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@marylander1940 Don’t you realize?

@Shadowcatzxxxx– I know many on this forum don’t accept that guys on RM are out to scam, but I have a default skeptical position toward any new hire until we’ve met. Anything that upsets the “normal” course of action therefore raises at least a pink flag for me. I did admit that it seems responsible. It would just make me more apt to accept without surprise if the meet doesn’t happen. COVID has been a convenient excuse for many to get out of any number of things.

I’ve decided that if an escort gives me a price that is something I won’t pay, I’m up front and say that. I also see no problem in mentioning I’ve had guys take less for the same amount of time. Politely. (I’ve had guys tell me they’re quoting me the “going rate,” so I see no difference in saying I have experience at my rate too). If he wants to negotiate, I’m initially open. If it turns into haggling, I’m done. It will cloud the time together for us both. He’ll be resentful and I’ll be wondering if he’s resentful.

When I clicked on his ad just now, it came up.

I’m curious about the followup after the positive test. I had to reschedule twice for sickness (not COVID) so I know it happens. But that was with regulars. Not a new provider. When it’s a new provider, I’d be really skittish if something like that happened even if COVID were the reason. Caveat emptor. 

Maybe we’ll adapt and actually reach the Jetson goal for humanity by 2062.

Just now, marylander1940 said:

that's not chubby! 

but as we all know porno goes by different standards. 

I agree.

But many guys would say it is chubby. And many guys would think they’re chubby at that. Even going so far as to laugh and think they’re fat. 

12 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

You'd amazed to know the meaning of "toned", "chubby", etc

Just did an image search in the gay section on pornhub for “chubby” and this was the first result. 

1 hour ago, Rudynate said:

I hardly think they ignore it.  It is impossible to know their algorithm for evaluating the information, but I can't believe they don't want as much information as possible in advance of a booking.   Overall, I have had great experiences hiring.  There have only been a handful that I could have done without.   Your experience may have been different from mine, leading you to draw different conclusions from it.

Probably also has a lot to do with “type” too. If you want to hire younger guys, I think initial communication will have a higher probability of difficulty. 

11 hours ago, Rudynate said:

In my initial contact - I lay it all out - who, what, when, where, what.  "Who" includes my age, weight, height, pic sometimes.  The quality of their answer lets me know if I want to go through with it.

I’ve found that a lot of providers just ignore that information.

4 minutes ago, Rudynate said:

if he doesn't focus on me and act like he's enjoying it, he's definitely not a repeat. 

That’s part of the reason why I think more than a few perfunctory setup texts with a provider is acceptable, especially for a BFE. It doesn’t have to be a huge back-and-forth, but some level of something that determines some level of compatibility isn’t unreasonable. 

40 minutes ago, Kspray said:

By just checking out OP’s other posts, I think the problem might be from the op rather than the providers. 
 

Potentially. I like to remember that what we see here on the forum is a mediated reality. We don’t present our whole selves. It’s hard to draw conclusions based off what we see here…about as hard as it is to draw conclusions based off RM reviews! 

1 hour ago, Rudynate said:

I don't see why a straight guy, with sufficient motivation, couldn't perform.  This is all theory mind you, because I have never hired a guy who identified as straight.  I do hire bi, and I have, many times, had unpaid sex with married guys on the DL.  In general, escorts can do what they do well, I think,  because they are skilled at managing their mindset.  They often say, "Your being turned on to me turns me on."  This is a conducive mindset.

I don't see why a straight guy wouldn't be capable of adopting a similar mindset.   He would have to have overcome the reflexive revulsion over male-on-male sex that straight guys are programmed with.  But having done that, why coudn't he get himself into a mental space that allowed him to perform well with a partner of the same sex?

Guys in penal institutions do it all the time.

Because as @pubic_assistance said, a lot of the straight providers are really only there to make a buck off horny gay guys. They might even get some sort of hetero-oppressive satisfaction out of it even, fucking gay guys for money.

9 hours ago, Unicorn said:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2021/02/24/gen-z-lgbt/

"...One in six adults in Generation Z identifies as LGBT, according to survey data released early Wednesday from Gallup, providing some of the most detailed and up-to-date estimates yet on the size and makeup of the nation’s LGBT population..."

I don’t think it works quite like that. I have no reason to feel that way other than I believe the species will do what it needs to in order to continue to propagate. 

9 hours ago, shadeheffashade said:

the eurocisheteronormative christian patriarchy

Those be fightin’ words with some here.

I’d do you one better…the eurocisheteronormative christian patriarchal hegemony. 

I didn’t know it was a rule! 🧐 

2 hours ago, TylerInTexas said:

XYZ, you got lotsa problems buddy. Con job here, CEO shit, bringing a prostitute overseas and don't know if your phone will work?

Shiiiiiit.

Now you know why sometimes I get cranky…I need a vacation. 

2 minutes ago, purplekow said:

That is what I like best about bi guys, many interesting and differing positions.  

I’ve always said “Bi now. Gay later.” 😂 

Probably just say “no” to threesomes plus…Save yourself the headache. It’s not something you offer. You don’t have to provide everything; in fact, it’s better to be up front about it for most clients instead of presenting yourself as offering something you’d rather not. I always ask new guys if they’ll enjoy what I’m looking for, and if they seem hesitant I just tell them it isn’t going to work out. I’ve learned it’s bettet to be direct up front that both of us being awkward. 

I’m really not interested anymore if a provider lists “straight.” 

46 minutes ago, TylerInTexas said:

Why even leave our beautiful country? Heck, I don't even have a passport.

There’s a whole world out there! And to be honest, I have no desire to see some parts our ours…

2 minutes ago, italianboyph said:

I’ve had my share of people who hit me up with no intent of meeting and just games galore. 

I can’t understand why. It baffles me. 

Doctors always act like theirs is the time that’s valuable.

I’ve been “fake” texts more and more. Like the emails we used to get from Nigerian princes. I get texts like that now. Not nearly as frequent as the emails were, though. 

I don’t know that my asshole could do six guys over four days! 

I’m going to stick to the original plan.

26 minutes ago, glutes said:

xyz, do you know ChrisParr by chance?  

No. Should I?