My go to guy has a kid!

[topinla]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months now. He escorts on the down low. Hot as but gay for pay, which didn’t bother me because we usually do what I wanted to do which is topping him. I have booked to see him again this weekend but today I saw him in public. With a kid in tow. He saw me, gave me a nod and I responded with a nod. I sent him a message tonight asking him about the kid. He admits it is his and that he is co-raising it with a woman he no longer has a relationship with but that they are still friends.

 

When we get together we never talked about our personal lives. Just general chit chat. So now I’m a bit anxious about seeing him this weekend. I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind.

 

What are your thoughts guys?

[+ HornyRetiree]

Not sure I see or understand your concern?

[+ WilliamM]

Since you do not care much about him as a person, why is there a problems. I had sex several times in Army with a good friend who had two kids and was not married.

[+ FreshFluff]

Not sure why are you so freaked out about this kid?

 

Please don't post pictures of minors

Edited November 17, 2018 by Guy Fawkes

[+ azdr0710]

are you going to have trouble/difficulty topping him now?......

 

if not, proceed as before.....you knew he was G4P before, right?......

 

this really isn't that weird......are you just a little "punched in the stomach"-feeling about it now or is it going to affect the whole session?

 

hell, my go-to guy has admitted he has about five kids with five different women

[LaffingBear]

Geez... all my responses are taken.

 

I hate when that happens.

[rvwnsd]

Count me in the "I don't see why it matters" column.

[+ ArVaGuy]

Escorts have private lives.

 

I know several guys who have kids and/or are married to women. One of my favorites has a wife and I suspect he will have a child sooner or later. He’s still a damn good provider and great bottom.

 

One popular Brazilian based in NYC has at least one daughter who has to be high school age by now. He’s also a dentist in his home country. He’s discussed here often and is well known from his porn work.

 

From time to time I’ve learned the private details of a guy either directly from him or by accident. The accidental discoveries have been surprising in some instances such as criminal records and such.

 

If you’re uncomfortable with the fact the guy has a child and it breaks the fantasy aspect of your relationship then perhaps you should move on to someone else. If you’re both having a great time together, what difference does it make? Allow the young man to have his private life. Enjoy your time with him.

[MikeBiDude]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months now. He escorts on the down low. Hot as but gay for pay, which didn’t bother me because we usually do what I wanted to do which is topping him. I have booked to see him again this weekend but today I saw him in public. With a kid in tow. He saw me, gave me a nod and I responded with a nod. I sent him a message tonight asking him about the kid. He admits it is his and that he is co-raising it with a woman he no longer has a relationship with but that they are still friends.

 

When we get together we never talked about our personal lives. Just general chit chat. So now I’m a bit anxious about seeing him this weekend. I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind.

 

What are your thoughts guys?

How could it possibly matter?

[+ sync]

When we get together we never talked about our personal lives. Just general chit chat. So now I’m a bit anxious about seeing him this weekend. I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind.

 

Having been seeing him for only a couple of months, I say don't overthink it. If he doesn't bring it up in conversation, I wouldn't.

[+ FreshFluff]

Where's that tradehunter guy when you need him?

[+ azdr0710]

Where's that tradehunter guy when you need him?

 

might be "studchaser" now????? ......(maybe)

[RyanDean]

Let's see: great in the sack; friendly but discreet in public; engaged responsibly in his kid's life; doesn't freak out when a client gets a little nosey...

I'm liking this gent a lot.

[+ tassojunior]

Mine has two. Advice: it gets expensive at Xmas and Bday time. Forget about the kid and don't mention them. Expensive topic.

[Smurof]

are you going to have trouble/difficulty topping him now?......

 

if not, proceed as before.....you knew he was G4P before, right?......

 

this really isn't that weird......are you just a little "punched in the stomach"-feeling about it now or is it going to affect the whole session?

 

hell, my go-to guy has admitted he has about five kids with five different women

I had a co-worker who had 5 kids with 5 different men, and gave them all the last names of the 1 night stand dads! I don't get that at all. At least she knew their last names.

[EZEtoGRU]

When we get together we never talked about our personal lives. Just general chit chat. So now I’m a bit anxious about seeing him this weekend. I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind.

