boredboy96 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Need advice on changing regular escorts. I haven't hire my usual in a while and he sent me a text. What should I say? I don't want to be rude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ keroscenefire Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I would just say that you're not available right now and you'll get back to him when you're able to meet with him again. boredboy96, TylerInTexas, dbar123 and 4 others 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Coolwave35 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m a fan of honesty. What’s your objection to telling him that he doesn’t do it for you anymore? boredboy96, cany10011 and + keroscenefire 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boredboy96 Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 1 minute ago, Coolwave35 said: I’m a fan of honesty. What’s your objection to telling him that he doesn’t do it for you anymore? There are a few things. He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart. But I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. + Pensant, + keroscenefire, coriolis888 and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 1 hour ago, boredboy96 said: I haven't hire my usual in a while and he sent me a text. What should I say? I don't want to be rude. Honesty ( with a drop of modesty ) is the best policy. Don't lie. Thank him for the great times and tell him you're ready to move on. TorontoDrew and dbar123 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZMontoff Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I agree. If you're not honest with him, he will not know and will keep asking to meet. You can be honest and nice about it. That way you can both move on. pubic_assistance, + glennnnn and boredboy96 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boredboy96 Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 44 minutes ago, ZMontoff said: I agree. If you're not honest with him, he will not know and will keep asking to meet. You can be honest and nice about it. That way you can both move on. Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. + friendofsheila and Marc in Calif 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 58 minutes ago, boredboy96 said: Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. ***I just told my girlfriend I am breaking up with her...but I asked if I could fuck her once in a while when I'm in the mood. *** Unlikely scenario too. dbar123, boredboy96 and caramelsub 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbar123 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 1 hour ago, boredboy96 said: Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. Life is short…move on. If stuff in his personal life bugs you, it’s the perfect opportunity to close this chapter CastaDiva, boredboy96 and TorontoDrew 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boredboy96 Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 You both give good advice. Thank you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZMontoff Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 My experience with escorts and strippers has been that If I am honest, they still consider me to have been a good customer and treat me well. Hell, some of them even help me with guys I am now interested in, basically giving me a good reference or introducing us. GTMike, + Pensant, + StLouisOct and 2 others 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 He’s a professional (or is supposed to be). He shouldn’t need to know why, nor should he be chasing you for business. It’s not like he’s being faithful to you is it…so why should it work that you only hire him? I don’t think it right that you should treat it like a relationship break up: “Hey!…I met a younger, hotter guy. I’m just trying him out but if he isn’t up to the mark then I might come back to you…but only if you get your act together on X Y and Z. Have a great day”. Hmmmm …no, that doesn’t sound good however you phrase it. Just tell him you’re not hiring right now. If he’s wise he’ll understand why. If he doesn’t understand why then you can be sure that any explanation by you wouldn’t have landed well, and would have surely jeopardised the chances of any future sessions being pleasant. + nycman, spidir, 56harrisond and 4 others 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MscleLovr Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 14 hours ago, Coolwave35 said: I’m a fan of honesty. Me too. But not in this case… 14 hours ago, boredboy96 said: He is great. A bodybuilder. Smart.…figured out a few things…and think it is better to distance myself.…I met a younger guy who has an amazing body.…he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger. Do you @boredboy96 know the saying “you want to have your cake and eat it too”? There’s no harm in that, of course. My advice is to be polite and truthful, but not brutally honest. I’d say something along the lines of “I’ve just met a guy. I’m getting close to him and I want to see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, I’ll be sure to contact you again as we always had such good fun together” boredboy96, jeezifonly, Luv2play and 2 others 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ keroscenefire Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 13 hours ago, boredboy96 said: Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. Then really what I suggested is exactly what you should say. Sorry, but I cannot hire anyone right now but will you know when I would like to meet again. Then the ball is entirely in your court. cany10011, boredboy96, musclestuduws and 2 others 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 23 hours ago, boredboy96 said: Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. Then say you had some personal things come up and as such you won't financially be able to meet up as often for the foreseeable future. TorontoDrew, + keroscenefire, boredboy96 and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/26/2022 at 4:50 PM, Coolwave35 said: I’m a fan of honesty. What’s your objection to telling him that he doesn’t do it for you anymore? What from the original post gave you the idea that the prior escort didn't "do it" for the OP any more? He just said he hadn't hired him in a while, not that the prior escort didn't do it for him. He might want to hire him in the future. As a lawyer would say in court "Assumes facts not in evidence!" (speculation). