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I only get actual gifts for two people at this point in my life. For many people, just paying for their birthday dinner and then them paying for mine constitutes the gift giving. I much prefer this because gift cards aren't personal anyway (you're basically just exchanging cash with friends that is already tied up with a specific retailer) and there isn't much that anyone can buy me that I want that I don't already own (within reason, I mean -- I'm not so wealthy that any of my friends would spend several thousand dollars on a gift). For people who are just visiting your area, lessening the chance that they will reciprocate and pay for the host's birthday dinner at some point, I can understand your disappointment in their manners but even if they had bought a gift for you you would be the beneficiary, not the person who bought their meal.

Actually, I don't think a near miss means a hit. There can be a near miss and a miss that's so far away that it cannot be considered a near miss. To my ears and brain, near miss means that there was almost a hit, but a small distance or small amount of time prevented a hit from happening. If the miss is farther way, it's just a miss or, if it's really far away, one might say, "You missed it by a mile." Near hit, if you think about it, doesn't really make any sense in this case. You could say, "You nearly hit me" but not "you near hit me," and people would understand that there was no hit but it was a close call. Back to the actual subject of this thread, I don't feel any more unsafe flying now than I ever did. I do get anxious while flying, especially if the takeoff or landing is rough, but generally have faith that the pilot is well trained and the plane has been well maintained. It certainly feels safer than riding in someone else's car.

With respect to near miss versus near hit, here's Merriam-Webster's take on it: https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/near-miss-near-hit-word-history-usage

Clearly the advertiser wanted to cast someone who wasn't so unattractive that most viewers would be repulsed but not so attractive that he would be recognized by most as a sex symbol. They did a good job. I wouldn't hire him as an escort because one can certainly find more attractive men in that line of work, but I don't think he's unattractive.

This highlights a problem for some sex workers: Just because you are your own boss doesn't mean that you should run your business without regard to the satisfaction of your customers. Given that scheduling is in the hands of the provider, he can easily set parameters such as "I only take same day appointments" or "I do not take same day appointments." The only valid excuse for making an appointment that you neither keep nor explicitly cancel in advance is incapacitation. And it isn't difficult to text someone to cancel or reschedule, so simply ghosting someone makes no sense unless one really doesn't care about one's reputation.

I'll just toss this out there: Despite the risks of STIs with unprotected oral sex, I think you'll find that most people don't use condoms for oral sex. I personally could never get into sucking on a penis with a condom on, but I will admit that I didn't try a lot of different condoms to see if I could find one that didn't bother me from both a taste and texture perspective. Given how many people use PrEP now as their only STI prevention (which only reduces the chances of HIV infection and doesn't prevent the transmission of any other STI), I doubt you're going to find a lot of forum members using condoms for oral sex. Even before PrEP, I think regular condom use was typically reserved for anal sex among gay men. Still, I don't mean to disparage your desire to be on the more cautious side when it comes to safer sex. Do a Google search and you will find some sites that give suggestions for condoms (both traditional condoms and "tongue condoms") for oral sex.

I agree with not being too specific with someone you've never met. I'm thinking something a little more nuanced than direct questions like, "Can I blow you? Will you fuck me?" I agree that if one is looking for specific sexual activity, one should just hire an escort. However, there is nothing wrong with communicating some general expectations such as expecting more than just jerking yourself off at the end of the massage.

The age-old dilemma of hiring a guy for "erotic massage" and then wondering what, exactly, that means to that provider. As discussed many times here, there is no set definition of "erotic massage" which, unfortunately, results in some guys advertising that they provide that service when they end up doing nothing more than an untrained body rub with nothing erotic about it other than that they are touching you. And sometimes it goes the other way, with a masseur providing full service and not just a little mutual touch. I've had experiences all along the spectrum, so if you really want to know what a specific provider offers before hiring him then you need to ask him. By the way, in dark mode the text in your post is impossible to read. When I turn off dark mode your post looks like the others in this thread. I'm not sure what setting you used in terms of how your posts will appear, but you might want to check that so that your posts are readable in both light mode and dark mode.

At first I thought that those of you taking that video ad seriously were being naive, but after searching for the company online I don't know what to think. The video is so stupid that I thought it had to be just a poorly done parody, but I guess it was just done to get attention (and it worked since it got featured on some television programs).

What to do about it now is a very different question than how you could have handled the situation. I will focus on the latter, which is what you asked: What either/both of you should have done is talk about it in the moment so there wouldn't be any weird after-the-fact wondering about the other one's expectations. As the provider, one could argue that it was his responsibility to broach the subject by saying something like, "Would you like me to spend the night at X rate?" or "If you want, I can stay the night, gratis." Given he didn't do this, I think that you should have simply said something like, "I'm sorry that my budget is spent for this trip. You're welcome to stay if you want because I'm really enjoying being with you, but I cannot afford to pay you anything additional this trip."

