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I don't mean this as a personal attack, but I've noticed that you seem to have quite a negative view about clients as a whole. So many of your posts seem to convey the notion that it's normal for escorts to be disgusted by the vast majority of men hiring them. I'm sure that's true of some sex workers, but given the escorts I've known (some quite well, some just casually) I can definitely say that many aren't repulsed by the majority of men who hire them. Just thought I'd put this observation out there because I don't know that you want to come across as insulting to the vast majority of people who post here.

151 out of 271 escorts in San Francisco included rimming in their preferences on Rent.men. 193 out of 300+ in West Hollywood included rimming in their ads. 70 out of 102 in Seattle. And so on. Now, I know that just because someone includes an activity under Preferences doesn't mean he will do that activity with every client, but barring the ones that just click everything I think these numbers at least give an indication that a large number of providers are open to rimming, being rimmed, or both.

Perhaps the most successful (by which I mean in the most films/shorts) is Sean Paul Lockhart (aka Brent Corrigan). Most memorable for me is his appearance in Another Gay Sequel, but he also had a brief appearance in Gus Van Sant's Milk.

I'm confused. Rentmasseur does have a map function. It's just largely useless because most providers choose not to display anything close to their exact location. I understand that decision, but I appreciate when a provider at least indicates in the text of their ad which neighborhood they are in.

You asked about legal problems. Apart from a couple of stories I've read about online (i.e., no personal knowledge), I think that risk is very low. What seems to be a larger risk is extortion or, at least, attempts at extortion. If you have a lot to lose if your hiring habit becomes known to others, then someone attempting to extort you puts you at risk. That's why you'll see some here advocating the use of a burner phone and never meeting anyone where they live. I didn't take either of those precautions and never had anyone try to extort me, but I did almost hire someone whom I subsequently read about here who did threaten to expose clients to their families. I felt like I dodged a bullet there even though I don't think that being exposed to colleagues or family would have caused any problems for me other than whatever gossip people might have engaged in following the disclosure.

I agree that if you stay away from people who abuse drugs, the likelihood of you needing to respond to a medical emergency is very low. That being said, treat a guy you've hired like anyone else -- if they need emergency care, call 911 (assuming you are in the USA). If the paramedics ask questions in order to try to figure out how to help the person, you can obviously just say that you just met and don't know anything about their medical history.

Not addressing the insurance fraud, another issue is the choice of treatment. Was this really an "emergency" or just something that required urgent care? My guess is that his insurance company considered the condition that was treated to reasonably require some treatment even though the insured was out of their coverage area, but not so emergent that an ER visit was necessary. Thus, it's either not covering the services rendered at all or is covering it at a lower level. It's also possibly just a billing issue. I have a friend who did, in fact, have a need for emergency care (and an ambulance transport) while traveling last year. While the hospital he went to seemed to be able to understand how to bill for his visit, the ambulance company bill required a lot of effort on his part to get the right information that the billing service needed to submit a claim for that (the name, address, and policy number was entirely different than his medical coverage).

Times per month? I hired someone regularly (usually once per month) for a period of years and I certainly considered myself "a regular." I also considered myself a regular of a guy whom I only saw a few times per year when he was in my area.

Some of it may just be a sign of narcissism, but clearly some of it is beyond reason so maybe it is just a joke ad. Here's the first thing that jumped out at me as absurd: "I was offered 30,000$ to spend a weekend with a wealthy person and there spouse and we had an adventure that spanned 9,000 miles 3 countries and I learned the value in traveling the world to learn other cultures ". Hmmm. For someone who's smarter than 99% of the population (according to him), it's odd he doesn't know the difference between their and there, put the $ in the wrong place, and wrote such a poorly constructed sentence. Let's assume it's a three day weekend and that the travel was non-stop. That would require traveling 125 miles per hour. Okay, that pretty much rules out land travel. Of course it's possible to fly 9,000 miles in a weekend, but it would require spending about 1/3 of the time on planes. His name is also misleading. Nothing about the two photos he uses conveys "jock" to me. Another funny part of his interview: He claims to eat 10,000 calories per day in 6 meals. He would need to be training at an Olympic level to require that many calories in order to not be fat. The photos, while not revealing, hint that he just has an average (not muscular, not skinny, not fat) build. Where are those 10,000 calories going?

