Jamie21

Agree. I wish clients would be more comfortable asking for what they want. But I also see it as my job to find out by exploring, which actually makes for a more interesting experience for both and can lead to some unexpected discoveries.

I had always assumed (when younger) that around 8 inches was average. My experience was mostly from watching porn so of course most of the hard cocks I saw were the large variety, and that mine was the same. I didn’t realise that the average cock is about 5 inches. Now that I’ve done lots of market research so to speak I know that 8 inches is average for porn. Had I known this at school I’d have made a different career choice. I can’t help thinking my careers advisor at school missed an opportunity: Careers advisor “so what interests you and what skills do you have?” Me “I like guys and I have a big cock”. Careers advisor “have you thought about porn?” Me “hmm I was hoping to be a pizza delivery guy or a pool boy but yeah porn sounds fun”. Of course I found my way to making porn / sex work eventually, but it was a missed opportunity!

You’ll probably find that those who do sex work aren’t representative of the general population in terms of cock size.

My massage rate includes activities like fellatio, rim, kiss etc. Clients ask for these things and I tell them it’s included in the rate. Ok so some activities are extra but not things like those I mentioned. I think many masseurs would consider those activities are more escort type work which I think is a fair point. I don’t think there’s a clear delineation.

Thank you for that! It made my day 🙂 Jamie x

I don’t mind clients asking for intercourse and I wouldn’t say it never happens (as in sometimes someone gets fucked) but for me there’s two issues with that. The first is most masseurs aren’t charging rates that are high enough to include intercourse and the second is that some clients only want intercourse. If you want a sex session book an escort. A masseur will focus the session on massage. As for including kissing and fetishes I would say it varies by masseur. I like to include kissing because I think it’s a natural part of a sensual massage but only if my client wants it. For some it’s just too intimate. Fetishes are also fine; I’ve had clients who like a bit of role play, being restrained, use of toys (dildos etc), having their ass smacked or their balls squeezed etc. All of these can be incorporated into massage. The key is that they are all set around a massage and not just a sex or bdsm session in isolation.

Here’s the clues to help you identify the escorts dabbling in massage. Usually at least one or more of these signs means he’s not going to give you a decent massage: He’s using baby oil. None of his pics feature a massage table The rate has lots of menu pricing options The rate is ‘ask me’. He’s available within an hour’s notice He offers half hour massage He needs a picture of you to book a session None of those in isolation is a sure thing rub and tug (except baby oil) but 2 or 3 of them means that when you’re on the table (or more likely his bed) after 5 minutes his finger will be up your ass. A proper sensual masseur wouldn’t slip it in until at least 70% of the session time has passed 😉

Hire in the UK! No difficulties here about asking for sexual services. His phrase “Most of my body” can be replaced by “my cock is used in the massage” here so that no one; client, masseur or police officer (who in some instances is the client) shall be in any doubt about it being that kind of massage.

You can’t offend him by asking what activities are included in his massage. If there’s legal reasons why he might be careful to explain what’s included then that might explain why he’s quoted escort prices and said he uses ‘most of his body’. So keep that in mind. But you can’t offend so don’t worry about that.

I’m not disputing these things, I don’t hire so I don’t know from experience but I do work in the industry so I recognise this kind of behaviour can easily happen. The business attracts a number of chancers who are looking to earn easy money. But you as a client can go some way to protect yourself from it by being a bit sceptical when you see an advert that looks too good to be true. The signs are all there…he’s new, the pics are all amazing, his responses by text etc are unprofessional….don’t hire these guys.

Definitely this! Don’t rush it. If I’m filming a movie and I’m bottoming then I douche with a shower attachment a few hours beforehand until the water runs clear. Then half hour before filming I use a bulb to make sure it’s all ok. Even then sometimes if we’re doing lots of positions and the top is hung then there might still be a bit of mess unfortunately. Nothing too bad but just enough to stop, clean up and carry on. If I’m seeing a client and he’s said he might want to top then I’ll use a bulb douche half hour before the client visit. Mostly with massage clients the fuck is one position, doesn’t last long and they’re usually not as large as porn models. I really don’t like to be douching too regularly because it’s a pain in the arse, quite literally lol. Much simpler to just top!

