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This is a complex topic.  I am a retired physical therapist who did home care for 35 years and I have seen it all.  There are good facilities and bad ones.  I now live in a retirement community and most people are independent and active.  However people continue to die around me.  It is a fact of life no matter where you as a senior live.  Even if you are in your life long home,  your friends and church community will die off and the humor among the surviving is gallows.  There is a grim acceptance of people getting ill and dying.  Unless they were your bestie, you just shrug and carry on.  As most people here are not from there, and even if they are their families are scattered.  So for most, there is not even a memorial service, much less a funeral.  It is held wherever the children are.  So as we say, getting old is not for the weak.   
Staying in your own home depends on how much reliable community support you have.  For me that is my car keys.  I am able to fully manage my own home, cooking shopping and laundry.  But you have two options.  Either you eventually need help or you die before you do.  
If you choose to live long enough, where do you get that help?  If you rely on paid help, well they are unreliable and you need a back up.  If you can skip a day or two of help well ok, but if you can not, and you do not have children or another who can at least back you up, then you may have no choice but to go into a facility.  
One of the issues that hit me back when I was a student was that people would prefer to live alone as a shut in than live in a congregate care facility.  This woman had to be carried down 4 flights of steps to leave her building and she did very well in the nursing home where she was getting rehab and could have stayed there.  
So while I will stay in my home as long as it is feasible, I realize that there may be a next step in my housing situation.   I moved across the country into this development and looked at it as a new chapter in my life and as an adventure.  If the time comes that I need to move on, I will have the same attitude.  Fortunately I will have the financial resources to both keep me in this home as long as feasible and then  move into a nicer facility. 
But life is a series of stages and to think that you have control is to fool yourself.  You continue to have to go where life takes you, even if that was the continuation of your first job out of school or around the world.  The only way to really survive is to look forward to new experiences and people.  If you are mad and resentful you will just make yourself miserable.     
 

This is a complex topic.  I am a retired physical therapist who did home care for 35 years and I have seen it all.  There are good facilities and bad ones.  I now live in a retirement community and most people are independent and active.  However people continue to die around me.  It is a fact of life no matter where you as a senior live.  Even if you are in your life long home,  your friends and church community will die off and the humor among the surviving is gallows.  There is a grim acceptance of people getting ill and dying.  Unless they were your bestie, you just shrug and carry on.  As most people here are not from there, and even if they are their families are scattered.  So for most, there is not even a memorial service, much less a funeral.  It is held wherever the children are.  So as we say, getting old is not for the weak.   
Staying in your own home depends on how much reliable community support you have.  For me that is my car keys.  I am able to fully manage my own home, cooking shopping and laundry.  But you have two options.  Either you eventually need help or you die before you do.  
If you choose to live long enough, where do you get that help?  If you rely on paid help, well they are unreliable and you need a back up.  If you can skip a day or two of help well ok, but if you can not, and you do not have children or another who can at least back you up, then you may have no choice but to go into a facility.  
One of the issues that hit me back when I was a student was that people would prefer to live alone as a shut in than live in a congregate care facility.  This woman had to be carried down 4 flights of steps to leave her building and she did very well in the nursing home where she was getting rehab and could have stayed there.  
So while I will stay in my home as long as it is feasible, I realize that there may be a next step in my housing situation.   I moved across the country into this development and looked at it as a new chapter in my life and as an adventure.  If the time comes that I need to move on, I will have the same attitude.  Fortunately I will have the financial resources to both keep me in this home as long as feasible and then  move into a nicer facility. 
But life is a series of stages and to think that you have control is to fool yourself.  You continue to have to go where life takes you, even if that was the continuation of your first job out of school or around the world.  The only way to really survive is to look forward to new experiences and people.  If you are mad and resentful you will just make yourself miserable.     
 

