Overweight/Obese CLIENTS

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, marylander1940 said:

When you were overweight did you inform escorts about that in advance? Just in case they happened not to be chubby chasers

 

I tell massuers that I am overweight, in case their table has a weight limit.

I tell escorts that I'm over 30, since I think they should know I'm no spring chicken anymore 😊

I provide a face picture of myself to providers after booking is confirmed, so they know whom to expect at their door.  I think it's only fair since I've already had the opportunity to see their face picture.

[pubic_assistance]

14 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I tell massuers that I am overweight, in case their table has a weight limit.

I tell escorts that I'm over 30, since I think they should know I'm no spring chicken anymore 😊

I provide a face picture of myself to providers after booking is confirmed, so they know whom to expect at their door.  I think it's only fair since I've already had the opportunity to see their face picture.

Nice to know there are some gentlemen left out there. Bravo on being the considerate customer.

[LaffingBear]

My experience is all fairly long ago.  I'm not sure how relevant my experience is in the age of Onlyfans, Insta, Grindr, & videochat.  Ive dealt with weight issues throughout adult life.  While others cycle through gains and losses of 30, even 50 lbs, I've cycled through hundreds.

I was fairly active in the urban bear scene 90s, early 00s. I frequented bear bars and events as the gay community was fairly direct in relegating me to the bear & chub scene.  I recall being insulted when I accompanied a very buff friend into Powerhouse in SF.

Chubby-chasers are, imo, much closer to urban myth than we'd like to acknowledge.  I rarely met a chaser who didn't have some fetish interests: feeding, feeling smothered as a bottom, playing with man-tits. I remember one guy who only wanted to tickle the midriff bulge hanging over my belt.  Guys for whom my size wasn't a factor at all were rare. Note that I distinguish between a daddy with 25-30 extra pounds and a genuinely fat guy; muscle cubs with a beer-gut Daddy were not at all uncommon. 

Strong memories: a few different instances of guys who were politely uninterested at 365lbs, but who seemed to not recognize me and pursued me at 230, or 210.  One guy stopped visiting me when I lost weight.. that was surprising.

In hiring, I felt it best to share my size when screening rentguys.  I was only directly rejected a few times, and rarely felt insulted.  I might have written about one here on the board years ago when a couple offering 4-hand massage rejected me in an offensive manner.  Much more common was the pocket veto approach "oh, that's not an issue for me" but failure to respond in follow up, or appointment setting.

While I'm sure I was screened out often, I never had an issue with guys who agreed to an appointment.  No one arrived and said never mind. No one refused acts based on size.  The topic arose once or twice in lengthy or repeat visits - more as health advice, but not in a manner that felt like rejection. 

I was active in hiring in 90s & 00s.  Much less active in 2010s.  My most recent hire was a very well-known guy in Feb 2020 while traveling; 36 hours later, I was dealing with very bad flu symptoms. Nothing since.

So, with that lengthy post for context, my approach was to tell the rentguy in advance, perhaps as a defense against in-person hurtful rejection.   But no real issues once met.

 

Edited June 27, 2023 by LaffingBear
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[pubic_assistance]

16 minutes ago, LaffingBear said:

Chubby-chasers are, in my opinion, much closer to urban myth than we'd like to acknowledge.  I rarely met a chaser who didn't have some fetish interests:

That was  always my impression.

Thanks for sharing your insider's viewpoint and your story.

[italianboyph]

On 6/20/2023 at 10:49 PM, Archangel said:

Many. 

Well that's their loss. Trust me I've had my fair shares of comment about being beefy and hairy, even from randoms on RM

[acaressandakiss]

I’ve been relatively heavy the entire time I’ve been in the hobby. All the providers I’ve hired have always been very accommodating without me telling them about my weight. I think most providers are ok with overweight men because they know we most likely wouldn’t be seeking their company if we were fashion models and they would lose majority of clients if they put up a “fit only” requirement

[Jamie21]

On 6/19/2023 at 8:29 PM, arnemgreeves said:

it's generally dishonest escorts who say crap like "oh no, it doesn't matter!!!" erm, yes it does!! stop lying!! nobody is served from these lies!! looooooool like they're often pretty hot, so in "normal sex" must have mostly fucked hotties. so that must be their preference or something they'd inculcated due to experience. this is a part rant, but then it's something that a lot of escorts say, and I don't see the need to lie. I think it's pretty female escorts who say this often, I guess cos they don't ever get challenged on it due to their looks and innately bad characters. 

