At what age does a gay man reach his sexual peak?

[Merboy]

For straight bros, it's got to be 18-23.

But gay men aren't always out when they're young, depending on where they live.  It's still 1969 in parts of the world, so it's not universally shared that all gay men can be sexual when they are young.

I would argue that it's probably the age he feels the most confidently beautiful - and that for some gay men can be 70, like in Christopher Plummer's Oscar-winning performance in Beginners, where he played the newly out gay spring chicken who was also in diapers and on Medicare.

Gay men's trajectory of life is very different than straight man's is.  There is a whole other flow that happens and that's because straight men own the world and gay men are living in the straight man's world so they are an oppressed and marginalized class before they are even born.

Gay guys are also challenging the meaning and nature of sexuality in America and since Stonewall have been becoming more assertive, more confident, more strong than ever before - and demanding they get exactly what they want.

Straight men I feel reach their peak when they're young - too young, really - which may explain why once they hit 35 or 45 or 55, they become disgruntled old men with receding hairlines, bald spots, pot bellies, and sexual problems.  The cock that could last forever twenty years ago is no longer ticking and so they react by being angry at the world.  Figures since this is their world and all they see around them is every other group of people getting ahead and making strides whereas they only decline as they age... losing their sexual power, but obtaining wealth and status. 

Gay men, on the other hand, go through painful pubescent periods and in small town rural America, gay boys are still bullied, tormented, and harassed.  Gay boys are raped, exploited, and used and then thrown away.  There's a lot of heartache early on, whereas for the straight bros it's pretty much a fucking party.

It gets flipped in the 30s and 40s, as those alphas from high school who became frat boys in college (once hot, young, and full of cum) are now reduced to window dressing for their wives (who, if you look at Facebook and Instagram, aren't that pretty or young themselves).  The wives are hitting their sexual peak, but their husbands are unable to fulfill them.  Karma's a bitch, what can I say?

Gay men however only BLOSSOM with age.  They're like fine Italian wine - the older they are, the more confident and at home with themselves they are.  The less weight they carry onto their shoulders when they walk.  They're able to break free of the world they lived in, find a more accepting place, date for the first time in their life as who they truly are, live out their sexual fantasies (even into their 60s and 70s), and they are much more freer, liberated men than the straight bros they knew in high school are.

Just my two cents.

[samhexum]

28 minutes ago, Merboy said:

At what age does a gay man reach his sexual peak? Merboy is turning 36...

 

35

Edited September 18, 2021 by samhexum

[Guest]

3 hours ago, Merboy said:

For straight bros, it's got to be 18-23.

But gay men aren't always out when they're young, depending on where they live.  It's still 1969 in parts of the world, so it's not universally shared that all gay men can be sexual when they are young.

I would argue that it's probably the age he feels the most confidently beautiful - and that for some gay men can be 70, like in Christopher Plummer's Oscar-winning performance in Beginners, where he played the newly out gay spring chicken who was also in diapers and on Medicare.

Gay men's trajectory of life is very different than straight man's is.  There is a whole other flow that happens and that's because straight men own the world and gay men are living in the straight man's world so they are an oppressed and marginalized class before they are even born.

Gay guys are also challenging the meaning and nature of sexuality in America and since Stonewall have been becoming more assertive, more confident, more strong than ever before - and demanding they get exactly what they want.

Straight men I feel reach their peak when they're young - too young, really - which may explain why once they hit 35 or 45 or 55, they become disgruntled old men with receding hairlines, bald spots, pot bellies, and sexual problems.  The cock that could last forever twenty years ago is no longer ticking and so they react by being angry at the world.  Figures since this is their world and all they see around them is every other group of people getting ahead and making strides whereas they only decline as they age... losing their sexual power, but obtaining wealth and status. 

Gay men, on the other hand, go through painful pubescent periods and in small town rural America, gay boys are still bullied, tormented, and harassed.  Gay boys are raped, exploited, and used and then thrown away.  There's a lot of heartache early on, whereas for the straight bros it's pretty much a fucking party.

It gets flipped in the 30s and 40s, as those alphas from high school who became frat boys in college (once hot, young, and full of cum) are now reduced to window dressing for their wives (who, if you look at Facebook and Instagram, aren't that pretty or young themselves).  The wives are hitting their sexual peak, but their husbands are unable to fulfill them.  Karma's a bitch, what can I say?

