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I agree. I used to find it startling (as they were so young) but I no longer find it so. The porn industry consumes its young.

The wonderful heat must be affecting you @keefer 43C is a mere 109F, and I’ve only seen forecasts of 36/37C (or 99F) to date.

IMO @OCClient you need young men to respond to get a good answer. It was decades ago that I went dancing for hours of an evening (at West Coast Production Company). Nowadays there are many places along University Avenue. (It may be personal or generational but my young partner (aged 29) has no interest in going to gay clubs/bars) To which list, if you enjoy classical music, I’d add the La Jolla Music Society. It’s a good and well-organized group that presents excellent work with some star performers. Some 7 years ago, I spent a week one Winter going to wonderful piano recitals by Daniil Trifonov. The LJMS raised enough funds to build an excellent concert hall in the village, the Conrad Prebys Performing Arts Center, which opened in 2019. Subscriptions to concerts cost from $50 for the cheapest seats to $100 for the most expensive. It was ever thus, if you’re talking about paid companions. SD has always attracted a lot of transients (based on my experiences 1976-1990) But if you’re fit and in decent shape, meeting others should not be a problem. @rvwnsd is quite correct about the Marines being in Oceanside. There was a minor scandal there years ago with young Marines being filmed having sex with men for money (in an Oceanside condo IIRC). I had the sense back then that it was easier to meet Marines when they were away from Oceanside. (As an aside, it’s how I met my nextdoor neighbour in Point Loma. He was an older gay man with a nice pool that he invited me to use whenever I wanted - he’d seen me returning home the previous evening with a nice young Marine Corpsman).

Of course. It would have been rude to refuse 😎

I endorse what @Pensant wrote above. I’m generally regarded as masculine but I’m open about being gay, my preferences etc. I’ve not encountered any prejudice and I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how openly some nice young men respond to me. The only time my composure was seriously threatened was when Hank, the handsome server 24/25 at my local coffee shop, invited me to spend the afternoon with him at Black’s Beach.

Weather is the best aspect of living in SD as @Epigonos noted. Traffic is the worst…but you soon learn to avoid certain routes/times. I lived there at times over the years. I lived first as a young man on Point Loma (a small house) and latterly in La Jolla (a condo) which I enjoy very much. People are friendly and polite. It feels very safe and the beaches are good. Restaurants and stores are excellent. There is a sense of community in La Jolla, and there must be some local regulations against homelessness/panhandling as it is very minimal. Traffic on the freeway to LA can be heavy (sometimes even at 2 am for some reason) but I adapted and used the train service a few times. I found the trains to be clean and efficient, and in visiting LA I’d generally stay 1-2 nights. As an old man now, I find one aspect of life there surprising but delightful. It’s how readily nice young men in their 20s chat to me. I’ve made acquaintances easily.

There’s only one way to get this out of your system @Coolwave35 Scratch that itch 😎

I assume @John that’s Fiat (in Latin)…meaning in this case ‘Let him be done’😎

I agree that he has a splendid physique. And I appreciate others’ insights into what a man defining as straight may or may not do. But I have never hired for muscle worship only. When I have hired, it has always been a man who is fully available, responsive and eager to please me. So I wonder if anyone has actually met him for a date…If so, I’d enjoy learning just how interactive he is and what boundaries he has. As an aside, I find it alarming that in his profile he mentions a fall at Yosemite and writes “my second head injury and yet another prescription and excuse to partake in mind numbing substances.”

I’m confident you can find a man with a muscled/athletic body to take care of you @Daniel_D You just have to research suitable men. When you contact them, explain you’re happy to pay full rate but you want a romantic “boyfriend experience”. Be very specific: say you want lots of kissing and cuddling and to be hugged, but you don’t want (if I understand your desires correctly) penetrative sex nor to climax. Some years back, I was asked by a younger but very overweight acquaintance about an athletic muscle-bottom I was dating. He was embarrassed about his own body but he too wanted a very romantic time (but no sex) with a hot guy with a muscled body. I was asked if the muscleboy would be willing to meet him. He later told me how the handsome muscleboy stripped down to a black speedo on arrival. He sprawled on the bed to let my acquaintance worship his body fully, and he was cuddled and kissed by the muscleboy. It was heaven for my acquaintance. In fact it was so good that he hired the muscleboy again a few nights later so that he could see how he looked in tight white briefs.

I appreciate @Yoyotonodo that such last-minute cancellations are aggravating. As a client in the past, I’m not sure there’s much you can do. When I hired, sometimes plans would go awry and I might have to cancel. But I’d always do so 48-72 hours in advance of the planned date. On every date I made, I would text in the morning and seek confirmation before 11am. If I didn’t hear back within 5 hours, I’d know the evening date wasn’t going ahead. I don’t agree. I can think of 3 escorts who cancelled on me last-minute. It’s frustrating and disappointing, but I guess it’s just an aspect of the business.

Do you feel that might be because the pounding is painful? Or is it for some other reason such as wanting to pee?

