Do most escorts wear condoms?

[XIX]

A condom for oral is a bit odd but apparently it's recommended by health professionals but TBH any good provider would be regularly testing and likewise the client as well. 

Putting a condom for fingering is also strange, surely latex gloves would be easier and better?

[Simon Suraci]

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Wearing a condom as a top is going to significantly reduce your risk.(not slightly)

Only if you do it all or most of the time. Using a condom for a minority of clients only slightly reduces your overall risk.

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, Simon Suraci said:

Using a condom for a minority of clients only slightly reduces your overall risk.

Obviously.

I meant WHEN you use a condom.

[Guest]

The paradigm shift on this one is heavy and is real. Who ever thought that the lil or big gizmo that saved so many from harm and 💀 would be even remotely gettin the SHAFT 🫣 

Edited August 29, 2023 by V_Marco

[Jamie21]

10 hours ago, XIX said:

A condom for oral is a bit odd but apparently it's recommended by health professionals but TBH any good provider would be regularly testing and likewise the client as well. 

Putting a condom for fingering is also strange, surely latex gloves would be easier and better?

Latex gloves feels too clinical. Condom is fine if it’s just a finger or two going in. 

[dbar123]

I prefer condom use because I don’t want to be the unwitting victim of the next as yet unidentified infectious thing

[Jamie21]

3 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

I feel embarrassed if I'm dirty when bottoming. i wouldn't mind being called out, to be honest. My hygiene is my own business to handle and it's not good on the escort. 

You’re very understanding. As a provider I’ve had incidences where I’ve bottomed for the client and unfortunately it’s been a bit messy. Even if you think you have prepared thoroughly and are confident about being clean it can happen. Therefore I try to be understanding and not make a drama out of it. 

[Nodalguy]

I think every "ask me" and definitely every "anything goes" provider has gone bareback with me, even without discussing it in most cases (but my profile makes it, or anyway did make it, fairly clear that it's fine by me). I've had some "safe only" guys approach me offering BB as well, and one I met up with who I am pretty sure stealthed me.

[NyGold]

On 8/31/2023 at 1:39 PM, Nodalguy said:

I think every "ask me" and definitely every "anything goes" provider has gone bareback with me, even without discussing it in most cases (but my profile makes it, or anyway did make it, fairly clear that it's fine by me). I've had some "safe only" guys approach me offering BB as well, and one I met up with who I am pretty sure stealthed me.

I don’t understand. If you say it was clear in your profile that anything goes guy going bb with you is fine, why would you be in a stealthing situation (I assume you mean you asked for condom and he didn’t comply)?

 

 

[Nodalguy]

1 minute ago, NyGold said:

I don’t understand. If you say it was clear in your profile that anything goes guy going bb with you is fine, why would you be in a stealthing situation (I assume you mean you asked for condom and he didn’t comply)?

No, I think I did not structure that comment very well. I just looked up that particular guy again who I think stealthed me and (at least as of his last update a couple years ago) he does not mention a safe sex status. However, at the time when we got to it I did have condoms and gave him one, which he started with. It was years ago when I usually only topped BB or rarely bottomed BB with someone I knew, and before my profile had any of the indicators I mention.

[caramelsub]

I remember with one particular escort, after he requested I pay up front, which I did, he then says he only receives oral with a condom on, and proceeded to put it on. It pissed me off because I don’t like to give oral with the guy wearing a condom. So no, it’s not as uncommon as it seems.

[TorontoDrew]

21 minutes ago, caramelsub said:

I remember with one particular escort, after he requested I pay up front, which I did, he then says he only receives oral with a condom on, and proceeded to put it on. It pissed me off because I don’t like to give oral with the guy wearing a condom. So no, it’s not as uncommon as it seems.

I had that happen about 20 years year ago.  Thankfully it hasn't happened since. I am not fond of the taste of latex.

[SirBillybob]

On 8/27/2023 at 9:04 PM, Simon Suraci said:

[snip] It’s a piece of latex literally crushing my erection, forcing the blood out of it 

This part may appear to be accurate but IMO is not. Perhaps you intended to represent it as such for emphasis. I only mention it, not to be contrarian, but because the erection biodynamics, vascular hydraulics of intracavernosal tissue, would not be subject to the meagre degree of pressure, of squeezing, per square centimetre (inch in your case? who knows: hand unit for horse?😏) applied by a condom. After all, much greater and more vigorous pressure typically facilitates erection. 

Of course, it’s up to you to determine whether a belief is useful in terms of an explanation regarding the reduced tumescence you describe. You come across as generally very intelligently aware of sexual function factors and related language, and the reasons for less than desired erectile reliability.

