Overweight/Obese CLIENTS

[Pd1_jap]

On 6/26/2023 at 6:18 PM, sniper said:

I've said it before, I'll say it again. Men are like ducklings and imprint on what they jerked off to at 14. For some, it was the football coach...

There is quite a bit a science behind this. Which is why wrestling singlets will always get me hard.

[Pd1_jap]

On 6/26/2023 at 4:05 PM, Rod Hagen said:

Either you can read our minds, if so you should head straight to Vegas, or you are externalizing onto us how you feel about traditionally unattractive people.  I don't see a third possibility, so which is it?  I said, which is it? 

💯 it's so obvious but a trained therapist is needed in this case.

[Pd1_jap]

5 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

I dunno what YOUR problem is. All I have said here is what escorts here themselves have stated. that looks don't matter in sessions or with their clients. That's fair. they're in it for money. doesn't mean they don't choose others when dating or fucking outside of work, which is their prerogative. All humans have choice. if that offends you, then you should never choose, ever.

so what's the issue? i don't see what I've said that's controversial or false. 

 

 

Really? Because only the clients seem to saying it's an issue. All the providers seem to think it's not. 

My problem with you is, I want to come to this website to find Intel on new providers not see a bunch of fat shaming. 

If that's all this site is about I'll kindly take my intel elsewhere. 

Edited July 2, 2023 by Pd1_jap

[+ José Soplanucas]

6 hours ago, italianboyph said:

Crazy part about the one dude who kept contacting me is that he also kept calling my phone at random times even at 4am. He didn't realize that RM tells us who clicks your phone number. 

You should share who they are publicly. Not to get them banned, I am against banning forum members, but for all of us to know who are the POS among us. 

And if they continue harassing you, just block them.

[+ José Soplanucas]

5 minutes ago, Pd1_jap said:

Really? Because only the clients seem to saying it's an issue. All the providers seem to think it's not. 

My problem with you is, I want to come to this website to find Intel on new providers not see a bunch of fat shaming. 

If that's all this site is about I'll kindly take my intel elsewhere. 

No, the overwhelming majority of forum members are great. It is just a few rotten apples who may ruin your experience if you do not have a thick skin. Do not hesitate to block them if dealing with their asholness is an obstacle for you connecting to the majority of members.

[italianboyph]

57 minutes ago, José Soplanucas said:

You should share who they are publicly. Not to get them banned, I am against banning forum members, but for all of us to know who are the POS among us. 

And if they continue harassing you, just block them.

Oh I've reported them same goes for the ones who don't pay after the session and say they'll run to the atm.

[+ José Soplanucas]

2 minutes ago, italianboyph said:

Oh I've reported them same goes for the ones who don't pay after the session and say they'll run to the atm.

I did not men to report them. If you report them, nothing may happen and only the admins would learn about your report. 

IMO, you should share who they are publicly. 

[italianboyph]

2 minutes ago, José Soplanucas said:

I did not men to report them. If you report them, nothing may happen and only the admins would learn about your report. 

IMO, you should share who they are publicly. 

Oh you ment on the forum?

[CuriousByNature]

20 hours ago, italianboyph said:

Both. I've had random guys who are "clients" not of mine, but on the site. They've messaged me to call me fat, shave my body hair/facial hair. Told me to do all these things and I would probably get hired more. One guy even harassed me over and over to tell me I'd experience real man sex if a shaved my beard. Nasty af

They called YOU fat?  Well for what it's worth, I can only hope to be as 'fat' as you one day

 

[Archangel]

4 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

Really? Because only the clients seem to saying it's an issue. All the providers seem to think it's not. 

There seems to be an unspoken working assumption here among some that escorts speak unquestionable gospel and clients always seek to deceive. So that’s likely behind the disconnect…

[Deadlift1]

And this topic has been beaten to.death over the years.

[+ José Soplanucas]

11 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

you're self-reporting. mr. forum police.

[+ José Soplanucas]

11 hours ago, italianboyph said:

Oh you ment on the forum?

Yep, reports are private. The guys may be banned, suspended, punished, or nothing may happen, but no one learns about it.

[+ José Soplanucas]

LOL! You know me so well! Wise, Christian adult!

Please, judge me.

[pubic_assistance]

16 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

If there was one thing every relationship I've ever had has taught me, if you're fun to be around people will want to be around you. 

In the absence of looks you need personality. I have two friends who are sisters and both  really obese. Always the life of the party. Lots of fun and a great sense of humor.

I get that. I just don't know that anyone wants to fuck them. They have both been single for decades.

This narrative of how insulting it is to claim nobody is attracted to blubber is amusing in-that, even when fat people hire, they hire good looking people. Not fatties. 

[Pd1_jap]

4 minutes ago, José Soplanucas said:

LOL! You know me so well! Wise, Christian adult!

Please, judge me.

