IronMaus

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

Oh you are NOT wrong - having given people specific, correct, step by step advice, I've still had people tell me they tried spraying it into their dick. I honestly believe the fear of damaging our penis can lead us to irrational behavior - like going to the hospital and thinking they know what they are doing lol

Oral Sudafed can help but to a lesser degree. When worried about their boner not going down, people will take Sudafed and wait an hour or more hoping it will work - by that time it is hard to tell if its the Sudafed is doing it or just the medicine wearing off.

Doctors are also able to prescribe straight up phenylephrine, but like many other things, many doctors just don't know about this and will tell you they cannot. If you are going to use nasal spray use a fresh bottle - preferably every time, but if you want to use it more than once do NOT put it in your nose, before use wipe the tip with an alcohol swab just the same as your would the trimix bottle, spray it into the needle cap to pull the liquid from, and keep it in a plastic bag if you are traveling with it to prevent any sort of contamination.

When purchasing these boner drugs, they will often provide you with an antidote - but only ONE dosage. It would make more sense if they gave you an entire bottle, but knowing men that would probably only encourage misuse of the drug.

I've never understood them, but I'm thankful for providers that do not kiss or give oral because they make me more popular.
If they say they are into kissing and then don't, THAT is unforgiveable.

The #PNP on his profile is a red flag for me - but that's just me

Absolutely. Sometimes when incredibly attracted to someone and decide it would be better to hire them than to pursue them personally - especially if I only know them through RM or seeing their porn. I've only done this a handful of times but they were all very worthwhile experiences.

I'm both a grower and a shower. I double in length and thickness when I get hard. 

Oh you are NOT wrong - having given people specific, correct, step by step advice, I've still had people tell me they tried spraying it into their dick. I honestly believe the fear of damaging our penis can lead us to irrational behavior - like going to the hospital and thinking they know what they are doing lol

Oral Sudafed can help but to a lesser degree. When worried about their boner not going down, people will take Sudafed and wait an hour or more hoping it will work - by that time it is hard to tell if its the Sudafed is doing it or just the medicine wearing off.

Doctors are also able to prescribe straight up phenylephrine, but like many other things, many doctors just don't know about this and will tell you they cannot. If you are going to use nasal spray use a fresh bottle - preferably every time, but if you want to use it more than once do NOT put it in your nose, before use wipe the tip with an alcohol swab just the same as your would the trimix bottle, spray it into the needle cap to pull the liquid from, and keep it in a plastic bag if you are traveling with it to prevent any sort of contamination.

When purchasing these boner drugs, they will often provide you with an antidote - but only ONE dosage. It would make more sense if they gave you an entire bottle, but knowing men that would probably only encourage misuse of the drug.

Craigslist Ads from clients is how I got into this work - RIP Craigslist I miss you!

Clients, I very much appreciate when your RM profile tells me exactly what you are looking for. Stats are not necessary but they help. You can change your text anytime and be specific about when/where you are looking for something.

So many of my clients and regulars began with me sending them a message first.

When I heard about Doublelist I was hoping the same thing could happen there, but apparently the police heavily for services or donations offered. Can't use words like "generous" but gentleman isn't flagged. Doesn't leave much room for us. Does anyone have experience with this on Doublelist?

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

What a dick! I think you did the right thing. Personally I would have called him out for it and told him I regretted my interactions with him. Many people get to go through life being actively racist without confrontation. Many people wouldn't change if it did result in a confrontation. But it's always a possibility that something can get through to people. We aren't born racist we are taught it - and we can unlearn it.

My 2 cents, it is unprofessional on your part to ask an escort what is the rate for 30 min knowing that it’s always minimum an hour. With all my respect, one advice for you, if you want an escort to take any of your request seriously never ask for 30 min. This sounds ridiculous. 

Welcome to the forum, provocateur.

How many providers have you hired for 30 minutes?
He told you his rate for anything up to one hour:  $300.
I think the provider dodged a bullet.  And makes logical arguments substantially better.  And isn't the one who feigned offense or false indignation when called out.
He should've deleted without responding.

 

Could it have changed the way the exchange went if you started with why you were interested in a 30 minute meeting?

If this were a vin diagram, I think there would be an overlap between preference and racism. Sure, people may just have a preference for what turns them on but would not otherwise be racist, but for others I think it's one of the same. It sounds like that was the case with the dancer.
I agree you did the right thing to bail. But you could also have said something, even as simple as calmly saying "damn, that's really offensive." I think it's worth calling people out on their bs, but it can be hard in the moment if you are caught by surprise. I mean, who expects someone to say something like that?
But don't let this ruin things for you or wreck the fantasy. There are jerks and there are good guys, so find the guys who are good through and through and stick with them.

I was at a stripper event recently and approached a good-looking dancer. After some small talk, I took him up on a couple of lapdances to test the waters, and it turns out that the waters were pretty fantastic. It was made clear that the menu would expand considerably for a private dance. 
We returned to the floor for a drink. I had decided that I was going to take him up on on the offer for the champagne room. But, apparently two lapdances is all he needed to get comfortable philosophically as well as physically.
Without a lot of preamble or prompting, he made it clear that he generally doesn’t give dances to people of color but asians are okay. Honestly, I was too shocked to ask why and his views on race sounded pretty toxic. 
I have such a strong aversion to racism that this shut down any chance of me giving him any more money or attention. I decided not to "have it out" with him, I figured it wouldn't do much good anyway so I told him that I forgot about something and bailed.
Not necessarily looking for advice but the experience has stayed with me and I can’t seem to forget it. How would you handle a similar situation?

I answered an ad on Craigslist looking to exchange money for doing something explicit. It really got me off and he became a regular.

I answered an ad on Craigslist looking to exchange money for doing something explicit. It really got me off and he became a regular.

Yes he did. YMMV

In an array of collapsing dominoes with other flaky gentlemen I’d arranged to meet in London…I ended up engaging BlondieBoyy, his links above.
So it was a very fun meeting, 30 mins of massage at my request (was quite good) then fun. I’d recommend him. To address some of the comments above:
He’s 20 now not 19, and he looks far more mature than his pics. No “kiddy porn” @pubic_assistance 😉 He’s NOT naturally smooth He does NOT smoke He has an amazing tight body and beautiful equipment. I topped.  His face in considerably more handsome than his pics show. Very engaging and fun to talk to…we quickly connected and had a great time.
The rest of my SleepyBoy gents I’d chatted with all demurred about scheduling, cancelled, ghosted. Like 4 of them 😖
 

A very few make huge money, most don’t. Some guys seem to think they’ll be able to retire in a year by just posting a weekly movie of them tossing themselves off in front of a mirror. They soon realise it takes more work than that. Then they lose interest.
I have a justforfans. I’m in the top 3% of models on there. I make a reasonable return but I’m not retiring anytime soon! It takes work to build up a subscriber base. I probably spend 2 days a month working on it, and I have a business partner who I pay (from the justforfans revenue) to do the editing and social media uploads etc. He spends a couple of days too. He manages all that admin side and I do the performing and finding guys to collaborate with, and setting up film shoots. 
It doesn’t displace my massage work but it is a nice income stream to supplement that. I think to make having a fans site at least worthwhile you need to find a niche, film good quality content (good lighting, multiple angles, professional editing) and publish regularly.
The problem is that it’s so easy to enter the fans site business that people set up a site thinking they’ll be rich… and now it’s saturated with average content produced by naive models.