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5 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Inevitable. 

Boomers, I guess, will be the last generation to have experienced the thrill of movie house gay porn. 
Visceral connections, not virtual.

Right. Thanks to technology and living in a more accepting society, younger gays don't need to go to those places (in secret) to connect with other gays. Grindr delivers at your house faster than Domino's and for free. Why bother going to a (dirty) theater to spend money?

On 7/30/2021 at 11:51 PM, studchaser said:

I notice in gay spaces its not something that is welcomed as its assumed you should be pro affirming etc. However when watching porn i get no response at all like i could watch two gay men do everything under the sun and i find myself looking at whats on the coffee table or what the background scenery is. But if say i watch a documentary on marines or firefighters i feel raging passion even if they are mostly clothed. Is that any different than when a gay man says i dont like "blacks" or "fat ppl" etc. Im always confused for example when someone likes women and they like a butch female with a crew cut type. If you like women the epitome should be Britney Spears circa 2002-2006 or Carmen Electra late 90s to 2000x etc.

 

If you like masculinity that square jawed stoic dont take shit type is what i consider the epitome.  Alot of gay porn revolves around this image and fantasy but when gay ppl in real life actually are exclusively into this scene they are almost shamed. Is there anyone on here that lives this lifestyle or understands it? Are you actively opposed to it and if so why? Hope to hear some honest feedback. 

I think this could be a good episode on Dr. Phil.

3 hours ago, Unicorn said:

I'd be curious to hear from any attorneys who might be reading this string. Are there really places in which a person who doesn't pay rent has tenants' rights/protection from "eviction"? There's an organization called LegalShield/Prepaid Legal in which you pay $25 a month and can ask legal questions all you want. They'll also write nasty letters if need be (but taking things to court, of course, would cost you). 

I would be very surprised to hear that someone who isn't paying rent would have protection from "eviction." But I'm definitely not a lawyer, and the law sure can be crazy. 

@7829V will have to find out the hard way... a) that this varies based on local law and b) that ultimately he'll likely have to go to court to kick his friend out.

If the friend doesn't want to leave, legal tenant or not, @7829V would probably need to call the police. The friend would tell the police that he's a tenant, and then the police will likely point @7829V to point b) above.

Or @7829V will have to change the locks while the friend is out and risk the friend making a scene for all of @7829V's neighbors to see, as well as getting into an illegal self-help eviction dispute. 

Just now, EastCoastBtm said:

Or if you do do it.... Start with only committing to a 'trial run'.... and then you guys should take a break..... he stays with you for X weeks and then an equal amount of weeks apart after that..... then have dinner and discuss.

Or don't do it. What if he doesn't want to (or feels like he can't) leave after the trial run/tenancy is supposed to end? Do you want to deal with an eviction?

I will fight anyone who tries to rationalize this bad decision for @7829V 🤪

3 hours ago, 7829V said:

Well, he's not really an escort anymore, he used to escort. I met him on rentmen several years ago, and we've become good friends. He has a job now that is not relating to escorting, but he's bad at managing his money, he spends more money than he should in clothes, out with friends, drinking, etc. So he has a lot of debts now... He's young around 24ish (I'm early 40s). At the moment he doesn't feel comfortable living with his family anymore, he lives with them a few days every couple of weeks, because his job takes him around the country, and he goes back home very couple of weeks. He wants to turn his life around and start fresh. Start making good decisions, taking better care of his money, start saving, quit drinking, going to parties that often, etc.  He's a very good guy, good person, honest. I think we have a good connection.

I'm live by myself, but I always have travelers visiting, family, friends, etc. So I wouldn't have a problem with him staying with me. I don't plan on charging him rent... at least not for a few months...  while he starts saving and turning his life around. I wouldn't see him as a roommate really, more like a friend that I'm willing to help for a while...  Eventually my goal would be to guide him and teach him a little about money management, so he can afford to move to a place on his own, or rent with someone else.

Has anyone been in this situation before? How do you handle it? What about sex? I wouldn't feel comfortable initiating sex with him... since I won't be paying him anymore...

