Providing pic and age got me blocked by AdrianXL_Canada

[TorontoDrew]

Had a bad experience with

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I'll start by saying that I never met with them.

These two guys are extremely hot and visit Toronto from Montreal fairly regularly.  When they announced this latest visit I was hoping to get together with them.

I contacted them on RM Messenger and they asked for a picture and stats.  I sent them what they asked for as well as what I was looking for and a couple of suggested times.  They read the message but didn't respond.  I followed up the next morning and still received no response.  So today I sent a very nicely worded message on WhatsApp asking them if they would be able to meet with me.  Looking at WhatsApp it shows that they didn't read the message.

I checked RM today and they have now blocked me.  If they didn't want to meet with me they should have just said so.

I expect this type of behavior on Grindr but not from providers. 

I'm sure someone else will gladly take my money.

 

Edited August 31, 2023 by TorontoDrew

[Lazarus]

Is there a Canadian version of the Better Business Bureau you can report them to? 

[BuffaloKyle]

Seems like it was either your age or looks that was not to their liking. Their loss ultimately as I know @TorontoDrew is a great client!

[TorontoDrew]

I was asked earlier about why I changed the heading of this post.

Another poster suggested that I change it to make it clear in the heading that I hadn't met them.  I thought about it and agreed.  I don't want to leave the impression it was a bad meet up.

It was also suggested that I had a bruised ego.  I thought about this as well.  That's not it.  I realize that I'm older and not winning any beauty contests (never have, never will).

I was upset because I despise rudeness and a lack of respect in any business relationship.  And that's what this is.  I was willing to pay $1,200 for a couple hours of their time. 

I that they treat the customers they meet with with more respect than this potential customer.

[Decatur Guy]

It's rather chickenshit and unprofessional to ghost/block you. But otherwise, be glad you didn't spend over a thousand dollars to find out they aren't into you. Better your ego get bruised than your wallet take a pounding.

[Nodalguy]

I have been blocked once by a provider. I think he offers a legit massage, or at least it is mostly legit plus he is safe only. He opened my profile and immediately blocked me. The thing is that I was looking for only a good massage at that time, not anything else in my profile.

[+ DynamicUno]

1 hour ago, TorontoDrew said:

I was asked earlier about why I changed the heading of this post.

Another poster suggested that I change it to make it clear in the heading that I hadn't met them.  I thought about it and agreed.  I don't want to leave the impression it was a bad meet up.

It was also suggested that I had a bruised ego.  I thought about this as well.  That's not it.  I realize that I'm older and not winning any beauty contests (never have, never will).

I was upset because I despise rudeness and a lack of respect in any business relationship.  And that's what this is.  I was willing to pay $1,200 for a couple hours of their time. 

I that they treat the customers they meet with with more respect than this potential customer.

My grandma used to say that it's better when the trash takes itself out.  You haven't lost more than the time it took reaching out to them, and you have a chance to find better guys to meet up with instead. 

[ChasingGirth]

Sorry you had to go through this.

If a guy is professional he is not going to ask for photos or stats. It’s different when someone send their photos when contacting the escort which is their choice and preference. 

Blocking you tells more about the escort’s character than anything. Consider yourself lucky you didn’t spend any money on these guys.

[Mydavid]

I met these two guys in Montreal. They didn't ask me to offer my age and pic, but it was not easy to meet them smoothly because they are very discreet. They didn't show their face on RM, they use a seperate mobile phone number for RM. They made sure I didn't know them and gave me their address at the last minute.

I wonder if they know you so that they avoid meeting you to keep their privacy.

Edited September 1, 2023 by Mydavid

[TorontoDrew]

4 hours ago, Mydavid said:

I met these two guys in Montreal. They didn't ask me to offer my age and pic, but it was not easy to meet them smoothly because they are very discreet. They didn't show their face on RM, they use a seperate mobile phone number for RM. They made sure I didn't know them and gave me their address at the last minute.

I wonder if they know you so that they avoid meeting you to keep their privacy.

I doubt they know me.  I'd  remember those bodies!

[TorontoDrew]

Thanks for the comments.  I have heard from multiple people that these guys are a great hire so take that into account.