 

I really don’t think you’re in a position to assert this. Of course you’re entitled to have an opinion and to share it…but I’ll challenge it. I think you’re making a lot of misguided assumptions about the motivations of escorts and sex workers.

Until you’ve done the job I don’t think you can expect your opinion on the motivations and actions of sex workers to have as much credibility as those who actually do the work. I do the work and I can say that the physical characteristics of the client is irrelevant. That’s the skill of the job;  finding attraction in anyone, and those that work in the business know it. 

 

 

 

[marylander1940]

On 6/27/2023 at 1:46 PM, LaffingBear said:

My experience is all fairly long ago.  I'm not sure how relevant my experience is in the age of Onlyfans, Insta, Grindr, & videochat.  Ive dealt with weight issues throughout adult life.  While others cycle through gains and losses of 30, even 50 lbs, I've cycled through hundreds.

I was fairly active in the urban bear scene 90s, early 00s. I frequented bear bars and events as the gay community was fairly direct in relegating me to the bear & chub scene.  I recall being insulted when I accompanied a very buff friend into Powerhouse in SF.

Chubby-chasers are, imo, much closer to urban myth than we'd like to acknowledge.  I rarely met a chaser who didn't have some fetish interests: feeding, feeling smothered as a bottom, playing with man-tits. I remember one guy who only wanted to tickle the midriff bulge hanging over my belt.  Guys for whom my size wasn't a factor at all were rare. Note that I distinguish between a daddy with 25-30 extra pounds and a genuinely fat guy; muscle cubs with a beer-gut Daddy were not at all uncommon. 

Strong memories: a few different instances of guys who were politely uninterested at 365lbs, but who seemed to not recognize me and pursued me at 230, or 210.  One guy stopped visiting me when I lost weight.. that was surprising.

In hiring, I felt it best to share my size when screening rentguys.  I was only directly rejected a few times, and rarely felt insulted.  I might have written about one here on the board years ago when a couple offering 4-hand massage rejected me in an offensive manner.  Much more common was the pocket veto approach "oh, that's not an issue for me" but failure to respond in follow up, or appointment setting.

While I'm sure I was screened out often, I never had an issue with guys who agreed to an appointment.  No one arrived and said never mind. No one refused acts based on size.  The topic arose once or twice in lengthy or repeat visits - more as health advice, but not in a manner that felt like rejection. 

I was active in hiring in 90s & 00s.  Much less active in 2010s.  My most recent hire was a very well-known guy in Feb 2020 while traveling; 36 hours later, I was dealing with very bad flu symptoms. Nothing since.

So, with that lengthy post for context, my approach was to tell the rentguy in advance, perhaps as a defense against in-person hurtful rejection.   But no real issues once met.

 

Thank you for your honest post! 

Are you planning to hire again? 

[marylander1940]

On 6/27/2023 at 2:05 PM, pubic_assistance said:

That was  always my impression.

Thanks for sharing your insider's viewpoint and your story.

Mine too, I also truly believe all the stories posted by @KensingtonHomo, @Vegas_Millennial and others in this thread an in all the instances this subject has come up. Maybe those posters simply got lucky and found a gold vein of chubby chasers among providers and specially casual encounters! Kudos to them! 

Are you implying this thread should be moved to the "fetish forum"? Or is it time to start one on the subjet and discover the "chubby chasers" among us? 

 

[LaffingBear]

3 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Thank you for your honest post! 

Are you planning to hire again? 

Never say never, but I doubt I'll be hiring again.  For a variety of reasons.

1. There's an old joke that men make decisions using two different organs, but only have enough blood to use one at a time.  I've reached the age that the organ in my skull wins out in every decision.
2. I've become very skeptical, even cynical, of the rentguy scene. Why would any guy hire out in an age when onlyfans and online  performance is so much easier, safer, and probably more lucrative?   And the guys I see advertised all seem likely to be scammers... reading this board certainly reinforces that.
3. I find myself reviewing ads, but almost always finding reasons to eliminate men from consideration.  I like pictures but then, oops.. that one make him unappealing to me. I dislike certain listed behaviors. I infer dishonesty in the ad.   Etc etc.

At some point when, as a potential client, someone finds himself identifying barrier after barrier, it's time to acknowledge that the barriers are his own. The excuses simply mean I'm not in the right frame of mind to hire.

