HELP! How do you guys confirm a new profile is real

[SFChinois]

Hey guys.  Here are 2 profiles that I was interested in San Francisco.  How have you guys dared to try new escorts that don't have any reviews because they are supposedly new?  
 

Kursk - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in San Francisco, CA | RentMen

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Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in San Francisco, CA - Kursk: Panamanian, Vergon ready to fulfill your dreams

Tristanblack - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in San Francisco, CA | RentMen

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Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in San Francisco, CA - Tristanblack: Dominicans caliente ,Listo a complacer a sus amigo

 

[BriansBodywork]

KURSK has been in the business for a while, I’ve seen profiles of him around for quite sometime. 

[+ glutes]

1 hour ago, SFChinois said:

 How have you guys dared to try new escorts that don't have any reviews because they are supposedly new?  
 

It's called 'jumping on the grenade'.

[crazyivan]

My rule of thumb is that if it is a new profile with no reviews, and none of the pictures is NSFW, then fake.

[rvwnsd]

Some of my least enjoyable experiences have been with well-reviewed. highly touted providers, while some of my best experiences have been with new guys and guys who are not often talked about. I've found that some providers are highly touted because they are. It seems like no one wants to say "I had a "meh" time with Provider X" when everyone else raves about them. 

I have a pretty easy way of determining whether a provider is a good fit for me:

• If something seems "off," the ad is off-putting/rude/self aggrandizing, or if it seems sketchy, I move on. No matter how handsome, worked out, or well hung he is, if something doesn't seem right, I do not pursue a meet-up. Period. 
• Obviously old pics, especially when they are recently uploaded, are a no-go. There was an escort who had mirror selfies (so far so good) and one of them showed his phone (also fine). It was a Blackberry smart phone that was exclusive to Sprint and has been out of production since the 2010's. All of his pics were from the same time period. 
• Pics that are also used in someone else's ad are a no-go. There was an LA-based escort who used a cropped version of a pic that a Palm Springs/Phoenix based masseur also uses. The masseur used them first. I took a pass on the LA-based escort.
• In my first communication I state what I am looking for and ask what he thinks about it. If a guy replies with "yeah, sure" or "'sup" or "what do you get into" or some such, I see that as a sign he isn't paying attention. If he isn't paying attention to what he has read, I can't see him paying attention in person. To me, this warrants a pass. In fairness, most guys reply with an enthusiastic "yes," or state they do some but not all that I am into, or state they are not a match. Note that when I am texting a provider I always start with "Hi, I am [my name] and I saw your ad on [the website I saw it on]. Let me know when is a good time to discuss a potential meet-up." In this case, a reply of "what's up," "hi," or "what do you get into " is appropriate because I haven't told him what I get into. Once I have his attention and I know he can text I describe what I am looking for.
• Like his ad, if his responses seem off, I move on. 

 

[Jamie21]

56 minutes ago, rvwnsd said:

In my first communication I state what I am looking for and ask what he thinks about it. If a guy replies with "yeah, sure" or "'sup" or "what do you get into" or some such, I see that as a sign he isn't paying attention. If he isn't paying attention to what he has read, I can't see him paying attention in person.

This is great advice. In fact all of your post is sound advice for any hirer. Professional guys will respond appropriately to a request. Those playing at this work will likely either not reply or appear disinterested. Take it as a sign of how he will be when you meet him.

It works the other way too. When I get clients open their communication with me with “Hey” or worse a cock pic, I am almost certain nothing will come of the enquiry. 

[rvwnsd]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

This is great advice. In fact all of your post is sound advice for any hirer. Professional guys will respond appropriately to a request. Those playing at this work will likely either not reply or appear disinterested. Take it as a sign of how he will be when you meet him.

It works the other way too. When I get clients open their communication with me with “Hey” or worse a cock pic, I am almost certain nothing will come of the enquiry. 

Thanks.

Initial texts are always tough because one never knows where a guy might be when the text arrives. I always joke that I'd hate to send a raunchy message to a guy while he is having lunch with his aunt, Sister Modesta Chastity.

[Jamie21]

2 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

Thanks.

Initial texts are always tough because one never knows where a guy might be when the text arrives. I always joke that I'd hate to send a raunchy message to a guy while he is having lunch with his aunt, Sister Modesta Chastity.

This is why I’m always careful to open text or WhatsApp messages when I’m in church. 

