Jamie21

Massage therapy! It works not only on the body but also the head and the heart. Truly holistic 🙂

Definitely. I consider that for many clients it’s not the sexual activity that really matters it’s just having someone’s body close to you, some human touch, interaction and a chat and a smile. It’s actually a human necessity, like water, oxygen and food.

It is quite a lot, obviously he enjoys it. 5 of those sessions were with just me and 2 of them were with me and another masseur (a different guy each time) so there was a bit of variety. I also vary my routine so that it doesn’t get too familiar yet still keeps the essence of why he comes back for more (that’s a delicate balancing act). You have to keep things interesting and fresh, even if someone is booking weekly.

OMG…I have one of those. Can’t be the same guy because you and I are on different continents…but maybe my client is his brother or something. He texts every day. At first it was endearing, then it was mildly irritating, then I had to say to him…‘please no more texts!’…we can talk at your session’…but he still sent occasional texts.. I think he’s lonely.

It varies. Some of my regular clients return annually (they live abroad usually). A recent regular has had 7 sessions in the past 3 months. Most of my regulars come between 4 and 6 months. I think it’s important to keep things fresh, especially with sensual massage.

It sometimes happens, not really on technique but just because they’re inexperienced and want to see if they like being with a guy. It’s a way of safely exploring their sexuality. I’m not asked for a score out of 10 afterwards though (nor would I give one). If they enjoyed themselves and got something out of it then great. Sometimes I’ll notice that a client struggles to relax (some people overthink things) so I will make suggestions about how to switch off and just ‘go with the flow’ but I would never critique someone’s sucking technique or anything like that. If they came for massage training (I do one to one classes) then yes I’d give feedback and tips, because that’s part of what they’re coming for. I use a volunteer to be the practice body and I brief that person to give the learner feedback too. I think if they’re coming for a training session then they’d expect to learn things but if they’re coming just to enjoy a sensual massage then it’s best my client leaves feeling great about themselves.

This 100%. If you’re enjoying yourself when you book with me then I’m definitely into you. A virtuous circle. Don’t hire guys who are monetising their sex life. Those are the ones who ask for pics etc.

Oh that’s awkward. At least he told you. I once turned up at an outcall and the guys wife and daughter were there. We go into the room he wanted to do the massage in and his daughter was playing in there. He said to me “don’t worry she’ll go upstairs with her mother”. Throughout the massage I could hear them upstairs. I asked him if he was ok with this and checked that he knew it was a sensual massage (happy ending style, done naked etc) and he confirmed yes all ok. He didn’t even lock the door to the room we were in. I felt quite uncomfortable but as I was there and he seemed fine with it all I went ahead but it wasn’t the most relaxing session (for me at least). He seemed to enjoy it. Paid me a nice tip. Honestly you meet all sorts of people doing this work, I’m constantly surprised.

You know how to suck, j/o, make out with a guy. You know where your cock goes if you want to top him…obviously! So I’d argue you already know how to top a guy, you don’t need to go to a provider to learn it (although I’m available if needed 😂). Being a good top is exactly the same as being a good giver of BJ, kissing or j/o…it’s about being aware of his reactions to what you do and making sure he’s having as much fun as you are. You do that when kissing or sucking him so do same while topping him.

Fabulous…try it.

I do. It’s a natural reaction. Some clients like to touch (or do more) others don’t interact much. It doesn’t matter to me, it’s their massage and my focus is on them and doing what they like.

This has been covered a lot elsewhere, ad nauseam…..but let’s dive in again because new red flags crop up occasionally. Mine are (from the providers perspective) - Endless chat. I have one guy who crops up every few months ‘hi what’s your rate’…’hi can I suck you during the massage’…’where are you’…’how does it work’.. It’s gone on for 5 years. He’ll never book. - Cock pics. Honestly I’ve seen every type of cock. Yours might be lovely but I really don’t care until it visits me ok? - Calls from excited husbands (who are self pleasuring during the call) to book a surprise massage for their partner or wife….”she’d like you to fuck her”… No mate she wouldn’t appreciate that and I’m not doing surprises, goodbye. - A text or message from clients who can’t type more than one word: ‘service’ or ‘massage’ or ‘rates?’. If he can’t be bothered to form a sentence how’s he going to be bothered to visit? - Any enquiry that is ‘hey are you free now / in next half hour’. No, sorry I’m not free at short notice. If you don’t want me to prepare properly you’re probably not visiting for the right reasons. Have a wank it will be cheaper. - The phrase “I’ll definitely book” used during the conversation about services etc. It actually means ‘I’ll definitely think about definitely booking’. The interaction by chat and the booking in their head is all that will ever happen. 90% of clients are fabulous. None of those red flags happen. The other 10% however could take up > 50% of the time if you let them however from experience the red flags are so obvious that you can just cut them off quickly.

Could it be that there isn’t a way of doing that? It’s like saying ‘I really enjoy meeting you….but not so much that I’d do it without compensation’. Kind of awkward when the liaison started out as no conditions on either party. If it starts like that, and both are willing then it’s very difficult to change the terms later on! I think there’s good reasons for having a very clear line between work and hookups / liaisons that you do for fun. When it becomes blurred as in that situation you described someone is likely to get hurt or upset. It’s certainly not easy to do, because one or the other (work / non work sex) tends to get prioritised to the detriment of the other, but I think it is important to try and keep them apart for the sake of one’s own and other’s feelings.

