CarolinaRen

As a provider with pictures and videos of me out there advertising my services I realise my body is going to get criticised. (Although the only criticism my cock has ever had is that it’s too big…just wanted to make that point…). Seriously if you do get sensitive about punters criticising your body then you probably shouldn’t be in this business. However, I think some of the very personal and cutting comment is guys being critical because taking you down makes them feel better about themselves. They’d love to do the work themselves but can’t, so they enjoy criticising those who do put themselves out there. 

I agree with everything the providers have said here, with the exception that we don't advertise here - every post here is an advertisement and a work of PR. Intentionally or not. 
I started this moniker after long time reading posts and thinking - what if I contribute and said out loud what we are thinking without the restrictions of worrying how it will affect my brand? And so many questions on threads are asked, where to me the answer seems so obvious. I wanted to participate and not be burdened by having to PR manage myself. 
For eg. One thread asked 'Would providers would prefer a nice time with a booking, or a tip'. Well, we like both, but if we had to pick one, I replied we would prefer a tip.  What followed was someone admonishing me 'instead of wanting a tip why don't you just raise your price' I replied - "well, because that wasn't an option in the question that was posed." He replied "you didn't answer my question and you are not a moderator so BUZZ OFF'.
How lovely. 
So this ignited another curiosity - what would be the result if I spit the same venom back at the people who post it here so regularly? Would it make people sit back and think 'oh this is how i sound?' Would I get pleasure ticking them off? (how many times, in ANY industry, have we wished we could tell a customer or collegue how silly we think they are. There is not one person in the world who hasn't wished they could tell their boss to go suck it.)
The experiment was doomed to fail because we are all our own hero in our own story and it often went straight over their heads. I never posted a mean comment unless it was in reply, yet the vitriol comes at me in spades. One time I even copy/pasted a comment they themselves had previously made and the person still never realized this but were of course- incredibly offended. There has also definitely been an element of 'you don't even go here!'. 'A real provider would NEVER think this!' 'My paid friends told me so, so you must be lying!' I have received some private messages of encouragement though so I guess it balances out in the end?
Anyway -  I am not surprised more providers haven't participated. You just need to read the threads and see the way providers are spoken about to see why. I can't say it better than people who are providers already have. 
SIDE NOTE-
My real life experiences with clients are for the most part, incredibly lovely. 99% of the people I actually meet are fantastic. I have had some really special and intimate moments, helped people through hard and personal times in their lives in a way that only a provider can. I have had some incredible sex with clients and even with actual porn stars, travelled to cities I otherwise would not been able to. I have clients that have become good friends. Sometimes in my head I say "man i am so lucky, I would do this for free!" I work hard and I look after myself but I am blessed that I am also attractive enough to be in the industry. I don't ever forget that, and that I am lucky and am grateful. I am not arrogant about the fact that I get to do this. I don't walk around thinking 'i deserve this'.
The experience of real life compared to this forum is like night and day.
There IS a reason more of us don't post. If people want that to change, some people here should really think about how they contribute to that.... or even dare I say it: why some of us only post anonymously?
 

This forum could be a real asset to providers.  Being newer to RM, I only have 500 characters to communicate who I am and what I offer.  This offers a chance to communicate more thoughtfully and give guys on the other side of this industry a more complete view of who I am. 
But this can be a treacherous place for providers!  Many of us have scaled back participation for that reason. 
There's some really dominant toxic voices.  There's a loud peanut gallery that seems to make a hobby of comments ranging from critical to derogatory about providers they've never met or hired.  ("Needs to hit the gym," "Terrible tattoos," "Too girlie!" "Looks older than he lists,"  "PNP means he's a junkie!" "Smoker!")  There's a strong risk of slander, against which it's all but impossible to defend yourself.  (I've watched it happen to providers I know well and trust!)  And there's some known scammers - about whom we all warn each other - regularly contributing as though they're legitimate clients.  
If there were more to be gained here for us to participate, it would probably draw more of us back.  A sub-forum to promote ourselves?  Would anyone actually take advantage?  Maybe not. 
Worth noting: Every client I've met who uses this site - contributor or lurker - has been a top notch guy, just doing their research a bit more thoroughly.  So the issue really does just seem to be the loudest most toxic voices.  

I must be living on the edge - my profile picture is on my text message and or whatapp.  I always scope out who I'm hiring for quite sometime, so I don't worry about it.

A very few advertisers put in their ad that it doesn't matter what you look like, just arrive clean and with a positive vibe, treating him like you'd like to be treated. Those tend not only to be the best hires for me, but also the best people to be around more than once. 
The most surprising guy I saw who listed this was a handsome stud in his late twenties who has now been out of the massage biz for about two years. Could he gel well with a guy nearly twice his age? I was clean, I was nice, as was he, and it was tremendous. 
 

A better metaphor would be a bouncer at a night club. They have the authority to turn away people who are not aesthetically appealing. 
Honestly, if an escort won't be able to perform for me I would rather not have that experience. It's a good way to screen out those who would not be a good fit. 

The one time I had a provider ask for something like this (a video chat on WhatsApp), my heart sank. I'm not much to look at, and I don't exactly make up for it with overwhelming charm. But he was incredibly hot, so I gave it a shot. Whatever it was he was looking for, I guess he got it, since we met and have continued to meet whenever he's in my area.

It's not implying that booking a session means it'll be a good one. It's stating that if they were to just let you book anyway you'd probably have a bad session. 
No one likes being rejected, but I'd rather be rejected than pay for an escort who can't or won't deliver on a decent session because he's not into me 

It sucks but they're also doing you a favor because you're not going to end up booking a session that would have been bad

For a real aficionado, it must be like sampling a fine cabernet with a dental dam. 

