Have you ever rejected someone because he was too big?

[Guest]

At a recent dinner party, the subject came up about dating deaf men, and one man said "I had to stop seeing this deaf guy because he was too big for me. He got really mad because he thought it was because he was deaf. But it really was because he was too big. It was hurting me." I'd never heard of this as a reason to stop seeing a man before. Has this ever happened to any of you?

[+ WilliamM]

What did the females at the dinner party say?

[Beancounter]

I’m assuming @Unicorn was referring to a guy whose penis was too big and not referring to a person’s weight.

If that’s so, then yes! It is possible for a person’s penis to be too big.  

[CJK]

Actually, I had the opposite situation. As a top you would think size would not be that important, but I was set up on a date with a college senior. He was gorgeous, smart and had the most amazing Kajagoogoo hair. It was very in at the time.  Unfortunately, he turned out to have the smallest one I had ever seen before or since. It was micro. When it got hard it might have been two inches. It did not reach much past my teeth.

I tried to take the high road and look past it. We dated a few months until he did something that was a very alight transgression which became the reason I ended the relationship, If I were honest, we broke up because he had a small dick.

After I told him we were done, he thanked me for overlooking certain things. Although he was vague, I assumed he was thanking me for overlooking the fact his dick was so small.

BTW, we were set up by s mutual lesbian friend. She invited us both to a womyn's bar to introduce us: The Otherside Lounge. Years later it was bombed by Eric Rudolph the Olympic Bomber. We left there, got something to eat at the late-night Chinese restaurant on Cheshire Bridge and Lavista and then went to the bar that many believe was the inspiration for the Love Shack mentioned in the B-52's Rock Lobster. That bar was torn down and replaced with a sewage treatment facility. The bar was so decrepit that the sewage treatment facility was an improvement. 

[Guest]

Sorry, I should have been more explicit. Yes, by too big, I meant the penis size. There were no females at this dinner party. 

[+ azdr0710]

 

[jeezifonly]

Women are probably more sensitive to oversized equipment- especially length, where pounding against the Cervix is painful.
The truth for anal sex, is that with preparation, time, patience, adequate foreplay, lubricant and a psychological readiness (hunger) on the part of the bottom, the rectum and large intestine can accommodate quite a bit of length and girth, anatomically speaking. A guy who knows he’s xlarge and shoves it in to the balls on the first go is a person who’s irresponsible and uncaring. But rejection for size need not be a thing if there’s a lot of other good chemistry. Bottoms: Get acquainted with your hole using a dildo that seems just a little more than the biggest real cock you’ve enjoyed. Challenges are for meeting. 💜

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

3 hours ago, azdr0710 said:

 

Big points for a Guffman reference.

[+ The Big Guy]

My current lover is large and we are both tops.   It took several months but we finally had a session where I was able to get comfortable with him topping me and we had great sex where he could finish in me.   I mainly made up my mind that I wanted to please him and after a short time I relaxed enough to be comfortable and while I am never going to consider myself a bottom, I just made up my mind I wanted to please him and that became most important factor.  I know that may not be realistic for ever but I am glad we made it work.  

[Rod Hagen]

I've met many many men with micro-penises.  It still functions like a dick, it still has all the same nerve locations, SO if you encounter one just keep that in mind :-)

I'm very good at cocksucking, so I feel terrible when one's too big for me to FULLY deepthroat, I kinda feel like a failure.  

I would say that in general men are way way too scared of choking on dick.  What's the big deal, really?  You are not going to choke, you are not going to die, you are not going to be uncomfortable for that long.  Yes, snot will fly from your nose and your mouth.  So?  Yes, your eyes will water.  So?  Yes, you will FEEL like you are going to die.  But you're not going to and eventually, someday, those feelings will lessen and eventually vanish.  There truly is only one way to get to Carnegie Hall.

I mean, are you REALLY a swimmer if year after year you insist on keeping your head above water?  I would say no, not a true swimmer.  Choke a bit, your body will thank you later and so will his.

