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In the past, I had success by sending a polite, complimentary DM asking if they offered personal training. Those who responded generally knew what I had in mind…and I emphasised I was generous and discreet. Of course, it depends on where you’re based and how frequently the guy travels…unless you’re prepared to pay for his flights. As others have suggested, it’s a long and patient process.

A couple of years ago, I had the same sort of ‘transition’ @Cooper when my stockbroker died, aged 84. I didn’t ask questions as you suggested, but I outlined my stance on investment. My firm beliefs are: I want my money in equities managed conservatively, I want to be invested fully at all times, and I believe in progress, not activity So I want to be consulted before any sale or any purchase. I agree. Two replacements were proposed to me: the first seemed to be keen on every ‘hot’ stock, while the second had a more thoughtful approach. I talked to the second about the importance I attach to stock selection, and then letting compound arithmetic do its work. I told him he could sell any stock if he felt it was fully valued but he had to discuss it with me first. For the last 2 years it has worked quite well.

I spend a lot of time in Spain, and I agree strongly with @SirBillybob: visit Granada AND Cordoba. Both rank as wonders of the world. Each deserves a full day visit but in Granada I’d stay overnight. I love visiting Andalusia, especially Seville, and you’re right @Rod Hagen to describe it as a “must visit”. You could easily spend 5-7 days there. Plan to travel from Seville by train to Cordoba (and also Granada)- it’s easy, fast and comfortable. I rate Salamanca (interesting university city) above Toledo (historic summer escape for Madrileños). But if your time is limited, both can be missed. I left Arcos de la Frontera last. It’s really a village with a spectacular setting…but I’d say it can be done in a morning visit followed by lunch. To me, it’s on a par with Ronda but less historic. I feel you can visit once but you wouldn’t return. And I know this may be controversial. May I ask others not to criticise me unless you have a full understanding. I’d recommend going to a tournament of bullfights. Remember that in Spain it is a cultural event of significance. It is taken very seriously in Andalusia. You should dress smartly to attend and book seats in the shade (“sombra”). There is an historic tournament in Ronda each year but tickets are like gold-dust; it is “a la goyesco” where the bullfighters wear 18th C costume and many of the spectators also dress accordingly. (I’ve tried for several years to get tickets for this but never succeeded)

I understand what you’re saying @Rudynate but I never stated that there would be sex for money. I simply stated that @Doe Be Doe has to be in great physical shape and able “to perform”. Just my two cents but if he isn’t jaw-droppingly handsome and a good actor, he won’t “make money” as he wishes.

First, find a rich gay man with too much money and a submissive streak. Then dominate him. It’s an easy way to make money provided you have 3 things a base in a city with lots of such men an extremely handsome face and a ripped, muscled body a very sexual nature and the ability to perform readily with much older men

It’s a shame for the young man @Lucky but it’s hardly surprising. Singapore may well be a well-functioning society but it has always been characterized by authoritarianism combined with a strong streak of morality.

Short answer: No. Long answer: I believe strongly in being polite, but I’m always very clear about what I enjoy doing (and having done to me). Guys have told me I’m generous. I don’t haggle and I expect full service. Any suggestion of a menu or ‘a la carte’ pricing is a deal-breaker for me.

@AndreG has described it well. The small point I’d add is that Eixample is into two parts. It’s bisected by the Paseo de Gracia and you want to be in the Left part, ie West of the Paseo, to be close to the gay area and the sauna mentioned. Ideally you want a nice hotel in Eixample Left (or Esquerra de l’Eixample in Catalan) and above the Gran Via but below Diagonal. IMO Axel is rather basic. It was fine 20 years ago when gay hotels were rare. But in truth, you’ll be fine @JMan in any good BCN hotel as the city is very gay-friendly. Remember hotel receptionists have seen it all before 😉 Before I bought an apartment when I was a regular visitor to BCN, I stayed in a variety of hotels. I was always with a younger male companion and we were always treated well. Sometimes we were fussed over because the hotel wanted to ensure a gay male couple felt well-treated.

I chatted to one model when he was working at a party (as a server and eye-candy). And I was introduced to the other model by a str8 friend of mine who knew my taste.

Like @nycman and @Unicorn I had Pfizer for the first 3 and Moderna as the 2nd booster

The masseur Roger listed by @coriolis888 is very much to my taste, more so than Roberto Bertolucci mentioned above and quoted below. But I don’t understand your approach @cotedeazur You describe him as “a very hot muscle god”. So if you want to have a passionate session with full sex, why fixate on his higher rate? BRL 700 is hardly expensive, especially if he’s coming to you - does $148 truly matter on a vacation in Brazil?

IME @nycboi Yes…if you share my tastes for spectacular men. I have dated 2 guys in Brazil separately - each had featured as the cover model for fitness mags like Men’s Health - and I don’t regret it. The men were great in bed. Neither was crass/vulgar, and they did not consider themselves to be ‘garotos de programa’. Each man knew his worth and asked for “help” or “support” that equaled what you’d pay in the US/Europe.

I could sympathize with your expressed difficulties @Aces but I don’t feel that is what you need. I think you need to start living your life on your own terms. Regret is a terrible thing, but you are now middle-aged and you need to take action. I suggest you join a gym and take regular exercise: you will become fitter over time, and you will be in better health. This will help improve your self-image. Also, if there is a gay group in your area, you should definitely ask them for advice and help.

Very interesting. I hadn’t heard at all of girls introducing their handsome male friends to Seeking. We should be grateful to these young women. I welcome anything that expands the dating pool of hot young guys for nice older men.

Astounding. I’m always surprised at how people can turn some useful but humdrum medicine into an addictive means to pleasure.

Thanks for your detailed reports @SirBillybob on SP and Rio. Also I was glad to learn about Zurich currently. At least being in Zurich has spared you from the torrential rains in Brazil - I see that at the weekend Paraty had 6 months of rain in 24 hours!

I’m a serial monogamist so I have only had numerous boyfriends in the intervals between partners. I’ve no idea of the actual number. But like @Epigonos I keep photos as a record. I have digital photos of about 140 guys.

I don’t doubt it @bigjoey I’ve been on safari in Africa several times. My Abercrombie underwear performed well and was often admired. I never killed anything on safari. I did shoot copious loads but then I was always accompanied by my trophy-boys.

I believe it @Poincare. I was dating a young man when he became an Abercrombie cover-model. There was a competitive casting in NYC and he won a fat paycheck. And he related in detail to me how he had to show his gratitude the next evening and overnight.

I’m keen to see this on Netflix soon. I wonder how it’ll handle all the rampant homoeroticism of the branding then. Although it was some 20 years ago, it now feels like another era. https://variety.com/2022/film/news/netflix-white-hot-abercrombie-and-fitch-documentary-1235220471/amp/

I’d say the usual ways work. Be polite and succinct in your message. I used to say something along the lines of You must work hard to stay in great shape. I enjoy spending time with a hot guy. I’m very discreet. When you’re next in (name city) I’d like to invite you for drinks etc Most hot guys have been complimented by men before, and understand what’s intended. My experience was that guys who are interested in extra income invariably respond well.

In response to the thread title: No, not at all.

In Germany, there has been for some years a social movement to encourage men to sit down when they urinate.

Yes. I met guys there (but did not have sex there). Also I’ve encountered guys on the street, much to my initial surprise. I’ve heard of that sex-party but not been. I was told it’s your demographic @cotedeazur (guys who are 30-35 and in good shape) but FWIW I was told there was a lot of barebacking.

Yes. I mention it upfront. I can only recall one Aussie muscleboy telling me he didn’t like the taste of cum.