No, a government employee such as a law enforcement officer shouldn't just look up people's criminal history because he can. I used to work for a government agency and had access to confidential information about many citizens who came into contact with our agency or counterparts throughout the state. One of the first instructions was that accessing that system was on a need to know basis -- in other words, if the person in question is connected in some way to work you are doing, then you can review their history. Otherwise, accessing that information was potentially grounds for termination and was also a misdemeanor. Though I never became aware of anyone who was prosecuted for improper access, there were many people who were investigated and disciplined internally for looking at information they had no reason to review. I am only referring to improper use of databases that aren't available to the general public. Looking up publicly available information is an entirely different matter.

Assuming your LEO friend was able to look up this information in a manner available to anyone, I'd say nothing. If your LEO friend is using information systems in an unauthorized manner -- in other words, using his position at work to look up information about people when he has no business reason to do so -- you might want to remind him that he's putting himself at risk and that you don't want information gained in that manner shared with you.

I saw a porn scene where he tried to bottom for some well-known, hung top (the scene was somewhat of a dud so I cannot recall off the top of my head who the top was). What was wrong with the scene? JP kept complaining whenever the dick went in him, so there were lots of edits and not really any portion long enough to get a sense that fun was being had. If anything, the guy filming seemed to have to keep encouraging JP to relax and enjoy himself. To be fair, I haven't seen any other scenes of his and maybe that was an anomaly, but I thought I would toss that bit of information out here in case anyone is looking to hire him as a bottom. See if you can find any evidence that he actually enjoys getting fucked; if not, hire another cutie who does. I, too, think he's very cute but if I were a top looking for a jock bottom I'd rather hire someone who enjoys being in that roll.

I'm confused. This is an escort ad of some guy who is over 45 years old who only wants clients 45 years old or younger, and he wants those clients to text him a photo and ID? If so, I doubt he gets any customers. Even if it's just a hookup ad, asking for someone's ID via text probably isn't going to result in much, if any, response. If your issue is that he only wants guys younger than him, that's extremely common.

I agree with the consensus - you should have told him. I don't agree with what seems to be the consensus, that it's normal to be so freaked out by the presence of someone else that of course anyone in their right mind would leave. Not only did I encounter this situation numerous times when hiring masseurs and escorts, it never really occurred to me to be overly concerned about it. Did I find it somewhat annoying to actually have to see someone else (for example, a roommate on a sofa in the living area that had to be passed through to get to the bedroom)? Yes, but not enough for me to make an issue of it. For those arguing the safety angle, if someone really is intent on doing you harm don't you think it would be just as easy for them to have their accomplice hanging out nearby and then that person enters after you're already naked? Wouldn't that put you in an even more vulnerable position? It just seems to me that some level of trust is required to meet a stranger, and whatever screening/vetting process one has is hopefully good enough to at least keep the people with malintent at bay.

One always has to treat reviews with a grain of salt, even those posted here. That being said, if a forum member praises someone and that forum member has a history of commenting on a variety of providers (a sign it isn't just a shill account set up to hype a specific provider) I will give that more credence. I used to take chances on unknown guys all the time 25 years ago. Guys would post ads on Craigslist and take them down after they got a client. Those guys frequently never ventured into working full time as escorts or masseurs, by which I mean they never advertised on any of the escort or masseur websites outside of Craigslist or Adam4Adam. I had a lot of success but definitely hired some duds. Even if I were the same age now as I was then, I'm not sure I'd take the same chances. I think there are a lot more pure scammers advertising now.

I also say danger because if you search the phone number in the Rentmen ad, you'll find that it's listed on a page for a security firm called S.G.S. Enterprises. I suppose it's possible that some security guard is moonlighting as an escort and using the same phone number, or that the phone number on the S.G.S. website is an old number and this guy has no connection with that service.

