Jamie21

You spelled cock wrong.

I’ve seen a client who had large Labrador which was very close to the client (or the client was close to the Labrador?). It was a puppy and very playful. Every time I saw the client (at his place) the dog would start outside the bedroom with the door closed, and at first it would behave but after half hour or so it would start to cry, then scratch at the door. Then it would push at the door and come in (because the client left the door slightly open so he could call the dog to calm it down…which obviously didn’t work..). My sessions with the client were massage first on the table then sex on the bed. The dog would always come in during the massage, bounce around for a bit saying hello then settle down under the table. When the client moved to the bed the dog would watch us and walk around the bed waiting to be asked to jump up. He knew he wasn’t allowed on the bed but because the client was so indulging of him eventually the dog would jump up and join us. First time it happened I worried that when I fucked the client the dog might mistake the action for some kind of fight and protect him but fortunately it didn’t seem interested. He just lay there breathing heavily (the dog that is). Worst part was afterwards when the dog licked cum off my leg. I found it easier to just let the client have the dog with him rather than keep it outside because it calmed down both the client and the dog. It’s very difficult to relax a client and get him in the mood if he’s constantly calling out to a dog to calm down or having to go and check the dog isn’t destroying the place. Just try not to let it get a taste for cum.

Try not to worry about these things. They’re not your problem. As others have said, focus on being a good client when you hire. That will endear you to him and as long as you hire the right guy you’ll have a great experience. However, if you really want answers here’s mine, from a provider’s perspective. Performing?: Don’t assume that attraction has to be physical (this is linked to the ‘be a good client request’). Attraction can be to any personal attribute or even to a situation. One can tell oneself a story or go to a past situation in one’s memory. Of course it doesn’t always work. Every provider has experienced times when they couldn’t perform. That’s normal and usually nothing to do with the client. Remember that: nothing to do with the client. Love the job?: Yes, it’s not an easy job to do for any length of time if you don’t love it. So hire experienced guys not newbies. They love meeting good clients. Note the ‘good’ clients bit. Vet clients?: Yes, but subtly, via pricing and availability. I don’t ask for pics but a potential client starting their message with ‘hey’, sending an ‘available now?’ message at any time or especially after 10pm at night, sending a cock pic, asking for a discount or generally behaving sketchily will never get booked regardless of what he looks like or promises. So in that sense all the assholes are vetted out. This again links to the ‘be a good client’ point. So like I said, don’t worry about the provider’s job in the transaction, focus on yours and it will be fine.

If my client has initiated the ‘companionship’ session then it’s my normal rate. These sessions can sometimes have scope creep. It starts as ‘let’s have dinner and watch a film, what’s your rate?’ but during the film he suggests ‘come to my room for drinks’ and then it ends up with something more and it’s awkward to decline or to upsell in the moment. Also of course my time is my time and I could be seeing another client at full rate so why would I charge a lot less to the ‘companionship’ client for the same time? So it’s the normal rate, perhaps slightly discounted because these sessions usually last a bit longer. However if the time with the client was initiated by me, as in say after the paid session I like his company and I say ‘let’s go for a drink’ or he invites me out and I like him and want to go then it’s no charge because I’ve crossed the line from professional relationship to social relationship. Once that line is crossed though he’s never a paying client again. You can’t dip in and out.

If you book a masseur that does sensual then he’ll know. In the US I understand you’ve got to be careful about asking for (and giving) sexual services so it will be implied. Probably nothing will be put in writing but when you meet him you can ask. Guys who want to make it sound less blunt sometimes ask me about ‘a release’ or the massage ‘reaching a climax’. Don’t worry, pick the right kind of masseur and he will know.

Avoid those who want pics. Those guys are more likely doing the job as part of their sex life. It’ll probably be about them. The masseur might want some basic info such as what you want out of it and any health issues but should need nothing else. All I ask for when clients book is a first name. Find someone who you feel comfortable with. Look for signs of a professional approach: a website, decent pics, a timely response to your enquiry, good reviews, experience…all those things are signs he takes the work seriously. Be clear with him about what you want, but avoid being too prescriptive- let him guide you. Go for someone who offers sensual or erotic massage if you want it to be intimate and communicate clearly about what you’d like because people have different understandings about this kind of massage. As for tipping, I’m in the UK so the expectation here differs, most of my clients don’t tip because it’s just not done here. I understand it’s different in the US.

Seems like he has a fragile ego. You paid his rate, were a regular good client. What does he expect? You to be faithful? Be grateful? It seems strange behaviour if he’s an experienced provider. We all know that clients shop around and see other guys. I talk with at least half a dozen other masseurs and I know that clients who come to me also go to them. I have a good idea what those guys charge too because I’m friends with them. None of us mind that clients shop around. It’s really not a competitive industry, it’s actually very cooperative. I’ll warn them about difficult clients and they do same for me. I’ll also refer clients if I’m busy, and they refer to me. I think your guy may have got the wrong impression of your ‘relationship’. You might be best to gently remind him that you’re his customer and that he is free to decide what the rate is and you are free to decide whether to buy. If he doesn’t understand that it’s probably best to avoid him because he seems a bit high maintenance.

