Jamie21

The pictures are a menu offering, like in a cheap restaurant. You point to the picture of the masseur mounting the table or whatever one takes your fancy and say ‘I’ll have that please’. Note there may be small print somewhere in his T’s& C’s that says ‘pictures are a serving suggestion…’

I agree with @NYXboy, I don’t know any sexually active gay guy who isn’t on Prep (unless they can’t take it for medical reasons). In my country (UK) Prep is free and I get a test every 3m to make sure it’s not causing me any side effects. If you’re serious about protection then it makes sense to be on Prep, and to understand its effectiveness. I assume clients want bareback sex if penetration is on the agenda, whether they’re being top or bottom. Bareback is therefore the default. Occasionally guys have wanted me to use a condom but usually those guys are married and seeing me discreetly do they don’t want to take any risks. If the session is just oral or anything like that I’ve never been asked to use a condom.

I’ve been doing sex work for about 8 years. Not full time. It’s too difficult to do full time in terms of energy, security and health. I think it’s a great job.

I prefer it if clients don’t give me an ending… it’s really not necessary. Some guys can’t suck very well, some are unskilled at hand jobs and some are just a bit too ‘grabby’ but the main reason is I’m not doing it for my own sexual gratification. I’m interested in getting you off. I’ll often get hard but it’s not necessary for me to cum especially if I’ve got more clients because I want to keep the energy.

Yes of course it is. It would be a grim job if there wasn’t any pleasure in seeing clients. I sometimes think ‘wow, I’m being paid for this’. I do think that to do the work one has to be predisposed towards being comfortable seeing and being intimate with all sorts of clients. If you don’t do this kind of work you likely never discover that attraction can be found in a much wider variety of people than you think. I have learned that if I am prepared to look for it I can really find things that are attractive in people who I wouldn’t have thought I’d be attracted to. I think that doing the work broadens your understanding of human attraction so if a sex worker pays you a compliment and acts on it then you should take it as genuine.

The key is that full sex should not be expected by the hirer when hiring a sensual or erotic masseur. As for what’s included in the massage as ‘standard’ you should ask the masseur. I include things like oral and kissing as standard but many don’t so it’s incumbent on the hirer to ask. For many clients though the interest in hiring a sensual or erotic masseur (apart from receiving a great massage) is the possibility and unknown about what might happen. That’s exciting and adds a frisson to the session. I do have sex with some clients because that’s just how the session developed. But as soon as a client wants the guarantee of full sex when they book the session then I am going to tell them that the rate is different (if I’m willing to do it atall). Clients expecting/demanding full sex for the price of a massage are unrealistic and will be disappointed.

The best rule is no compulsion for anyone on anything. All you need to know, or ask your partners is what they definitely don’t want. If anything else is optional for anyone then no participant feels an obligation to do anything. That’s the best way for everyone to have a good time.

First time a client called me ‘daddy’ it was a shock. It happened at a delicate moment during the session and he said ‘breed me daddy’. I was so surprised by it that his request almost immediately became impossible for me 😂. It’s a big shock. Now of course I embrace it but the first time it’s like having a bucket of cold water poured over your head. The main off putting thing now is when guys say ‘babe’ or ‘girl’ such as ‘you go girl’ or refer to my bum as my ‘pussy or they use other feminine words’. I’m not female!

Good ones don’t care. Tell them in advance. The ones that are good will reply with something like ‘it doesn’t matter what you look like, it matters how you behave’. The bad ones will either ignore you or be evasive. Then you’ll know which to book won’t you. I see all sorts of clients for massage and more escort style work. Some are old, some disabled, some have scars, some are big, some are skinny. It really doesn’t matter except for practical purposes (like will you fit on my massage table, have you got any conditions or injuries I need to know about). As for what you look like, it’s immaterial. I care most about will you turn up, will you be respectful, will you participate and enjoy yourself. Go for it. Anyone who declines your business because of what you look like isn’t a real provider. If you find someone you’re comfortable with you’ll find your confidence grows each time you see him.

I’m willing to give it a go for the right fee. Just saying…..

Hire a masseur that does that kind of massage. I guess if you’re in the US or some other country where sex work isn’t legal you’ll need to be a little more intuitive when looking for the signs: is he topless in his advertising?, does he describe the massage using words like ‘erotic’, ‘sensual’, ‘arousing’ and does he refer to leaving you feeling ‘satisfied’? In my adverts it’s explicitly clear that my massage includes sexual activity and that they can interact with me because where I work it’s legal, yet clients still ask me when booking about how far that goes in terms of mutual touch and what they can do to me. It’s best to check that when booking if possible although as I said he might not want to be explicit in writing for legal reasons. If you book a licensed massage therapist working at a spa or hotel it’s very unlikely any kind of happy ending will happen because it’s in breach of their license. Don’t do anything that initiates sexual activity and don’t ask. I think it’s actually quite disrespectful towards the therapist to ask or initiate that kind of thing in a therapeutic massage situation. So if you want a massage that includes full body and intimacy then book a guy who specialises in it.

I have a heated table. I also cover the client with a warm towel at the start (it doesn’t stay on but it’s good at the start). I warm the oil too. If the client wants to keep their socks on that’s fine too, you can still do a decent foot massage through socks. I think it’s important for the room to be warm because we’ll both be naked. There’s some medical conditions that cause cold hand / feet (e.g. Reynaud’s) so get it checked out.

Sounds like you need a written invitation! He was coming on strong….you should have followed him. Don’t worry about your accent, all you need to do is get down on your knees. You can’t speak when your mouth is full.

