Jamie21

This 💯…My clients are all sorts of ages, including guys in their 70’s. They get same service as anyone. I don’t ask for pics, I like the surprise when I open the door. But sometimes with really overweight guys it’s difficult to fuck them properly because of the logistics of getting in position etc. As @Simon Suracisays the biggest barriers to doing everything with a client is his personal hygiene or any conditions he has… some of you may have read my post on the client with a horrendous haemorrhoid problem who wanted to be rimmed and fucked….😱. I still have nightmares.

Yes it is kind of incongruous. I think it’s because the sites themselves use the term. I don’t consider myself a ‘model’ - that to me is someone who models clothes and honestly I’m not wearing any in most of my films! If I start in clothes they soon come off. I think ‘performer’ is more apt because it’s a performance.

Ok thanks guys. This is amazing. I see that as the initiator of the topic I get the privilege of marking a reply as the solution too! (These small treats are so exciting to me… ha ha - I lead a simple life 😉). This is something I’ll start doing with new clients. I always tell them as they’re leaving that I hope they’ll come back (ok…not always..there’s a couple I’ve noted down as ‘never again’!!). But a message later that day or so seems to be welcome. Cheers. Yes, it does. Although less necessary. I know they’ll come back, I know they enjoyed it. They know I love seeing them. That’s what worries me about sending random messages. You don’t know the context of someone when they read it. Could be awkward!! Awesome!! Thanks 🙏 (do come back next time you visit). I understand the travelling business model and it definitely makes sense to message clients with “I’ll be in town…” but being based in London I really don’t need to travel, there’s enough business here for everyone, including all the Brazilians 😂.

In my case it’s exhibitionism. The bigger the audience the better 😂.

Ok so this is new to me…I never started a topic before, so if it’s in the wrong category or something then please don’t judge me. The discussion on this topic got locked recently but it’s a pertinent question and one that deserves exploration so I’m opening up a new discussion with a similar heading about providers contacting clients. I’m interested in whether clients welcome it. I never contact clients unsolicited, even longstanding regular clients. I’ll respond to them of course but I’ve never initiated the contact. I think they wouldn’t welcome it so I avoid it. Some of my clients are wanting total discretion and a message from me out of the blue could be awkward for them. I also don’t want them to think I’m desperate for business (that’s not a good look). I don’t want them to feel obliged to book. There’s a few regular clients who might interpret it wrongly (as in I’m interested in a non professional relationship) and I don’t want to encourage that. So there’s lots of reasons that makes me refrain from any unsolicited contact with clients. On the other hand, some clients might really welcome a message from me, maybe after their session or a week later thanking them for coming and letting them know they’re welcome to come again. I do always say after their session that if they enjoyed it they should book again, but a follow up message might be good. I’ve a website where I post info and a blog, plus other online presence (porn lol) where clients can interact but it’s not quite so personal as a message directly to them. What do clients think about providers who actively market them? Should I do it or not? Tbh I don’t need the business and I could do with spending less time on my phone so the reasons to start proactively making contact will need to be good!!

Very interesting. I never realised there were so many content producers…4.6million! Wow. I’m in the top 10% of that and I’m by no means a big model on it. There must be millions who have signed up as a model but only published one or two films. The top models on there are making $$$, but the rest make very little indeed.

I first read that as ‘I’ve cut out eating….to save money to hire’ and I thought to myself ‘he has his priorities right’ 😂

There’s a lot of similarities between the Japanese and British. Both islanders, both monarchies, both ritualise tea drinking, both have strong etiquette codes, both don’t say what they mean. Very similar.

Interesting website, thanks for sharing. Luckily sex work is legal (subject to some stipulations) here in the UK. I can freely discuss sexual services with clients without fear of law enforcement, and can contact the police if a client refuses to pay or threatens me…fortunately that has never happened in over 6 years of working, which I am sure is in part due to the work being within the law. However the credit card companies restrictions does impact me, so does the discrimination of some websites which object to the discussion between adults about sex work or business. I understand the importance to websites of keeping such things from being accessed by children but I certainly do not understand the unilateral, arbitrary and beyond challenge decisions about what adults can see and discuss on their platforms. Who are they to decide what’s ‘moral’ or ethical?

So do I. I wanted to cuddle him and let him talk but it was clear he wasn’t ready for that. I feel so bad for people who have such shame over what is an entirely natural and normal human condition. Unfortunately misplaced religion, intolerance, ignorance and bigotry causes it. We must always fight against these things.

