Keep from falling. Escorts please help

[Floridasexman]

Need some advice from experienced escorts

How do I keep from falling for my provider

He is my first hire. We spent a day sight seeing a few weeks ago. Of course I paid. No problem.

He was off the clock. We spent the night on the clock. Next morning after breakfast he was gone. We have kept in touch and have a weekend planned in another city. I have arranged for some pretty impressive things to do plus booking in a ***** hotel. After he left by chance I hired a coupled pair of escorts who were dancers. Although the sex was hot I have rarely thought of them since. But the first I think of often. But I know we will never be lovers but maybe friends within the boundaries of the escort world

 

Am I setting myself up for heartache?

[FigureSkater]

I don’t think so. Your initial response to any novel stimuli/experience is always unique. You may just have In some way “imprinted” to him since he was your very first.

[myophile]

I don’t think so. Your initial response to any novel stimuli/experience is always unique. You may just have In some way “imprinted” to him since he was your very first.

 

What FigureSkater said. I didn’t exactly “fall” for my first escort, but I did think about him a little obsessively, and it took two (not terribly satisfactory) additional sessions with him to get him out of my head. In retrospect, “imprint” seems exactly the right term for it.

[+ Keith30309]

Enjoy yourself!

Have fun and allow yourself to fall if that’s what you want to do... overcome the artificial constraints we put around ourselves.

The worst case is that you fall in love... end up with a broken heart... but ultimately have wonderful memories for a time when you don’t have the option.

[FigureSkater]

Enjoy yourself!

Have fun and allow yourself to fall if that’s what you want to do... overcome the artificial constraints we put around ourselves.

The worst case is that you fall in love... end up with a broken heart... but ultimately have wonderful memories for a time when you don’t have the option.

Ah tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

[Floridasexman]

I don’t think so. Your initial response to any novel stimuli/experience is always unique. You may just have In some way “imprinted” to him since he was your very first.

What FigureSkater said. I didn’t exactly “fall” for my first escort, but I did think about him a little obsessively, and it took two (not terribly satisfactory) additional sessions with him to get him out of my head. In retrospect, “imprint” seems exactly the right term for it.

Thanks guys. I think I"ll enjoy our weekend. I'll float the idea of becoming a regular and if it doesn't work out he will miss a trip to Acapulco this winter. I sure there will somebody who will want to escape the cold.

[Guest]

I sure there will somebody who will want to escape the cold.

Yeah, I hear it gets really cold in Fort Lauderdale in January

[Rudynate]

There is one guy who I could imagine as a surrogate boy friend. I find the idea of a paid lover extremely sexy. He is a strong candidate.

[Floridasexman]

There is one guy who I could imagine as a surrogate boy friend. I find the idea of a paid lover extremely sexy. He is a strong candidate.

Good luck. These beautiful men are so easy to enjoy but at the same time i'm sure there are some who would take advantage of a delicate situation.

[Rudynate]

Good luck. These beautiful men are so easy to enjoy but at the same time i'm sure there are some who would take advantage of a delicate situation.

 

 

One word: boundaries

[+ poolboy48220]

Every time I open this thread, I think it's about a client with balance problems.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Just remember, you can set emotional boundaries without becoming bitter and mechanical.

 

That goes for both sides of this equation.

[+ purplekow]

This is a completely different view. Sign off, for now. Your relationship with the subsequent escorts is more appropriate and healthier. If after a month or two, you are still longing for the one that got away, call. He will probably still be around and you will be a bit more experienced and a bit wiser to the ways of the hiring world. He may greet you as an old friend or he may barely remember you. You may want to become a regular or you may think: "Meh, what was I pining over?"

[Floridasexman]

This is a completely different view. Sign off, for now. Your relationship with the subsequent escorts is more appropriate and healthier. If after a month or two, you are still longing for the one that got away, call. He will probably still be around and you will be a bit more experienced and a bit wiser to the ways of the hiring world. He may greet you as an old friend or he may barely remember you. You may want to become a regular or you may think: "Meh, what was I pining over?"