Strikes me as odd... I think most guys chicken out, use excuses,when they're inexperienced at hiring.  I am not, and was fairly casual about hiring in the 90s - 00s, a few in the 10s..  But environments, values & attitudes change; I'm skeptical that I'm still in the market for rentguys.

 

 

[Archangel]

On 6/29/2023 at 12:18 PM, italianboyph said:

Well that's their loss. Trust me I've had my fair shares of comment about being beefy and hairy, even from randoms on RM

Positively or negatively. Just curious. 

[Archangel]

@LaffingBear, I’ve grown much more discriminating about hiring since I started. I don’t think of it as problems I have, or barriers. Just I know better what I want.

 I do find a lot of “new guys” are very poor at attending to my need for attention. But I’m not sure if that’s an age thing or a me thing…

[marylander1940]

On 6/29/2023 at 12:18 PM, italianboyph said:

Well that's their loss. Trust me I've had my fair shares of comment about being beefy and hairy, even from randoms on RM

You are a very hot bear. I love your porno movies specially when you are with a twink or a jock to show contrast! 

[big-n-tall]

To the OP...

Although a lot of escorts may prefer certain types of men when they hook up on their personal time, as has been stated, any good escort (for the most part) can accommodate almost any body type. What is most important to them is how the client treats them and hygiene. 

By clinical definition, I'm obese. However, because of my height, I don't look or carry the weight where I look obese. Honestly, I've never had any issues with my weight and providers. I had one provider say I was built like a retired linebacker... which kind of turned him on I guess. LOL! Because of my overall stature, some of the smaller providers seem to be very much into the size difference.

Providers like @Mikegaite, not only enjoy older guys, but guys with big bellies as well. Look for providers who mention that they will see any body type in their RM ad copy. There are fit guys and other guys of various builds who enjoy body types different from their own.

[italianboyph]

5 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

You are a very hot bear. I love your porno movies specially when you are with a twink or a jock to show contrast! 

I don't do porn. But thank you lol

[italianboyph]

7 hours ago, Archangel said:

Positively or negatively. Just curious. 

Both. I've had random guys who are "clients" not of mine, but on the site. They've messaged me to call me fat, shave my body hair/facial hair. Told me to do all these things and I would probably get hired more. One guy even harassed me over and over to tell me I'd experience real man sex if a shaved my beard. Nasty af

[Simon Suraci]

33 minutes ago, italianboyph said:

They've messaged me to call me fat, shave my body hair/facial hair. Told me to do all these things and I would probably get hired more.

That is so messed up. Every client has different tastes. A single provider can’t be everything to everyone, so it makes no sense to change oneself to fit one client preference for one session. Those types are real jerks.

I get these types of harassing messages too. The latest one (today) told me I shouldn’t be doing this in my 30s and that I must have been bad at my other career because only “desperate” people are in this line of work. He proceeded to insult me in other ways and put me down while simultaneously trying to convince me to service his needs. So. Gross. I had to block him.

The other day, a client said in person as we were wrapping up a session, “no offense, but you’re a regular looking guy….”, and proceeded with some stories about other providers he considered a lot more attractive who were lousy hires. I know I am not the most attractive provider on RentMen, no delusions about that, but trying to be the most “beautiful” is not my schtick anyhow. I think he meant it as a compliment because he was saying he would rather be with someone like me because of how I am as a person. Just a really weird thing to say in so many paraphrased words, “I find you less attractive and I think you’re less in demand, but I like you better anyway.”

I say be yourself, groom yourself according to your own brand, style, and look and how you want to be seen. Embrace your body as it is. Work out and control diet if you want to present a certain look. Or don’t if you don’t want to. The right people will book you for simply being you. Those tend to be the best clients.

[marylander1940]

8 hours ago, italianboyph said:

I don't do porn. But thank you lol

I swear there's a pornstar out there working for "say uncle" who looks like your twin brother! 

Sorry about the confusion! 

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[marylander1940]

8 hours ago, italianboyph said:

Both. I've had random guys who are "clients" not of mine, but on the site. They've messaged me to call me fat, shave my body hair/facial hair. Told me to do all these things and I would probably get hired more. One guy even harassed me over and over to tell me I'd experience real man sex if a shaved my beard. Nasty af

they're insecure trolls!

[italianboyph]

10 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

That is so messed up. Every client has different tastes. A single provider can’t be everything to everyone, so it makes no sense to change oneself to fit one client preference for one session. Those types are real jerks.

