DrownedBoy

I honestly have no idea why a provider would talk politics. "Opinions are bad for business."

Text. If they're marked Available Now, give them 10 minutes before you text the next guy. Repeat. First to reach a deal wins. The others get told they should have answered quicker.

I hire providers to do physical activity, not talk or think about politics. Nor do many have enough knowledge to say anything meaningful about politics. I found hiring Latinos who speak functional English, but don't have words for more abstract concepts, are perfect here. I can spend hours listening to them and not hear a thing about politics or the news.

You could just call a gogo bar. Or hang out in one and ask who's up for stripping.

The (ahem) bored upper middle class ladies who invited landscape workers inside always offered a shower first, as well as a way to brush their teeth. The shower was always the first. I recall this 70+ wealthy widow answering the door to this 18 year old Mexican kid, and she wasn't wearing anything but a towel.

The person with the money plays judge. That's how it works.

When I filed my complaint with RentMen, they didn't publish it, but told me they would "take it into account." Apparently he was already on their sh!t list. Hopefully that bumped one more thief mascarading as an escort off the platform 😘. It's a shame we can't call the cops on these guys, so it's essential we police them ourselves. Good work to all involved.

It may be something that providers are willing to do for pay; I was referring to a hookup, which took place on equal footing. Which is no doubt why the older "gentleman" was willing to criticize the idea of me being a white slave to a black guy. I'd still worry sbout calling someone a "cotton picking n****r" unless that was made extreeeemely clear and consensual beforehand. I recall reading an article by a black writer whose partner unexpectedly blurted out the n word like that, and it very quickly ended any nice feelings between them.

No idea. My theory is that gay closeted guys are really cowardly about rocking the boat, so they give 5 stars no matter what.

I've seen reviews that gave 5 stars, but when I contacted the reviewer, who has reviewed many others, he confirmed (from what I read on CoM) that it was a horrible hire. Useless.🙃

Like someone else said, I do need to see a hire's face first, even if they need to keep it private. Facial hair is a concern of mine.

You should definitely talk to the provider. Met a black gentleman, and he told me he turned down any guy interested in that. He even disapproved of the idea that I like to "be the slave" during roleplaying. To him it was a demeaning way of looking at black people.

This should go in The Deli

Especially when, at a diner I frequent, the manager is working while being mean to the waitresses he's "working with." When he got criticized by a waitress, I backed her up, told the manager he was being a prick in front of a lot of people, and pointed out how many years I'd been eating there. He wasn't there a few weeks later.

Guys - even EDIT valid reviews don't matter. There was a discussion in The Deli about a RentMen provider who was really G4P and refused to do what he agreed to upon arriving. He had 10 5-star reviews on RentMen. Out of curiosity (as I don't hire heteros), I asked one of those reviewers how well the session was. He replied it was horrible. And yet they gave him 5 stars...... Verdict - Totally Useless

I guess that's what they call a reciprocal tariff.

When the pandemic just started, I felt the same. I hired x2 in a single week, something I never do. It was healthier and cheaper just to go to my rural Wisconsin place.

I don't trust rescheduling. I tried it with a certain popular provider, and ended up with an overpriced hour vs the acceptable 2 hour rate we had negotiated. Something he didn't share ahead of time. You did the right thing. This is business, and your time is more valuable than the provider's. If he can't respect your schedule, there's more fish in the sea.

My understanding was that RentMen sometimes reads these forums.

He wasn't turning into a different person. He was just showing less interest in you. That's what happens when any relationship or friendship winds down due to one side's lack of interest. I saw that enough times in my dating life. It's nothing special. And it's definitely not something you should allow yourself to emotionally ponder if you were in a transactional relationship.

I finally had a chance to read a gay Holocaust memoir. Published after I left school. Very harsh and doesn't end very happily. Scary that he went from a libertine Frenchman in a somewhat gay friendly environment to a concentration camp, then forced labor and military service.

He promised me the moon. Naturally I didn't hire.

Why did you waste your time posting on this thread 😔

That's why I'm don't hire "popular providers."

So far I haven't seen any discounts announced in ads, like during the pandemic. But yes. If you have the cash, there may be many advantages. Unlike the pandemic, there's no fear to meet. Unlike a regular recession, this one might last awhile.