Gay men however only BLOSSOM with age.  They're like fine Italian wine - the older they are, the more confident and at home with themselves they are.  The less weight they carry onto their shoulders when they walk.  They're able to break free of the world they lived in, find a more accepting place, date for the first time in their life as who they truly are, live out their sexual fantasies (even into their 60s and 70s), and they are much more freer, liberated men than the straight bros they knew in high school are.

Just my two cents.

While I don’t think you are doing it with malice, the only way you seem to find foundation for assuming it’s different for gay vs straight men is by exploiting uninformed stereotypes and romanticizing your own experience.  

Edited September 18, 2021 by BnaC

[Merboy]

3 hours ago, samhexum said:

35

God I hope so.  After a crippling porn addiction in college, and years and years of nights howling at the moon dreaming of being fucked by alpha muscle guys I can't have - I pray that 35 was the peak.  I pray that 36 is the beginning of that edge beginning to be sawed down because my God was I heat for so long.

[Merboy]

44 minutes ago, BnaC said:

While I don’t think you are doing it with malice, the only way you seem to find foundation for assuming it’s different for gay vs straight men is by exploiting uninformed stereotypes and romanticizing your own experience.  

Okay.  But it made me feel better, so I guess it was worth posting.  I'd like to think that my sexual existence on this Earth is not over just because I turn 30, or 40, or 50.  Yeah, I'm not young anymore, but youth doesn't necessarily correlate with beauty or sex appeal or confidence.

You still didn't answer the question though - or do you disagree with the entire premise of a "sexual peak" in the first place?

[+ nycman]

I’ll let you know when I get there.

[+ Cash4Trash]

On the bright side voyeurs are at their sexual peek for their entire lifetime. 

[Guest]

2 hours ago, Merboy said:

Okay.  But it made me feel better, so I guess it was worth posting.  I'd like to think that my sexual existence on this Earth is not over just because I turn 30, or 40, or 50.  Yeah, I'm not young anymore, but youth doesn't necessarily correlate with beauty or sex appeal or confidence.

You still didn't answer the question though - or do you disagree with the entire premise of a "sexual peak" in the first place?

Trust me, it’s not over at those ages whether you’re gay or straight, it just changes.  It becomes less narcissistic and selfish and gains intensity from emotional connection.  I’m nearing 60 and I’m happily heterosexual with a girlfriend of two years who’s your age and I disagree with your stereotype of straight men.  
Do I think a peak exists?  Maybe, but whether you measure by frequency, endurance, satisfaction, or emotional connection…I’ll let you know if I reach it…because I’ve not seen it yet.  In fact, I’d say it’s as good now as ever.    I suspect if you’d ask my girlfriend, she’d say that older men are less selfish lovers,  have more endurance, and are more attentive to details.  
 

Edited September 18, 2021 by BnaC

[+ sync]

33 minutes ago, Cash4Trash said:

On the bright side voyeurs are at their sexual peek for their entire lifetime. 

Awesome wordplay.  👏

[+ WilliamM]

1 hour ago, BnaC said:

Trust me, it’s not over at those ages whether you’re gay or straight, it just changes.  It becomes less narcissistic and selfish and gains intensity from emotional connection.  I’m nearing 60 and I’m happily heterosexual with a girlfriend of two years who’s your age and I disagree with your stereotype of straight men.  
Do I think a peak exists?  Maybe, but whether you measure by frequency, endurance, satisfaction, or emotional connection…I’ll let you know if I reach it…because I’ve not seen it yet.  In fact, I’d say it’s as good now as ever.    I suspect if you’d ask my girlfriend, she’d say that older men are less selfish lovers,  have more endurance, and are more attentive to details.  
 

Would be happy  to talk to your girlfriend next time you visit your son in Massachusetts who lived near a major Catholic university

[Guest]

11 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Would be happy  to talk to your girlfriend next time you visit your son in Massachusetts who lived near a major Catholic university

We were just there a couple months ago.  Quite a distance for you

[+ Pensant]

Who knows. I still haven’t needed the blue pill.