In my 30+ years of hiring, have never asked an escort to wear a condom for oral: I hate the taste of rubber, and I feel that sucking a covered dick is not sexy at all. The very very few times that an escort requested me to wear one for a blowjob, I simply refused and, if he insisted, I cut the meeting short. BTW, I have never caught any infection. Have I been lucky?

That's great! I never knew I had a name before. I feel so welcomed 😌!

Atlantis will throw you out really fast if they find out you’re actively soliciting onboard btw. I’d put on your ad that you’ll be available in the locations the cruise will stop at on the dates it does and without saying “Atlantis” directly you can say “On a cruise ship from X date to Y date”. 

I am a bigger guy who decided one day to jump into this world as a provider. Some people have no interest in me, others can't wait to meet me. It's always going to be that way. The important thing is to know how fabulous you are and plenty of escorts out there that will happily take care of all your needs. Just don't get stuck in your head. Sometimes that voice is your head is very wrong!! 
You sound adorable. Come see this daddy bear in San Francisco sometime!

You are not a big fattie. Your perspective is wrong.  And, to be honest, your stats could make you very hot. 

Please take all the great suggestions from the previous comments on this thread! There is some awesome advice on this thread for you!
 
Welcome to the forum, @bigfattie! I understand your reservations, better than most. I have only been hiring for less than a year.
I am a virgin with men, not with women, so this has been a whole new experience for me. Having sex with men, has been an interesting and amazing journey. 
I am a much bigger guy than you. I am 6’ 1” and weigh 285 lbs and I am 64 years old.
I truly thought I would find one or two providers, who would give oral, rim, top or bottom me. To my pleasant surprise, every provider I have contacted was very supportive and willing to provide all the services that I was curious about. Even though I prefer being a Side, which for me entails, oral, rimming and other fetishes. 
 
The key to a successful and enjoyable encounters with providers is fairly simple. Most importantly, communicate clearly what you want and need. Also, be kind, pleasant and respectful, which you sure seem to be.  Of course, being really clean and hygienic, which you are. I also am always on time and give a tip for great service. 
 
If you follow these steps, I promise you will a number of great providers to choose from. You will be amazed how much fun and great sex you can experience! 
 
My only regret in exploring my gay sexuality is that didn’t start hiring years ago!
Get out there and find some great providers, who will give you the tools to explore and enjoy some awesome sex with a variety of guys! 

Welcome, @bigfattie,  I am a bigger guy as well and I’m pretty sure I was bigger than you when I first hired. I don’t know the exact number but I think I’ve had less than five guys say no based on my size or when I gave them my picture.  As @big-n-tall said look for profiles that are into ‘bears’ or that say ‘I welcome all shapes and sizes’ or something similar.  Have fun and be safe! 

When you do a search for providers (if you're using rentmen) in your area be sure to look for ones that have "bears" in their intos. Also read the ad copy carefully. Some guys will specifically state they are into bigger men.

Administrator’s Message
Gentlemen, Perhaps this would be a good time to remind you of Rule #1 of our Guidelines. It’s called Civility. Please! Stop with the body shaming. 🙏 
1. Civility: Conduct yourself in a way that respects this site and all who come here. Hate speech/hateful speech, name-calling/labelling, inciting or engaging in arguments, publicly shaming, and attacking other members, groups of members, or people who are the topic of discussion is prohibited. Remember: you may criticize a person's opinion but don't attack the person.

so how much washing is required? fully soaped up ALL areas of body, including under arms, under balls, inside ass crack, around or even a little inside your hole, fully cover your cock and pull back foreskin if you have one, rinse all water off. Repeat if you can. then fully dry off. ideally brush teeth or at least gargle some mouthwash to freshen up if you are wanting kissing. You should wash yourself with vigor and be overly thorough. Treat it as if someone is about to inspect every inch of your body - which is generally what happens in a massage!  Not just a quick rinse of water over your back or some water splashed on your face. 
Just because the client showered, does not mean he has done so properly.  Not everyone has the awareness of hygiene, and it is really awkward and difficult to tell someone without offending. 
True Story - I offered a gentleman to have a shower when he arrived dripping with sweat and B.O and he said "i showered this morning." I said, "well I had one 10 minutes before you arrived, why don't you have another one now and freshen up - don't worry about the time it takes to be all clean, the session will not start until you are out of the bathroom."   A normal person would read between the lines and go and throughly clean themselves, but this guy was in and out in probably under a minute.  During the session he wanted me to suck him off and when I went down there I had to cut the session and say 'look we need a break, I need you to go back and really take your time cleaning up and washing everything down there, ok?'  he replied "but why?"  like I said earlier - OBLIVIOUS. I don't know if he wasn't wiping his ass properly or not, but the smell of shit, ball sweat and pre-cum is not a pleasant aroma for the best of us. The second time he went in the shower for maybe 2 minutes. Clearly not clean.  I said, 'no no, let me come in with you' and had to wash him down myself.  

And that gentlemen is how a quality provider addresses a bad review.
It's a brief review of the facts from their perspective, a very short critique of the party that they feel wronged them, followed by description of their services, including why clients should be motivated to hire them. As an added bonus here, we even have a proposal to attempt to resolution with unhappy clients.

I hope I am not speaking out of turn but Charlie will be joining Oliver and me for lunch on Thursday.  Any others who care to join just PM one of us for the details.  Nothing fancy.   

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