If there is one I’d say it’s higher than $400. The rate someone is prepared to pay relates to their perception of value. Some people would pay > $400 because that gives them access to something others can’t afford. It gives the client exclusivity, they can tell themselves they’re worth it. So for that client it’s not so much ‘fuck you’ (although of course literally it will be fuck you) but more like ‘fuck those who can’t afford what I can afford’. It’s similar with buying expensive watches, cheap watches also tell the time perfectly adequately but the expensive one gives the buyer the cachet of being special. The difference in quality of watch certainly doesn’t justify the price differential but it does keep out the hoi polloi!

He should have titled this post ‘$400 is too much…FOR ME’. Reminder: sex workers price their services according to demand and supply. Want lots of clients? Price low. Want fewer clients? Price high.

I didn’t see it but a guy I had collaborated with saw it and he got it removed.

Be like water.

People have sometimes said very offensive things to me but luckily I chose not to be offended, it’s great! It’s their problem if they meant it to be offensive, not my problem. And if they didn’t mean it but were just being ignorant well that’s not my problem either. They’ll learn. I think this is the best way to look at these things because I realise it’s entirely up to me how I choose to react to anything.

I agree with JFF preventing downloads because what happens is people download content and then share it on torrent sites etc. It harms the producer because they lose income from subscribers. It’s costly to produce good porn, and for many of the models they rely on the income. It’s not expensive to subscribe and for the good producers all of their content is available for subscribers to watch (I know that some do charge to subscribe and then charge to view which isn’t good). So I think overall if you like a guys content then just subscribe and please don’t make copies. If you really want a copy of a particular film you can always ask him to put it in his store (where you can buy the films for download). I’ve got over 100 films on my justforfans and subscribers get access to them all for $10.99 a month. Subscribe for a month and you can watch 3 a day! It’s great value 🙂

I’d say it’s around 8 inches.

Clients contact me with questions, which I answer. I just assume that if they don’t book they didn’t like my answer. It’s no problem, I’m not forcing them to like me or what I do!

There’s no need to say why you’re not booking. Just say ‘thanks I’ll come back to you if I want to book’. Many enquiries just end inexplicably which surprises me…it’s “hi are you free today?, I reply “hi yes I am available between x and x” and then ….nothing! Or even “hi”…to which the only reply possible is “hi” and then it all goes quiet. Very strange.

If you’re talking to someone in the UK (or elsewhere in Europe) there’s no need to be concerned about the legalities of paying for sex. It’s legal here so be clear about what you want. I much prefer clients to get to the point quickly. If clients are coy it’s difficult…. Example: guys ask “how erotic is it?”. I might say “very erotic” but that doesn’t really help us!. He wants to ask something like “will you kiss?” or “will you fuck me? or “can I suck you?” (To which I might answer “I don’t know…can you?”) but he doesn’t because it’s embarrassing or he doesn’t want to offend me. Hey, if you do book a session we’ll be naked together at some point and I’ll see your cum shot face! …so why be embarrassed to ask me a question? And as for causing offence…well I’ve had all sorts of questions so nothing is likely to offend me. I’m in the wrong job if I get offended by someone asking me about sex. So aside from being careful about the legal situation in your jurisdiction I suggest most providers will want you to be very clear about what you want and get to the point quickly. If it’s a masseur who is advertising ‘sensual or erotic’ massage you can be fairly confident that he’s ok to be asked about sexual activity. If he advertises as therapeutic massage only then I wouldn’t ask.

In my experience, as a masseur, clients want a great massage AND the extras. The rate I charge is too much for a massage that doesn’t include any kind of release. Once you’re doing that then there’s not a big difference between that and escorting, it’s simply degrees of different activity. I think if clients want only a massage then RentMasseur is not the place to be looking. But of course you need to be wary of the guys on there who haven’t got a clue about how to do a massage!

Erotic massage begins with E, whereas a Sensual massage begins with S. That’s the main difference…

Ask out straight. I always prefer clients to be straight to the point (asked politely of course) with questions. It’s a relief when someone knows what they want, can ask for it and be respectful about it.

It’s a secret Masseur technique. After years of experience you also learn how to remove your shorts whilst keeping both hands on the client’s body…or at least you think they are hands 😉