 

What are your thoughts guys?

I'll join everyone else in saying I don't understand what your concern is. You knew he was G4P. With those types there can be girlfriends, wives, and....yes...kids. I wouldn't bring up the issue with him. Why should you? He does have a life outside of providing a service for you. Just enjoy it whilst it's available to you. Have fun!

[bostonman]

I've been with literal dads before, though I don't believe I've ever met any of their kids. However, if I did, I don't think I'd be thrown by that.

 

However, if I can be a bit salacious for a second, there is something just a bit special to me about being intimate with a dad. Like there's an extra strong sense of masculinity involved if it's a guy who has actually impregnated someone. I'm sure I'm not the only guy who's felt that way, but it does feel a bit funny to admit it lol.

[+ Keith30309]

I guess I’d think of it as a demonstration that he has some depth of humanity and a real life... perhaps even an opportunity to connect with him in a more meaningful, rewarding way.

 

I’d never bring up the topic of someone’s family or ask questions but if he were comfortable talking to me about it I think it’d be a nice way to open some emotional doors.

 

I have certain boundaries that are pretty clear in my head and am comfortable talking to a companion about anything outside those as a way for him to get to know me and vice-versus. I assume every companion I meet is the same.

 

If he were my buddy I’d never mention it again but probably be more engaged with him. Just me,

[Dave]

I think one of my clients has a kid.

 

Shit, I even have a kid! Two, actually.

 

Maybe that's why I know what Topinla means when he writes "I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind." It was for me, too.

 

Topinla, many of us are concerned with overpopulation on the planet. I can assure you - you're not alone. If you want to speak with someone about it and don't want to do so while topping him, know that you can always contact me. We can discuss birth control, depletion of precious resources, the reduced mortality rate, vasectomies, or whatever else you want to talk about.

 

And by the way... there's a good chance he's taking birth control with you, so don't worry about becoming a father while you fuck the hell out of that breeder.

[topinla]

Thank you guys for your responses. I shall heed your words and never mention it again when we see each other this weekend.

[LookingAround]

Guys—-some of the board darlings (escorts) have told me about their kids. One told me (at the time) his son was 10. No big deal. So what?

[+ E.T.Bass]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months now. He escorts on the down low. Hot as but gay for pay, which didn’t bother me because we usually do what I wanted to do which is topping him. I have booked to see him again this weekend but today I saw him in public. With a kid in tow. He saw me, gave me a nod and I responded with a nod. I sent him a message tonight asking him about the kid. He admits it is his and that he is co-raising it with a woman he no longer has a relationship with but that they are still friends.

 

When we get together we never talked about our personal lives. Just general chit chat. So now I’m a bit anxious about seeing him this weekend. I don’t want to bring it up but I know it will be at the back of my mind.

 

What are your thoughts guys?

I'm surprised he shared such personal info with you via text, how you've only hired him during the last two months, yet he comes back with such personal info about his non-traditional parenting strategy including details about two other people, to someone that he really doesn't know all that well, I assume. Apparently being a father isn't something he is overly concerned about sharing with clients. Or maybe it is just easier to be honest about things, and hope people don't spread his personal stuff all over town.

 

That said, what is your problem with him being a dad? You never really said why you are anxious. What is making you so anxious?

Edited November 15, 2018 by E.T.Bass

[+ WilliamM]

I'm surprised he shared such personal info with you via text, how you've only hired him during the last two months, yet he comes back with such personal info about his non-traditional parenting strategy including details about two other people, to someone that he really doesn't know all that well, I assume. Apparently being a father isn't something he is overly concerned about sharing with clients. Or maybe it is just easier to be honest about things, and hope people don't spread his personal stuff all over town.

 

Is this a more personal relationship than you realized @topinla? After all, you are topping him a lot!

[topinla]

Is this a more personal relationship than you realized @topinla? After all, you are topping him a lot!

 

You know what @WilliamM you could be right on this. I have not thought about it that way. But I am paying him for his time so in a way it is a business relationship than a personal one.

[big-n-tall]

A few of the providers I see have kids and some were or are married to women.

 

The ones I'm closest with even tell me regularly about their kids. Hell, I've bought the kids presents some years.

 

As everyone stated, it's no big deal.