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KensingtonHomo

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  1. Since you're a provider, I will take your word for your experience. I do not expect a provider to comment on my appearance. I'm just letting them know what I look like so when I buzz their apartment, they'll know it's me and not the Amazon delivery guy. Based on many regular posters here, your first concern about people assuming a complimentary provider is disingenuous seems very real. I'm not an ego maniac but I'm very confident that I am conventionally attractive. The second concern seems odd because I don't think someone genuinely complimenting a potential client is unprofessional. If a hairdresser said, "Wow, you have very thick hair", I'd think that was nice but also irrelevant. Regarding your third concern, I think the best response would be, "Thanks for sharing the photo; I look forward to meeting you." But it does seem that some people on here are convinced that you and other providers are disgusted by most of your clients. No provider can win over someone with that mindset.
  2. No experience but the spot above his pubic area looks like a scar/keloid.
  3. You need a VPN and then to choose a country (I used Switzerland) where escorting is legal.
  4. Same here. I think it's odd to expect anyone to show up at your door or let you into their home sight unseen.
  5. Per hour, most therapists are cheaper than an escort.
  6. This is really a matter for your therapist. Because if you're in bed with a skilled lover as you say, you're likely preventing yourself from finishing due to your own psychology.
  7. No thanks. I’d rather people have bodily autonomy.
  8. Having seen Wagner recently, I think @edinbrooklyn means he’s kinder and sweeter than his muscular, tattooed rough appearance.
  9. I don’t think there’s any sociological evidence to support this point of view. Arguably it’s the opposite. The sex work and workers who are targeted by law enforcement are usually poor or working in marginalized communities. The former president of the US is on trial for paying off Stormy Daniels to keep their transaction a secret. Trump and his ilk employ sex workers all the time with zero accountability. Legalization would end the harm that occurs to sex workers due to criminalization, recognize that people have been paying for sex and companionship since civilization, and allow law enforcement to focus on people being trafficked.
  10. I was not in my 20s in the 70s but I was very grateful to my predecessors who fought for that first nondiscrimination laws, who founded GMHC and ACT UP, who created and entire culture and when I was in high school and college were bearing the brunt of the AIDS crisis. Honestly, it’s even more disrespectful for young queers today to lack appreciation when the information is so readily available. And the rising tide of anti-queer fascism is cutting our rights off left and right in many states. So the kids should wake up before they find themselves in a pre-Stonewall situation just like we’re in a post-Roe situation.
  11. This is a terrible analogy. First, lots of queer men from every generation have raised children. Several of my friends (Gen Xers) have children, biological, step and adopted. Second, younger people in a marginalized community should be grateful to their forbearers. Should African Americans take MLK for granted? Third, me and most of my friends are very grateful to our parents for what they did for us. Sure, we had bratty moments as teenagers but as an adult - whether you're a parent or not - you realize how much your parent(s) provided you with love, security, mentoring, etc. Lastly. as a non-parent, I see a lot of parents in my generation doing an absolutely shit job and raising little entitled narcissists. That's not "natural." That's just bad parenting.
  12. We see a bi provider whose partner is a woman and also a sex worker. He told us that her vetting process is extensive: MrNumber search Asks for references from other escorts No face pics Non-negotiable 50% deposit (and her rates are three times the average gay escort) And there's some stuff I can't remember. I'm not saying we should feel bad for straight guys hiring but, for me, it helps to have a broader sense of the field.
  13. I don't have anxiety but I do my best to ensure I'm pristinely clean before engaging.
  14. This is so true. It's why I - as bottom - do not rim most guys I have sex with because tops don't know how to keep their asshole clean.
  15. Herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphillis, HPV, etc..
  16. I sympathize with your fears. It took me a long time to tame mine. Similar to @BaronArtz I approach sex as if everyone has every STI. So I do what I'm comfortable with. I'm not particularly scared of getting most STIs (though I never have) because I'm tested regularly and they're all treatable. If I'm going to bareback, I use PreP or condoms. I have two concerns with your point of view. One, is that you're denying yourself sex because of irrational fear. That's not good for you. There's no evidence of HIV being transmitted due to a cut in someone's mouth. HIV is actually a relatively hard infection to get - compared to chlamydia or giardia. So maybe you could talk to a counselor who will make you feel more confident. Second, HIV stigma is very real and very harmful to people living with HIV. We need to fight it internally and as a community. I know this is particularly challenging for those of us who are over 40 because we saw an entire generation decimated. But from PreP to ART, HIV is no longer a death sentence. And giving into irrational fear is harmful to ourselves and our community. By all means, use condoms, take PreP, what have you, but try to end the stigma.
  17. Is this about hiring or attraction in general?
  18. A preference is not an aversion. Preference is “a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.” I prefer men who are clean shaven but I also find some men with facial hair attractive and the presence of well groomed facial hair would not deter me from a guy. Aversion is a strong dislike or disinclination. I have an aversion to men with very long, unkempt beards. I do not find them attractive, even if they are otherwise handsome. Another non-age example is I prefer men with chest hair but I also find smooth guys attractive. But I have an aversion to men who shave their bodies because I find it very uncomfortable to have sex with someone who has stubble all over their body. Generally, I prefer men who are taller than me but I’m not averse to men who are shorter than me if I otherwise find them attractive.
  19. LOL—the guy who ridicules anyone who isn't extremely fit and 25 saying I'm being "prejudicial" is the funniest thing I've read all week. Thanks for the laugh. Again, we're not talking about a preference. We're talking about people who are either averse or completely uninterested in people their own age. Whatever someone thinks about guys in their 60s or 70s is what he thinks about himself.
  20. I read the reviews on their profile, looking for consistency and checking if the people leaving the reviews are legit. For example, have they reviewed other providers? If they have a link to their socials, I'll take a look at those as well. Then, I'll search for them on here and consider those accounts. I'm really looking for an overall picture that is consistent. I'm not really worried about danger, particularly if the provider has a decent history and shows his face, gives me his phone number, etc. From there, I ask questions to get a sense if it's a fit. Honestly, I think Grindr might be more risky.
  21. Someone put it very well above - yes, most people express preferences but there's quite a bit of aversion expressed on here. Oddly, it's not from younger provider men or providers. It tends to be men averse to those of their own age.
  22. THIS! And one cannot be averse to or even just not attracted to someone their own age without some degree of self-hatred. That said, I don’t think this is a personal flaw. We are besieged by endless messages that only men who are super fit, under 30, and mostly white or white adjacent are attractive. This shows up in most if not all of us. We can try to be more open, rather than naturalize it. I’m middle aged and I generally find men around 35 to 65-70 attractive. Of course, it depends on the man and a lot of other variables but I’d generally prefer a 60 year old to a 25 year old.
  23. Not yet. The timing hasn’t worked out.
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