You just summed me up @Indestructible My experience of bottoms is that most sport erections when being topped. It varies, however, as to whether they ejaculate or not. Some guys would always climax with a hard dick in their hole. Some could only climax, after being pounded, by being jerked off. Some would get hard but only ejaculate when my cum hit the back of their throats. One beautiful muscleboy was an avid bottom and loved to be pounded. But he was pee-shy so he’d get hard but couldn't climax in front of others. Once I tied him up and being restrained, he came loads. Another time, in a small group, he’d been fucked by all of us but he only came to a shuddering climax after I bound his hands and feet and wanked him off (he told me later how shameful it felt and how he’d never cum so hard) As a selfish top, I love to make a bottom climax while I’m pounding him. And it’s a great visual for me if he’s flat on his back and I get him to ejaculate all over his abs.

The metric system has been taught in UK schools for decades. And the weather forecasts and reports have similarly been in Celsius for many years. I believe @keefer was reporting the temperature at night in London and had “translated” it for the benefit of others. Those who follow tennis and Wimbledon will know that the weather in London has generally been very pleasant with daytime temperatures of 21-24C for some time now.

And, of course, there’s a fee to pay for each transfer to/from the exchange. The cheapest I’ve seen is a charge of 0.75% of the value (usually as calculated in US$).

I went once in the ‘80s. It was a time when I commuted monthly between London and NYC. I was invited by a friend but I knew no-one else. The other people staying in the house were pleasant but I found it a difficult ‘scene’. I had (and have) no interest in casual, anonymous sex or one-night stands, but these seemed to be of major appeal to a lot of guys. It also seemed to me - but others haven’t noted - that it was quite socially competitive and consumerist. My friend observed that I commuted “on the fast bird” (Concorde) and, inexplicably to me, this sparked a lot of interest.

Correct. It’s why the families fleeing fighting in Ukraine comprise women and children, and why they are often anxious to return to see their husbands/fathers.

I searched but can find no mention of this new show on Prime. It is my new guilty pleasure. It is utterly lightweight froth, but it is beguilingly pleasant viewing. The girl in question is spending the Summer with the same family friends at the same beach, and she turns 16. It’s sort of like “Dawson’s Creek” but with more money and social gloss. The family friends include 3 brothers. I’m not into twinks but Dear Lord the brothers are toothsome. They look attractive in, and very often out of, their clothes. I can only imagine what fun the casting director had in choosing them. My favourite is the puppyish Jeremiah (played by Gavin Casalegno) who, when accused of gay-baiting, says ‘I believe in equal opportunity’…before kissing the other young man. I also like Conrad (played by Chris Briney) who is brooding and appears romantically-hurt or love-sick.

What a curious question. Perhaps you don’t follow the economic news? In the US, there are 11.4million job openings (as of end-April). The US job market remains red-hot. And if the two British brothers mentioned in this thread were seeking employment in the UK, they’d find that the number of job vacancies is at a record high (1.3million) while the unemployment rate (3.7%) is the lowest in 48 years.

That is your opinion. Politely, I disagree. I’m quite sure that many other jobs are available to fit young men. I do, however, accept that there are few jobs as lucrative as that of a successful escort. Indeed, given the example originally set out in this thread, I can’t think of another job that would pay as much as $2000 for an hour for so little effort.

Perhaps I am callous but I don’t agree with this concern about the motivation of other adult men. I’ve slept with a number of men. All were adult and all activities were consensual. Some men defined as gay, some as bisexual and IIRC 3 men said it was their first time having gay sex. I feel that an adult man should be able to make his own decisions as to what he will or will not do. None of these men have been forced to work as escorts. It’s not for us as clients to second-guess their desires and decision-making. And when, as in this case, a young man with a superb physique demands $2000 to let the OP suck his cock, I’m reminded of that scene in the Tennessee Williams play Vieux Carre where the hustler declares that he’s definitely not gay “but you can suck me for $$$”

You endured more than me @OCClient I gave up on it after 30 minutes

Yes. I enjoy dating very handsome guys with fit bodies. So I was a modelizer from 2000-2012. At that time, the best contacts for me were a couple of model scouts and assistants for two photographers. As others writing above have intimated, discretion is paramount for these guys. If you wish to pursue this route now @PatrickWelsh23, I suggest you send a polite and discreet message through Instagram to guys who interest you. Just say something like “Do you meet men privately? I’d enjoy spending time with you. I’m very discreet and generous”. Those guys who are interested will read ‘between the lines’ readily enough.

Go for it @Coolwave35. They want to earn and you want to spend - that’s Mutual Benefit. And who knows, it may prove very enjoyable for everyone. Decades ago when I was in my late 20s, I started chatting to 2 brothers at the theatre. They were in the row in front and I could tell one was very interested. Both came home with me. It turned out that one was gay, and the other was not but had wondered about gay sex. Of course, the gay one was more engaged and passionate but the straight one tried hard to please me. So it wasn’t a bad experience at all. Here’s the clincher for my deciding to go ahead with them. They were twins and identical (tho I felt the gay one was a bit more handsome).

1+1=2 2+2=4 So @Coolwave35 who was massaged? Was the hunk subjected to the ravenous attention of 3 men? And who was ignored and left out of the 3way? What was the basis for his exclusion from the delights of a 4gy? Enquiring, lascivious minds would like to know who did what to whom, and which holes were explored and filled with how many loads? 😎