 

Edited October 17, 2022 by Rod Hagen

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Rod Hagen said:

I've met many many men with micro-penises.  It still functions like a dick, it still has all the same nerve locations, SO if you encounter one just keep that in mind 🙂

I'm very good at cocksucking, so I feel terrible when one's too big for me to FULLY deepthroat, I kinda feel like a failure.  

I would say that in general men are way way too scared of choking on dick.  What's the big deal, really?  You are not going to choke, you are not going to die, you are not going to be uncomfortable for that long.  Yes, snot will fly from your nose and your mouth.  So?  Yes, your eyes will water.  So?  Yes, you will FEEL like you are going to die.  But you're not going to and eventually, someday, those feelings will lessen and eventually vanish.  There truly is only one way to get to Carnegie Hall.

I mean, are you REALLY a swimmer if year after year you insist on keeping your head above water?  I would say no, not a true swimmer.  Choke a bit, your body will thank you later and so will his.

 

Thanks, I needed this inspiration.  I have given up too easily in the past.  The feelings are exactly as you describe.  I will keep this in mind that I am not going to die, and practice, practice, practice!

[Guest]

I enjoy sucking cock, but if it's too big it hurts my jaw and makes me gag, so I can't go far. That's what I miss the most from my lyin' Paraguayan. I loved sucking his cock, and swallowing his "jarabe de amor" as I called it (love juice). He was about 5.5 inches. Perfect size for me. But I'd never dump someone I had the hots for, due to his being too big. 

[Epigonos]

I'm a terrible top and worse bottom so anal sex has NEVER been on my agenda. However, I do love sucking a nice cock.  As far as I'm concerned a nice cock, length wise, is somewhere between five and seven and a half inches. Cocks smaller than five inches are just great as well.  Before I hire an escort I take a careful look at his rentmen ad. If he advertises over eight inches I simple move on. Now to be perfectly honest I have "a few times" gotten together with escorts sporting huge cocks just to see it and have some fun playing with it without seriously trying to suck to entire thing.

Edited October 17, 2022 by Epigonos

[Luv2play]

I'm a very adventurous bottom so no dick is too large, at least in attempting to swallow it. Only one dick proved to be too wide ( depth has not been an issue) and that was on the late Jay Dymel from LA. He was just too big in circumference to get much past my lips (9 inches).

When I deepthroat a dick more than 9 inches long my eyes tend to water.  No gagging tho, as my throat muscles have learned to relax. I like a top who knows what he is doing when he has a big cock. It takes as much skill on his part as on mine. I'm always willing to instruct the younger ones though since we both benefit from the experience. 

[Blade9]

Wow.  It never occurred to me that it was possible for a cock to be too big.

B

[+ azdr0710]

oh the vapid chatter at an LA dinner party.....😉

I presume the deaf guy and the bottom (for lack of a better word) were in it just for the physical sex?!.....it is hoped that a serious relationship couldn't possibly have been called off for only this reason (even in LA)

Edited October 18, 2022 by azdr0710

[Guest]

29 minutes ago, azdr0710 said:

oh the vapid chatter at an LA dinner party.....😉

...

Yes, very LA. I was the only one at the table who hadn't had any cosmetic work done. 😉 The youngest was 25 and has over 200,000 followers on instagram.

[Guest]

2 hours ago, Luv2play said:

I'm a very adventurous bottom so no dick is too large, at least in attempting to swallow it....

But if I could have surgery done to make my throat as deep as yours, I'd probably go under the scalpel! 😄 I'm envious. 😁

[Rudynate]

I really love to suck big dicks.  One time, at a bathhouse, I connected with a guy who was so thick that the sides of his cock scraped against my back teeth.  He really was too big. 

[Rand]

Was I scared just looking at it? Yes. Did I ever refuse? Never!

"Ain't no mountain high enough..."

[BasketBaller]

If I was ever going to, it would have been the guy I'm seeing now. When I first hired, I had no experience with gay sex, but watching porn, I had been very, well, "taken" with hung guys. So since I was just experimenting and would never do it again, I hired a couple of very large men. But I was honest about my inexperience, and the first guy was especially patient and sensitive (and perhaps amused). When he penetrated me I very nearly stopped him, but "it was just this once" so I endured. By the time we finished I wasn't sure I liked big guys particularly, but I knew I liked bottoming. 

