myophile

I started hiring guys about five years ago to jump-start my sex life after major surgery, and a looooong period of abstinence. Aside from a few bumpy sessions at first — inexperience on my part, the occasional douche-y provider — the journey so far has been incredible: mind-blowing sexual encounters with the sweetest, smartest and most attractive men on the planet, some of whom I am lucky to count as friends, as well as providers. Age and a few lingering infirmities aside, I am, at age 63, having the best sex of my life so far. 

That’s a lovely post, brother. So much of what you do seems grounded in the search for (and appreciation of) connection — appropriate, of course, and sometimes only up to a certain point ... It’s one of the many things I value in you, and I’m glad you’re finding scope for that connection in the forums. 

I had my goodbye session with Trev a couple of months ago but I wouldn't say no to saying goodbye again.

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

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and prefer super XL because I have a deep oven to keep it warm. And I like to have it again in the morning, which I find is better the second time 

I've been asked once.  I wanted him to meet me in LV and it involved a longish drive for him so he said I would need to pay a deposit.  I said "sure, how do you want to handle payment?"  He decided he didn't need the deposit.   I was there for a show - normally my husband helps me shave night before a show, but he hasn't been willing to travel since the pandemic, so I hired this muscleman to come and help me shave - It turned into a lot more than helping me shave.  Great fun!!  Those last couple days before a show, your appearance changes drastically and he said my my vacularity was changing even as he was shaving me.  

Thank you for lifting the tone of this conversation above the purely transactional, big guy 💪🏻😘

Thank you for lifting the tone of this conversation above the purely transactional, big guy 💪🏻😘

Thank you for lifting the tone of this conversation above the purely transactional, big guy 💪🏻😘

In the five or so years I’ve been doing this, out of the two dozen or so guys I’ve hired, I have only been asked for a deposit maybe three times, and the only one I actually paid was to a provider making a special trip from another city  — and that was possibly the best money I’ve ever spent on this hobby (IFBB pro bodybuilder, unexpectedly eager to have me fuck him, YEEHAW!!!)

In the five or so years I’ve been doing this, out of the two dozen or so guys I’ve hired, I have only been asked for a deposit maybe three times, and the only one I actually paid was to a provider making a special trip from another city  — and that was possibly the best money I’ve ever spent on this hobby (IFBB pro bodybuilder, unexpectedly eager to have me fuck him, YEEHAW!!!)

In the five or so years I’ve been doing this, out of the two dozen or so guys I’ve hired, I have only been asked for a deposit maybe three times, and the only one I actually paid was to a provider making a special trip from another city  — and that was possibly the best money I’ve ever spent on this hobby (IFBB pro bodybuilder, unexpectedly eager to have me fuck him, YEEHAW!!!)

I followed his OF for a month and his interactions were entirely with women. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it was $11.99 down the toilet.

That’s a lovely post, brother. So much of what you do seems grounded in the search for (and appreciation of) connection — appropriate, of course, and sometimes only up to a certain point ... It’s one of the many things I value in you, and I’m glad you’re finding scope for that connection in the forums. 

That’s a lovely post, brother. So much of what you do seems grounded in the search for (and appreciation of) connection — appropriate, of course, and sometimes only up to a certain point ... It’s one of the many things I value in you, and I’m glad you’re finding scope for that connection in the forums. 

That’s a lovely post, brother. So much of what you do seems grounded in the search for (and appreciation of) connection — appropriate, of course, and sometimes only up to a certain point ... It’s one of the many things I value in you, and I’m glad you’re finding scope for that connection in the forums. 

That’s a lovely post, brother. So much of what you do seems grounded in the search for (and appreciation of) connection — appropriate, of course, and sometimes only up to a certain point ... It’s one of the many things I value in you, and I’m glad you’re finding scope for that connection in the forums. 

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

This is why I’m always careful to open text or WhatsApp messages when I’m in church. 

Can't help but reply with the provider perspective here.  I feel like the provider/client relationship is meant to be the great equalizer.  It's the job of any provider- once you're in a room alone together - to make you feel like a king.  For the entirety of your time together.  Regardless of what the outside world my say about who is in whose league.  If you ask me, that's the entire point of an escort situation: for two men to be able to set aside their outside world expectations and walk a different path together. 
I find it to be one of the most freeing aspects of this kind of work.  Our culture - especially gay culture - imposes a lot of false assumptions on us.  Who has value to offer sexually.  Who should be fucking who.  An escort/client relationship - at its best - has been the most freeing way I've found to step outside of that and enjoy a connection with all types of men. 
If you walk away from an experience with a provider still feeling like he's out of your league, I'd say that provider has failed you. 

I maintain my normally frenetic, Type A workout schedule throughout the holiday season and eat moderately but well. I’m taking a break from wine, which I love, so that eliminates plenty of useless calories. I will have some top shelf Burgundy or Barolo with holiday dinners, however. Such indulgences never add any pounds since my metabolism is still pretty good!

Ten years ago, almost to the day, 80 lbs overweight, and faced with a diagnosis of sleep apnea (on top of high blood pressure, high cholesterol, pre-diabetes, and a bad back), I struck a bargain with my doctor: I would lose twenty pounds, and he would take the dreaded CPAP machine off the table. He agreed, and ten days before Thanksgiving — because why make it easy on myself? — I started eating at a deficit, and began the process of totally reforming my diet. A decade later, I’ve kept the weight off, and “cured” myself of various ailments. I’ve kept the fat off, and added some substantial muscle, in part by not sweating the holidays. I THOROUGHLY enjoy a ginormous carb-heavy Thanksgiving feast every year (and on other occasions!) with friends and family; but then I get right back to healthy moderate eating. And I try really, really hard not to slack off at the gym. 

If he’s balls-deep and I can breathe, he’s not hung.