Go ahead with it and tell him your preparation hasn’t been fully successful. Most guys won’t mind and will have all sorts of other things you can do together that are fun if you really don’t feel comfortable to bottom. Decent providers will understand and may be ok to proceed with caution so that you can bottom anyway. Or at least you could ask him to go in and stay in until he (or you) finishes. That’s usually ok. I find it’s more difficult to keep changing positions and stop and start when the issues with mess can be a problem. If you stay in to the end it’s fine. I’ve seen clients who tell me they might not be ready and I say to them ‘I’m ok to try if you want to’. Let’s be clear; anyone who’s experienced at gay sex will have come across accidents sometimes. It’s an occupational hazard. I just clean up and carry on usually if he wants to, otherwise we do other stuff. No big deal. No one should make you feel bad if you’re not totally clean.

I had a client keep me in a separate room (in a two bedroom apartment in the hotel) on a vacation trip one time! It was fine, he’d visit my room when he wanted to play. He said he slept better alone and he snored so he didn’t want to keep me awake unless it was for fun. Very considerate.

I agree. I’m talking about the guys who object to rates without trying the service.

Reading this thread makes me wonder what is the expectation of some guys 🙄. Escorts can charge whatever they like. Whatever they feel they’re worth. Everyone has their own rate they will require to do the job and I have no problem with them doing that. No one is being forced to pay it. I say to those who don’t like the rates: ‘don’t shop there then, he’s clearly out of your price range’. You’ll find guys at your price point and you can see what they’re like. If a guy wants to charge $500 or more that’s entirely his call. He will probably have set it to manage the amount of business he wants to do. Entirely up to him. Of course you can have an opinion about what you’re prepared to pay but don’t complain about the quality of services you get at that price. Alternatively if you think you can do a better job at the rate you’re prepared to pay go ahead and set yourself up. Then you might be able to comment with some justification.

What’s 2026 like @mike carey? Shall we join you?

Yep, the ! is a clue

I was being light hearted with the ‘I couldn’t get hard for all of them’ comment.

It’s normal. It doesn’t just happen to you @JB_Studio38. If all my enquiries came off I’d be richer too. <50% of my enquiries result in a booking, usually because the client just goes quiet (I never chase them, if they really want to book they will do so, I’m not interested in indifferent clients), or the timing doesn’t work or I’m too expensive or in the wrong place, or they just get scared of booking. Plus there’s timewasters who are only interested in the chat. It’s all just part of the industry, and my modus operandi caters for all of that. And to keep it on theme, if they all booked I wouldn’t be able to get hard for all of them anyway!

Try RentMen. Ask for what you want, don’t be coy. Usually you pay afterwards. The duration depends on your budget, but beware, if you book 3 or 4 hours and for some reason you find you don’t find him compatible after half an hour and want to curtail it he will expect full payment. Best to book someone for an hour, see what he’s like and then book a longer session next time. It’s highly likely that you’re going to have some trial and error with this. There’s no such thing as a ‘sure thing’. Don’t go into it with that expectation.

I agree that natural light looks great but you need to be careful of the light changing if you’re filming for any decent length of time. The sun might be providing great light through windows at the start but it can get cloudy or the light changing can make the edit difficult. I always make sure if using natural light that it won’t change during the shoot. It’s simpler to use lighting and adjust the tone with a colour light.

Merry Christmas to all. I was a naughty boy this year and Santa is delivering me what naughty boys get…so that plan worked out well.

It’s a lot of work!! My films are edited by a professional editor who uses Adobe PremierePro for editing. The best camera for filming is a i phone tbh, especially the latest ones. Most of the guys I collab with use i phones. I also use a go pro for getting unusual angles. You’ll need tripods, lights (ring light) and plenty of memory storage to keep all the content.

My preference is weekday mornings. But I’m available most times if someone can give decent notice. I’ll rarely accept bookings for ‘now or the next couple of hours’ because it’s just not practical for me. Nor will I take last minute late night bookings, those guys tend to be bad clients.

21 at heart @PhileasFogg…

If they’re paying they can call me whatever they like. Lots of young guys like to hire older experienced guys who know what they’re doing. I work that market: ‘Let daddy massage you boy’. 🤪

Subscribe to his sites then 🙂! I know Nick, he’s a great guy. When he visits London he borrows my massage table for his films. I filmed a nice 4 hands with him which you can see on my OF and JFF -link in my bio😉 (and it’s on Nick’s one too!).

I think people do, because whilst there’s lower risk of catching HIV from oral sex than anal sex the risk isn’t zero, so if you want reassurance then it makes sense to be on prep if you’re having sex with different partners where you don’t know their HIV status. If I were you I’d ask questions at the sexual health clinic. They’ll advise you on the risks and choices.