KensingtonHomo

I haven’t met providers here (yet) though I’ve been talking to one we’re interested in meeting. A few of us are trying to set up a group situation with some client and providers in NYC. We haven’t been able to align stuff yet, but I’m hoping we can get it together soon.

I haven’t had negative experiences with three out of the five you mentioned, possibly because they gave me blocked. But IMHO Pubic Assistance is the Regina George of the group. I simply see no reason to degrade providers or our fellow members. Isn’t there enough awful in the world for queer people and sed workers without us dragging each other down? There’s a way to give critical feedback about a provider without dehumanizing them or being mean spirited. If you follow my comments you may realize I do not often find the providers the majority of you do appealing. But I do not comment on those posts because you don’t need me to yuck your yum.

It started with the toothbrush, but Anthony said the bathroom was generally pretty gross.

This is really a reach. If you walk into a bathroom that smells of urine, has visible dirt in the floor and the toilet is covered in gunk, you’d say “that’s dirty.

Same here. I have a few regulars with whom I’m also friends on Instagram. But for initial outreach, I always use Burner.

Same here.

It’s good to see this raised. I do appreciate the moderators and know it often feels like a thankless job. In my experience, which is primarily in the Daddy’s Den sections, there are a few guys (and I’ll refrain from naming them) who are consistently mean and nasty about members and providers alike. Their participation here seems to be limited to saying members and providers are ugly, fat, unattractive, etc. Worse, they rarely offer any actual reviews or insight from their experiences. As I tend to call these guys out, I get lots of DMs from more conflict averse members who thank me. Personally, I think any negative commentary about a member or provider’s appearance- not including if someone is older, heavier, using fake pics - should be removed. If a provider is being honest about his appearance, there’s no need to comment on it. Rather we should stick to the quality of service, connection, personal experience, etc. As this Board is anonymous, it’s particularly galling to have members ripping into providers’ appearance. If members were subjected to the treatment they give to providers, I suspect many would crumble. And allowing these members to constantly make derogatory comments about providers appearance reinforces the terrible “beauty” standards that are common in the gay male community. I see guys my age or a few years older express that they feel ugly and undesirable. At a time when our community is under attack, can’t we be kinder to each other?

I have to disagree. If an escort is hosting clients at his home, and that home is dirty, I would like to know that. Some people will not care because the guy is hot. But I would be upset if I went to see someone bsaed on rave reviews here and their place was a pigsty.

Oy, I generally don't yuck anyone's yum, but FinDom as a kink is completely outside my ability to understand. I grew up poor, had to put myself through college, and I won't even gamble. The idea of giving someone money as a source of sexual pleasure (without the actual sex) is like "what?"

Did he have bad breath or did his mouth taste bad? I'm not sure where you think someone should keep his toothbrush outside of the bathroom. I don't have a dog in this particular fight as I don't find him appealing, nor do I think he looks like a model. He looks like one out of every five white guys at 3 Dollar Bill.

No, I don't worry it at all.

My husband and I fell into hiring while on vacation in Spain. The short version is we went to a guy for sensual massages and the session turned into a full-on sex. We had been mostly monogamous up to that point and it was a revelation. So while still on vacation, we decided to hire an escort explicitly. And we had a great time. We're both busy professionals with hobbies, a large friend group, and lots of family nearby. So after returning from Spain, we decided to open up to having sex with other guys together. After a few months of frustration with the apps, we decided to give Rent.men a try. And it was great for all the reasons mentioned above. We're both attractive and in shape (though not muscle guys) and can find guys interested in us on the apps. However, there's all the frustration people have mentioned, we also tend to be hit up by guys MUCH younger than us (which isn't our taste), and there's not the return on investment. We can hire and set up a time that works for both of our schedules, vet the candidates to ensure compatibility, and, with a couple of mediocre exceptions, it's been great for us. In addition to having fun with new and different guys, it's also invigorated our non-hiring sex life.

We’ve seen him. He’s great. You can read more in the linked discussion above.

I generally prefer a trimmed but natural crotch and butt. Completely hairless crotches are a turn off. Since I’m mostly a bottom, I keep my dick and balls trim, but since my butt is only lightly furry I’ve never touched it. I felt like if I started shaving, waxing, etc it would grow in thicker. I’ve had a few very uncomfortable instances of hairy men who had shaved and had significant stubble. It’s like having sexy with a porcupine.

I don't mind if a guy shaves a couple of years here and there, especially if they look the part. But 17-18 years is a bit much.

I'm not interested in perfect chiseled physiques, so if we were seeing a provider who increased their rate by $80, we'd decline. If he said it was because he was much fitter, it wouldn't change our decision.

What a nightmare @RadioRob. Thanks for your hard work and perseverance.

Are you sure you're a millennial?

LOL - When I asked him about it, he said he was aiming to refer to Tom of Finland. He is of Irish descent if you're into that sort of thing. I meant "super hot." He has a partner, and also lives up in the Bronx. He wasn't charging $600 when we saw him. This is a side hustle for him and I've noticed some guys who have another gig charge more since it's not their main income.

This was also the mentality among many white ethnic immigrants before and during WWII. The concept of two men forming an equal partnership due to mutual attraction and love is a relatively recent historical phenomenon. While some interesting historical moments predate WWII - mainly in Europe - what we think of as a gay relationship is largely a post-WWII middle-class phenomenon. George Chauncey's Gay New York is a fascinating historical analysis of how the concept of gay identity emerged from the 1890s through the 1940s.

It depends. Usually, guys who refer to themselves as "total tops" or "Dom tops" are less likely to give oral. Guys who are "vers tops" or just "tops" tend to be orally inclined. But we also live in a world where bottoms eat ass, so if it's not indicated, you're better off asking than being disappointed.

There are some in NYC for sure if you ever head this way.

As I've mentioned before, I will do a nominal deposit - no more than $50 - with a new guy. 6 years into this hobby, I've only had one guy fuck me over. So I don't plead. The guy who fucked me over kept wanting to negotiate for more time, which equaled more money. I know myself and I don't want to spend 3 hours with someone I don't know. That said, I wouldn't say that someone telling you they're busy this weekend equals a lack of interest. It's the summer and people are going on vacation, have family and friends visiting, or are taking breaks from work. The guy we're seeing today is leaving on Wednesday for two weeks. We've seen him a few times so we're friendly enough that he will share that. We had a similar thing a few months ago with another guy; but we're still in contact and likely to see him soon.

Since we hire primarily as a couple, we occasionally encounter this issue. For the most part, I don't see how having two people is more work than having one - arguably, it's less. So, generally, if a provider wants to double their fee for a couple, we move on. And I agree with @JamesB that your friend's prior occupation is irrelevant.

Overall, I think you're an attractive guy. That said, I feel like you have to pick a lane. In photos you're giving a pretty masculine aura, but then you have a pink bra on. Sissies, feminine dress, etc., is a definite niche that some gay men love. But it is a niche and not broadly popular. I recommend that you explore what makes YOU feel the most desirable or sexually powerful. Because that will make you attractive to the people who want what you authentically are. If you adopt a persona because you think it's cool now, it will likely read as phony, and that's not attractive.