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It's new to me as well. I looked up "lemonade drug reference" and am still confused because it seems like it could refer to more than one thing, but I guess the most common meaning is a mixture of lemonade powder and dextromethorphan (DXM). If that's what Axiom was referring to, that sure sounds like PNP to me.

Only use porn sites with some heavy duty pop-up blockers. I use a Windows pc, not Apple, so your options might be different but I use both Ghostery and an ad blocker. If a porn site requires me to turn off blockers to work, then I simply don't use that site. In the event a pop up makes it through, I've learned that if you cannot close the window normally that it's important to use the operating system to force close the window. Never click on any button that presents itself as "close" or something like that because it very well might execute a command to install a virus, not close that window.

I will say first that I've always thought you were very attractive and, based on these photos, you still are. I'm not sure why you have so many new photos with your tongue sticking out. That look isn't particularly attractive to me, so maybe only one or two of those would be better and definitely don't use one of those as the first photo displayed in the ad. I think all of the other photos are fine with a couple of exceptions. Maybe get rid of the ones that look too amateurish (e.g., like the last one that is a grainy selfie). If you don't want to spend the money on a professional photographer, I assume that you have a friend that could take some photos or that some client would agree to photograph you during an appointment. (I am not suggesting bartering that service; a few times I took a lot of photos of a guy I hired regularly and I was simply happy to do it in order to have a lot more photos of him for my collection. )

I couldn't read the article, but two thoughts come to mind on the subject: I can understand a couple remaining married after one realizes they are gay, and not just duplicitously. I had a therapist decades ago who was gay but still married to his wife of a couple of decades because they had a strong friendship and didn't want to disrupt their family. Some people marry for reasons other than sex and love. I knew a gay man and a lesbian who -- again decades ago -- married each other to get their families off their backs and to ensure they wouldn't be cut out of their parents' wills due to being gay. If this article is about two people getting married where he already knows he's gay and she's straight, unless it's done for some practical reason it does seem odd to me.

I haven't met the guy, but even the photos he uses reveal that he cannot possibly be 43. He could probably claim 53 and not raise too much suspicion (again, just based on the photos), but there's no way that's the face of a 43-year-old.

I wonder if it just seems creepy to us as gay men. I can imagine that whoever made this decision back then simply didn't even think about whether either the younger or older men were gay, so to them it just seemed like two men sharing sleeping quarters with no notion that sexual attraction/attention would enter the picture.

Yes, I thought about it after I posted. I didn't mean to give the impression that the guy has no standards. I just meant that I've seen content he's filmed with guys who aren't especially lean and whom he described as "older," though I have no idea what his upper age limit is.

I'm sure most of us have been rejected many times. One that stands out in my mind occurred about 30 years ago -- in other words, shortly before the internet started to get used by the masses. I don't remember how we first communicated, but it was probably via a personal ad in a gay newspaper. At any rate, I don't think we had exchanged photos but we had a nice, long conversation and the phone and agreed that we had a lot in common so we might become friends even if we didn't click physically. We set a date for him to come over to my apartment to pick me up to drive to the beach. When I opened the door to walk down the steps to meet him, he immediately said "this isn't going to work" and he walked away. I remember laughing because it was so absurd, even though my ego was obviously also bruised a bit. He was attractive but not exceptionally so, so that softened the blow. That was one of my early lessons as a gay man that even if a guy on a dating app or platform says he's open to making friends, he likely won't actually be interested in becoming friends unless he also wants to have sex with you.

I've seen a lot of his videos and they feature a variety of looks in terms of scene partners (including some older bears), so even though the guy isn't available to hire he may be approachable in terms of collaborations as long as you're willing to be filmed. Some of his videos features guys wearing masks/hoods, so one wouldn't even necessarily reveal one's face in order to become a content creator.