[Guest]

5 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

"'sup"

Basically  thwarts all conversation from my end. I've learned over time that it's perfectly fine not to respond or even reply to someone who initiates contact with "sup" 

Edited November 17, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[maninsoma]

I don't think someone needs to write a lengthy ad, but I noticed that both of these guys just have a sentence or two that claim they are great.  That's a red flag for me, as I think that someone who is serious would take the trouble to write something about what he's offering.  To make matters worse, both of these ads seem to have had everything under the "into" category checked.  Are both of these guys really into everything, including fisting, PNP, etc?  Having everything checked just makes me think that the ad was posted in a hurry and that the guy isn't serious.

[myophile]

4 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

Thanks.

Initial texts are always tough because one never knows where a guy might be when the text arrives. I always joke that I'd hate to send a raunchy message to a guy while he is having lunch with his aunt, Sister Modesta Chastity.

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

Edited November 17, 2023 by myophile

[Guest]

1 hour ago, myophile said:

One of the things I LOVE about my regular hire is the fabulously awkward timing of his dick pics. If I check my texts during a dull work meeting, or — better yet! — date night with my husband, chances are good that I’ll find a picture of his massive dong. If I spit my coffee, he gets bonus points!

Guilty as charged with you in the past lol but I know it's ok with you and on your end.

 however I inform all new people that they will NEVER get a random, explicit message from me.. I don't assume significant others don't exist nor do I assume a colleague might not see something that could possibly embarrass anyone. Unless I'm told otherwise, no surprises from me. I even have a "NO TEXT" category on my phone to maintain the privacy of certain individuals ( in some cases if I get a text from someone one on my NO TEXT" list I know I can reply within minutes of seeing it otherwise it's an email reply ) Maintaining and keeping people's trust isn't something I've seen discussed here, at least not since I've become active here but it's a MASSIVE component to what we do and how I operate. 

[+ goosh69]

Asking for a FaceTime beforehand is easy…

[+ keroscenefire]

My rule of thumb for new guys generally and especially those with new profiles is to A) Not host and B) Ask that we meet in public (hotel lobby for example) first. I often also will be pretty light with what I carry (cash only. Leave credit cards in the car). I had only really had one odd experience where I thought I as being ripped off and fortunately walked away pretty quickly. 

[BuffaloKyle]

1 hour ago, goosh69 said:

Asking for a FaceTime beforehand is easy…

This is what I do as well. I like to do it right through RM messenger. Usually guys understand when I explain that if they have a new ad and no reviews then I just like to make sure they are real. I let them know I just like to see their face and I'm not looking to see them nude or to jerk off. I'd say 90% of the time they are ok with it.

[Pd1_jap]

Always reverse image search!

[Guest]

It's a pity.... all because of the fakes, FLAKES, and the disingenuous 😕 

[+ keroscenefire]

1 hour ago, Vin_Marco said:

It's a pity.... all because of the fakes, FLAKES, and the disingenuous 😕 

I'd say for the most part guys on RM are real. I've met with several "new" guys and I've usually had a good experience. If anything, a lot of the profiles are just noncommunicative so you just don't bother if they don't respond. But I do think they're mostly real. 

[Guest]

53 minutes ago, keroscenefire said:

I'd say for the most part guys on RM are real. I've met with several "new" guys and I've usually had a good experience. If anything, a lot of the profiles are just noncommunicative so you just don't bother if they don't respond. But I do think they're mostly real. 

I would agree with you. It only takes one to piss off and disappoint a lot of people.

Edited November 17, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[muscmtl]

You did your due diligence with FaceTime (wonder how many  are brave enough to ask the escort to stand up so you see something more than the face) or reverse image search... and then he gets to your place and pics dont match, or worse, everything he said he would do was was fake.

So the rarity of the "accurate pics/accurate performance" combo is why companyofmen exist

 

[Simon Suraci]

On 11/17/2023 at 7:05 AM, Vin_Marco said:

Maintaining and keeping people's trust isn't something I've seen discussed here, at least not since I've become active here but it's a MASSIVE component to what we do and how I operate. 

Thank you for bringing this point up, Danny. It’s so important. Just today I checked in with a regular client on how he wants to handle communication. So far I only text when he reaches out to me, since he told me he has a wife and kids and needs to maintain his discretion.

Occasionally he will send a message out of the blue unrelated to arranging an appointment and I’m happy to engage. I just wasn’t sure if it’s ok to reciprocate by initiating a text conversation at some other time I was thinking of him. He said to send only a smiley face first and wait for him to respond to it when he is ready to engage.

Every client is different. Until I establish that it’s ok to initiate contact the client, I avoid reaching out and let them come to me when they’re ready. So many clients need discretion, and I respect that 100%.