The large gaps in logic and cognitive dissonance are really astounding. But it's the Dunning Kruger effect. If he was capable of knowing how crazy and spastic he appeared to be then he wouldn't. My armchair diagnoses, paranoid delusions heightened by narcism and megalomania. 

He called me evil and accused me of scoping him? I don't understand the mental gymnastics of how he got to that thought. One thing that turns me off above all else is an arrogant attitude. So even if he looked like a 26 yo Sean Cody model I would want nothing to do with him. 

[Pd1_jap]

4 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

In the absence of looks you need personality. I have two friends who are sisters and both  really obese. Always the life of the party. Lots of fun and a great sense of humor.

I get that. I just don't know that anyone wants to fuck them. They have both been single for decades.

This narrative of how insulting it is to claim nobody is attracted to blubber is amusing in-that, even when fat people hire, they hire good looking people. Not fatties. 

Interesting opinion but these are just your theories. I'd like to see some imperical data to back these statements up seeing as you are not a fat person and have no lived experience that qualifies.

Edited July 3, 2023 by Pd1_jap

[+ Just966]

13 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

They called YOU fat?  Well for what it's worth, I can only hope to be as 'fat' as you one day

 

Agreed! Great body😊

[pubic_assistance]

17 minutes ago, Pd1_jap said:

Interesting opinion but these are just your theories. I'd like to see some imperical data to back these statements up seeing as you are not a fat person and have no lived experience that qualifies.

What "theory" ?

Go through Rent.men and find one obese escort.

There aren't any.

You don't need a research paper from Harvard to tell you what that means.

 

[Pd1_jap]

33 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

What "theory" ?

Go through Rent.men and find one obese escort.

There aren't any.

You don't need a research paper from Harvard to tell you what that means.

 

Are you just that incredibly stupid? Can you not do basic research for yourself? There are plenty on this forum, in this thread, and on RM.

Why even bother making these assertions when you can't do the simplest of searches too validate your theory.  

Was I the only one paying attention in science class?

[Pd1_jap]

32 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

I go based on what you yourself have said. I dunno any "law" or "rule" saying that nobody can be judged. judge me, judge all eight billion of us homo sapiens. Healthy people just take it and move on. 

Then move on already 😘

I'm tired of reading your word soup.

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

In the absence of looks you need personality. I have two friends who are sisters and both  really obese. Always the life of the party. Lots of fun and a great sense of humor.

I get that. I just don't know that anyone wants to fuck them. They have both been single for decades.

This narrative of how insulting it is to claim nobody is attracted to blubber is amusing in-that, even when fat people hire, they hire good looking people. Not fatties. 

This is why anecdotal information isn't the same as data. Among my friend group, nearly every overweight person I know is married or in a long-term relationship, and all the single people I know are thin or in very good shape. And good looking and overweight are not mutually exclusive. 

Among the overweight people in relationships, I'd say half are partnered with other overweight people and the others are with thin or fit people - myself included. 

And not all providers are super-fit. Sure, most of them are, but there are bears, and even some significantly overweight providers around. 

I really don't care who or how other clients are hiring. I object to the relentless fat-phobia on here. It's mean-spirited and does nothing to induce people to lose weight. 

[Becket]

This is an interesting topic and an emotional thread. And despite the vitriol here and there it's a conversation I'm glad we're having. Perhaps it has been discussed over the years. I've only been around since 2008 or so, and can't remember reading similar threads. Perhaps I just missed them. Most of us have issues with something or other, regarding our physical looks.  I am self conscious about my ever receding hair line and "only average" size dick. Sometimes I worry about being judged for my flaws. My hope when hiring escorts is that I'll be accepted and enjoyed, warts and all. But I judge the escorts, too; preferring a beautiful ass and medium size dick. Don't know what to do with monster cocks or "beer can" penises. Frankly a big dick intimidates me. And as time goes by I'm getting heavier myself. My (somewhat irrational) fear is always that the escort will be so turned off by my flaws that he won't be able to function, or won't be enthusiastic during our session. That has happened a few times and it's always so disappointing. At the end of the day; however we look, hiring an escort for the first time is a leap of faith. 

[Cooper]

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[CuriousByNature]

17 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

it's amusing how some genuine opinions cause so many here "angst".

Too much California-esque "values" here. 

Escorts who frequent here have said it's not an issue. They know they're in a job where they won't automatically fancy every client they see.

Has any escort here said that fat people suck and they'd never see them? 

The angst is pretty amazing to note. 

Agreed - I don't recall any provider who posts here ever saying they wouldn't see an overweight client. Some have mentioned, understandably, that their massage tables may not support someone above a certain weight or that very obese people may have additional 'logistical' challenges to work around, but I've never seen anyone post concerns from an attractiveness perspective.   I imagine some providers who insist on seeing a client's photo may ultimately screen out those who they find unattractive for whatever reason, but as you note, providers generally know they won't fancy every client.