Weekend Expectations

[ShyBi95]

I’m curious to get some providers (or people who’ve hired an escort) insights on how they handle when a client hires them for the weekend:

1) Are you under the view that the rate quoted covers the weekend time discussed, being exclusive with that client? Meaning unless directly talked about ahead of time,  you wouldn’t see other clients during that time?

2) what’s your expectation on personal or alone time to do what your need or just be away for a bit? How many hours is reasonable?

3) if the rate (which both people agreed to) is discounted from your normal rate, does that change anything on expectations or what you’re willing to do? 

Edited July 24, 2022 by Chihawks

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1. Rate covers time.  You're also expected to pay for airfare (if flying him somewhere).  And yes, that rate should mean that his time is exclusive to you and only you (unless ya'll discuss otherwise).

2. The answer to this can be all over the board.  Just talk with your potential date and see what his personal time needs are.  For me, I hit the gym daily and that's a minimum of an hour.  It also gives me a chance to quickly make private calls and return any text messages.

3. My advice to an escort is don't give a client a discount if you're not going to also give them the usual 110%.

[BtmBearDad]

As a client who has engaged gents for weekends, and longer on occasion, I would echo everything @BenjaminNicholas said. 

Communication is the key to any successful engagement, regardless of length - but obviously more so with weekends, (or longer). Be clear on your expectations in terms of social interactions, (dining out, taking in a show, sightseeing, daytime activities, etc.), as well as your expectations in terms of intimacy, sleeping arrangements.

On an extended engagement, I do agree that the fee does mean the gent’s time is exclusively yours. Obviously, this is subject to any agreement you both may come to regarding three ways, and the like. But, even on his free/personal time, the gent should not be meeting other clients, period. But, given how handsome providers are, I’d caution you about one thing - flirting. If you’re out and about, lounging pool or beachside, etc., chances are other guys will talk, flirt with him. Don’t get upset if he chats, even flirts back. While some guys have no boundaries, your gent should let him know, in a no doubt charming way, he’s spoken for. 

Allowing for free/personal time is not something set in stone. Like Benjamin said, it can be all over the board. Some may require a couple of hours for the gym a day, and you yourself may require time alone to address your own personal business. Just talk to the gent so there’s no confusion. 

I would add one final recommendation - I would not recommend a weekend (or longer) with any gent you have not engaged previously, and that you have not had at least one overnight with. Personally, I believe you need the connection that comes from previous engagements, overnights in order to make a successful weekend or longer. Who wants to spend 1/2 a weekend figuring out each other’s likes, hot spots, etc.? 


Good luck, mate! Do report back on how it goes! 👍🏻
 

Cheers,
BBD 

[BtmBearDad]

I forgot to address the “discount” question you asked @Chihawks - in a way, you’re already getting a “discount” in the sense that you’re not paying the gent’s hourly rate for the 48, 72, or 96 hours that make up your weekend. It’s a flat rate for the entire time - no extra upgrades or surprises. I would advise nailing down when the weekend time starts, and concludes. In my experience, once we’ve both arrived at the hotel should be when the “clock” starts. With a provider you already have an established relationship, connection with, this is all easily sorted. 

[ShyBi95]

Thanks for the feedback and thoughts on this. Communication could have been better up front I’ll say to have been very clear on all topics related time, as we did discuss what I wanted to do intimacy wise. However, I thought some things were already understood like not seeing other clients even on the alone time. 
 

I was asking as I saw a guy for a weekend last month and flew to him/stayed with him. This was agreed to when I booked him.  However, the last night we had a minor argument and in that 20 mins he booked another client. He was then gone for almost 5 hours, I ended up leaving and staying in a hotel before he got back.  He felt seeing another client/being gone for 5 hours was ok as another escort I’ve seen/we both know disappeared on me during the booking for a few hours (even though he said that treatment from the other escort isn’t right..) and I was paying less for the weekend than he would charge another client for the same time.

 

I knew this escort via another one, so I think that “friends” clouded the escort stuff when it flipped to that too. Lesson learned for the next time if I see him again.  
 

again, thanks for the feedback and opinions!

[BtmBearDad]

@Chihawks sorry you had a less than enjoyable weekend with this provider. Had you seen him before? Done an overnight with him before? Word of mouth recommendations from other providers are all well, and good but I’d still do some due diligence here to see what pros/cons other hobbyists have to say about him. 

To my mind, and just going by your narrative, I don’t think this provider behaved in any type of professional manner at all. That you felt you needed to leave the hotel you had booked with him, and go book another room for yourself is unbelievable - as is this provider thinking it was in any way appropriate for him to see another client for five hours. 

I’m not telling you what to do, but I would consider naming him to give other hobbyists a heads up who may be considering him. 
 

BBD 

[ShyBi95]

I had seen him before and talked to him for a few months as “friends” before ever hiring him. The time I saw him was spontaneous and not planned, had went to his city to visit as friends and last min scheduled a booking.  I know it’s never truly friends, but it’s a complicated situation lol.  I was staying at his apartment, so thankfully was only one hotel night I had to pay for unexpectedly.

He had great reviews on the site and seemed very down to earth/normal the whole time talking to him before hiring and had a good first session. We’ll see how our continued convos go.  

[Jamie21]

That’s the problem when the line becomes blurred. If he’s a friend there should be no charge. If he’s charging you it’s not a friend situation is it? (even if he’s discounted his rate). It sounds like you need to regularise the situation with him: friend or client but not a ‘bit of both’ because that can’t work. 

I had a client become a friend. I stopped charging him. It was too awkward to charge. I told him, the situation is different now so I’m not charging you. It saved us both any difficulty. He remains a friend. 