This is a complex topic.  I am a retired physical therapist who did home care for 35 years and I have seen it all.  There are good facilities and bad ones.  I now live in a retirement community and most people are independent and active.  However people continue to die around me.  It is a fact of life no matter where you as a senior live.  Even if you are in your life long home,  your friends and church community will die off and the humor among the surviving is gallows.  There is a grim acceptance of people getting ill and dying.  Unless they were your bestie, you just shrug and carry on.  As most people here are not from there, and even if they are their families are scattered.  So for most, there is not even a memorial service, much less a funeral.  It is held wherever the children are.  So as we say, getting old is not for the weak.   
Staying in your own home depends on how much reliable community support you have.  For me that is my car keys.  I am able to fully manage my own home, cooking shopping and laundry.  But you have two options.  Either you eventually need help or you die before you do.  
If you choose to live long enough, where do you get that help?  If you rely on paid help, well they are unreliable and you need a back up.  If you can skip a day or two of help well ok, but if you can not, and you do not have children or another who can at least back you up, then you may have no choice but to go into a facility.  
One of the issues that hit me back when I was a student was that people would prefer to live alone as a shut in than live in a congregate care facility.  This woman had to be carried down 4 flights of steps to leave her building and she did very well in the nursing home where she was getting rehab and could have stayed there.  
So while I will stay in my home as long as it is feasible, I realize that there may be a next step in my housing situation.   I moved across the country into this development and looked at it as a new chapter in my life and as an adventure.  If the time comes that I need to move on, I will have the same attitude.  Fortunately I will have the financial resources to both keep me in this home as long as feasible and then  move into a nicer facility. 
But life is a series of stages and to think that you have control is to fool yourself.  You continue to have to go where life takes you, even if that was the continuation of your first job out of school or around the world.  The only way to really survive is to look forward to new experiences and people.  If you are mad and resentful you will just make yourself miserable.     
 

This is a complex topic.  I am a retired physical therapist who did home care for 35 years and I have seen it all.  There are good facilities and bad ones.  I now live in a retirement community and most people are independent and active.  However people continue to die around me.  It is a fact of life no matter where you as a senior live.  Even if you are in your life long home,  your friends and church community will die off and the humor among the surviving is gallows.  There is a grim acceptance of people getting ill and dying.  Unless they were your bestie, you just shrug and carry on.  As most people here are not from there, and even if they are their families are scattered.  So for most, there is not even a memorial service, much less a funeral.  It is held wherever the children are.  So as we say, getting old is not for the weak.   
Staying in your own home depends on how much reliable community support you have.  For me that is my car keys.  I am able to fully manage my own home, cooking shopping and laundry.  But you have two options.  Either you eventually need help or you die before you do.  
If you choose to live long enough, where do you get that help?  If you rely on paid help, well they are unreliable and you need a back up.  If you can skip a day or two of help well ok, but if you can not, and you do not have children or another who can at least back you up, then you may have no choice but to go into a facility.  
One of the issues that hit me back when I was a student was that people would prefer to live alone as a shut in than live in a congregate care facility.  This woman had to be carried down 4 flights of steps to leave her building and she did very well in the nursing home where she was getting rehab and could have stayed there.  
So while I will stay in my home as long as it is feasible, I realize that there may be a next step in my housing situation.   I moved across the country into this development and looked at it as a new chapter in my life and as an adventure.  If the time comes that I need to move on, I will have the same attitude.  Fortunately I will have the financial resources to both keep me in this home as long as feasible and then  move into a nicer facility. 
But life is a series of stages and to think that you have control is to fool yourself.  You continue to have to go where life takes you, even if that was the continuation of your first job out of school or around the world.  The only way to really survive is to look forward to new experiences and people.  If you are mad and resentful you will just make yourself miserable.     
 

Any age may be your sexual peak year if you have a vivid imagination and a sense of adventure.  There is always something new to try, someone new to do.  Keep expanding your limits and your sex life can be limitlessly entertaining and satisfying.  

I just remember the polio epidemic and was a participant in the big double blind study to establish effectiveness. There was no anti vax nonsense then.   The biggest thing about it was fear especially as the transmission was unknown.  I remember not going to public pools as that was thought to be a source of the infection.  However while the impact of the victims and their families was dramatic, the overall affect on the population was minimal. Life still went on because there was nothing known to prevent it and it really did not hit that many people.  In 1952 the worst year there was half the current population and there were 58,000 cases and 3000 deaths.   