Edit: The fact that he'll be around only on weekends at most, makes this situation something I'm willing to do. I think having a regular roommate situation where he's at home everyday, is not something that I can do for a long time (a few weeks at best).

Don't do it.

You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.

Just don't do it.

12 hours ago, BonVivant said:

Indeed… are all ages and types welcome? Or is it only circuit party six pack 20s that are allowed. 

Well, all ages and types might be allowed to enter. But whether non-six-pack-20s will be particularly welcomed is a different story... The answer is "not likely" more often than not, even at regular gay clubs. That is unless those non-six-pack-20s intend to mack on other non-six-pack-20s.

To be honest, I think people (of all ages and types) who have to ask that type of question at all should probably not bother going to circuit parties (or perhaps even regular club nights). That'll save them some grief because their idea of having a good time hinges too much on getting attention and validation from other partygoers. Instead, they're likely better off going to parties/gatherings that are clearly aimed at attracting the tribe they think they fit in well with (e.g., bears, daddies, leather, etc.).

4 hours ago, Luv2play said:

Actually you shouldn't get out of bed in the morning if your risk tolerances are zero.

A more practical approach if you want to have sex with someone you have never met before, best to trust but verify. If they claim to be neg, ask to see their last test result. If pos undetectable, ask to see their last test result. It's really that simple. 

Responsible people who engage in sex with multiple partners need to be upfront and be prepared to back up their claims. It's the same with COVID. 

 

Just to say it, this is only really practical if you plan your encounters in advance and have sex with people you both know (so that trust can play a role) and who are comfortable with sharing medical documents (so that you don't creep them out). Also, as I'm sure you know, people can and often do catch STDs either before they were detectable by their latest test or after their latest test.

So I think that @corndog's post is on point not just about HIV but all other STDs, even if your sexual partner shows you test results.

10 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

A friend recently pointed me to 

Zi /Zir /Zez 

(Zee Zear Zezz phonetically)

Zi walked the dog already.

The dog was so full of energy, he pulled zir down half a flight of stairs.

Zez elbows were banged up bad.

Written or spoken, it won’t be confused for another pronoun already in use. 

Easy on the palate, like the H and soft TH beginnings we have now for gendered pronouns and soft vowels to end. 

I don’t know. I’m in favor of something, but dislike re-use of an existing pronoun referring to multiple nouns. 

Yay to non-gendered!

Not a fan of  “they them their”
 

 

I consider myself lucky to have friends and colleagues who are not so self-centered and narcissistic to believe that they are entitled to demand that the world learn to use made up words to refer to them. But if I ever encounter such a person, I would simply never refer to them using pronouns. I would just always refer to them by name. 

22 minutes ago, Unicorn said:

Latest response:

I'm happy to hear that you made it back safely. Thank you for your feedback. I spoke to several of my colleagues in both the Office of Financial Aid and Scholarships and Gift Policy. Please see our feedback below:

 

Process of predesignating an endowed scholarship fund:
The UCLA Office of Financial Aid and Scholarships will try to award the funds every year. If the scholarship hasn't been awarded in five years, the development team alerts the Vice Provost to initiate a review.
The Vice Provost and their team will conduct an internal review to determine why the scholarship hasn't been awarded.
If the Vice Provost determines that the scholarship hasn't been awarded because the fund purpose is too restrictive, they will draft a justification to redesignate the fund.
The request goes to the UCLA Gift Policy for review to ensure that the funds adhere to the donor's wishes as closely as possible.
Once Gift Policy approves the request, it goes to the Vice-Chancellor of External Affairs for final review and approval.
Once the Vice-Chancellor of External Affairs reviews and approves the request, it goes to the Chancellor for signature and approval.
Note: Although the Chancellor will be the final approval, they will never initiate this review process or request a resignation. In every case, the request must come from the benefiting unit. The Vice Provost of the UCLA Office of Financial Aid and Scholarships would have to submit the request in your situation.
Other Options
My colleague in Gift Policy mentioned we could add to the language that would request that the Chancellor make an effort to contact you or your next of kin if we ever reached the unlikely case that we would need to redesignate the fund. The sentence would read similar to this, "In such an event, the Chancellor is authorized to redesignate the purpose of this endowment, after taking into consideration the designated purpose described in this gift agreement, and making a reasonable effort to contact the donor or their next of kin."
The second option is to provide us with an alternative area you would like to support in the unlikely event. For example, suppose we weren't able to award the scholarship for a number of years. In that case, you could elect to have the funds predesignated to support another area of your choosing, like undergraduate students in engineering, PreMed, social justice, etc.