[robberbaron4u]

On 8/30/2023 at 7:28 PM, TorontoDrew said:

Had a bad experience with

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I'll start by saying that I never met with them.

These two guys are extremely hot and visit Toronto from Montreal fairly regularly.  When they announced this latest visit I was hoping to get together with them.

I contacted them on RM Messenger and they asked for a picture and stats.  I sent them what they asked for as well as what I was looking for and a couple of suggested times.  They read the message but didn't respond.  I followed up the next morning and still received no response.  So today I sent a very nicely worded message on WhatsApp asking them if they would be able to meet with me.  Looking at WhatsApp it shows that they didn't read the message.

I checked RM today and they have now blocked me.  If they didn't want to meet with me they should have just said so.

I expect this type of behavior on Grindr but not from providers. 

I'm sure someone else will gladly take my money.

 

I will be reproachful and not critical in my contemplation of this scenario. You sent a prostitute a photograph of yourself by HIS request?!? I have to make inquiry of you as to what possessed you to undertake to comply with the request; he has a photograph of you which he can distribute to a wide audience by the www with any annotation he pleases to attach to it, e.g. "Old Fart" or "Parlor Q***n", or, worst case, " this f** solicited me for sex for pay" which in any number of places is aiding and abetting prostitution,  a criminal offense.

[Luv2play]

12 minutes ago, robberbaron4u said:

I will be reproachful and not critical in my contemplation of this scenario. You sent a prostitute a photograph of yourself by HIS request?!? I have to make inquiry of you as to what possessed you to undertake to comply with the request; he has a photograph of you which he can distribute to a wide audience by the www with any annotation he pleases to attach to it, e.g. "Old Fart" or "Parlor Q***n", or, worst case, " this f** solicited me for sex for pay" which in any number of places is aiding and abetting prostitution,  a criminal offense.

This is the sort of comment that is contrary to the spirit and intention of this forum, which is to celebrate and yes, when necessary, offer critiques of providers who cater to our interests. 

You have no basis to besmirsch these guys that for whatever reason turned down an opportunity to meet with one of our forum members. It is their choice alone whether to meet or not when they are contacted via RM. 

[soloyo215]

Sorry that happened to you. I have been asked for my picture, and I felt comfortable sending it because it just felt right within the context in which the request happened. One of them was after I already had the appointment and address.

Personally I like keeping my private life private, but I also know very well how to handle bashing, slander, harassment and blackmailing, if that's what they ultimately are after. Seems like those guys were not very professional. However, in a way they saved you possible money you might have wasted on them if that is their attitude.

I'm sorry that happened, but I'd just move on. You did nothing wrong; they were unprofessional, as entitled as they are to choose their clients, there are better ways of handling that.

[pubic_assistance]

I think "the block" has become a cultural norm. Primarily through its common usage on Grindr. It avoids the uncomfortable -which is the explanation of rejection. Although being blocked may feel rude...I question whether you really want the alternative: "Thanks but you're too old". "Thanks but you're too fat". Do you REALLY want to hear WHY you've been rejected ?

Edited September 1, 2023 by pubic_assistance
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[TorontoDrew]

34 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think "the block" has become a cultural norm. Primarily through its common usage on Grindr. It avoids the uncomfortable -which is the explanation of rejection. Although being blocked may feel rude...I question whether you really want the alternative: "Thanks but you're too old". "Thanks but you're too fat". Do you REALLY want to hear WHY you've been rejected ?

Good point.  I would expect a "Not interested but thank you for contacting us.  Have a great day"

[DavidShaw]

This is one of the many reasons I've never tried the escorts or website ads. In Northern Virginia there are no male providers to speak of, so when I go to NYC it's wonderful to visit on the M4M spas like any other customer. 

[maninsoma]

Maybe they recognize that they aren't very tactful when rejecting people and figured that you would understand their lack of response was an indication they didn't want your business.  Still, after you followed up with them one too many times after sending the photo they should have just replied something along the lines, "sorry, not a match" instead of blocking you.  That does go to the real issue here: If I am already interacting with someone and he wants a picture of me, I don't mind sending one or revealing one if I have a private photo somewhere.  I just have a face shot and then a separate naked torso shot that doesn't show my face.  But I would never send a photo immediately, only after enough back and forth that it seems like we're a match.