I know this post will be of limited value because this escort operated on the DL so only clients who hired him would know of him, but I met a guy off a Craigslist posting about 20 years ago who was a university student who worked as an escort during school breaks. I saw him several times over a period of a couple of years and enjoyed every thing about him. I didn't always hire guys that much younger than me (I was in my early 40s at the time), but I definitely hired a number of guys of similar age. After all these years he still stands out in my mind as one of the cutest and most fun I had the pleasure to be with. I don't know whether anyone else on this board knew him; when I've posted about him in the past, I have never seen a reply that indicates anyone else here knew him. He used the name Sean, his family lived somewhere in the San Francisco Bay Area because that's where I saw him during his school breaks, and he attended university in southern California.

I'm pretty sure something else is at work here, as my research indicates that, if anything, one might expect to pay fewer taxes for 2023 than 2022 if one's income remained the same because there was an inflationary adjustment to tax brackets. The individual income tax cuts made when Trump was in office expire at the end of 2025. So, I'm guessing one or more of the following is true: Your total (adjusted gross) income wasn't actually the same in 2023 as in 2022. Your tax is the same but you had less withheld or made less quarterly estimated tax payments, and what you really mean is that you owe $2,000 more with your return for last year, not that your overall taxes are $2,000 higher. Data entry error. I have to say that while the various tax programs I've tried are great for relatively straight-forward returns, if you have one thing that doesn't apply to the vast majority of taxpayers then the program might not do a good job of guiding you through the data entry for that. The program I use doesn't properly call attention to one tax credit I'm eligible for, and every year after the "interview" portion is done I have to use the search function in the program to guide me to the screen where I enter the data to get that tax credit.

The video's credits name Barry as the pianist, and it's well known that they performed together at the Continental Baths. According to a Wikipedia article about the baths, Barry was actually the house pianist and sometimes performed just wearing a towel like the patrons. That I didn't previously know.

From the small amount of his video I could suffer through (was that three or four product placements within the first minute?), I don't get the appeal beyond his being young. I agree that he doesn't seem to have enough followers at this time to afford the life he's showing on YouTube, so he must have some other source(s) of income.

That "guy on piano" was Barry Manilow, the guy who later had great commercial success as a singer-songwriter and who was one of the producers of Bette's Divine Miss M album.

I'm sure there are time wasters out there who love contact escorts that they know they aren't going to hire, but I doubt there are that many game players. In other words, I think most men who contact escorts want to hire them, but just because they made contact doesn't mean that seals the deal. I would suggest that if an escort is being contacted by a lot of people who end up not booking that that escort should reflect on various aspects of his business practice to determine why prospective clients end up taking their business elsewhere. If an initial contact doesn't enhance the excitement about the prospective meeting or, worse yet, makes the prospective client leery about hiring the escort, then the escort isn't doing a good job of marketing himself.

I noticed his profile a while ago, but his name put me off considering hiring him. Why choose "bandit" as part of your name when that basically means thief? Given he has some positive reviews, I assume that he isn't just a con artist. Still seems like a strange name to me.

The main reason to reply is a desire to continue to be given notice that he's traveling to your area again. If you just ignore his text, he may assume you aren't interested in a repeat and will drop your number from his list of prospects. Apart from that, I do what you do -- I simply don't reply to guys I've hired once and don't want to hire again, at least not in the moment. I suppose if I really didn't like a guy, I'd reply and ask to be removed from his list of contacts. But if I enjoyed myself I don't mind an occasional text, particularly if they include a some new photos, and then maybe I'll hire him again at some point (or maybe not).

Yes, the devil may be in the details. For example, there's a world of difference between: "I am glad you liked me enough to reach out to me again, but I won't be hiring you." and "I really enjoyed our time together, but I'm not in a position to hire you during this visit." Unless we're dealing with an extremely thin skinned escort, I don't see why the latter response would cause them to refuse a future booking. The former comes across as a hard dismissal, so if the response is similar to that I'm not surprised that an escort would put the client in the "don't waste my time" category.