Sounds like someone in their office is on this forum and read my previous post.

I think their language makes sense based on the explanation they gave you.

The only relevant question a lawyer knowledgeable in this area may be able to answer right now is whether that type of language is standard in that type of agreement. However, the key questions here are (A) can you live with that language and (B) if not, is UCLA willing to revise it? So I don't think I'd waste time and money consulting a specialized lawyer just yet.

Instead, I'd start by asking question B to UCLA. If they're not open to revising that clause, then you need to decide whether you want to accept their explanation and make your gift. If they are open to revising that clause, then you should think about what language you'd be willing to live with. Maybe you list alternative purposes for the scholarship in case the original purpose becomes moot (e.g., give it to people who have suffered because of 1) race discrimination, then 2) coming from a household with a family income under the poverty line, then 3) whatever the chancellor decides, taking into consideration the original purposes), maybe they should make an attempt to consult you before changing the scholarship's purpose if you're alive, etc.

And then, after you've worked through the considerations in the previous paragraph, maybe you'd benefit from working with a lawyer depending on how complex your revision to the clause would be.

Should I send you my bill in a PM? 🤑

On 7/21/2021 at 8:19 AM, jeezifonly said:

What is the problem with having the gender reveal like we always did? They used to call it birth.

”But we need to register for gender specific gifts!!!”

No you do not. For your baby’s first ten months (at least) it eats shits and sleeps. Any color that’s washable works. Idiots.

The problem is that a baby popping out of a vajayjay can't be shown on Instagram, but a pink cloud blasting out of a cannon can be shown. Gotta have them likes!

On 6/30/2021 at 11:47 PM, tassojunior said:

I'm going to try the same-day by appointment in DC, I've done it before where I could show a travel ticket date. But from what I've read online because of the applicant surge from the lockdown and not all agents working, they may be limiting that to emergency family situations. I may go the pro route.

You can always call and ask. In NY, it's hard to get short-notice appointments. But you can also show up before a certain time (7 a.m. if I remember correctly) with a ticket leaving within X days (I seem to recall it's 3) and get in a special line. They process a certain number of applications from people in that line and give them their passports that same day if leaving the next day, otherwise the following day.

I had to do that a few years ago. I was there around 5 a.m. and was #3 line. By 7 a.m., the end of the line was in New Jersey.

8 hours ago, Unicorn said:

I have had a couple of times during my trip in Washington state in which I had trouble hearing people who were talking through their masks. My partner "Chris" said he had no trouble understanding them. I was always frustrated by the stubbornness of some older people I knew who refused to wear hearing aids when they needed them, and promised myself never to be like them. I think I'll get my hearing tested when I get back. That being said, it only seems to be a problem with masked people. Of course, this could be the first sign of a significant hearing problem. Have you guys been having this problem as well?

This might help:

2 hours ago, Lucky said:

I was only kidding about Joe. I have no one on the ignore list.

Riiiiight...can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. Drag him, @JoeMendoza! 😛

3 hours ago, maninsoma said:

It seems like what has happened with self-produced porn websites is that they are now removing content unless it's clear that all parties shown are okay with their sexual activities being recorded and distributed online.  Someone whose content I liked a lot removed all of his videos from XTube and wrote basically that he could no longer share his videos there due to lack of clear consent of his scene partners to be shown in videos there.  A guy I subscribe to on OnlyFans wrote that he's only able to put up scenes where the other scene partners also have OnlyFans pages, so it's obvious that they consent to having their sexual activity recorded and shared online.  I don't know if it's true, but I did notice a number of months ago that basically XTube turned from being amateur porn (a lot of it of dubious quality) to being dominated by studio porn, most of it teasers where one would have to pay to see the full scene.