I'm not defending them, just trying to explain why maybe things played out the way they did.

[soloyo215]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think "the block" has become a cultural norm. Primarily through its common usage on Grindr. It avoids the uncomfortable -which is the explanation of rejection. Although being blocked may feel rude...I question whether you really want the alternative: "Thanks but you're too old". "Thanks but you're too fat". Do you REALLY want to hear WHY you've been rejected ?

Neither way shows good customer service skills. of course, no one likes being rejected (unless he has a rejection fetish). You neither have to be rude by blocking, nor being rude by being so crude. Why the black-and-white mindset? Those are not the only ways of handling a customer that you don't want.

[novaman]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think "the block" has become a cultural norm. Primarily through its common usage on Grindr. It avoids the uncomfortable -which is the explanation of rejection. Although being blocked may feel rude...I question whether you really want the alternative: "Thanks but you're too old". "Thanks but you're too fat". Do you REALLY want to hear WHY you've been rejected ?

''sorry we're not interested" would be a polite and easy answer.   I don't think that's too much to ask for.    Anyone that can't do a simple polite communication like this isn't worth paying to meet imo.

[SirBillybob]

I cannot find a way to delete the long stretch of profiles in the ‘who saw me?’ and ‘who did I see?’ fields. I tried blocking individuals in the first category simply to see if it would remove the clutter, not because I thought there was any reason to block. The profile names and lead photos still sit there. Perhaps they would notice they are blocked if they cared to communicate. But my intent was to only try to clean up the feed. There is no slide and delete option. I cannot even delete those among ‘who did I see?’ whose profiles expired. I only have a dozen or two overall plunked into these fields but curious if I am somehow missing the key to deletion.

I think that perhaps I should look at profiles without being logged in.

How would a provider create a shorter list from among hundreds or thousands of views? 

I realize Drew’s query may relate to having been blocked within off-platform text. That would be a different matter compared to the conundrum I describe.

Edited September 1, 2023 by SirBillybob

[ICTJOCK]

That's crazy and totally unprofessional.     I talk about the need for professionalism at every level.   You were a very able,  very capable client who could have walked away an advocate for these two ungrateful men.    Instead,  a bad experience to report.      I don't ask for photos from perspective clients,   its always nice,  but not required and I certainly don't need to know your age.     You are hiring  the escort,   it isn't an approval process by them!

[marylander1940]

On 8/30/2023 at 5:28 PM, TorontoDrew said:

Had a bad experience with

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I'll start by saying that I never met with them.

These two guys are extremely hot and visit Toronto from Montreal fairly regularly.  When they announced this latest visit I was hoping to get together with them.

I contacted them on RM Messenger and they asked for a picture and stats.  I sent them what they asked for as well as what I was looking for and a couple of suggested times.  They read the message but didn't respond.  I followed up the next morning and still received no response.  So today I sent a very nicely worded message on WhatsApp asking them if they would be able to meet with me.  Looking at WhatsApp it shows that they didn't read the message.

I checked RM today and they have now blocked me.  If they didn't want to meet with me they should have just said so.

I expect this type of behavior on Grindr but not from providers. 

I'm sure someone else will gladly take my money.

 

They're not cut off for the business!

Possibly they saved you from a bad experience and wasting money!

[caramelsub]

I know of providers that prefer to hire over age 40 clients, or older clients over younger clients. I think it’s because they think younger clients play games or are immature or won’t have the money. Age preferences work the other way around too.

Edited September 1, 2023 by caramelsub

[+ goosh69]

5 hours ago, robberbaron4u said:

I will be reproachful and not critical in my contemplation of this scenario. You sent a prostitute a photograph of yourself by HIS request?!? I have to make inquiry of you as to what possessed you to undertake to comply with the request; he has a photograph of you which he can distribute to a wide audience by the www with any annotation he pleases to attach to it, e.g. "Old Fart" or "Parlor Q***n", or, worst case, " this f** solicited me for sex for pay" which in any number of places is aiding and abetting prostitution,  a criminal offense.

All of this.