I'm confused as to why he agreed to come over with an exit plan already in place since you wrote that you had already met for an extended coffee date. I think most men would simply decline the second date. Did something happen during your half hour breakfast that would make him want to leave? I mean, you yourself wrote that you were "glad that he left," so it sounds like things weren't going as well as during your initial coffee date.

The relevance of how long someone has been a member is simply that others here have little idea who you are. For example, you could be someone who's been active on the site for a long time but decided to create a new profile simply to promote a specific point of view or specific provider while not having your posts tied to your well known identity. At the end of the day, this deposit or no deposit issue will never be resolved to everyone's satisfaction. It's clearly in the provider's benefit as long as he has sufficient business to make up for the loss of some clients who never pay a deposit. For a variety of reasons (privacy and concerns about being scammed being the top two) some clients will never pay a deposit. It isn't like either side is incorrect, even if some of the arguments for requiring a deposit are far off the mark. But I think even the "no deposits ever" clients here will acknowledge that a provider can run his business how he wants to (charge a higher than market rate, require a deposit, require a face photograph, etc), and they can simply book a different provider if they don't like those policies.

1. A client might also lose money if the escort flakes -- travel expenses and hotel expenses if he is hosting but cannot host where he lives. You might argue that losing money you already earned is not as bad as not getting income you were promised, but they're basically the same thing in the sense that both are losing money. The main difference would be for a provider that has no savings so the loss of income might result in him not being able to pay his bills. 2. For some of us, we don't have partners and it might not be that easy to open a hook-up app to find someone who interests us and is interested in us. Even the suggestion that a client can just hire another escort at the last minute isn't really true as lots of providers aren't available at the drop of a hat.

Same here. I think it's worse for the party that's planning to bottom -- all of that prep for a no show is irritating. Not that it isn't irritating anyway, but to have spent time preparing to bottom only to be ghosted is so frustrating.

The problem with that advice is that there are a lot of legitimate clients who won't pay a deposit unless it's for an extended booking, so that strategy will likely result in far fewer clients.

It isn't just clients' opinions about providers that aren't private. Anything you post here isn't private, unless the forum has changed since it moved to "companyofmen.org." I remember years ago that I showed a provider how his real identity could be figured out because he disclosed so many details of his private life here that if someone searched for that information (for example, I was the CEO at XYZ company in the 2000s) one of the search results would be that escort's postings about having held that job, connected, of course, to his escort persona here. He had no idea. So, as others have written, PMs aren't even necessarily private since they can obviously be shared, but at least they aren't searchable (to my knowledge). Anything that gets posted publicly here or anywhere isn't private and never has been.

Your thread title already has the answer -- it's a scammer profile. The very last text bubble you included reads, in part, "we can build a good home together as one" wouldn't be written in an initial text by any individual who is actually seeking a relationship. It's just a classic come-on, hoping to find someone desperate and naive enough to fall into fantasy land quickly and then respond affirmatively when asked for money. The extensive list of what they are allegedly looking for is another clue, compiled to attract the highest number of men but which breaks down a bit when analyzed. For example, the guy is looking for a chub or super chub but is also looking for a chaser; does that mean he's a chub and wants another chub? So, he's looking for both a sir and a boy, and a pup and pup handler. Don't men typically want to play a certain role in a relationship if they are into role playing like this, or is it common that a guy will want to be the boy or pup one moment and then the sir or pup handler the next?

I'm not in a state impacted by this, but in addition to the VPN work around I understand that these new state laws mostly impact the more popular/heavily trafficked sites. By that I mean that while PornHub has to comply, a smaller, less well known website might not. I get wanting to restrict access to porn to adults only, but shouldn't the onus be on the parents of children and not all of society? It's easy enough to restrict access on your own devices and/or your home network. Obviously kids could just access this stuff elsewhere (such as a friend whose parents don't bother using tools to limit access), but that was true even 50 years ago because I remember some boys in my class getting access to porn magazines (shoplifted or from an older sibling). If the government wants the onus to be on the websites to restrict access, maybe they should have put more thought into privacy and data security. I don't blame anyone in any of these states for looking into alternatives to scanning their driver's license and uploading it to a site like PornHub.