Over the years I came to prefer men of a more manageable size, it was easier to take and since I only slept with men occasionally, I sort of had to get used to it each time-- average was better.

Then I met the man I'm seeing, easily the biggest I've ever taken. It wasn't easy at first, and still sometimes isn't, but he's a prince-- careful, aware of what a challenge he can be, and very attentive to how I'm doing. I won't say I'm used to it exactly but he is such a good guy and I like him so much it doesn't matter. We take our time, and I always loved foreplay even when I was sleeping with women. 

Now, it would be second hand, but his story is quite different. he came out in high school but all his life he's dealt with people either  rejecting him (he says most of his early encounters turned into hand jobs) or only wanting to sleep with him because he has a huge cock. So there are two sides to the issue.

[keefer]

I've been following this thread thinking no one was going to claim they ever met someone who was too big;   many years ago my taste in guys and porn started changing... I found myself returning to one advert in Qx magazine, added his number to my phone, and spent many a night watching porn and fantasizing about him fucking me...   I need to now state: I've pretty much always been a top, early experience in Manhattan as a teen with glory holes; then University, and once in London found that my cut cock (large, not huge) got a lot of attention so the pattern hadn't changed much...  this one fateful night I had been out drinking with colleagues, was quite horny, decided to call and see if he was available...   I called, he was , and off I went to his for a bit of fun.   Well, up until this evening I had, at most, bottomed once a year, often alcohol was involved, and never really thought about size.   This evening was not atypical...   got to his, we started playing, eventually he lined himself up, lots of lube, and entered...  and at that moment realized his 10 inches would never fit; though my mind might be saying yes, my sphincter staged a coup.... within 5 minutes I was dressed, had paid, and was on the tube heading home...  It was many years before I bottomed again, and only after carefully choosing a very vanilla guy with perfectly averaged sized cock, masses of lube, poppers, and a bit of weed... 

that story aside, this thread also reminds me Susie Derkins in Calvin and Hobbes...

 

[+ Snbrd]

In the late 80's, when living in DC, I went to Provincetown for a weekend with a group of friends. At T-dance and later, we kept bumping into and going gaga over this incredibly handsome Puerto Rican guy. Late one evening, he and I were chatting and flirting. I was thrilled that he was paying attention to me. At one one point, he kissed me and said something like, "Don't waste my time. Are you serious?"  

We went back to his guest house and I couldn't believe the size of his cock. In almost any other circumstance, I was young and if not naive, at least not too experienced, I would have declined. However, given the conversation/warning I felt I had to take it. It turned out being one of my best ever sexual experiences. As a bonus, he was delightful company.  

[rustyrex]

Yes, there is a size too large, remember I still have use my hole to sh!t.  I’m not about to let anyone destroy my ass so they can get off.  

[LoveAustinCF]

On 10/21/2022 at 2:18 AM, BasketBaller said:

If I was ever going to, it would have been the guy I'm seeing now. When I first hired, I had no experience with gay sex, but watching porn, I had been very, well, "taken" with hung guys. So since I was just experimenting and would never do it again, I hired a couple of very large men. But I was honest about my inexperience, and the first guy was especially patient and sensitive (and perhaps amused). When he penetrated me I very nearly stopped him, but "it was just this once" so I endured. By the time we finished I wasn't sure I liked big guys particularly, but I knew I liked bottoming. 

Over the years I came to prefer men of a more manageable size, it was easier to take and since I only slept with men occasionally, I sort of had to get used to it each time-- average was better.

Then I met the man I'm seeing, easily the biggest I've ever taken. It wasn't easy at first, and still sometimes isn't, but he's a prince-- careful, aware of what a challenge he can be, and very attentive to how I'm doing. I won't say I'm used to it exactly but he is such a good guy and I like him so much it doesn't matter. We take our time, and I always loved foreplay even when I was sleeping with women. 

Now, it would be second hand, but his story is quite different. he came out in high school but all his life he's dealt with people either  rejecting him (he says most of his early encounters turned into hand jobs) or only wanting to sleep with him because he has a huge cock. So there are two sides to the issue.

How big are we talking about? Is he bigger than someone like Sir Peter?