Yes I was and have fond memories.  We bonded together quite well and looked out for each other.  We were very average guys,  no big jocks or BMOCS or the most popular with the girls.   I had not really come to terms with my sexuality at the time,  had a fascination of sex with men but only one  H S experience.  My school a "technology institute "  was  at least 90% male, science and engineering was not a big thing with women in those days, and the school was about 50% "Greek". (A funny aside, a woman who I knew later on is of Greek heritage.  A bit naïve about college life, when she got there she heard about "the Greeks" this and that and was surprised that there were so many of Greek descent like here there until she realized what was going on)   Women in the surrounding schools would generally not date "independents" because they were thought to be and generally were geeks, nerds and socially deficient.  Actually they were brilliant but socially awkward and many today would be considered "on the spectrum".    I don't even know if the public was aware of the term Autism then.  The school social scene totally resolved around the fraternities and membership was kind of necessary for a social life.  I am only in contact with 2 of the 14 guys in my class.   Of the 14,  at least 3 of us are bi or gay.  

Right now maybe generally 30 but up to 45 minutes.  It is a  10-15 minute ride out of my suburban area, but I can get to most of the Las Vegas valley including the strip and downtown in that time. There are enough guys in that area that I don't need to to to the few on the  far edges.  When I lived on Long Island, I would usually make appointments with guys in Manhattan as part of trip there, not a specific hour long or more trip.   If I was working in Queens,  sometimes I could grab a few hours to get into Manhattan from there.  There were no RM closer to home but there was no need to go out of mid town.

Yes I was and have fond memories.  We bonded together quite well and looked out for each other.  We were very average guys,  no big jocks or BMOCS or the most popular with the girls.   I had not really come to terms with my sexuality at the time,  had a fascination of sex with men but only one  H S experience.  My school a "technology institute "  was  at least 90% male, science and engineering was not a big thing with women in those days, and the school was about 50% "Greek". (A funny aside, a woman who I knew later on is of Greek heritage.  A bit naïve about college life, when she got there she heard about "the Greeks" this and that and was surprised that there were so many of Greek descent like here there until she realized what was going on)   Women in the surrounding schools would generally not date "independents" because they were thought to be and generally were geeks, nerds and socially deficient.  Actually they were brilliant but socially awkward and many today would be considered "on the spectrum".    I don't even know if the public was aware of the term Autism then.  The school social scene totally resolved around the fraternities and membership was kind of necessary for a social life.  I am only in contact with 2 of the 14 guys in my class.   Of the 14,  at least 3 of us are bi or gay.  

First ventral is the term for front, as opposed to dorsal for back.  I had two a few years age, the first was laparoscopic and the second a year or so later was open due to the scaring from the first he couldn't do the laparoscopic.  Had some pain.  He prescribed about a week of Tylenol with codeine. did not even need it.  Don't think I even finished the first bottle after the second but he gave me some more, still have it years later but I think the Tylenol expired so it really should get tossed one day.  Rapid recovery although lately get occasional pinching feeling at the mesh site.  I often get pulled by TSA for stuff in my pelvic area, thought just the pants bunching, never thought it could be the mesh.  Will look more closely next time.   But the pat down is kind of fun, only in that the guy is so overly polite and formal nd so awkward  about it and I really could not care,  just hurry up and let me go.  

I'm vaccinated and only vaxed providers for me.  There is enough shit that can be transmitted already and the more I can control ,the better

I'm vaccinated and only vaxed providers for me.  There is enough shit that can be transmitted already and the more I can control ,the better

I just looked at the www.poppers-aromas.eu/site.  They have amyl nitrate which is the actual drug that are poppers and is legal on Rx and is used for cardiac problems. .  As no RX use in the US is illegal, they came out with the propyl and other nitrates to get around the problem.  I may try them

Marching up and down the school yard arms linked chanting "I like Ike"   Being in the mass Salk polio vaccine trial.  They chose my entire elementary school for the study.  I was so happy that I got the vaccine, not the placebo because I did not have to get the initial 3 shots over, just needed the booster.  The dinosaurs!!!!!!

