KensingtonHomo

Welp. He canceled on us. Said he was under the weather but I kind of feeling like he got a client closer to where he's staying. Because he was confirming every detail until 2:30 pm for a 7 pm appointment. UPDATE: Luke reached out this morning saying he was feeling better and we may reschedule. So I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that he was actually ill.

He doesn't seem psychotic. I think he wanted to be caught. He has a very specific message. I imagine the court proceedings will give him the chance to share that.

I sleep with my husband and our dog every night. There's no room for anyone else. Plus I don't really want to have sex three times in twelve hours. And I'm not a great sleeper, so you'd not want to share a bed with me.

My husband likes to watch as do I. And sometimes we schedule massages where we can watch and join in.

There’s something about him I find appealing.

Seeing him tomorrow night. Will let you know how it goes.

With all the time you're on here complaining about flakey clients, I'm stunned that you're literally advising people to dump someone they had an appointment with because their regular is available. And you're apparently talking to multiple guys in your personal life and ready to dropped most of them if one comes through. This mentality is exactly why clients think they can leave providers hanging. You have zero right to complain now.

I'm generally sympathetic to you but this comes as an intentional misreading of the situation. They agreed to a time and confirmed it. Then when Ali followed up, he was ghosted. In that situation, trying to find someone who is free is totally understandable. I suspect if he said he canceled that night when he realized his regular was available, you'd be mad about that. You seem to want to this provider paid for an appointment he didn't keep. That's wild.

Yes, after Ken Langone and other wealthy scumbags hired detectives and pursued Spitzer because he was going to put an end to their illegal shenanigans and make them pay taxes.

Sure, people don't want evidence. But I suspect that's more of a guilty conscience than a real legal threat. An electronic funds transfer that says "Sunday" between two people can be chalked up to so many things that are not illegal. How would a prosecutor begin to prove that your transfer was for sex? And most sex work related arrests are related to wanting to "clean up" at part of a city. Being a public figure could be an added threat because enemies may try to use ti against you.

In my view, the deposit is to hold the time so I don't flake on them at the last minute and they miss other business. I knew and told the provider more than two days in advance that I couldn't make the time anymore. If I do that with my trainer, there's no charge because they can give someone else my spot. Whereas a week ago, I overslept and missed my appointment but I still paid them for their time.

I doubt there's a genuine fear about a "paper trail" in terms of legality. People are sending each other money via Venmo, Paypal, etc. for all sorts of things (concert tickets, therapy, personal training, vacation costs). A few hundred dollars isn't going to trigger anything. I suspect the real concern is for people who are stepping out on their "monogamous" partner, which is wrong and you shouldn't do.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is why though I'll pay a deposit, I don't pay the full amount until the session is over.

It sounds like some short term success made him an ass. Having a bad attitude is a total boner killer for me.

Totally agree. I have preferences around shape, girth, direction. An as a bottom, I'm not interested in pushing my limits. I find that 7-9 is my sweet spot, depending on other factors.

I've seen a lot of providers who have partners. In fact, some of them are both sex workers. It does seem to be that you're harboring some puritanical judgment here, which is not unusual for most Americans. I agree that looking into what this bothers you and seeing if it's just a holdover of a value you don't really hold is worthwhile.

Same. I'm always willing to send $25 to lock in an appointment with a new provider. More than that gives me pause, only because I did a larger deposit once and then had to cancel. This was due to a change in business travel beyond my control. I told the provider more than 48 hours in advance that I had to cancel and please return my deposit. He never did, which I've shared here. My advice to @Daniel84 is to institute a modest deposit for new clients and see if it hurts your bookings. If it doesn't and decreases your no shows, then it's worth doing.

No shade but I don't understand this. If i'm not attracted to someone's face, they could have an adonis-like body and I'm not remotely interested. Whereas if they have a face and vibe I'm very attracted to, an average or reasonably fit body is totally fine. In fact, in my experience with providers is the more ripped they are, the less interesting and good in bed they are. Again, I'm not talking about guys in good shape. Rather the guys who look like Men's Fitness models.

I'm totally fine some good pics - body, nudes, etc. on the profile. But I'm not going to meet up with anyone without seeing a face pic. For the reason @BuffaloKyle pointed out. People can have a very attractive body but the face doesn't appeal. And it's not like "oh, his body is a 10 but his face is a 3." It's more like his face isn't attractive to me personally. I can also understand why guys - especially those who escort or massage on the side - don't want their face on their profiles. So I'm find with someone who will share a pic once you've contacted and we're starting to plan to meet up.

If you've met him on Rentmasseur, he's probably been asked about extras before. My advice would be to ask him - maybe in a text if that's more comfortable - if he offers as a more sensual or erotic version of his massage. Usually, when I schedule, I emphasize consent. I say that I want to make sure we're both comfortable and don't overstep, so please let me know what his boundaries are. Is he open to mutual touch, he, oral, etc?

This is why I prefer paying electronically. That way if I want to give a bigger tip, I can. If the session was "meh", I can pay just the agreed upon rate.

I'm not sure I'd say most escorts are "mediocre" but there's a large degree in variability. In my experience, the best escorts are those who have chosen it as their profession. Maybe they started off due to circumstance but at some point, they began to really enjoy their work. The care about their clients - not in a romantic way - but in the sense of wanting the experience to be top tier. They seem to really love sex or giving massage, so you never get the sense that they're phoning it in. My one caveat is that with very few exceptions, these guys will be in their 30s or older. I have met one or two guys in their 20s who had that vibe.

If I’m traveling, I like around 9 or 10 so it will help me sleep. Home I like late afternoon or early evening for massage and escorts. It’s when I’m feeling my best - I’m ready to bottom if that’s on the menu - and then I be can have dinner. Also, providers tend to have a lot of energy and particularly if it’s a massage; I don’t need them to cum.

This is rich from you. You can write endless negative commentary about providers, fellow posters but you draw the line at someone make the most obvious statement about a rich person - Edited by moderator to remove political reference.

I think many of my fellow hobbyists are overthinking this. I'm middle aged but look about a decade younger than my age. In my conversations with providers, those with any real experience are not worried about age at all. Their biggest concerns are respectful interaction, treating them well and - this is frequently stressed- excellent hygiene. Chemistry is unpredictable. If I enjoy a provider's company - even just in the greeting and saying goodbye - I am more likely to see them again. And those who enjoy my company (or ours if I'm hiring with my husband), tend to follow up or reach out. Is that intimacy? Sometimes. I have a couple of regulars who I care about but as I do my hairdresser or doctor. But perhaps being married and not interested in romance with anyone else, I'm less likely to "fall" for a provider.