I was watching a YouTube interview of a popular Only Fans performer a few months ago, a guy who calls himself LetsEatCakeXx aka Kaden Hylls. If I recall correctly, he said he made about $70,000/month as a content creator. He is obviously a well known porn performer but I'm not sure that he ever did studio porn like Wolf so I was a bit surprised he was able to pull in that kind of money by creating porn. It's obviously a lucrative career, albeit not necessarily a long-term one, for those who have a look and demeanor that attracts subscribers.

I read the prosecutor's sentencing request. If you read their earlier court submissions, I'm not sure that anything in it is different. Yes, it's all quite disgusting but I don't think there are any new revelations in the sentencing request so if you're curious as to just how depraved "Austin Wolf" is and you read the earlier materials you don't need to read the latest court documents. I do wonder whether Co-conspirator-1 (CC-1), so far not named, is another well known porn performer or some person none of us would know once named.

Prepandemic I remember reading about people for hire to just cuddle and talk. I'd suggest that if you want to hire someone just to talk with that it would make more sense to hire a trained counselor than a sex worker, unless you want to just engage in sex talk.

I'm a bit puzzled by your reply to me since so much in your reply is different. 1. Windows. 2. Using the Hide.me website VPN Proxy, not a VPN standalone app or browser plugin. If I could I would show you on my computer why I posted what I did. I'm not saying it's true for everyone, but on my computer if I use Firefox I get an endless cycle of popups asking me to acknowledge I'm over 18 to proceed to either Rentmen.eu or Rent.men. I can keep clicking to acknowledge that over and over in Firefox but the page never loads. Using Chrome I typically have to click the acknowledgement twice and then the page loads. And, using Chrome, if I use rent.men for the URL then I just get a spinning circle and the advertiser's page never loads. Using rentmen.eu, the page loads as it should and then I can click the link to read the reviews. I just verified that both of these things are still true.

If using a Windows computer, here are some hints: Use Chrome browser, not Firefox. Paste the URL from rentmen.eu, not rent.men

If you go to Rent.men yourself you can simply filter to visitors in San Francisco and then scroll through the list. You will see many, many guys who are visiting here starting at some point this week (some guys arrive early, some guys the day before Folsom). I'm not sure if this link will work in terms of showing the filtered results, but you can try it: https://rent.men/gay-escorts/sanfrancisco?visitors_only=1 The main qualifier I'll add is that some guys will show up as visitors even though they aren't. I don't know why some guys have their ads flagged as visiting when they are actually working in the area more or less full time, based on me always seeing them listed in my area.

If you're talking solely about escorts, I'd say that including "daddies" in their preferences section is smart if they don't discriminate against clients based on age. Some older clients are going to use this as a filter so they only see ads from guys who clearly won't make their age an issue. It's the same thing with "bears." Maybe a provider isn't that interested in having sex with bears or daddies on his own time, but if he welcomes bears or daddies as clients it's smart for him to indicate that so his ad doesn't get omitted from search results if a client uses either of those as a filter. Of course I'm sure there are some providers who truly have a thing for daddies -- I have a friend who has always preferred men old enough to be his dad and has even hooked up with some guys old enough to be his grandfather, so I know that there are some men who really are into men significantly older than they are.

My best provider experiences were with guys who figured out what I wanted based on body language and, sometimes, took things in a new direction for me that I ended up enjoying. Then again, as an almost 100% bottom it's pretty easy to read the body language of a guy lifting his ass up in the air. I remember having to train one guy who became a somewhat regular, though the training didn't take long, that I in fact did want him to squat over my face while I ate his ass and he jerked off and then came in my mouth. I did want that every time with him, at least; my desire to rim does vary with the guy. Once he understood this, he stopped asking and just provided my mouth what it wanted.