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I was going to say Jamie as well since I typically (maybe always?) find his posts intelligent and frequently funny. Going back decades, I really liked Rick (cannot remember his screen name, but he's the guy who lived in NYC and featured his ass). I know some found his shtick tedious, but I found him funny.

To answer your question, the qualities I most enjoy: attractiveness, good sized dick, firm erection, knows how to engage in foreplay first, loves to kiss, and maintains eye contact when the position allows. But something in your story compels me to add this: The guy sounds manipulative. He flatters you excessively (you're the best ever) and then asks you to remove the condom. I'm not saying your topping skills aren't great (how would I know either way), but I am just skeptical of the guy's sincerity the way the story is told.

He only had 36 hours to "decompress." Poor guy. Does he realize that most 9 to 5 working people have only about 60 hours to decompress each weekend, and they have to do that week in and week out? I realize that 36 hours is different than 60 hours, but I think that 36 hours should be sufficient between clients. Hell, one time I was with a provider for a few days who had a subsequent week long appointment immediately after mine. If an escort actually enjoys being with clients, I don't see how having a day and a half in between clients is insufficient to resume work. At any rate, the big problem is that the escort took control of the situation without any input from the client. Whether it's because he assumed he was doing the right thing for the client (his stated "I won't be my best") or because he simply only cared about his own feelings, I think a smarter provider who wanted to cancel an appointment like the one described would have had a conversation with the client along the lines of: "My return from a previous engagement was delayed and I'm afraid I won't be able to give you my best this weekend. Would you rather I come anyway or can we just reschedule this for another time?" I wouldn't hire the guy again. At the very least, he should have realized that his last minute cancellation likely caused some financial loss for the client and he should have discussed some way to address that (reduced fee for a different appointment, splitting the cost of a hotel that cannot be canceled, reimbursement of airfare, whatever).

Hot photos, but I noticed the reviews indicate $400 paid for a 90 minute "massage." That sounds like more of an escort rate to me. I don't see an ad for him on Rentmen.

It's bad enough if someone uses someone else's body photos, but to use someone else's face in their ad is inexcusable. So the actual provider wants privacy/doesn't want an internet trail that they are working as a provider but they have no qualm about associating someone else's face with that activity? That's just plain wrong.

Yes, I should have added that I rarely had to walk away because a guy was so far different from either his description or photos. I definitely remember one guy, though, who was clearly obese and older than me when he opened his door despite having photos showing a younger athletic man. I told him that I was leaving because he didn't look at all like his photos and he started arguing with me as I walked down his steps. I turned around and told him that I was the one who should be angry since he wasted my time. There have been maybe only one or two other times where I walked away.

I would have sent him on his way but without his fee, assuming the "huge belly" description is accurate. I certainly went through with appointments when men were a bit more out of shape than their photos indicated, but if someone is definitely a lot less fit than their ad indicates I basically view them as fraudsters. I'm not going to reward someone with half of his fee (which today would likely be a couple of hundred dollars) for just showing up. At any rate, I typically preferred going to the provider's place so it made it even easier to just walk away and not hear an argument about how they spent time and money getting to me.

You describe having erectile dysfunction but then state you don't think you have it because you are in your 30s. Age has nothing to do with it. If you aren't getting and maintaining an erection under appropriate circumstances, by definition you have ED. ED can be caused by physical factors as well as emotional ones. It can result as a side effect of some medications, be an indication of some underlying disease, or simply may be due to your anxiety. If the Viagra didn't help, it still doesn't mean you don't have ED because Viagra is only going to do so much for you if you have factors causing your erectile dysfunction that are greater than the effects of Viagra. Without derailing this thread too much, I'll say that I noticed Viagra had a significantly diminished effect for me once I started taking a medication for a chronic medical condition. My ED was so distressing for me that I tried virtually all alternative treatments for my medical condition and they all had side effects worse than the ED caused by what I still take. At any rate, since we don't know what you mean by "in the best shape" it's difficult to know whether health factors are involved in your ED. Are you a hundred pounds overweight, or 10? Obesity definitely can cause ED, but being a tiny bit overweight won't. Negatively judging yourself in sexual situations will definitely get in the way of getting and staying hard. As usual, I like Jamie21's response above and will add that if you can find someone to do this with who is not a provider then it will be even better (assuming you don't have unlimited funds for hiring).

So odd. This guy's ad caught my eye because he's visiting my area next month, but I'm surprised he's changed his name at least twice given that the feedback on this thread is positive. I typically associate frequent name changing with scammers or people who simply don't perform well.

Why go to the trouble? To increase ad views in the hopes of attracting customers.

I don't think you've been misunderstanding things all along. You just got lucky with this particular masseur. When I was in my mid 40s and in better shape, I had a lot of masseurs who went further with me than expected in an erotic massage. I usually didn't question it or comment about it, figuring that the guy was in control of what he included in his massage appointments. On the few occasions I did comment/question, I got responses along the lines of what you heard. There is no way to arrange this in advance, though, because once a client approaches a masseur with this expectation he's basically saying, "I want you to do all of the demanding work of a legitimate masseur, and then I want you to fuck me like an escort would, but I'll only be paying you for the massage." Sounds ridiculous and insulting, right? But if you happen to be in the right place at the right time with the right guy who's interested in you enough to want to fuck you, then just enjoy the ride.

You have a couple of go-to providers but you haven't hired any of them? I'm not sure what that means.