[KeepItReal]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

That’s the problem when the line becomes blurred. If he’s a friend there should be no charge. If he’s charging you it’s not a friend situation is it? (even if he’s discounted his rate). It sounds like you need to regularise the situation with him: friend or client but not a ‘bit of both’ because that can’t work. 

I had a client become a friend. I stopped charging him. It was too awkward to charge. I told him, the situation is different now so I’m not charging you. It saved us both any difficulty. He remains a friend. 

I dunno. My motto is "real friends pay double". After all - they should know the loads...eh..value I bring! 😝

[ShyBi95]

Def agree need to normalize. I’d say it’s more friendly vs friends. We chat outside of bookings but aren’t doing trips or hanging out as friends outside of the bookings.  And thank god he didn’t take the friends pay double approach @KeepItReal 🤣🤣

[ShyBi95]

On 8/7/2022 at 6:47 PM, BtmBearDad said:

I’m not telling you what to do, but I would consider naming him to give other hobbyists a heads up who may be considering him. 

I had been talking with him for a little bit after this happened - but it became clear in that time he's all about manipulation, gaslighting, and games.  None of what he told me was sincere or the truth in the time I talked to him after seeing him.  The guy that I was asking about in the original post/where this situation happened was Connor Quinn (connorquinnxxx).  We talked about what I wanted for the weekend and he had agreed to it all, most of which is stuff he says that is he OK with not only in his into section but the about me.  None of it was out of the ordinary or any kind of crazy request - cuddling, boyfriend experience, and a few role plays (non of which were extreme).  He delivered on almost none of what we talked about and as I said above, disappeared for 5 hours the last night to go see another client.  He was nearly impossible to get a hold of during that time he was away, so ended up leaving his apt (as he had agreed to host for the weekend) and booked a hotel for my last night in town. 

https://rent.men/connorquinnxxx

Edited September 17, 2022 by Chihawks

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 hour ago, Chihawks said:

I had been talking with him for a little bit after this happened - but it became clear in that time he's all about manipulation, gaslighting, and games.  None of what he told me was sincere or the truth in the time I talked to him after seeing him.  The guy that I was asking about in the original post/where this situation happened was Connor Quinn (connorquinnxxx).  We talked about what I wanted for the weekend and he had agreed to it all, most of which is stuff he says that is he OK with not only in his into section but the about me.  None of it was out of the ordinary or any kind of crazy request - cuddling, boyfriend experience, and a few role plays (non of which were extreme).  He delivered on almost none of what we talked about and as I said above, disappeared for 5 hours the last night to go see another client.  He was nearly impossible to get a hold of during that time he was away, so ended up leaving his apt (as he had agreed to host for the weekend) and booked a hotel for my last night in town. 

https://rent.men/connorquinnxxx

Sorry you had to deal with all of that. 

And based on your experience, perhaps this pic of Conner is just a little too on-the-nose...

Edited September 17, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas

[ShyBi95]

On 9/16/2022 at 11:37 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

And based on your experience, perhaps this pic of Conner is just a little too on-the-nose...

@BenjaminNicholas - I didn't think of that before, but yes... Very ironic and fitting - a pictures does say 1000 words!

[+ glycine]

On 9/16/2022 at 11:37 PM, ShyBi95 said:

I had been talking with him for a little bit after this happened - but it became clear in that time he's all about manipulation, gaslighting, and games.  None of what he told me was sincere or the truth in the time I talked to him after seeing him.  The guy that I was asking about in the original post/where this situation happened was Connor Quinn (connorquinnxxx).  We talked about what I wanted for the weekend and he had agreed to it all, most of which is stuff he says that is he OK with not only in his into section but the about me.  None of it was out of the ordinary or any kind of crazy request - cuddling, boyfriend experience, and a few role plays (non of which were extreme).  He delivered on almost none of what we talked about and as I said above, disappeared for 5 hours the last night to go see another client.  He was nearly impossible to get a hold of during that time he was away, so ended up leaving his apt (as he had agreed to host for the weekend) and booked a hotel for my last night in town. 

https://rent.men/connorquinnxxx

oh jeez im so sorry this happened 😕 what a let down

[+ nycman]

Thank you for naming him. I had my eye on Connor.

Now you’ve saved me the headaches you suffered.

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Yup. Escorts who seem sweet as sugar during hourly sessions can turn into real bitches over a whole weekend.

 

Honestly, the only way I'd try to vacation with an escort is if I went with some real friends, and just had the escort on speed dial to get me off once a day. I have little to nothing in common with the men I hire, so I feel no need to spend my social time with them.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

2 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Honestly, the only way I'd try to vacation with an escort is if I went with some real friends, and just had the escort on speed dial to get me off once a day. I have little to nothing in common with the men I hire, so I feel no need to spend my social time with them.

You sound charming.

[+ DrownedBoy]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You sound charming.

Nah. Just honest with providers. 😆

[randeman]

On 12/11/2022 at 5:35 PM, DrownedBoy said:

Yup. Escorts who seem sweet as sugar during hourly sessions can turn into real bitches over a whole weekend.

 

Honestly, the only way I'd try to vacation with an escort is if I went with some real friends, and just had the escort on speed dial to get me off once a day. I have little to nothing in common with the men I hire, so I feel no need to spend my social time with them.

That last line reminded me of a quote attributed to Caroline Astor (THE Mrs Astor).  I don't remember the exact quote, but it was something like, "I buy my carpets from him.  He won't be walking on them."

Edited November 18, 2023 by randeman