If there were, he didn’t turn them on. I suspect that unfortunately he was quite ashamed of what he was doing. I may be wrong of course but sometimes one gets vibes of someone who has a lot of issues to deal with when it comes to gay sex. Cultural, religious or societal pressures that make them feel ashamed (hence the no looking in the eye), keeping the lights off and some really awkward misconceptions about sex between guys. They want to act on their feelings but at the same time feel ashamed about it. It’s very sad 😢.

Truly horrific. I should add that he had a mirror above the bed, and full mirror wardrobes. I mean what’s the point if it’s so dark you can’t see? (Aside from it being quite tacky).

Now these are the correct things to worry about 👍. I’ve done out calls and there’s been some quite disturbing environmental issues which really can impact the session. Poorly selected scatter cushions, mismatching bathroom towels, cheap toiletries in the bathroom, very poor lighting (all from above, ugh). This week I did an outcall to a guy and he showed me through to the bedroom which was almost in total darkness. I don’t mind ambient lighting but I could hardly see anything. I asked to turn the light on a bit and he said to switch the light on in the en suite, which threw some light into the bedroom. But not enough. There’s practical considerations…how am I meant to check all is ok down there before rimming him if the place is like a darkroom?

What!!! I thought she only liked me. Ugh I’m being two timed. Back to the subject: I get messages from RentMasseur saying that a premium RM client has checked out my profile and would I like to message him? No thanks, I don’t like to send unsolicited messages. If they’re interested they’ll make contact. I’m not really wanting or needing to drum up business in that way. It seems a bit desperate to me, and even if I was desperate I wouldn’t want to appear so.

We’ll be in even more trouble, possibly put in detention, if we continue this debate which has strayed well off the topic of ‘why is working as an escort risky’!

Telepathic

Very probably.

How dare you be so rude to me…

1) both. 2) both. If I could have my way nudity in public would be a matter of personal choice. I’d never wear clothes. I think we’d be nicer to each other. 3) everyone’s nipples can be exposed in public. Gender doesn’t matter. 4) as for 3. Gender doesn’t matter in this. Everyone should be allowed to be naked anywhere anytime if they want to. Let’s separate the association of nudity with sexual activity. 5) what’s a pastie? All I can think of is a Cornish Pastie. Going around with a Cornish Pastie covering the nipple area might be seen as a bit eccentric, even in Cornwall.

Have you been to Paris? I’m British, being rude is an art form. You probably wouldn’t recognise it unless you’ve been immersed in the culture. We can be rude with the slightest gesture, an intonation or just one apparently innocuous word. It’s even better when the recipient of said rudeness is oblivious to it because it means we’ve been so deliciously subtle that only a fellow Brit (or someone who has lived here and learned the culture) would notice it. We can then all have a laugh at the poor chap’s ignorance without obviously causing offence.

Yes, although I expect there’s lots of his ex bf running around! I’ve not seen what Marilyn is up to these days.

By the way, I’m intrigued by your name. Are you Boy George or Marilyn 🤔….A friend of mine used to be the bf of Marilyn back in the day. Small world.

Oh no, I was agreeing with you. Selling sex is the same as selling any product. I’m a washing detergent basically. And Sex worker clients are just like restaurant customers are to waiters (except restaurant customers tip less of course…). Although when I’m in a restaurant I always look my waiter in the eye …unlike my client today who couldn’t look me in the eye. I don’t know why, maybe he was shy? But yes, maybe waiters are due more pity (interesting you say you ‘pity’ such service providers). Their clients aren’t naked. They don’t have the opportunity to take advantage of a vulnerable naked client like sex workers do. And my non work sex life doesn’t really get affected because I’m not looking for white picket fence love, so that’s ok. I thought it might have been affected but because I’m in my 20’s (I thought I was a fair bit older but I’ll take 20’s!) and just looking for as much fun sex as possible. I’m not interested in a relationship.

Absolutely it’s a choice! Not necessarily easy cash though. Everyone thinks ‘great! $200 an hour…or even more!’. What they don’t see is the days you get no clients….the hours you spend dealing with flakes, the time spent trying to keep fit, the risk of catching something, the time you can’t work because of being unwell (no sick pay), the being available almost 24/7 often with a couple of hours notice. Yeah, easy cash. I’m not complaining though, it suits my temperament and lifestyle but it’s not easy money. Honestly I earned more and it was easier when I had a full time corporate job. But that was utterly soul destroying …so I swapped metaphorical ass licking for literal ass licking.

Ah ok, you must be right. Are you on twitter by any chance?