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Did Broadway dim its lights tonight in honour of Mr Sondheim? In London, all the theatres in the West End will dim their lights to mourn his passing on Monday evening (at 7pm for 2 minutes)

I feel you’ve answered the OP’s questions very well @sjmuktop I’d just add that years ago when I hired, I wasn’t concerned if an escort asked for my pic or asked about my age, weight, sexual preferences etc. I was always picky when dating and I accepted that escorts might be picky too. I much preferred to find out in advance that we would not be compatible . It saved me time and money, and spared me an unsatisfactory date.

I feel for you @agentgemini It’s very frustrating when someone ‘no shows’. To answer your 1st question: this happened to me some years ago. I was left waiting on an overnight date in LA with a very well-reviewed muscleboy who was exactly ‘my type’. I was upset but stayed calm. I finally reached him by phone 4 hours after the time he’d set. He was very apologetic (but gave no reason) and begged for a second chance. A month later, I’d fixed another overnight from 6.30pm and I phoned him as arranged at 4pm with the WeHo hotel room number. He said he’d hurt himself and had to go to hospital. (I phoned him later on another phone to check how he was; he didn’t recognise my voice and instantly told me he was free to meet; I said I’d think it over) To answer your 2nd question: always have a Plan B. Because the well-reviewed versatile muscleboy had let me down once, I had the numbers of 4 other LA muscleboys with me. I phoned 3 and quickly set up dates. I saw a lovely guy for sex before dinner. Afterwards I had a well-muscled guy (later I discovered he was famous) for a great session before I slept. In the morning, I had the 3rd guy come and service me before breakfast. I had loads of fun with the 3 muscleboys and the 3 dates in total cost less than I’d agreed for the overnight with the ‘no show’.

I don’t disagree with you @lonely_john. I always think that, when escort demands seem excessive, very politely saying ‘No, thank you. But good luck to you” remains the greatest power a prospective client has.

Do you say that @sync because he shaved his body hair (and indeed his pics show a smooth torso) to look less “otter”?

This mirrors my own experience @HoseMaster. I had some great dates with a handsome, blond muscleboy-bottom, 23 before I asked him for an overnight. He was new to the business and quoted me $2500. When I explored his pricing, it transpired that he’d only done 1 overnight date before; it was with a fit 30 year old who topped him 5x between bouts of kissing and oral so he’d barely slept at all. I explained my routine (full, athletic sex session on arrival, good restaurant dinner, shorter session before 7 hours sleep, and oral to completion before breakfast) and he immediately responded with $800. We had an enthusiastic and passionate time, and he became a regular date for me.

I preferred to have a few regulars. The virtues were that scheduling was much easier, and my needs were met by a rotation of desirable men. I agree @The Dude that ‘service standards’ can slip over time. If I was really into a guy, I’d hope to fix the problem by mentioning it straightaway…but if the problem recurred, I’d find a new man.

He certainly looks attractive. May I ask @TumYum whether you “are chatting” in Spanish or English? I was surprised that his profile is wholly written in Spanish. Is that accepted now in NYC?

Hope that’s not one of those Chinese-made extension cords that catch fire after 15 minutes 🥸

@Luv2play has given a comprehensive reply to your questions but I wonder @Beancounter if there’s perhaps a more innocent interpretation. I know someone who (a few years ago) was restoring an old building to make a house for his family. The restoration and some new building was all properly permitted and he had all the necessary approvals. Yet the contractors accidentally extended the new building work too far…when the archeologists were called in, they found it had disturbed what they then concluded had been a slave burial ground. The person I know was found to be at fault even though it was inadvertent.

I agree with what @nycman has posted. I’m not a big fan of the Caribbean - I’ve enjoyed stays on the Cayman Islands and on Barbados - and I’ve only been to St Barts once. It’s a small, attractive and very expensive destination @DTCG82. I was there with my (then) boyfriend and some American friends. We rented a villa and split the considerable cost. While we were there, we ran into some upper-class French people I know, and we think we may have seen another gay couple. There was no problem for us in being gay, just as there was no crime to speak of. Villas and hotels are costly; I doubt you will find any “deals”. Dinner with French wines and delicacies flown in from France can be ruinously expensive. Prices are generally in Euros; check as often hotels and restaurants add a service charge, tho many people still add a gratuity.