I get these types of harassing messages too. The latest one (today) told me I shouldn’t be doing this in my 30s and that I must have been bad at my other career because only “desperate” people are in this line of work. He proceeded to insult me in other ways and put me down while simultaneously trying to convince me to service his needs. So. Gross. I had to block him.

The other day, a client said in person as we were wrapping up a session, “no offense, but you’re a regular looking guy….”, and proceeded with some stories about other providers he considered a lot more attractive who were lousy hires. I know I am not the most attractive provider on RentMen, no delusions about that, but trying to be the most “beautiful” is not my schtick anyhow. I think he meant it as a compliment because he was saying he would rather be with someone like me because of how I am as a person. Just a really weird thing to say in so many paraphrased words, “I find you less attractive and I think you’re less in demand, but I like you better anyway.”

I say be yourself, groom yourself according to your own brand, style, and look and how you want to be seen. Embrace your body as it is. Work out and control diet if you want to present a certain look. Or don’t if you don’t want to. The right people will book you for simply being you. Those tend to be the best clients.

People are nasty and project all their insecurities behind a faceless profile all the time. It's funny cause if im not the dudes type, yet he went out of his way to contact me to let me know. I don't care either way. 

[italianboyph]

10 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

That is so messed up. Every client has different tastes. A single provider can’t be everything to everyone, so it makes no sense to change oneself to fit one client preference for one session. Those types are real jerks.

I get these types of harassing messages too. The latest one (today) told me I shouldn’t be doing this in my 30s and that I must have been bad at my other career because only “desperate” people are in this line of work. He proceeded to insult me in other ways and put me down while simultaneously trying to convince me to service his needs. So. Gross. I had to block him.

The other day, a client said in person as we were wrapping up a session, “no offense, but you’re a regular looking guy….”, and proceeded with some stories about other providers he considered a lot more attractive who were lousy hires. I know I am not the most attractive provider on RentMen, no delusions about that, but trying to be the most “beautiful” is not my schtick anyhow. I think he meant it as a compliment because he was saying he would rather be with someone like me because of how I am as a person. Just a really weird thing to say in so many paraphrased words, “I find you less attractive and I think you’re less in demand, but I like you better anyway.”

I say be yourself, groom yourself according to your own brand, style, and look and how you want to be seen. Embrace your body as it is. Work out and control diet if you want to present a certain look. Or don’t if you don’t want to. The right people will book you for simply being you. Those tend to be the best clients.

Crazy part about the one dude who kept contacting me is that he also kept calling my phone at random times even at 4am. He didn't realize that RM tells us who clicks your phone number. 

[Archangel]

50 minutes ago, italianboyph said:

Crazy part about the one dude who kept contacting me is that he also kept calling my phone at random times even at 4am. He didn't realize that RM tells us who clicks your phone number. 

Sounds mentally ill, genuinely. Not meant as a derogatory remark against mental illness, but why else behave so inconsistently?

Sadly your experience is the experience of many people of larger sizes, and many face even worse discrimination. Sizism is one of the still acceptable modes of discrimination in our culture today. It hides behind many guises. Like so many forms of discrimination. 

[Archangel]

As to “hot guys with old fat men” – 

1) Some guys think fat guys ARE hot guys. 
2) Some guys think “hot guys” are NOT hot. 
3) Some guys think old men ARE hot. 
4) What counts as fat, hot, or old? 

[Pd1_jap]

On 6/26/2023 at 6:34 AM, pubic_assistance said:

I've always said that if it weren't for prostitutes, ugly, fat people would never get laid. 😉

What the actual duck?!

Dude, how do you get laid? If there was one thing every relationship I've ever had has taught me, if you're fun to be around people will want to be around you. 

Something tells me you're not that fun to be around, which may be why you hire?

[Pd1_jap]

26 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

fat isn't subjective. 

people need to stop perpetuating making things subjective for kicks. 

You have a real problem with your self image. I seriously think you need to see a therapist. What is the big issue here? Are you just bored and trolling? What further input do you want to express? What do you have to gain from convincing people like me that you are inherently better because you're thinner? Maybe you feel like your not better and need to put other people down

Am I getting invited to the Andrew Christian launch party, no. Can I get ass any day of the week, yes.

STOP projecting your insecurities onto other people! We don't care that you swallowed whole the mass consumer pop culture fantasy. Swallow cum instead. 😘

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