Marching up and down the school yard arms linked chanting "I like Ike"   Being in the mass Salk polio vaccine trial.  They chose my entire elementary school for the study.  I was so happy that I got the vaccine, not the placebo because I did not have to get the initial 3 shots over, just needed the booster.  The dinosaurs!!!!!!

Like everything in an unregulated industry, it means whatever the provider wants it to mean.  I look more for what they DON'T list in their 'intos' rather than what they do list. 

To me into means that it is something that your really enjoy doing and look forward to incorporating into the experience.  But I get the feeling that for some guys it means that they will go along with it, like into toys or leather or bondage  but that means if you bring it they will accommodate you but do not provide it, or into feet means they they will tolerate  your licking theirs.  Or worse they just check off everything.   I do discuss before hiring but find that they do not come through.   I once gave a guy a whole list and he was going to cancel but I assured him that I did not expect most of it but was all of the things I was open to.  But I do feel that you can only ask for so much before you get that kind of reaction and some guys will just yes you.  Once you are on his bed it is really too late unless you are prepared to leave.  Are you going to walk out because he does not have a dildo or will not suck on your toes when all else is going well.   But I am prepared for that and do not let the lack of certain activities detract from the experience.  

Do not ever use them again.  You were "lucky" that it only lasted 3 days.  Next time could be worse and longer.  Maybe just a shot of booze or a joint to relax you.  You have to try them out.  

I recently saw a reference to current cruising Vaseline Alley in West Hollywood.  I thought is was a local nickname for a standard dark behind the stores alley and got its name from the use of a lot of the stuff in the old pre condom days.  Apparently it is a named street on google maps.  Does anyone know how it got the name.  

I have not been having success getting what I am looking for from an escort, probably too subtle to get across how I want them to take charge. I get the feeling they do not know me well enough to push harder and I am able to hire rarely so it is not like I have had the chance to develop a relationship. Anyway I feel that I want to take charge more and be active in going after the vanilla things I want to do like instead of being ordered to suck them, just going for it and telling them to suck me.
 
At the same time I am sensitive that they are people and do not want them to feel like they are just pieces of meat lying there for me to perve over.
 
Am I overthinking this and/or is this part of being an escort and part of the usual encounters you guys have?

I have it only because they gave me a good deal to continue. For the second car I do have the app on my phone and just Bluetooth it to the second car. Hope that helps

the mouth has a large percentage of the sensory cortex so we get a tremendous amout of input from kissing, much more than from the genitals. If you google sensory homunculus , sorry I could not download the picture, you can see the proportion of sensory input from the various parts of the body: genitals are a small part in the scheme of things. If you are looking just to bust a nut, then I guess not kissing or hugging or any body contact will work for you, but for me, looking for an all over physical experience, where the nut is the dessert at the end of a total "meal" kissing is essential. I need the connection.

the mouth has a large percentage of the sensory cortex so we get a tremendous amout of input from kissing, much more than from the genitals. If you google sensory homunculus , sorry I could not download the picture, you can see the proportion of sensory input from the various parts of the body: genitals are a small part in the scheme of things. If you are looking just to bust a nut, then I guess not kissing or hugging or any body contact will work for you, but for me, looking for an all over physical experience, where the nut is the dessert at the end of a total "meal" kissing is essential. I need the connection.

One turn off is too many pictures that really do not add to the profile. 15 to 20 face or even dick shots really don't tell me much about you, except that maybe you are too into yourself. If you are into anything like leather or underwear or kink or bondage, a few pictures of you at least holding a prop or wearing whatever will help me picture in that scene and maybe interest me.

One turn off is too many pictures that really do not add to the profile. 15 to 20 face or even dick shots really don't tell me much about you, except that maybe you are too into yourself. If you are into anything like leather or underwear or kink or bondage, a few pictures of you at least holding a prop or wearing whatever will help me picture in that scene and maybe interest me.