People who value privacy/don't want to find themselves ass up online without consent:

Creeps:

13 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

I was driving all over today, so I celebrated only from below the seatbelt.

Pics or it didn't happen.

On 6/26/2021 at 7:43 PM, tassojunior said:

there's a new United nonstop from DC to Athens that's only 30K each way coach and easy to get. i think there's like $600 rt fares also. 

Got any miles to spare for that cheap ticket?

11 hours ago, tassojunior said:

in the fwiw dept.:

 the guys are disappointed at Berlin as a market compared to Zurich and Munich. i explained to them there are 3 bars filled with guys for 50 E so that probably depresses the market. 

Prague should be good once all the American gay tourists start and they can charge US prices or close.  

They actually expected the market to be the same in Berlin as it is in Zurich? That's so interesting to me. Not even the price of water is comparable in those two cities.

On 6/4/2021 at 3:35 PM, big dale said:

Less tourists, more heat? There's two great reasons right there. 

Perhaps your local Chamber of Commerce and Tourism should step in to create a summer event for out of town escorts. LOL

Ditto. Palms Springs + summer =

1 hour ago, natmas02 said:

I just saw him in DC in Thursday evening. Absolutely stunning in person - very much looks like his photos and very handsome. However, he's a clock watcher and has a hard out when the time is done - when :50 on the clock hit he got up and started to get dressed and left when the hour hit. I still had fun but that kind of soured at the end. 

So he gave you what you paid for, but your experience soured anyway? Maybe he was trying to keep it moving so that he could move on to giving someone else what they were paying for, on time. Some of y'all are hard to please.

3 minutes ago, LAdude424 said:

Rentmasseur: 
Height:5'10" -176 cm
Weight:175lbs - 73 kg

Rentmen:
Height:6'2" - 184 cm
Weight:185 lbs - 83 kg

Hmmm...is that what "shrinkage" refers to? 🤔

3 minutes ago, MscleLovr said:

My understanding @thedanNYC is that @tassojunior is broadly correct.

The source is https://wiki.unece.org/display/CTRBSBC/Czech+Republic which shows all non-essential travel is banned. Wanting to go on vacation or simply visit are not regarded as essential. 
 

And the rules for Switzerland are complex. The source is https://www.schengenvisainfo.com/news/travel-restrictions-who-can-enter-switzerland-what-are-the-rules/. Again, non-essential travel is very restricted.

Yes, non-essential travel has been restricted differently by different countries at different points for different lengths of time during the pandemic. But as I said in my previous post, intra-EU/Schengen Area entry restrictions are for the most part not specific to Czechs (particularly in Switzerland's case, which is what I was addressing). And, just to say it, how the Czech Republic is handling restrictions now does not speak to how they were handling them before or how other EU/Schengen countries have handled them or are handling them (including whether Switzerland allows entry from Czech Republic).

Also, people can easily misunderstand entry restrictions if they just go off of second-hand information or glance at Google results with no particular aim. For example, unlike you suggest, non-essential travel from Czech Republic to Switzerland (which is what I was addressing originally) is absolutely possible.

Finally, I recommend that those who are seriously considering travel get their information concerning travel restriction from the relevant government's official website that addresses entry restrictions. All countries have one. Don't just simply Google entry restrictions or you risk misunderstanding the applicable rules.

5 hours ago, tassojunior said:

but all the borders between EU countries and between CH and CZ have been closed until this past week or two. Czechs have been trapped in since fall. 

I don't know who told you that, but that's just not right.

On 5/25/2021 at 12:46 AM, tassojunior said:

not directly afaik. probably from Greece or Croatia with vaccine proof or test if they're allowing Czechs. i guess CH is waiting on the EU for some reason? since it's more business than tourist travel to Zurich i guess there's no rush for nonstops. 

In general, border closures are not preventing intra-EU travel or, in Switzerland's case, intra-Schengen Area travel. Czech Republic is in the Schengen Area, so that's why Czechs can enter Switzerland. It's not because of entry permission that is specific to Czechs.