Thanks. Good advice

[down_to_business]

 

Any excuse to drool over Jack Gilinsky

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[Nvr2Thick]

Every time I open this thread, I think it's about a client with balance problems.

 

...or accidentally spilling lube on the floor.

[Bearofdistinction]

Need some advice from experienced escorts

How do I keep from falling for my provider

He is my first hire. We spent a day sight seeing a few weeks ago. Of course I paid. No problem.

He was off the clock. We spent the night on the clock. Next morning after breakfast he was gone. We have kept in touch and have a weekend planned in another city. I have arranged for some pretty impressive things to do plus booking in a ***** hotel. After he left by chance I hired a coupled pair of escorts who were dancers. Although the sex was hot I have rarely thought of them since. But the first I think of often. But I know we will never be lovers but maybe friends within the boundaries of the escort world

 

Am I setting myself up for heartache?

 

Remember this is Business that is pleasurable -- And any other expectations are not realistic - wise - or likely to happen.

[Floridasexman]

Absolutly. It is business. But at the same time. I am good friends with my doctor, my lawyers and others I have business relationships with. But I plan to take this slowly carefully. I despise drama.

[Rudynate]

Absolutly. It is business. But at the same time. I am good friends with my doctor, my lawyers and others I have business relationships with. But I plan to take this slowly carefully. I despise drama.

 

If you don't want to become infatuated, stop feeding the infatuation.

[ChicagoGuy]

Been there, done that and never again. The best takeaway I had is the realization that everything is a decision. I can decide and act accordingly. Look at the big picture. Your time together is just a minute part of each other’s lives and the escort is not the same outside of his job, and so are you. Give it a few more paid dates, then ask to go and hangout outside of an ‘official transaction’. Might work a few times. But in the end both your true colors come out. Have as many focus/foci of affection if I were you.

[BeHappy]

It is easy to be overcome with the excitement of being with someone who makes you feel wonderful!

I have several regulars who I consider very good friends. I would love to spend more time with them!

Sometimes they get jealous knowing you are seeing other escorts!

I have met a lot of wonderful gentleman. Many drop me a text from time to stay in contact!

There is one, that has bloomed to be a very special arrangement. It is something that we will both continue to evolve!

[Rudynate]

Sometimes they get jealous knowing you are seeing other escorts!

 

 

They might be in the wrong business.

[+ José Soplanucas]

They might be in the wrong business.

 

I think they are precisely in the right business. With no intention to offend or attack, I would make a small correction to @BeHappy 's statement. Instead of

Sometimes they get jealous knowing you are seeing other escorts!

 

I would say something like "They are so talented that they even make me believe they are jealous". No exclamation mark.

[Rudynate]

I think they are precisely in the right business. With no intention to offend or attack, I would make a small correction to @BeHappy 's statement. Instead of

 

 

I would say something like "They are so talented that they even make me believe they are jealous". No exclamation mark.

 

 

I decided to leave that unsaid.

[TruHart1]

All relationships between men, sexual or not, whether with escorts or just buddies, are different. Over the time I've been hiring, I've found real friends among the guys I've hired. I've also found guys who are such turn-ons for me in the bedroom that I have no romantic thoughts of relationships or even boyfriend experience expectations --- when I meet with that particular group of guys, I just want to get naked with them and once again experience the over-the-top exciting sex at which they excel!

 

A very few of my regular hires do know exactly how to be true friends AND how to satisfy all of my sexual dreams, too. I keep in touch with those men even when I am not planning on hiring them anytime soon. Most of them also enjoy just hanging out together off the clock, though if they're around, I always pay them for a session or four! I suppose since these few escort friends are closest to me, they might be the men I could fall in love with, yet it has never happened.

 

Since my initial tentative hire, in which my very first escort proved to me that this was the hobby I had been searching for my entire life, (I still see that first escort whenever I can!) I have never had thoughts of "falling in love" with any escort! I know there is a line I would never presume to cross, no matter how close we may become as friends, or how much sex with him satisfies me, simply out of respect for the escort. I love a number of working guys, but I am not "in love" with any of them!

 

TruHart1