However, I take the liberty of attempting to disabuse you of the assumption that a condom squeezes the blood out of your penis, backing it up, as it were, to where located when non-erect. Your intracavernosal tissue is constricting towards resting setpoint due to attenuated subjective arousal, thus not sponging up the volume of blood that confers robust erection. The constriction is an artefact of reduced firing of smooth muscle tissue relaxation chemical messengers activated with subjective arousal, not a result of condom physical pressure. They are very cooperatively dormant with the least iota of anxiety. One can easily see how the two could be conflated.

Certainly, condom application is implicated in the manner you otherwise put forward. That you can be objectively erect performatively, a unique phenomenon, simply substantiates the notion that condom interference is exclusively psychophysiological. 

May you be consistently spared abandonment. 

Edited September 4, 2023 by SirBillybob

[Guest]

1 hour ago, SirBillybob said:

After all, much greater and more vigorous pressure typically facilitates erection. 

💯 

[marylander1940]

On 8/23/2023 at 12:59 PM, socurious said:

Do you escorts lose clients for not wanting to have unprotected sex? I want to know how you feel about it. 

PrEP rules! 

[Guest]

6 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

 

The constriction is an artefact of reduced firing of smooth muscle tissue relaxation chemical messengers activated with subjective arousal, not a result of condom physical pressure. 

What is all of this? We're in a forum dedicated to paying for sex and you're writing style sounds like an unfinished grad school paper from an MFA dropout. Pretentious and verbose while saying very little.

Its his dick and you're lecturing him on it. I can tell you don't top, first of all. I've seen plenty of guys lose boners trying to fuck an asshole that is too tight or not lubricated enough.

Yes, condoms that are too tight can cause erection issues. If your cock is too big and you have a regular size condom the condom becomes uncomfortable and start to cause erection issues. Maybe the discomfort causes me to lose erection but it sure does feel like it restricts blood flow as well. 

[SouthOfTheBorder]

16 minutes ago, BiDude420 said:

We're in a forum dedicated to paying for sex and you're writing style sounds like an unfinished grad school paper from an MFA dropout. Pretentious and verbose while saying very little.

the member referenced has a long history of verbose/pretentious/incomprehensible ramblings that he posts mainly because he has so much time, evidently.  an expert on everything, yet all his time devoted to various online forums - this is just one. 

he’s actually improved a bit lately (believe it or not) because he’s still carrying on the charade that he’s not operating under several aliases, here & elsewhere.  Nobody is supposed to know, but basically everyone does.  FWIW 

where art thou Riobard ??

As for the OP question - I think a reliable sex-worker is more fastidious about their health & preventative measures than the average person on the apps, condoms or not.  Everyone has different preferences & it’s not productive living in fear and/or shaming others for their choices.

Edited September 5, 2023 by SouthOfTheBorder

[SirBillybob]

19 minutes ago, BiDude420 said:

It’s his dick and you're lecturing him on it.

Sounds fun, but haven’t been to Dallas since an AASECT conference a while back.

[SouthOfTheBorder]

Just now, SirBillybob said:

Sounds fun, but haven’t been to Dallas since an AASECT conference a while back.

waiting for the edit 

[LookingAround]

Reading this thread I kept looking to see what year it was being written in. Like 2008?

Gentlemen, it’s 2023. Have you heard of Descovy or Apretude?

I consider condoms unsafe and Apretude as safer sex. 

[SirBillybob]

1 hour ago, LookingAround said:

Reading this thread I kept looking to see what year it was being written in. Like 2008?

Gentlemen, it’s 2023. Have you heard of Descovy or Apretude?

I consider condoms unsafe and Apretude as safer sex. 

In terms of HIV your comparison is not off, yet one mode of protection does not invalidate the value of the other. HIV antiretroviral pre- and post-exposure prophylaxis goes back some 3 decades. It has done wonders for various at-risk constituencies where condom utilization, otherwise protective, has no relevance. 

Edited September 5, 2023 by SirBillybob

[LookingAround]

In the gay community I know, condom utilization is close to zero. 

[DWnyc]

10 hours ago, LookingAround said:

Reading this thread I kept looking to see what year it was being written in. Like 2008?

Gentlemen, it’s 2023. Have you heard of Descovy or Apretude?

I consider condoms unsafe and Apretude as safer sex. 

Why would condoms be unsafe? 

we can debate whether condoms (without prep /ART) are less safe than prep/ART or whether condoms add anything to safety in conjunction … but what makes them unsafe independently? 

[LookingAround]

I shouldn’t have said unsafe. I meant to say less safe and prep most safe. 

[SirBillybob]

29 minutes ago, LookingAround said:

I shouldn’t have said unsafe. I meant to say less safe and prep most safe. 

I had taken you to mean they are innocuous.