To answer the OP, I prize being intelligent because it’s preferable to being stupid. Of course, it hasn’t prevented me from acting stupidly at times throughout my life.

That’s pretty much verbatim what I said, when I was asked by perhaps 3 or 4 different guys. It was a satisfactory answer for most…but one guy (a genuinely nice guy and skilled lover with excellent reviews) was upset. He said “Please don’t put any details about me online” and “How do I get my reviews removed?”

An influx of eager American homosexuals, perhaps? 😎

I’ve always found Paul Rudd attractive. When I was younger, I thought that if he ever turned gay, he’d be my ideal of a husband. But ‘sexiest man alive’? No. For me, that is Ryan Gosling.

I had that happen to me 2x over the years. Once I was accommodating and the eventual date was so-so. With the second man, I took your approach @ButchAtl and said ‘if you have to postpone, I understand but I’ll have to see you another day’…and as you related, suddenly it was fine to go ahead as planned and we had a good date.

The second pic is an old photo @Unicorn The guy in the blue shorts is an ex of mine, Ricardo: I met him in LA maybe 18 years ago; he’s a really sweet guy and nowadays happily with a woman (and they have a young child together).

I’m surprised that you were surprised @Unicorn IME that’s a very typical attitude in LA. I guess it’s so prevalent because there’s a lot of “new money” and others want to be able to categorize newcomers.

When I hired, I always kept in mind CAVEAT EMPTOR. So, as @Epigonos and @glutes suggested, I always checked every detail ahead of a possible date. I also insisted on checking the two of us were compatible by saying how limited my skills in bed were (“I’m only a top, and I’m selfish and lazy”) and saying precisely what I enjoy (“I need you to suck me off to completion”). As a result, some hirings never resulted in a date. But overall, my success rate was high. Over the years, I only had dates with 2 scammers who obviously just wanted to get paid the maximum for doing the minimum.

Like others, I’ve always driven Mercedes cars. And in the last 3 decades, I’ve driven the sports cars (I keep each one for 10 years). Generally I’ve found that young men enjoy being driven fast in an expensive sports car after a date, especially at night with the roof down. I don’t give much thought to understanding why. Big or small, they seem to get excited and hard 😎

Seems a reasonable price to me @tassojunior. You’d probably pay a lot more for an hotel room…and then you’d have to pay him to leave 😎

Yes, Josh Weston was a fantastic muscleboy-bottom. Voracious in bed IME and like @dutchal I too am glad I played safe.

Thanks @Lucky I really enjoy reading the NY Post each day but I hadn’t seen this article. Is anyone really surprised by the findings? So in NYC, goodlooking guys with great jobs in their 30s/40s like to “play the field”. IME that’s not so different for such men who happen to be gay. And, with a shortage of heterosexual men in the 1980s, I saw the same behavior in San Francisco. I still recall fondly a great evening I had there with a young man, a trainee stockbroker (having served in the Marine Corps). I chatted to him in a bar in the Financial District as he was so handsome that I hoped he might be gay. He wasn’t but he smiled readily when I told him I am. He was so engaging that I took him to dinner, and he regaled me with stories of his dating adventures as an in-demand young heterosexual.

When I hired, I always had ‘regulars’. It was great to have fuckbuddies. The benefits for me were that I had guys I could rely on, especially when I was without a boyfriend, and I had my needs met without having to negotiate what I wanted every time. I assume the benefits for them were a steady income from a reliable “no nonsense” guy who was always polite and invited them for dinner, theatre, trips etc. And I never asked for a discount.

Do you @Jostar feel the exchange with him would have gone better if you’d simply countered with 200? Assuming that he interested you in the first place…