a client review website, otherwise I’m about to come up with a page myself. And Twitter is a good 🎺, but I notice some people get scared off when I post warnings. However, the ones who are legit know better and do their best not to end up on it in the 1st place.

Edited March 5 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

6 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

But yet, so many do the exact thing that pushes people to do exactly that smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

Amongst a subset of clients, there are what I call 'the savers.'  Guys who offer a lot of unsolicited advice in order to 'save' you from making mistakes, running a better business or because they somehow think you can't keep your shit together.

I had a lot of those when I was younger.  It was annoying then.  It's annoying now.

In knowing people, you know immediately when it's genuine and well-meaning or if it's a power play.

I'm sorry you're dealing with shit like this.

 

Edited March 5 by BenjaminNicholas

[marylander1940]

On 2/6/2024 at 8:59 AM, BostonDadType said:

I've heard folks say that there are website(s) for escorts to review clients and place them on a blacklist - wondering if anyone knows anything about this and if you've had any experiences with this.  Thanks!

There's certainly great need for a website like that. Plenty of no shows and time wasters!

[Jarrod_Uncut]

16 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Amongst a subset of clients, there are what I call 'the savers.'  Guys who offer a lot of unsolicited advice in order to 'save' you from making mistakes, running a better business or because they somehow think you can't keep your shit together.

I had a lot of those when I was younger.  It was annoying then.  It's annoying now.

In knowing people, you know immediately when it's genuine and well-meaning or if it's a power play.

I'm sorry you're dealing with shit like this.

 

Bravo 👏🏽 
 

And he’s lucky I even responded as professionally as I did because if it was the other way around and I did the same thing to a client, who I didn’t reply to in almost two weeks, they’d probably say: “No. I don’t need your advice, and don’t ever text me at 3 in the morning again!” lol.
 

People think just because they are well off or feel they have more money than me, that somehow I need to “listen” to them, who hath not the same experience. I don’t even know what advice he was giving me, but at 3 a.m. it didn’t matter because I was sleep and iPhone’s DND 🎧 didn’t wake me up for it either lol 

But I must say, this happened to be in the same city that never fails to bring about the weirdest shit in clients. It is just unbelievable. They stay bugging and high maintenance. Reminds me of a song from back in the day:

”You make me want to throw my pager 📟 out the window” lol.

 

Edited March 6 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jamie21]

The clients offering advice are often doing so from a position of ignorance about the business. Yes they might have hired, but that’s not a qualification to understand what it’s like to be hired. I’ve eaten fabulous meals in restaurants but I wouldn’t profess that that qualifies me to tell the chef how to run their kitchen. 

If offered the advice I receive it with grace, and ignore it. I’ll take advice from those who have walked in my shoes. 
 

[BaronArtz]

When I sense a provider is nervous, which happens sometimes with newbies, I refer them to the list of multiple positive reviews I have written over the years.  Mostly on rentmasseur.  It shows them that I have done it for a while, with repeat appointments.  It works well for me.

I know from an escort in NYC that Callen-Lorde offers self-help group discussion sessions for escorts.  Think of it as AA meetings for escorts.  It allows them to vent, to network and to share information about problem clients. 

Edited March 6 by BaronArtz

[Jarrod_Uncut]

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

The clients offering advice are often doing so from a position of ignorance about the business. Yes they might have hired, but that’s not a qualification to understand what it’s like to be hired. I’ve eaten fabulous meals in restaurants but I wouldn’t profess that that qualifies me to tell the chef how to run their kitchen. 

If offered the advice I receive it with grace, and ignore it. I’ll take advice from those who have walked in my shoes. 
 

That’s a perfect analogy (brought famous by Hell’s Kitchen, kitchens nightmares, Gordon Ramsay lol). Even though one may know how they like their meat 🥩 presented (pun intended lol), try doing it around 20 others in rapid succession. Whole other ball game (I’ve also experienced working in the dining industry myself).

Honestly though when I seen it, I almost wanted to block him because I wasn’t interested in what he had to say, considering how he has been with planning appointments. 
 

I’m almost considering no longer working in the same state/city I live anymore. It’s just too many weirdos. Every time I look around, somebody trying to fight and argue and bring drama. If it has to be that bad, why are they even hiring? Idk who they’re angry with but taking it out on sex workers is just bad karma and is going to get them 86’d from the locals. 

In the past 4 weeks, I’ve had to simply go to other cities and meet clients. There was no fussing about deposits, they were easy and agreeable, and I didn’t have to fight them (even though I was trying to convey to one that: I’m 3.5 hours away, if you want the appointment TODAY, I need the confirm by such and such time, otherwise it’ll be late. 

[+ APPLE1]

I never learned from a man who agreed with me.

Robert A. Heinlein