Maybe you don't remember Tito (Roland Rodriguez) because he was only on the first season, replaced in subsequent seasons by Ricardo (Vic Trevino). Ricardo was also very cute, but I think he always wore a soccer player uniform so we didn't get to see him shirtless. Tito was always shirtless because he was the playhouse lifeguard (even though I don't think we ever saw anyone at the pool). Other hunkalicious shout-outs: the men building the new wing of the playhouse using fruitcakes in the Christmas special and, of course, some of the UCLA men's glee club at the beginning of the Christmas special.

Maybe I'm taking the question too seriously, but I would want someone who actually knew me. But if we're just being silly, I'll stick with the living and name Roy Haylock (aka Bianca Del Rio). She can insult me and all of the mourners equally. If I can bring someone back from the dead, then Joan Rivers.

Is it really the new normal? I imagine it might be for well-known (Only Fans or other porn site) guys, but is the average Joe who doesn't have any particular reputation really asking for $1K/hour in NYC?

I didn't understand it then and I still don't understand it. Why would police be in a theater showing porn in order to arrest men for pulling out their dicks? Is that what most men did who went to movie theaters playing porn? It's like a vegan going to a burger place and then being outraged that they serve beef.

Well, he was arrested in a movie theater showing straight porn. That meant he was straight, right?

Did your thread title get abbreviated -- maybe the word "hard" is supposed to be at the end? I ask because I am confused by the title and your post because it doesn't sound like you are saying that you want the escorts to stay longer but rather they aren't performing in a satisfactory manner when they are with you. I agree with the suggestion to turn off the porn. Unless you're with someone who can both pay attention to you and the porn at the same time, then make sure the porn is off. You're not paying someone to watch porn. I don't agree that you should offer them an easy out -- i.e., you can leave now and I'll pay you your full fee. I think you probably do need to be more assertive about asking for your needs to be met while at the same time understanding that just because a guy is working as an escort he isn't a machine. If you have difficulty negotiating sex/intimacy, view your hiring experiences as opportunities to practice those skills. Ideally you can communicate what you desire, learn what turns the other guy on, and navigate having an experience you both end up enjoying despite the transactional nature of the experience.

I'm not sure I buy the argument that most providers don't declare "any or most" of their income. I could be convinced that a lot of providers (and other people who get paid in cash) don't declare all of their income.

I've never been, but I have watched some "red carpet" interviews at the GayVNs and one year I watched a streamed awards presentation. The red carpet interviews have definitely been more entertaining, but I will say that one acceptance speech at the award show still sticks with me. Not that I remember specifically anything he said, but I just remember thinking how much more appealing Sean Zevran was to me after his speech.

Actually, I was going to say that the restaurant analogy does not make sense for this reason: At the fancy restaurant, any excess revenue goes to the business owner. Unless that owner is generous with his staff, the employees might not be getting paid that well when tips are omitted, so getting those tips is a significant part of the waiter's salary. A masseur sets his own prices (unless he's an employee at a salon). If he has already set a top-of-the-market rate for himself, he's the one benefiting financially from that. If you don't tip him, he's still getting paid well. I'm not posting this to argue that clients shouldn't tip masseurs or escorts, and I generally do myself unless I end up feeling disappointed with the service, but if you cannot afford to pay more than this masseur's already high rate I wouldn't sweat it. If he's become so popular that he no longer needs your business because you don't tip him, you can either chose to start paying him more if you like him that much or look for someone else within your price range.

My best versatiles would be Bryce Jax (who mostly tops) & James Cassidy (who is more vers in their scenes but seems to enjoy bottoming more). Both are hot, young hunks and they have filmed scenes for their OnlyFans (Jamestoplease) with a lot of other sexy men.

I feel sorry for you. I know an escort who also had the misfortune of having a crazy client who threatened him with various things, particularly outing him as a sex worker to his family and friends. He ended up having to spend a considerable amount of money on a lawyer who was eventually able to get an agreement for that former client to leave him alone. I don't remember any other details. I'm pretty sure he never contacted the police, and unless the guy is actually threatening physical violence against you (not the suggested violence like you will be abused in prison but specific threats against you that could be carried out without any change in circumstance) I don't think contacting the police makes sense. A good lawyer in your area would know whether it makes sense to contact law enforcement. I would also suggest this: while it's annoying that he's harassing you, if this has only been going on for a matter of a few days you might just want to ignore him entirely to see if it stops. He doesn't have the authority to prosecute you unless he's actually law enforcement himself, nor does he have the power to evict you unless he's your landlord. I'm sure he never spoke with "U.S. Attorney" and if he did obviously that person wouldn't have assured him that you would die in prison. Honestly I'd be more worried if his threats weren't so ridiculous but were actually things he could do on his own.

I've never hired this guy, but I'm thinking about doing so. I just wanted to chime in to state that I'm not sure asking which "extras" any given client received is the best way to approach this issue. Again, not specific to MormonMan, but a lot of masseurs are YMMV when it comes to what they do with clients outside of massage and some mutual touch/happy ending. If some client says they had mutual oral sex or even anal sex, that doesn't mean your experience will include that.

One of my favorite similar YouTube channels is a guy who calls himself Onsen Mafia. Onsen is Japanese for "hot spring," but I don't know what the "Mafia" part means. It's basically a series of videos where a cute Japanese guy goes to onsens, takes off his clothes, wraps a towel around his waist, and gives a video tour of the onsen, eventually soaking in the bath. He rarely shows bulge (and uses video effects to keep the content within YouTube standards), but I still enjoy watching him walk around with a towel on and hearing him review the onsens he visits. I think he recently started some other subscription channel on a different platform, presumably so he can show more than he can on YouTube, but I haven't subscribed so I don't know if it's worth it. https://www.youtube.com/onsenmafiakaito