I find these tend to get arranged on Sniffies app. Guys book a hotel room, advertise their presence and that they’ll be taking loads, and then of course they wait in the room, ass available and receive the loads. Usually they have a buddy available to make sure the tops are organised. You don’t want them to hang around after shooting, or to take too long, or to cause a commotion in the hotel. The rule is, turn up, wait in line if necessary, get yourself close, and then ensure you dump it in him and then leave. I’ve done a couple of these (hired as the buddy to a bottom and to leave the first load to get him started). It’s important to find a good location, advertise it, and of course be patient. Alternatively you can sign up to be a mare at a horse fair event.

Yes, I have a standard reply and adapt it to fit their questions. It definitely matters how I reply because I want to give them a good impression that I’m reliable and professional. Some clients just ask ‘hey I saw your ad’ or even worse ‘hey’… I don’t bother to send much of a reply. Those guys are usually not serious. I’m amazed at the number of guys who just go quiet after I’ve replied: them: ‘Hey’, me ‘Hello’, them……nothing. What are these guys doing? Checking my number is real? Does a reply freak them out? Or those who ask about a date & time, I reply with a ‘yes I can do that’…and then I hear nothing back. What’s that about?

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client.

Ok as someone who is a provider and performer in porn let me give my perspective: It can happen, and be quite unexpected. It’s certainly happened to me on occasions when I’ve been with clients and when making porn. We’re all human and can have off days (or just be tired from a sequence of clients). It’s also happened with guys I was filming with when they couldn’t get hard. It’s actually more common than you might realise, especially with guys who have sex professionally. I know guys who inject their cock with trimix before a film shoot because they want to be sure of getting hard. The most important thing is to understand how best to react to it if the guy you hired isn’t hard. You shouldn’t make an issue of it. Try something different, do some massage or stretching together, focus on touch, intimacy and breathing. You’ll find as soon as you remove the expectation that he should get hard then more than likely he will get hard. But if you make a big issue about it then you can be 100% sure it isn’t going to happen.

Oh yes! I feel like replying with ‘not really into sex or anything, I like having a chat and cup of tea, maybe play dominoes? You?’ I mean I appreciate the sentiment, he wants me to have a good time …but honestly you’re hiring me… it’s not about me having a good time. If you’re having a good time then so am I. If he has an unusual kink or something then yeah maybe I do need to know that but if it’s that niche and it doesn’t say on my adverts that I’m into it then maybe the best advice is to hire a guy who has that kind of thing in his repertoire rather than get someone who’s offering something else to do it. It’s like shopping in a hardware store for groceries. It probably won’t work.

Guys complaining about generic responses or the provision of links to websites etc perhaps need to consider how difficult it is to reply in detail to questions like ‘what’s included?’ and ‘when are you free’ or even questions like ‘full service?’ (What are you? A car in need of an oil change?) when they get asked so frequently. I have all the info on my website, so I just say ‘please look at my website for details and ask if you have any questions’. Yet I still get questions about things that are clearly discoverable on the website! But there is a good reason to not engage in too much discussion. The reliable clients who will turn up do their homework and just send a message like ‘hi Jamie I’d like to book 90m at 3pm on x date’. They book in advance, they have a definite date and time and they know all the details. I’m 99% confident they’ll turn up. Those who say ‘hey where are you?’ or ‘how much does it cost?’ or something similarly diffident then I think ‘he’s not vested in booking, it’s not likely to happen’. Sure enough, these guys don’t tend to book, they just like the chat.

I do it in London. It’s great. Especially a room full of guys in Happy Baby pose.

Best fast bowler of all time…..what’s he doing in Montreal? Oh! It’s a different guy…😂

If I do an out call and say the client books an hour I always go over the hour. In my head I just schedule 90 mins for an hour’s booking. I like to arrive a few minutes early, and then build in plenty of time when ‘time is up’ because you can’t just up and leave on the spot. So an hour’s session last up to 90m by the time I’ve got out of their place. It sounds like the OP hired a guy who’s not really taking the job seriously. Caveat emptor is the relevant phrase…

Proper sensual massage doesn’t need to include a happy ending and to call it a ‘happy ending’ is wrong too. If there is a climax it doesn’t have to happen at the end. It’s best if there’s plenty of time after a guy climaxes for continuation of the massage to bring him back down again gently. Head massage and feet massage are great after climax. Rub and tug guys do a perfunctory massage, then grab and grope at your bum and cock in a rush to get you off. They call it a sensual or erotic massage 🙄. It’s nothing of the sort. In a proper sensual massage the masseur and the client are fused together as if they are inhabiting the same body. Their breath aligns, the masseur moves seamlessly through the sequence like it’s a dance. There’s no separation between massage and ‘happy ending’ because the whole thing is erotic not just the last 5 minutes. That’s why I think guys who’ve done therapeutic massage sometimes get it wrong: they do a therapeutic massage and tag on a hand job and then charge sensual rates. You have to think of a sensual massage as a seduction from before the client even gets on the table. Work their brain as well as their body.

I’m thinking it’s more about their partner, and so are they! Also, people are very quick to say the government is incompetent in most things yet seem absolutely confident that the government has the organisation, coordination and will to listen in to some random guys call with an escort! The government isn’t interested. At least ours isn’t because sex work is legal here. I’m sure they have other more important things to worry about.

I answer calls. I’ve a few regular clients who prefer to book via phone. These guys tend to be the older ones who are ‘old school’. However, it is inconvenient because often I won’t be able to answer, so it’s a missed call. Guys tend not to want to leave voice messages. So much easier to simply text or WhatsApp and I’ll respond when I’m able to. I think the other reason some guys like a call is because they can ask questions they’d be reluctant to put in a text!