KensingtonHomo

Depending on your birthdate, some people start university at 17. I'm just saying to be careful.

I'd check his passport. You don't want to get charged with trafficking.

This may seem harsh, but I find this to be very emotionally immature. Our lives are supposed to evolve as we age. If they have side pieces and that's their understanding, I have no issue with that. But any relationship that can be so easily disrupted by some younger guy has at least one person who is shallow and emotionally immature. When I married, I meant my vows. Sadly, we live in a society that encourages people to see themselves as individuals whose transient emotions are more important than fidelity, vows, and doing the work that a multi-decade relationship requires.

😂😂😂 One of us would have to be remotely interested in a romance with another person. We’re not. We hire to spice up our sex life. We have a couple of regulars who we’re friendly with but we don’t even want BFE. Honestly, a grown person leaving their partner for an escort is just a selfish immature asshole.

I feel like there's a way to maintain emotional boundaries without comparing people to take out. I believe I suggested this earlier but is there a reason you're not pursuing a romantic relationship with someone? I'm in a different situation as I'm married and only hire with my husband, so there's no chance or anyone catching feelings. Our hiring happens inside of our marriage not outside of it. But if I were single, perhaps I'd find myself in your situation. However, I love being married and would want that over all the escorts in the world. So perhaps if you were dating someone you'd have those emotional needs met and be less likely to project them onto a provider.

The Google form suggests to me that the massage is not therapeutic and he's monetizing his sex life. Honestly, that's the worst of all worlds. I can understand escorts engaging in more screening, but if you're just providing a massage, is he discriminating based on race, or age?

Your question was provocative. You asked if there was untoward collaboration between providers and the operators of this site. Now you're engaged in "cry bullying", where a simple direct response by a long-time and well-regarded provider is your proof that something untoward is afoot. Personally, I do not find your questions or responses to be in good faith.

I have never seen any favoritism toward providers who regularly post here. In fact, I'd say the moderators are laxer with client members and what they say about providers specifically and in general than I would allow. I've also had disagreements with @BenjaminNicholas and he can be direct - as can I - but I do not see any evidence of an attempt to bully anyone.

I agree with others here who have said you have to move on. It's not healthy for you to continue this relationship. Further understanding their dynamic will not ease your mind or lessen the pain. He made his choice, and - frankly - I cannot see a reason for him to keep engaging you unless it's as a fallback if this doesn't work out, even if he's not doing it consciously and does like you. If you're looking for a partner or someone you can have a future with, it won't be someone you meet through escorting. 65 isn't old even if it's "ancient" in the "gay community." You definitely seem caring, though perhaps you need better boundaries (as do many of us). There are many single men in your age cohort. And as a good looking and successful man, I'm sure you can find someone to be a true companion or partner to you (if that's what you want). Otherwise, you may want to change up how you hire (fewer regulars or clearer boundaries) so you don't get hurt again. I wish you a peaceful resolution to this.

Well, this saved me a lot of trouble.

Bigotry is not truth. I've known many overweight women who have no shortage of suitors. Most straight men prefer women with tits and asses, not rake-thin models. PCOS and other conditions that predispose women to both weight gain and difficulty conceiving are very real, so your comment is both inaccurate and mean-spirited. I will never understand how a gay man who lives in NYC in 2024 can still harbor such ugly beliefs.

Part 1. 1. 90 percent of the time. The 10 percent where I don’t is bc it was as a bad to lackluster experience. But I will discuss my experience here. 2. Rarely, if significant time has past. Again, more likely to discuss regulars here. 3. Friendly demeanor. Meeting expectations discussed. Overall good experience. 4. Rarely. I usually bring it up. 5. Assuming #3 is true, either as we say goodbye or in a post-text to say they enjoyed our time together. If the session wasn’t good or they didn’t meet their obligations, it’s foolish to ask me for a review. We saw someone in April who was far less endowed than claimed, less muscle than his photos, and never got hard. Unless you’re being hired to bottom, not getting hard is a problem. And he claimed smoking weed would get him hard so he left and fam back stoned. It didn’t improve. And we planned this in detail - and he assured us he was vers - so why he wouldn’t pop a viagra before the visit is beyond me. 6. No 7. To my knowledge, they’re all posted, 8. I think with some guys a rave review translates into their enthusiasm to see us again. But it doesn’t change how I feel about it. 9. No 10. I do think they should be able to respond. Because some clients can be assholes. For removal, I think the escort should have to prove the author is being dishonest (e.g. RM should require the author to provide some evidence like a text thread.) Part 2 1: I only read reviews if their profile interests me. 2. I look for consistency. Do the reviews tell a story about the provider giving a good experience, is their consistency in the client experience, and I look at pricing. 3. Pretty important. I generally won’t meet someone who has no reviews on RM and no discussion here. We’ve done it a couple of times and the experiences were subpar. Unless somebody is new to the business, why no reviews? And since we’re not interested in guys under 30 or anyone inexperienced, being new is a red flag. 4. The number is less important than the consistency. I also look to see if the guys who left the reviews have done so for others. I put more value on a single review from someone who had reviewed 20 guys than four reviews from 4 different guys where it’s their only review. 5. See 3 and 4 above. 6. Not that I can recall. 7. If all their reviews are from one person or people who haven’t left any other reviews. If they have 100 5 star reviews, I suspect they’ve gotten any below that removed. 8. See 4 and 7. 9. Yes and yes. 10. Prefer questions to stars, but nothing beats narrative. 11. I find people on CoM are more direct and more likely to share the good and bad.