You can’t please everyone @Jarrod_Uncut, some people just behave weirdly in this industry. It’s futile to try and change other people. I think the solution is to change one’s own perspective of the situation. At least 50% of requests I receive go nowhere because calendars don’t align, clients think I’m based somewhere other than where I am or the price isn’t right or some other reason (often they’re just asking because they like the idea of a session but can’t get their head around actually going ahead with it). Some ask questions and then disappear off the face of the earth…not even an ‘thanks but not for me’. All sorts of weird stuff happens such that I simply stop trying to understand or please everyone. If an enquiry turns into a session that’s great, if it doesn’t that’s great too. I get enough business so it’s fine by me.

The challenge with this kind of work is that the opposite situation becomes an issue. What I mean is when you hookup with someone recreationally you can’t help thinking “I’d have charged x for that”…. at least that happens to me and I end up avoiding hookups or regular fuck buddies. For example I have passed up on opportunities for casual fun because I know that tomorrow I have clients and I want to keep my energy for them. It does kind of ruin your sex life!

Hey I loved that comment from my client! As he said it he pulled out a big wad of notes and peeled a few off to pay me. I imagined he was then going to meet his dealer (if there’s a stereotype of someone who’s off to meet his dealer my client certainly wasn’t that….he looked more like he was heading to church on a Sunday!). Great idea. My pricing is on a separate page that clients seem unable to find. I think I’ll put all the ‘deal breakers’ on the home page: Rates, location, availability. So many times the arrangements have progressed a little only for the client to say ‘oh that’s out of my budget’…or, ‘Oh you’re in London? I thought you were in xxx (usually some obscure corner of their home city or town in the US??)’.

Yes it is a fact, absolutely! But some people believe the earth is flat so there’s that…. Dolly is the savviest business person there is, and the most generous benefactor 😍

So sad. He was brilliant. Dame Edna and Sir Les were genuinely fabulous creations.

I think there’s a strong case for some kind of Preferred Client membership club, where we can admit clients who have been pre vetted to ensure that they are suitable to be clients (or in other words aren’t time wasters 🙂). I’m working on the following idea… Dear <name of potential client> Thank you for applying for membership of Provider Prime (just $99 per month!). Approved members (and their members…) will enjoy premium access to our list of exclusive top quality providers, preferential rates, exclusive services and many more benefits including more explosive cum shots, deeper penetration and fluffy towels. Applicants are requested to complete the following steps: 1) Provider Prime undertakes a credit check using credit reference agencies. Please provide your full name and address history for the past 20 years. NO GAPS. 2) Provider Prime takes the safety and security of our providers seriously. Please supply the name and address of two referees (not related to you) who have known you for at least 5 years. One of the referees must be a professional (minister of religion, accountant, doctor, lawyer…your psychiatrist is not acceptable). Please answer the following questions by scoring 1 to 5 where 1 is ‘totally agree, 2 is ‘somewhat agree’, 3 is ‘neutral’, 4 is ‘somewhat disagree’ and 5 is ‘totally disagree’ 1. I shower every day. 🔲🔲🔲🔲🔲 2. I have traveled to more than 2 countries (excluding Canada) 🔲🔲🔲🔲🔲 3. Slip on shoes are not acceptable wear in any situation 🔲🔲🔲🔲🔲 4. A Cappuccino can never be ordered in the afternoon 🔲🔲🔲🔲🔲 5. Dolly Parton’s version of ‘I will always love you’ was much better than Whitney’s (Dolly wrote the song FFS!) 🔲🔲🔲🔲🔲 Please send this form with your remittance for the $499 processing fee to the address at the bottom. Please allow 2 weeks for your application for Provider Prime to be processed. Unsuccessful applicants will not be informed. Application fees are non refundable. Provider Prime reserves the right to vary services. Multiple orgasms, ceiling hitting cum shots, ass destroying penetration and the fluffiness of towels is not guaranteed.

Yes, I do this for a few clients. Usually those who struggle with premature ejaculation. One particular client would climax after 10 minutes laying on his front on the table (all I’d done was some head massage). So we agreed we would start his sessions with me giving him a bj. Then he can relax into it and build up to cum again towards the end of the massage.

Sometimes clients are a bit naive about rates, so the price comes as a surprise and then they say they can’t afford it. It’s just part of the business, I don’t mind them saying ‘sorry it’s more than I can / want to pay’ as long as they ask the price question early in the conversation. It’s very irritating when you agree a time / date and services etc and he asks ‘how much?’. I’ve assumed he’s read my website and has decided the price is fine…why get so far as to setting a time and the content etc only to decide you can’t afford it?

They’re great fun (with the right crowd) but yes you do need to be comfortable with being watched 🙂

Coconut oil, grapeseed oil, sunflower oil, or massage creams. Those are the main options. People also want to know if it’s scented (some clients prefer unscented … for discretion).

Important considerations for masseurs are: - what oil does he use (this reveals those using baby oil who aren’t really masseurs!) and is important because some clients have allergies to nut based oils. - out calls with a table (another indicator of level of professionalism) - does he accept payment by credit card as well as cash

A good option is to try group sex at a sex party. If I’m at a party the groups tend to break off into 3’s for some reason. I mean there will be lots of guys in a room but if you watch it tends to be mostly multiple groups of 3 playing together. People move between the groups. When you’ve had enough in one group you move to another. I think this is because 4’s tend to split into a two, any number more than 4 tends to focus on one recipient (say a guy getting gang banged). So 3 seems to work best for everyone to feel fully involved. At a party you can try lots of different guys in groups of 3 to see what you like best! That’s why I prefer parties for group sex rather than setting a 3some up.