[Walker1]

Straight men reach a  peak at 18-23? Then they lose their performance etc? How do you explain Bill Clinton, Trump, Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, R. Kelley, Charlie Chaplin(who fathered a kid at 70 I think) etc etc.

 

If you are trapped with a crazy woman who controls your every move-yeah that will do you in.

[+ WilliamM]

1 hour ago, BnaC said:

We were just there a couple months ago.  Quite a distance for you

Quite a distance for you, someone wrote. Really, my friend. Quite a distance is  Sydney or Brasilia or Tokyo or St Petersburg

[+ E.T.Bass]

Obviously the physical peak is the same.  It's 18 right?  Back when you could still hit the ceiling?

I assume gay and straight (and everything in between) guys are much more alike than we think.

Perhaps the difference is finding a playmate can be easier for straight guys in a world that is mostly straight. 

But isn't that why gay guys moved to the city?  With a little effort, there is plenty to be had there.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited September 18, 2021 by E.T.Bass
Grammar

[Guest]

23 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

Quite a distance for you, someone wrote. Really, my friend. Quite a distance is  Sydney or Brasilia or Tokyo or St Petersburg

When one has plenty of time on one’s hands…uh huh. 

[Epigonos]

Who the hell knows.  Who the hell care.  It is even irrelevant whether or not one is or one is not using the "blue" pill.  All that counts is if one is still having fun. 

[+ Charlie]

For me it was 21; after that it was a slow slide downhill. By 30, I couldn't even cum more than four times at an orgy.

[+ WilliamM]

1 hour ago, BnaC said:

When one has plenty of time on one’s hands…uh huh. 

I had vacation time work when I traveled three times to Australia and twice to Brazil. You do realize how you must respond to Russia. Sweden and Bosnia and Japan

 

[+ WilliamM]

6 hours ago, BnaC said:

When one has plenty of time on one’s hands…uh huh. 

I lived in West Germany for several months in 1972 and in South Vietnam for twelve months in 1968 and 1969

That is rich! "Plenty of time on one's hands"

[samhexum]

41 minutes ago, WilliamM said:

I lived in West Germany for several months in 1972 and in South Vietnam for twelve months in 1968 and 1969

 

And yet you STILL can't make a decent wienerschnitzel or pho.  😁😇😎🤣

Edited September 18, 2021 by samhexum

[jeezifonly]

According to my research, gay men peak sexually sometime prior to the onset of the infallible ability to identify this woman by her full name: 

Dame Elizabeth Rosemond Taylor Hilton Wilding Todd Fisher Burton Burton Warner Fortensky

If you have no clue who she was, your peak may still be ahead. Huzzah!

[+ tassojunior]

There must a be graph somewhere of increasing bank account balance vs. declining testosterone.  calling  @stevenkesslar

[Merboy]

11 hours ago, E.T.Bass said:

Obviously the physical peak is the same.  It's 18 right?  Back when you could still hit the ceiling?

I assume gay and straight (and everything in between) guys are much more alike than we think.

Perhaps the difference is finding a playmate can be easier for straight guys in a world that is mostly straight. 

But isn't that why gay guys moved to the city?  With a little effort, there is plenty to be had there.

 

You're talking about cum hitting the ceiling, right?  Or is my mind truly in the gutter tonight?

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Merboy]

1 hour ago, jeezifonly said:

According to my research, gay men peak sexually sometime prior to the onset of the infallible ability to identify this woman by her full name: 

Dame Elizabeth Rosemond Taylor Hilton Wilding Todd Fisher Burton Burton Warner Fortensky

If you have no clue who she was, your peak may still be ahead. Huzzah!

I not only know who she was, I can name every single Oscar nominated performance.  She won two.  The first, in 1960, after suffering from a very serious life emergency, for playing "the slut of all times" Gloria Wandrous (great name, don't you think?) in the fabulously trashy Butterfield 8.

Six years later, she won for a very different performance in Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?

Her first nomination was for Raintree County (1957), then Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (1958), and Suddenly, Last Summer.

Raintree is obscure.  She looked probably the most beautiful she ever looked in her life as Maggie the Cat... and then there was the Tennessee Williams (now very, very dated) drama about "an avowed homosexual" (remember that phrase?) who is literally eaten (cannibal-style) by the teenage boys he tried to fuck.  Crazy shit for 1959.