Jesus. If I ran across someone I knew on RM, I’d probably block them so we’d both maintain our privacy. If it was a close friend, I’d probably say I stumbled across their profile and they could count on my discretion.

OMG, that’s horrible. I realize calling the police in this situation might put you at risk. As an SA survivor, I’m so sorry this happened to you.

I’ve been on Ozempic since last August, I’ve lost nearly 50 lbs . I stayed on 1 mg (the lower clinical dose) because I wanted to lose slowly - 1 lb a week. I didn’t want my skin to be flabby or look gaunt. So far; I have very little loose skin; most of it has snapped back really well. Not only did it suppress my appetite, it removed my compulsive eating. Prior to Ozempic, I was running 3 days a week and boxing once a week. I was eating well and within a normal caloric range but I could not stop late night eating. I did therapy, hypnosis, etc. Nothing worked. For those saying “just stop eating so much”, please do some research. We didn’t go from having 5% of the adult population overweight in the 1950s to more than 50% now bc half of people lost willpower. No, it’s mostly agricultural policy and FDA’s lax regulation of food that is very bad for us. And designed to be addictive. I just started back to strength training, and I’m going to see how I do over the next 3-4 months. If I get where I want to be, I’ll probably lower the dose.

What a nasty misogynistic comment.

The OP said he has another career that has a code of ethics, not that escorting does. That said, no one is owed another person’s labor or complicity in subterfuge. A lot of professionals use their discretion in who and what they will work on. I certainly do. I will no longer attend conferences held in states that have passed anti-queer legislation or outlawed abortion. Nor will I spend my dollars there by vacationing in them. Other people feel differently and that’s fine.

Now that we’ve had at least one president who paid hush money to a sex worker, perhaps we can dispense with this stigma. Barney Frank had an entire rent boy scandal that barely cost him anything. He’s rich and welcome in “polite” society. I don’t think any provider should engage in a gig where they’re uncomfortable but the request is fine. From the client perspective, I think hiring someone you’d seen a few times at least would be better.

For me, this would be the end of the discussion. I know some guys are into it and good for them, but if someone rimmed me without me being freshly showered, I wouldn’t be able to kiss them or probably even have their face next to mine. I am very sensitive to scents and anything described as “ripe” from ass to fruit will make me either nauseated or give me a pounding headache.

Chiming in to say that most big cities are as safe or safer than mid sized or small cities. NYC is incredibly safe, and I’m a very visible queer person who is almost never concerned about my safety.

These are not comparable. And you doubling down on Drowned’s proposition is 🤢

No one cares that you said the word “ghetto.” It’s a word that has many meanings. It’s the context and the belittling of Juneteenth that is offensive. And you absolutely should care that your thinking is a decade old.

This is not the right lesson to take from this experience. You zipped past so many red flags where this guy was concerned. Your relationship with him started as a business transaction not as an offer of help. You then tipped and otherwise paid him more than his rate, and gave him money unrelated to the professional relationship. The moment he said “it’s been a slow month”, I would have pulled the ripcord. That’s when it moved from you being a generous client who enjoyed his company outside of work to a kind of sugar daddy. I think @Rod Hagen had a good analogy with friends who are in other professions. I had a friendly relationship with our primary doctor for nearly 20 years. We shared meals and social gatherings, donated to each other’s causes from time to time, and so on. But just as I don’t expect him to treat me for free, it would be equally inappropriate for him to tell me his practice was struggling and ask for money. When I’ve had friends who were struggling financially, I’ve often treated them to dinner or another experience that they couldn’t afford but I’ve never lent or given someone rent money. And if I did give that money, I would assume I’m never seeing it again.

This is one of my favorite exaggerations. Assuming one averages 100 guys a year - which is two a week - it work take a decade to reach 1,000. And probably 30 years to reach thousands.

Plus the guys are mostly not very good looking. It seems anyone can sign up.