Maybe this news got fed to you due to other articles and websites you've visited? As I wrote, I haven't seen a thing about any of this outside of what got posted here. This reminds me of a puzzle I had a year or so ago: Suddenly my Facebook feed was full of articles about the Kardashians. It was annoying me and I started to hide them and indicate I wasn't interested. At the same time, I posted a question to my friends (and I have a very small friend list and strict privacy settings) asking if anyone had any idea why all of a sudden this family was being marketed to me when I didn't think I had sought out anything related to them. One of my friends laughed and said that now that I had mentioned them in my post, I was sure to see even more posts about them. I guess I am posting this to suggest that it isn't wise to even read about something that you find distasteful let some algorithm assume you are interested in it in a positive sense.

Just an honest question: Does one have to go out of one's way to find stuff like this to get riled up about? I haven't seen a link to a "news" article on any site I frequent that was about who Jeff Bezos is dating or about any photoshoot he had with or without a woman who looks like a sex worker. Maybe the stories were there for me to notice but I just tuned them out, but I honestly don't recall seeing anything about this anywhere but here. I know some people care about stuff like this just like some people obsess over other people whose fame is all about self promotion such as the Kardashian family. All that stuff just bores me, though, so I tune it all out. I don't mind people promoting themselves online and if their content is to my liking I might even help their monetization (i.e., "follow" them). Given I don't find Jeff Bezos hot, though, I'm not interested in taking a peek into his private life. I'm shallow that way.

I don't think someone needs to write a lengthy ad, but I noticed that both of these guys just have a sentence or two that claim they are great. That's a red flag for me, as I think that someone who is serious would take the trouble to write something about what he's offering. To make matters worse, both of these ads seem to have had everything under the "into" category checked. Are both of these guys really into everything, including fisting, PNP, etc? Having everything checked just makes me think that the ad was posted in a hurry and that the guy isn't serious.

One possibility is that they left the glowing review after their first appointment, and then subsequent appointments left the client feeling less than satisfied. The only reason I raise this as a possibility is that I have had that happen to me but did not leave second, downgraded reviews because (in almost all cases) I couldn't really lay blame for my diminishing satisfaction solely on the providers.

I have walked away a number of times (when I used to hire I preferred going to the escort's place) when the online representation was significantly different than reality. I had a few dramatic moments, but I think a lot of these guys aren't so delusional that they don't understand why a client would walk away so they just take it in stride. A few did shout at me as I walked away, though. I certainly have gone through with more appointments where the guy isn't quite as hot as his photos would suggest but isn't so far from the truth.

I just tried to create a Rentmen.eu profile and it indicates I have to provide an email address because a temporary password will be emailed to that address. I also tried Rent.men and it indicates an email address is required because an activation code and link will be emailed to that address. This exercise did cause me to learn why some would see safe/bb info and others wouldn't: It does not show for me on rentmen.eu; it does show on rent.men

It is not visible to me in California regardless of the device or browser I use. I have never had a Rentmen account, so if you see the category when logged out in the USA (again, displaying the response in the ad, not the ability to filter search results) maybe that's due to some cookie Rentmen placed on your device.

I don't know the reason for it, but safe/ask me/anything goes hasn't been visible in the U.S. (at least for a non-logged in user) for years. You can filter using that criteria so presumably the search results will show only the selection(s) checked, but the actual category doesn't display in the ad.

Why would I want to use such software? I'm not trying to model my life on some right-wing "Christian" notion of what's right and wrong.

So, do we have any serious feedback about this guy? I see that his reviews on Rentmen are all positive, with some being posted by clients who are obviously legitimate given their review history there.

Are we to understand that after making you wait 30 minutes past your appointment time that he got irritated with you for taking two extra minutes to get to his room? I would have just left and told him I was doing so due to his poor attitude/lack of professionalism. It sounds like you proceeded with your session. How was it? Was he actually focused on your needs and not his once you arrived?

Yes, I mind vaping. When vaping was relatively new, a couple of co-workers near me started vaping. I really wasn't paying attention to it, but after a while I started wondering why it so frequently smelled like an acrid cleaning solution was being used in the area. It not only smelled bad but was bothering my eyes in a similar way as cigarette smoke, though obviously a lot less severely. Fortunately the problem was nipped in the bud when management clarified to staff that the non-smoking ordinance also applied to vaping, meaning that people needed to go outside if they wanted to vape. I honestly don't understand how someone can inhale that stuff and not realize it's toxic, but I guess if you're used to worse (tobacco and all of its additives) it doesn't seem so bad.

I assume some similar reasons when providers stand up clients. I have traveled to hotels where an escort is staying and rang and texted them, only to be ignored. I have had confirmed appointments at my home where the provider simply never showed up and didn't reply to texts asking where he is. So my #1 reason is that some people are just inconsiderate and think that plans made with others don't need to be kept if they decide to do something else, whatever that may be.

I was quoting a previous poster who claims to have a friend who was coerced into sex work under duress of outing him to his family. I didn't assume that that story was true or false. I simply said it's one thing to coerce or force someone into sex work. It's another thing to say, "hey, you're a hot guy and you can make some good money if you attend this orgy." And, again, I'm not saying that that actually happened in the AF case. I'm just saying the two things are not equivalent in my mind. I'm not sure if you just want to pick a fight or if you honestly misread my post.

I see a huge difference between coercion (as in the example above of threatening to out someone if they won't do sex work) and someone who wants to make money based on their looks being invited to places to have sex for money where they can freely decline to participate or, for that matter, to simply decline the invitation.