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ friendofsheila Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/26/2022 at 7:20 PM, boredboy96 said: Yeah, but I might want to hire him from time to time too. This's why I agree with the Keroscene, only maybe a little simpler. Thanks for the text, I'll contact you when I'm ready to hire. boredboy96 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/27/2022 at 8:45 AM, keroscenefire said: Then really what I suggested is exactly what you should say. Sorry, but I cannot hire anyone right now but will you know when I would like to meet again. Then the ball is entirely in your court. Yes, OK, but I like your original advice even better: "I would just say that you're not available right now and you'll get back to him when you're able to meet with him again." The part about being unable to hire anyone right now isn't quite honest. Just let him know you're not available now, and will let him know if things change. If he keeps pestering you, you could block him. I think KF's original suggestion is succinct, honest, and clear, as is FOS's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterhumphries Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/26/2022 at 6:38 PM, boredboy96 said: Need advice on changing regular escorts. I haven't hire my usual in a while and he sent me a text. What should I say? I don't want to be rude. I don't think you have to say anything. If he's an escort, he probably has other clients that you know nothing about. It's a blurring of the interpersonal lines that YOU feel a loyalty that the escort may not. Scrape away the sexual intimacy, and you're left with a business transaction. It's not rude to see and pay whatever escort you please. boredboy96, + friendofsheila, dcguy20 and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TylerInTexas Posted January 1, 2023 Share Posted January 1, 2023 Is he past his shelf life? All escorts do have a “pull date”, they just don’t know it. coriolis888, TorontoDrew, boredboy96 and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marc in Calif Posted January 1, 2023 Share Posted January 1, 2023 On 12/26/2022 at 4:38 PM, boredboy96 said: I haven't hire my usual in a while and he sent me a text. What should I say? I don't want to be rude. Just tell him your screen name on these forums. He'll understand. ✅ Jamie21, boredboy96 and Luv2play 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted January 1, 2023 Share Posted January 1, 2023 50 minutes ago, Marc in Calif said: Just tell him your screen name on these forums. He'll understand. ✅ I wonder how many on this forum are thinking ‘is it me?’ spidir, Marc in Calif and + nycman 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spidir Posted January 8, 2023 Share Posted January 8, 2023 On 12/26/2022 at 4:38 PM, boredboy96 said: Need advice on changing regular escorts. I haven't hire my usual in a while and he sent me a text. What should I say? I don't want to be rude. It's great to feel that connection with a guy that leads to recurring meetings but I keep in mind that these are temporary relationships with no strings attached. Avoiding explanations, hard feelings, and awkward conversations is part of the service. I simply replied "I'm not available at this time" when I was in a similar situation. Jarrod_Uncut and boredboy96 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jarrod_Uncut Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 (edited) 3 hours ago, spidir said: It's great to feel that connection with a guy that leads to recurring meetings but I keep in mind that these are temporary relationships with no strings attached. Avoiding explanations, hard feelings, and awkward conversations is part of the service. I simply replied "I'm not available at this time" when I was in a similar situation. Yeah, I feel in the case of what the OP mentioned, it’s probably better left unsaid. Sometimes if a person senses they are being rejected, they’re not going to want to give a 2nd chance down the road. Could end up getting blocked. Just keep it simple, “I enjoy your company but having some things going on right now.” Now, if you can say it tactfully: by all means throw in that you started seeing someone. There does seem to be a bit of cake eating in this scenario, however I can’t help but quote: “I figured out a few things about his professional/real life and think it is better to distance myself. I don't want him to know I know his other life. I met a younger guy who has an amazing body. He is not an escort, but he really needs money and is willing to do things. I want to help him. He's hotter and younger.” The first part sounds a bit invasive. Why would someone go snooping 🧐 around for information about someone? Unless it directly pertains to y’all’s Encounter together, I don’t think it matters what his real/professional life entails unless he directly revealed it. That’s why when some clients get flustered just because I send out a basic questionnaire to include a Name/Age, Basic Stats, Host or Travel, City they’re in: It’s not some ploy to get their life information and track them down. I just want to know who I’m meeting up with. That’s basic business etiquette. Beyond that, I could care less what they do outside. As for the 2nd part, it doesn’t sound like the “new” guy is much better than the other. Amazing body. Not an escort. Needs money. Wants to help him and he’s younger. Hmm 🤔 what does that sound like? A whole bunch of red flags. Do you ever watch forensic files or dateline? Just be careful. He could just be a younger guy who needs money with a beautiful body. Nothing wrong with that or wishing to help him. But if you have a regular and are giving him the blowoff for this other person, maybe need to assess whether it’s worth it. Edited January 9, 2023 by Jarrod_Uncut boredboy96 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbar123 Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 Quite by serendipity, two different Rentmen whom I’ve used before happened to be independently exercising at my gym yesterday while I was there. Neither said a word or seemed to recognize me. I am just a business transaction, no more or less and that’s fine with me MscleLovr, pubic_assistance and boredboy96 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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